Thanks! We're looking forward to it making a long weekend up there. If we survive we may pop to Chams on the Saturday.... Maybe!
Just got to shake these ***** colds off beforehand!
Will call when we return!
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Blimey - double figures! Perhaps we should say "how many minutes do you have sex for per week then" rather than quantity
:idea:
We've no kids, but decided ages ago we prefer "quality & time" over "quantity" - so for us that also means avoiding the mornings! Best time is the afternoon, but sadly both at work still :cry: Though on holiday we call it a "shag-a-nap" - for obvious reasons! :lol: We also avoid sex for the sake of it - as unless both are 110% up for it, it isn't really worth it (compared to when both are!)
Even so - 10+ is impressive! Don't think we've *ever* made double figures.........
edit: Don't read this as a negative comment though or suggesting 10+ must be quickies. But blimey - WTF do you get the time! ;)
Blimey - double figures! Perhaps we should say "how many minutes do you have sex for per week then" rather than quantity
:idea: We've no kids, but decided ages ago we prefer "quality & time" over "quantity" - so for us that also means avoiding the mornings! Best time is the afternoon, but sadly both at work still :cry: Though on holiday we call it a "shag-a-nap" - for obvious reasons! :lol: We also avoid sex for the sake of it - as unless both are 110% up for it, it isn't really worth it (compared to when both are!)
Even so - 10+ is impressive! Don't think we've *ever* made double figures.........
edit: Don't read this as a negative comment though or suggesting 10+ must be quickies. But blimey - WTF do you get the time! ;)
We always have a laugh debate over the normal "quota" of sex people have each week on average.....
So this poll is for couples only really, and "sex" can mean anything.
Just wondering as we hear some "amazing" amounts of sex other people seem to get, but in the real world, when working and other things take up time then either "everyone" is amazing, or the surveys are bullshit!
Hopefully we aren't the only ones who don't have time/energy to score every night.....
(no bullshit answers please!)
Oh - guess this should only apply to full-time workers too! :P as our holiday score is vastly different!
So this poll is for couples only really, and "sex" can mean anything.
Just wondering as we hear some "amazing" amounts of sex other people seem to get, but in the real world, when working and other things take up time then either "everyone" is amazing, or the surveys are bullshit!
Hopefully we aren't the only ones who don't have time/energy to score every night.....
(no bullshit answers please!)
Oh - guess this should only apply to full-time workers too! :P as our holiday score is vastly different!
Hi!
We're london-ish and are still very very very new to this game too! We were wondering the same thing about a year ago. We were of the mind to meet a couple and see what happened. In the end we met a nice couple who "convinced us" to go to a club (chameleons) which we were really scared about, but in honesty, it was by far the best thing for us. We've been again (by ourselves) and had lots of fun too - and so far, we've not played with anyone else - but had excellent fun watching and being watched - even though it was scary the first time!
Once you realise no one is staring or really cares - you relax!
We're off to that neck of the woods for Utopia on 25th Sept....
Both places are birmingham/shropshire way and are amongst the top (safe/clean) places to go (from what we've read!).
So we tend to make a weekend of it and get a B&B and chill out as we quite like shropshire anyway.... One day the friends may wonder why! ;)
We haven't seen the couple who took us there again (obviously didn't click) - and because they could/did play with others at the club then there was no pressure and everyone had fun anyway. If it was the 4 of us round someones house then it may have been more forced etc and may have put us off.
We've decided that we'll only use clubs unless we make good friends with someone in that environment etc.
If you want to ask more questions or chat more then email us - happy to talk and we're deffo not scary!!
US!
http://photos.swingingheaven.co.uk/photo-adverts/swingers-39319.html
We're london-ish and are still very very very new to this game too! We were wondering the same thing about a year ago. We were of the mind to meet a couple and see what happened. In the end we met a nice couple who "convinced us" to go to a club (chameleons) which we were really scared about, but in honesty, it was by far the best thing for us. We've been again (by ourselves) and had lots of fun too - and so far, we've not played with anyone else - but had excellent fun watching and being watched - even though it was scary the first time!
Once you realise no one is staring or really cares - you relax!
We're off to that neck of the woods for Utopia on 25th Sept....
