Thanks for the reactions. The feeling seems to be that it's one of life's pickles and sauces rather than a main course, which is very much my opinion too. It's an occasional recreational activity rather than a life choice.
There's also definitely an agreement that the better you know the person, the better it works. Yes, of course, like most things. Taking your time is crucial. And I do agree with the previous post that a lot of personality can pass down a phone line.
Anyway, thanks again. It's been interesting.
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I tried to post a version of this here yesterday, but it (rightly) got moved to "Let's meet" because of its last paragraph. So this is the discussion-only version! Sorry if I'm overdoing this, or offending protocol - I'm new to this medium.
I think it's time to re-evaluate phone sex as an erotic art. It's fallen out of favour because of two main reasons - firstly the stupid 0900 recordings, which are as erotic as a toothache, and secondly people's unwillingness to take their time and use their imagination. Also, you have to put in a certain effort to weave the fantasy and put it into words. But the rewards when you do...
In an ideal phone sex exchange, each partner becomes the invisible voyeur in the other's bedroom. If you do it right, you are almost in their head. Whatever your real-world shortcomings, in the erotic universe you create, you are both whatever you want to be. With your eyes closed and that voice breathing intimately in your ear, the arousal can be stunning. There is room for every kind of play - dominant/submissive, romantic/forceful, anything. It's also 100% safe, consensual, and controllable - it's perfectly easy for one partner to keep their phone number hidden, if desired.
And so on. Maybe I'm just hopelessly peculiar. Maybe my male perspective is too skewed, and the (admittedly small number of) female partners I have known have been peculiar too. Or maybe not.
What do you think? I'd love to know.
I think it's time to re-evaluate phone sex as an erotic art. It's fallen out of favour because of two main reasons - firstly the stupid 0900 recordings, which are as erotic as a toothache, and secondly people's unwillingness to take their time and use their imagination. Also, you have to put in a certain effort to weave the fantasy and put it into words. But the rewards when you do...
In an ideal phone sex exchange, each partner becomes the invisible voyeur in the other's bedroom. If you do it right, you are almost in their head. Whatever your real-world shortcomings, in the erotic universe you create, you are both whatever you want to be. With your eyes closed and that voice breathing intimately in your ear, the arousal can be stunning. There is room for every kind of play - dominant/submissive, romantic/forceful, anything. It's also 100% safe, consensual, and controllable - it's perfectly easy for one partner to keep their phone number hidden, if desired.
And so on. Maybe I'm just hopelessly peculiar. Maybe my male perspective is too skewed, and the (admittedly small number of) female partners I have known have been peculiar too. Or maybe not.
What do you think? I'd love to know.
I think it's time to re-evaluate genuine phone sex as an erotic pastime. It's been spoiled by all the 0900 numbers and stupid recordings, which are about as erotic as a wet fish. The real thing, when a sexy voice is murmuring in your ear as the two of you move irresistibly towards mutual maximum arousal, is a totally different matter.
There are several elements that produce its potent effect. First, you are both there because you want to be, ready to try things out and experiment A willing partner is a great turn-on. Second, it goes straight to the imagination - whoever and whatever you are in the real world, in your temporary fantasy you can collude in a situation where both parties can close their eyes, drift away, and be ANYONE for the duration of the call. Third, it's easy, none-threatening and completely under control. If you don't like what you're getting, hang up. Fourth, despite all the freedoms which we enjoy, there is still a little frisson about this one - phone sex is still kind of .
This is what I would like. I'm a heterosexual male, interested in the possibilities of long-distance arousal with one willing woman at a time. If that's you, I'm happy to provide a number for you to ring, at a time that we can arrange. Feel free to keep your number secret if you want - though I will never ring and embarrass you!
Does anybody else feel that this area of pleasure has been unfairly treated?
Anybody out there?
There are several elements that produce its potent effect. First, you are both there because you want to be, ready to try things out and experiment A willing partner is a great turn-on. Second, it goes straight to the imagination - whoever and whatever you are in the real world, in your temporary fantasy you can collude in a situation where both parties can close their eyes, drift away, and be ANYONE for the duration of the call. Third, it's easy, none-threatening and completely under control. If you don't like what you're getting, hang up. Fourth, despite all the freedoms which we enjoy, there is still a little frisson about this one - phone sex is still kind of .
This is what I would like. I'm a heterosexual male, interested in the possibilities of long-distance arousal with one willing woman at a time. If that's you, I'm happy to provide a number for you to ring, at a time that we can arrange. Feel free to keep your number secret if you want - though I will never ring and embarrass you!
Does anybody else feel that this area of pleasure has been unfairly treated?
Anybody out there?
