Quote by blackcat123
Hello,
i have been with my wife for 18 years we have two kids 4 years and a year and a half and that was the last time we had sex we get on se well have a laugh but there is no sex between us and i ask if would could go and see someone about it but she just laughed,
i was getting so grumpy over the bad tht when i did bump into a girl i ad not seen for years we ended up as sex buddies( after a year) we never talk i just go round and we have great sex,
and i know its having my cake and eat it ,
but my home life is fantastic now i do not want a divorse,
but if it had carried on the way it was thats what would of happened .
so now you can all throw eggs at me for being a bad man

No! not a bad man at all and in actual fact you would be amazed how many men would rlalte to your situation - me especially for one..
This thread has so hit the nail on the head if you compare my relationship as well as the ending of it.
Long term relationship - started off great, wonderful, varied and frequent sex life. 8 years down the road, mortgage, 2.3 children and the once a month Sunday morning shag just wasnt enough for me. Started getting to every 3/4 months and the doubts. arguments, grumpiness set in and then ultimatley me looking elsewhere and finding it.
Despite how much I loved and still do love her I dont think that (and Im not speaking for all men) that it would be possible to remain in a sexless relationship. Saying this every situation has its own special circumstances but picking up on what a few of the other people have said in any "loving" relationship sex is very important to maintain the bond/connection. If through medical conditions the actual act was impossible then it would take a very strong man to remain faithful to his wife/gf.
For me, well I know that I could not stay in a sexless realtionship. Been there done that and despite all my best efforts to spice things up and still getting rebuked there's only so much a man can take. The love is still there even though we are separted but the only thing that has changed is that the confirmation that we will never shag each other again.
Not sure if this rambling makes any sense (perhaps the whole situation is still a little fresh in my memory).,

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