Both places are birmingham/shropshire way and are amongst the top (safe/clean) places to go (from what we've read!).
So we tend to make a weekend of it and get a B&B and chill out as we quite like shropshire anyway.... One day the friends may wonder why! ;)
We haven't seen the couple who took us there again (obviously didn't click) - and because they could/did play with others at the club then there was no pressure and everyone had fun anyway. If it was the 4 of us round someones house then it may have been more forced etc and may have put us off.
We've decided that we'll only use clubs unless we make good friends with someone in that environment etc.
If you want to ask more questions or chat more then email us - happy to talk and we're deffo not scary!!
US!
http://photos.swingingheaven.co.uk/photo-adverts/swingers-39319.html
Hello!
Thanks for the lovely chat on email - this does sound interesting so please put us on the wish list...
Not sure what to wear as not into fetish or fancy dress, but I'm sure we can find something!
We will confirm our intent after our visit to Utopia on 25th September - anyone else here going?
If anyone wants to see our ad, CLICK HERE
We look forward to it - so hope loads more can make it too!
Thanks for the lovely chat on email - this does sound interesting so please put us on the wish list...
Not sure what to wear as not into fetish or fancy dress, but I'm sure we can find something!
We will confirm our intent after our visit to Utopia on 25th September - anyone else here going?
If anyone wants to see our ad, CLICK HERE
We look forward to it - so hope loads more can make it too!
Lets clear something up for people who read this thread....
All this talk of "clit peircing" - it is probably not what you think.
AFAIK most "clit piercing" is only of the hood in a vertical or horisontal way - and does not actially pierce the clit directly. The clit can be pierced but is a damn site more painful and also has a risk of "killing it off" and removing any sensitivity.
Personally, the full clit piercing is too risky - but the hood can make the jewelery rub in the right place at the right time.
So anyone here who mentioned it - perhaps clarification needed........?
All this talk of "clit peircing" - it is probably not what you think.
AFAIK most "clit piercing" is only of the hood in a vertical or horisontal way - and does not actially pierce the clit directly. The clit can be pierced but is a damn site more painful and also has a risk of "killing it off" and removing any sensitivity.
Personally, the full clit piercing is too risky - but the hood can make the jewelery rub in the right place at the right time.
So anyone here who mentioned it - perhaps clarification needed........?
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I'd say if you fancy it - just do it - but do it for yourself.
I had a PA earlier in the year, and its quite a lot of fun! ;)
Sometimes my wife can feel it and it enhances, and sometimes it does nothing. It is good fun to play with and have it played with! IMO - its fun - but its not a miracle wand!
There are other threads on here of old discussing piercings, and some like, some loath..... Not had any comments (+ or -) when we've been "clubbing" - but thats coz we're shy and haven't played with anyone else yet! I'm sure some will like and some will hate.... Easy to remove anyway so no big deal.
I'd say if you fancy it - just do it - but do it for yourself.
I had a PA earlier in the year, and its quite a lot of fun! ;)
Sometimes my wife can feel it and it enhances, and sometimes it does nothing. It is good fun to play with and have it played with! IMO - its fun - but its not a miracle wand!
There are other threads on here of old discussing piercings, and some like, some loath..... Not had any comments (+ or -) when we've been "clubbing" - but thats coz we're shy and haven't played with anyone else yet! I'm sure some will like and some will hate.... Easy to remove anyway so no big deal.
We saw this last night and thought it was the best of its type so far. However, we wonder how many friends will think "that sounds like XXXXXX" when they here that couple say "Kids - no way! Keep a dog and retire early!" ;)
One thing though - the show seemed to be about sex, sex and sex.
We've only been to chams twice, and off to Utopia shortly - but as yet have only played together, but (at least for foreseeable future) are only interested in "soft play" and not full sex.
Now either this is rare or not acceptable at parties, or the show is biased.... Our only concern is explaining our limits when the time comes without the other party being bored.... Perhaps thats missing, as "swinging" isn't *actually* all about full-sex-swapping?
Is it?
One thing though - the show seemed to be about sex, sex and sex.
We've only been to chams twice, and off to Utopia shortly - but as yet have only played together, but (at least for foreseeable future) are only interested in "soft play" and not full sex.
