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Mr_D_and_HotTart
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Male, 57
Bisexual Female, 62
0 miles · Hereford and Worcester

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Quote by st3v3
With reagrd to look and feel we spent a lot of time tring to keep most things in the same place

It strikes me that you could have kept things in exactly the same place in no time at all confused
Seriously, I've done my best to make constructive criticisms and open a dialogue with the new owners, but when 80% of users call the changes 'a bad dream they want to wake up from', isn't it time to cut your losses and retrace your steps?
I don't want SH to die, but frankly, I'm beginning to despair.
So, a little over 80% of site users would like everything put back the way it was.
Does the new management have any comment on this? Is the customer always right?
Quote by st3v3
We thought adding;
I am a ###### looking for a ######
would help so we will try that first and if men/women/couiples/TV/TS still post in the wrong place then they obviously haven't botherd to look at the options and have no right to moan if ads get deleted.

If you look at the standard of the male adverts that are flooding the "women seeking men" section, I think you'll see exactly how inept the people we are dealing with are! I've spent the bast part of the last half hour reporting these ads to the mods, who will spend longer sorting them out... the issue here is not that they can moan if they get deleted, but that the manpower required from the long-suffering ops to delete them all is overwhelming. If a simple filter was implemented server-side it would save literally hours of work per day.
Quote by lucyweebaps
suprised they are allowing cock shot avatars in sh now :shock: :shock:

As I understand it (I could be wrong) cock shots are still not allowed in avatars, but the mods ability to remove avatars is either broken or not yet added to the new version of the site
I can see 3 photos of yours, Burtman, by clicking your profile link on the bottom of your post, then choosing "photos" top right.
The idea is that the drop down menu for which category you post in would have all the options for that... but none of the ones that start "Women seeking...". Women wouldn't have any of the ones that start "Men Seeking..." either.
Just to save my scrolling finger... pages are always 20 posts long, the length of those 20 posts makes no difference, they could all be novels or one-liners!
Newly discovered glitch... the 'report this advert' oprion in the photo ads gives an SQL error message if you include quotation marks in your report.
Less seriously, but in the same section, I think it would be an improvement if the "view members gallery" icon was removed from adverts where the member has no photos in their gallery, as it only serves to drive traffic to an error page.
Agreed, this is an idea I've been touting since the revamp. It won't cure the problem of people pretending to be female, but it will help with the flood of misplaced adverts.
While on the subject of the photo ads, given that we have a large influx of people writing incomprehensible single line adverts that are unlikely to be of any interest to most viewers, how about adding a facility to remove ads less than (say) 500 characters long from search results? I think this would greatly improves the photo ad section's usability.
I think there's a simple technical fix... since the site now knows if a member is male/female or a couple, why not Restrict the drop down menu to only the options that are relevant? If men don't see a "women seeking men" option, then they can't post there!
From experience, this is probably a cacheing issue - AOL users seem especially prone to it. A workround is to rename the problem images (" " and " ") and change the HTML to reflect the new names, which will force the caches to request the images again.
Oh and while we are on the topic on the logo, why does the letter S cast a shadow, but the H does not?
Quote by Mal
It's shit play - hope that helps!! lol