Now either this is rare or not acceptable at parties, or the show is biased.... Our only concern is explaining our limits when the time comes without the other party being bored.... Perhaps thats missing, as "swinging" isn't *actually* all about full-sex-swapping?
Is it?
Thanks...!
Sounds good....
Last time we went to Chams it appeared to be more of a chatting night than anything else! Not good for shy us who have no issues playing in public, but are scared to chat! LOL!
If Utopia has a disco, silly question, what do you wear!? Nude may not always be appropriate; towel is not ideal.... Ideas for M and F appreciated...!
Its quite a haul, so booking B&B for the planned weekend!
Looking forward to it!
Sounds good....
Last time we went to Chams it appeared to be more of a chatting night than anything else! Not good for shy us who have no issues playing in public, but are scared to chat! LOL!
If Utopia has a disco, silly question, what do you wear!? Nude may not always be appropriate; towel is not ideal.... Ideas for M and F appreciated...!
Its quite a haul, so booking B&B for the planned weekend!
Looking forward to it!
Hello!
For semi-novices, what is Utopia like on a Friday night? We've been to Chams twice on couples Saturday - how does Utopia compare?
We're still novices (only played together at Chams) but still enjoyed ourselves and the no-pressure relaxed environment.....
So - whats the age group like? (were YOUNG 32/38); dress code; how many couples on a Friday? Is it relaxed as Chams? Unpressued as Chams? Okay to play "together only" or if with others, soft-play only?
Just want to make sure we're not considering a HARD-CORE club that is beyond us.
According to the website, they have a real pool and disco etc - and we'd be interested to hear how this works........
THANKS!
Heres hoping - planning 24/9 all being well, and hoping to meet nice young couples for some soft play and FF fun We'll have fun regardless - and we'll see!
For semi-novices, what is Utopia like on a Friday night? We've been to Chams twice on couples Saturday - how does Utopia compare?
We're still novices (only played together at Chams) but still enjoyed ourselves and the no-pressure relaxed environment.....
So - whats the age group like? (were YOUNG 32/38); dress code; how many couples on a Friday? Is it relaxed as Chams? Unpressued as Chams? Okay to play "together only" or if with others, soft-play only?
Just want to make sure we're not considering a HARD-CORE club that is beyond us.
According to the website, they have a real pool and disco etc - and we'd be interested to hear how this works........
THANKS!
Heres hoping - planning 24/9 all being well, and hoping to meet nice young couples for some soft play and FF fun
We'll have fun regardless - and we'll see! Quote by celticq
Interesting!
And any people who think it looks like pre-pubalecent girls are a little sad....
........Seeing full hair females is now almost sickening...!
Strange how tastes change!
Not sad or sickening surely just different - how dull if everyone was the same - and also perhaps different "styles" suit different folk.
CQ
Good point - we were on about a picture we'd just seen of a 70's "muff" that didn't look appetising to either of us. But you are right, we're all unique and have different tastes!
We think it can go both ways....
F has had navel pierced for ages; and last year we talked about nipples.... F got both M just one, and very pleased and enjoy playing with them!
Then F had clit hoot (VCH) which is liked but not as rewarding as expected.
Then M had PA which is liked - but know about clanking teeth!
For us, any more would be OTT - and we don't always want to put piecings on an ad as it can come across as hardcore which, we are not (innocent as hell but learning!).
Too many, and no no.... that said - we both hate tatoos on men, and like small ones on women - and TBH we consider them "worse" than piercings. IT takes all sorts doesn't it??
You can get and swap nice jewellery, and we are getting a new delivery tomorrow of some nice stuff from (NO CONNECTION) - who are pretty good and have a great choice - loads of colours and styles. Though we hate dangly nipple stuff as well - so we have some we're about to bin!
HTH though we've forgotten the question!
F has had navel pierced for ages; and last year we talked about nipples.... F got both M just one, and very pleased and enjoy playing with them!
Then F had clit hoot (VCH) which is liked but not as rewarding as expected.
Then M had PA which is liked - but know about clanking teeth!
For us, any more would be OTT - and we don't always want to put piecings on an ad as it can come across as hardcore which, we are not (innocent as hell but learning!).
Too many, and no no.... that said - we both hate tatoos on men, and like small ones on women - and TBH we consider them "worse" than piercings. IT takes all sorts doesn't it??
You can get and swap nice jewellery, and we are getting a new delivery tomorrow of some nice stuff from (NO CONNECTION) - who are pretty good and have a great choice - loads of colours and styles. Though we hate dangly nipple stuff as well - so we have some we're about to bin!
HTH though we've forgotten the question!
Interesting!
Of us, F has shaved for years and is now undergoing permanent laser hair removal of full pubic area. Much nicer (we think) than hair. Not cheap, but soooooooo smooth!
And any people who think it looks like pre-pubalecent girls are a little sad.... Just like facially shaved men look like boys? Think not.
M is shaved cock & balls, and trimmed (#4) everywhere else. I
For US - it looks very neat and its how we like it. Seeing full hair females is now almost sickening...!
Strange how tastes change!
Of us, F has shaved for years and is now undergoing permanent laser hair removal of full pubic area. Much nicer (we think) than hair. Not cheap, but soooooooo smooth!
And any people who think it looks like pre-pubalecent girls are a little sad.... Just like facially shaved men look like boys? Think not.
M is shaved cock & balls, and trimmed (#4) everywhere else. I
For US - it looks very neat and its how we like it. Seeing full hair females is now almost sickening...!
Strange how tastes change!
A PA would be easier and better than a foreskin piecing.
It doens't really hurt when done, and heals very quickly, and I was only out of action for 1 week (for playing) and under 2 for sex - and I had the PA 3 days after a vasectomy!!
It is good, wife loves it too! (has hood done)
If you play safe you can get condoms with a bigger head to accomodate jewelerry. There is a good group on this topic.
It doens't really hurt when done, and heals very quickly, and I was only out of action for 1 week (for playing) and under 2 for sex - and I had the PA 3 days after a vasectomy!!
It is good, wife loves it too! (has hood done)
If you play safe you can get condoms with a bigger head to accomodate jewelerry. There is a good group on this topic.
Hello!
We're off to chams for the 2nd time in the near future (Saturday), and we know its free-for-all pre 19:30, and couples only thereafter...
But what sort of time does it get busy enough to hide without finding everywhere empty! 
Not so late we ZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzz ...
20:30 ish?!
Please let us know!!
XX
We're off to chams for the 2nd time in the near future (Saturday), and we know its free-for-all pre 19:30, and couples only thereafter...
But what sort of time does it get busy enough to hide without finding everywhere empty!
Not so late we ZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzz ...
20:30 ish?!
Please let us know!!
XX
If so - let us know and post your ad number!
We are - 2nd time ever - so very new and shy 
ops: so we'll be hiding in the bar.... Had a great time last time but only played with each other. May do the same this time and we'll be happy, but may look forward to soft-playing and FF fun if all feels right!
Let us know! The only promise offered is a "hello" in the bar!
Enjoy - and hope to see you there!
us
xxx
We are - 2nd time ever - so very new and shy
ops: so we'll be hiding in the bar.... Had a great time last time but only played with each other. May do the same this time and we'll be happy, but may look forward to soft-playing and FF fun if all feels right!Let us know! The only promise offered is a "hello" in the bar!
Enjoy - and hope to see you there!
us
xxx
Its interesting to hear how people think!
We're a couple.
F would never have tounge pierced, but has recently had both nips and belly, and vertical hood! - and loves them all (none too painful) - and M has one nipple and PA...
All recent...! We're both pleased in all ways....
But toungue, maybe a bit toooooooooooooo public!
(Though M going topless in the sun and geting "interesting" looks from people!)
;)
Enjoy the toungue, and advise the difference! PA & Hood make difference tooooo! ;) - as do nips!
We're a couple.
F would never have tounge pierced, but has recently had both nips and belly, and vertical hood! - and loves them all (none too painful) - and M has one nipple and PA...
All recent...! We're both pleased in all ways....
But toungue, maybe a bit toooooooooooooo public!
(Though M going topless in the sun and geting "interesting" looks from people!)
;)
Enjoy the toungue, and advise the difference! PA & Hood make difference tooooo! ;) - as do nips!
Hi there!