It's a form of improvisational Jazz... oh wait, you already said that!
I'm tempted to knock 70 years off my declared age just in case it would ge the 'fancy a shag' crowd PM-ing me!
Unfortunately I'm blessed with a huge endwoment of 12 over letters, which means I can't be PMed at the moment!
How to PM a site member with a long name (more then 12 characters)
When sending a PM, check the URL at the top of your web browser. It will look something like this:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/members/new-message.html?user=Mister_Discr
if the bit at the end isn't the full name of that person, type the missing letters back in and reload the page, liike this:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/members/new-message.html?user=Mister_Discreet
Use this page to send your PM and it will go to the intended recipient.
More of a feature request than a bug... as the site now 'knows' if a person is a man, woman or couple, how about limiting the choice of advert category in the 'my adverts' section to just the relevant ones? If the option to post in 'women seeking men' was only available to women, then loking after that section of the site would be a lot less work for the mods, and a lot more useful to readers!
I've mentioned this in the glitch thread, but as I have a temporary solution too, I'll repost here...
It's possible, with a little bit of time and effort, to find the location of members EVEN IF THEY HAVE POSTCODES TURNED OFF!
The 'my search' page shows distances to members who have their postcodes turned off.
By moving your location then searching again it's fairly simple triangulate locations. For example, if I wished to stalk a particular user I could find out that they are 107 miles from East London, 57 miles from Devon, and 28 miles from Portsmouth, which narrows their location down to a very small area.
If you are worried about your privacy, I suggest that until this issue is confirmed as fixed, you change your postcode to something chosen at random.
The Quick Search shows people without adverts... and worse, people who are looking for something incompatible (ie I'm seeing names/postcodes of women looking for other women, and I'm a man).
To get to the postcode setting:
1. Click "My Account" from the right hand menu.
2. This takes you to a page titled "edit your account", which has "Account Settings | Profile Settings | Forum Settings" written just to the left of the right hand menu.
3. Click "Account Settings" from that list.
4. Halfway down the page is a set of 4 radio buttons to choose " Show Other Members My: Town County Postcode None". Select the button to the left of "None", then click "Update" at the bottom of the screen
5. Look at the page to see if your changes have been accepted. If not, try choosing a town from the pull down menu just above the 4 radio buttons and try again.
There seem to be problems with long usernames, so far I've seen long names in the "Latest Ads" box on the right exceeding the size of the frame, and causing a horizontal scroll bar to appear, and attempts to sent mail to my mailbox seem to be failing as my name is truncated to "Mister_Disc".
The page that shows all topics on the forum has the titles in light blue on slightly lighter blue, which is hard to read - switching to the new red would be a quick fix for this, probably just 1 line of the CSS to change.
We also seem to have lost the list of members (which means no more 'who's in my threesome' thread)
Another tip that people might find useful while we are plagued with mysql errors...
Instead of clicking on links here, use your right mouse button (or hold the only button down on a Mac) and select "open in a new window". That way if you get an error, you can simply close the new window and try again from the previous page, rather than losing the page you were on too.
I think it's a useful feature, but it should be turned off by default.
The same goes for the automatic signing up to recieve newsletters, which I believe leaves the site owners open to prosecution in it's current form.
Quote by Mrmart
Pretty simple question really, would you reccomend it to another bi curious guy?

Yes. If you try it and don't like it then you've wasted an hour of your life. If you try it and you do like it then you've got a lifetime of potential fun ahead of you.
The AUP says you can't indulge in "Abusive or aggressive behaviour towards other people on here."
Since ex members are not "on here", I suppose that technically they can be slagged off with wild abandon :!:
Quote by dirtytwo
Perhaps a Swingers Pub (if there was such a thing) is the way to go...

A Swingers Pub is probably the best three word definition of a munch that you could write.
I'm convinced, (and I'm sure most if not all all the other long term members are) that you are less likely to suffer unwanted attention at a munch, and far more likely to have an unlimited supply of people prepared to deal with any unwanted attention that you are in the average high street pub or club on a Saturday night. Everybody at a munch knows the first rule is "No means No", and everyone agrees that transgressors are never going to be invited back.
At an SH social, you will be meeting people who are new to socials, that's inevitable since the whole point is to invite new people along to see if they feel this is something they want to be part of. This means dealing with the occasional wild cannon, but it's something we are acultely aware of, are prepared for, and will have no hesitation acting on.
This discussion isn't really about such clean cut cases, it's not about protecting you from someone who thinks if it moves he can grope it, it's about protecting you from people who were once trusted to run part of this site, but were involved in a heated argument about it and said something that got them banned, or in a more extreme case of Voddy's ban, protecting you from someone who chose to remain friends with the previous person and was not aware of what was said in the argument!
The question here is not 'do we run safe events?', because there is no question that we do. It's 'are we overzealous in our definition of safe events?' that's the point here.
Quote by Calista
Kaz has from the beginning made it clear that a banned member would be attending and therefore people have been able to make an informed choice about their attendance and their own safety.

That's actually a different sort of scenario - I was thinking more about people who's status was not known to the organiser. I don't wan't to get drawn into making this a personal discussion of specific people, but I'm not sure that people can make very informed choices without naming and shaming, and here Wishmaster does happen to be a good example, I believed he was banned for recruiting for another non-commercial site until I read this thread.
i'm going to dive in here... I'm worried that policy lumps together truly undesirable people (such as ones who don't understand that no means no) and people who verbally transgress the rules by (for example) mentioning another site, but ignores a third type of problem person, the serial confirm-but-non-attender. I think an ideal solution would let munch organisers have their lists monitored, and problem people highlighted, before blame is put on them.
If there is no public list of who is banned and how serious their offence was, it's unreasonable to expect munch organisers to be able to filter out banned people.