No! But will be in a couple of weeks for our 2nd visit.
You'll love it - we had a great time - even though we didn't play with anyone else - its soooo chilled!
Someone did a similar notice for last Saturday and didn't get any response - and we'll be doing the same in a few weeks - but it doesn't look like a great way to get any response
Maybe stick an ad on the site and put the details there - may get better response.
ENJOY!
No! But will be in a couple of weeks for our 2nd visit.
You'll love it - we had a great time - even though we didn't play with anyone else - its soooo chilled!
Someone did a similar notice for last Saturday and didn't get any response - and we'll be doing the same in a few weeks - but it doesn't look like a great way to get any response
Maybe stick an ad on the site and put the details there - may get better response.
ENJOY!
Sorry - no!
We're heading up on 22nd May and are probably going to post an identical message nearer the time! Get some familiar faces so we can at least talk to someone in the bar!!!!
Funny how the bar is probably the scariest room! :lol: :lol:
We'll be travelling a bit of a way and aren't late-nighters, so what time is reasonable for turning up? Its couples only from 19:30 - but want to arrive when its already busy!
Enjoy!
We're heading up on 22nd May and are probably going to post an identical message nearer the time! Get some familiar faces so we can at least talk to someone in the bar!!!!
Funny how the bar is probably the scariest room!
:lol: :lol: We'll be travelling a bit of a way and aren't late-nighters, so what time is reasonable for turning up? Its couples only from 19:30 - but want to arrive when its already busy!
Enjoy!
Funny question two folded on same title!
Are we the only couple who:-
- are unable to "go all night" - we are just too knackered!! Are we the only ones that work??!! Even at chams we were dead by about 1am - and there was no energy left to do anything!
- enjoy playing, and when we have the energy spend lots of time playing, but only able to have one (perhaps 2) "blow outs" before we, erm, loose interest.
Fortunately we're both the same - but wondering what is normal in the active scene before we get tooooo involved and find we aren't able to keep up!!!
Also - do you find it funny when playing and really turned on, when having sex we both cum quickly! Pleasing we both do together (can't complain!) but annoying when you're enjoying it. And when you are tired and not really 100% into it, we both go on for ages. Lifes a bitch! :P
Are we the only couple who:-
- are unable to "go all night" - we are just too knackered!! Are we the only ones that work??!! Even at chams we were dead by about 1am - and there was no energy left to do anything!
- enjoy playing, and when we have the energy spend lots of time playing, but only able to have one (perhaps 2) "blow outs" before we, erm, loose interest.
Fortunately we're both the same - but wondering what is normal in the active scene before we get tooooo involved and find we aren't able to keep up!!!
Also - do you find it funny when playing and really turned on, when having sex we both cum quickly! Pleasing we both do together (can't complain!) but annoying when you're enjoying it. And when you are tired and not really 100% into it, we both go on for ages. Lifes a bitch! :P
Don't let our comments put you off. You find "in this world" everyone is different and likes/dislikes differ greatly!
We just thought it could have been better - maybe our expectations were wrong. Place was packed - so couldn't have been THAT bad!
Go, enjoy, and have fun - just don't expect toooooo much!
We just thought it could have been better - maybe our expectations were wrong. Place was packed - so couldn't have been THAT bad!
Go, enjoy, and have fun - just don't expect toooooo much!
We went to the London one in November and were dissapointed 
Either "normal tat" or "top end kink" gear - and not much inbetween. We had a huge amount of cash to spend, and didn't spend a thing (well - not a lot anyway!!)
There is a HUGE market to be tapped somewhere!!
We found it was mainly full of "lads" having a gawp at everything - not "sexily dressed people" who were in the minority. And we thought we were going to be under-dressed!!
So businesses peeps - tap the quality adult market!! (or tell us where it already is!) :P
Either "normal tat" or "top end kink" gear - and not much inbetween. We had a huge amount of cash to spend, and didn't spend a thing (well - not a lot anyway!!)
There is a HUGE market to be tapped somewhere!!
We found it was mainly full of "lads" having a gawp at everything - not "sexily dressed people" who were in the minority. And we thought we were going to be under-dressed!!
So businesses peeps - tap the quality adult market!! (or tell us where it already is!) :P