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14 Dec 2007

Quote by easyease
hmmm yeah i take your point, but at least the bi guy is honest to himself about who he really is. A straight guy who wants to suck a cock should at least consider himself "bi-curious". labels are a pretty crap thing regarding a flexible thing such as sexuality but straight guys dont like other mens dicks. Though some straight guys arent fussy who gets them off when times are hard and pussy is scarce.

My profile says I'm straight, that's not entirely correct as I do play with women from time to time, but I don't actively pursue sex with women anywhere near as much as I do with men so I don't choose the bi label. I'm not being dishonest with myself or anyone else though by saying I'm straight. Maybe it's the same for some of those straight men too, bi when the mood takes them.
Like you said, sexuality is a flexible thing, so a small number of labels don't work for all of us. If I have the option to type in my own term, I usually opt for bi dabbler which is much more accurate (for me) - I'm not bi curious, as the generic understanding of that terms seems to be "inexperienced but thinking about it".
Just another point of view to consider EE, not everyone is easily categorised wink

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14 Dec 2007

Quote by easyease
even stranger are the guys who say their straight in the profile but then put ads in the men seeking men section saying they are looking for a nice big cock to suck. they dont want to scare off the women so they bend the truth.
As a bi guy ive had plenty of mails from guys saying they are straight......

Quote by easyease
you do right just to take it as a compliment solofun, any reasonable bi bloke who does try his luck with a straight guy wouldnt need telling no twice. most wouldnt expect a reply anyway because they are aware of just how cheeky they are being in the first place.

So straight guys looking for a BJ are strange...but bi guys trying their luck with a straight guy are just cheeky and paying a compliment?
Sounds like a bit of a double standard doesn't it? lol

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8 Dec 2007

Quote by jameswanna
Your personal feelings in this shouldn't really be considered, rather what is right for everyone.

Yes, I've assumed that's the case and explains why I frequently get PMs from guys looking for some extra without their wife knowing then, despite saying in my profile...

Maybe I should give you a list of things I definitely don't do too!
I don't play with people who are looking for a sneaky bit on the side (seriously, I won't change my mind on this)

Seems that sometimes, what is right for people gets ignored though!
So yes, I think it's a good idea, for quite different reasons lol

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8 Dec 2007

Quote by jameswanna
Not really. If you are positively looking for this category in a search how would you distinguish couples from marrieds who are playing away?

If you actively want that, you can do a search for couples and/or males and/or females - so it's fairly easy to distinguish between couples and individuals. It's then up to those who are married and looking for a bit on the side to state that they're married. Some are up front about this, some try to skirt around it, some just lie - I'm not sure an entirely separate category would make any difference to that!

7 Dec 2007

Pelirocco

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If you google Dungeon Hire, you should find something fairly close to Reading!

2 Dec 2007

Quote by Andrew75
Bit tricky for the single guys to have a fiddle whilst treading water I think.

Tsk, a paltry excuse lol

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17 Nov 2007

I’m a bit confused, is this about swinging or relationships?
If its about swinging then what difference does it make..

Some people don't want to swing with couples, therefore it makes a difference. A person who falls into that category has proposed a social event for other swingers who fancy an evening with people who don't have a husband/wide/significant other. Just because some people choose not to play with couples, doesn't mean they're looking for a relationship or that because they're single, the marital status of who they meet for swinging doesn't make a difference. Socials are meant to be for like minded people to meet, are these people not like minded?
And SH states:
Where people wish to organise a social event, we allow you to do your own thing, which is correct. Why should we dictate how you want to enjoy yourselves?

Reading the thread though, as part of a couple, I kind of feel discriminated against.

Why? the photo ads are full of people not looking for couples too - and single guys - and single straight women - and certain size people - it's all there wink

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There's a social being organised at the moment, offering room for 50 couples and 20 singles....so assuming the mix of singles is split evenly by gender that means only 10 out of 120 guests are single females, less than 10%. In actuality, it looks like a first come first served basis, so single females represent 2.5% of guests! However, I don't see anyone moaning about discrimination there, so why the furore over this? dunno

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I'm sorry to say it, but it seems to me that some of the comments made by people are far more about "how dare singles think they can have preferences in swinging and arrange something to suit themselves" than tolerance. Sadly, this seems to have been a growing attitude in the swinging scene of late confused

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Personally, I think why not...just as I would if someone organised a couples only night for people interested in meetings others who are into full swap or a Bi only social biggrin

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25 Oct 2007

I'm often around somewhere but you've all heard my old tosh enough so I don't post as much now! Sadly my car park time has been very lax this summer but my voyeuristic side has been kept indulged here and there! You can take the girl out of the car park but... :twisted:
My next task will be to track down Aunty D and teach her how to tempt Unc in front of the whip by glueing his favourite pie to the grill of the dirtymobile wink

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'Ello Snertsy kiss

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21 Oct 2007

Quote by dirtydoggers
I've grasped at mrs Dirty's clobber shouting "c'mon juicer, this is fucking it!"

Oh f*ck!!! :laughabove:
Look, I'm laughing so much you made me swear in writing! I don't think I could dog you two, I'd end up needing a wee more than Aunty D from laughing so much!
I'd try hard though :twisted:

25 Sep 2007

Hi Srne

wave

I don't post so much but still visit!
Doesn't sound like my purple penetrator will be man enough for the job this time G, dammit lol

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22 Sep 2007

Pssssssssssssssssssssssssst
<crooks finger and winks in a come hither fashion>
Is the man part of cameraman essential? (won't be offended if it is, I'll only sulk for a few days lol

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22 Sep 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
Our new suite (on order) is blue - what does that mean? :shock:

Well! If we follow the hanky code, it's like to be one of these, depending on whether the sofa is on the left or the right.
BLUE, Light
wants head
cocksucker
BLUE, Robin's Egg
69er
anything but 69ing
BLUE, Medium
cop
copsucker
BLUE, Navy
fucker (top)
fuckee (bottom)
BLUE, Teal
cock & ball torturer
cock & ball torturee
If it's the last one, someone needs to let Mr Freckledtotty know! lol

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22 Sep 2007

Quote by neilinleeds
oh i dunno dippy? if the thought of two guys, like, at it ((( *shudders* ))) made me physically sick ((( *barfs* ))) well, i'd make pretty damned sure everyone knew that, so that they're careful not to put the thought of two men, like, at it, ((( *retches* ))) in me head? ;)
it's a touch blunt, but not hateful i don't think? not really a value judgement as such in there, just a strong statement of revulsion and nausea, no doubt at the projectile vomiting end of the scale, where male on male sex is concerned. just glad i'm not afflicted by the same condition, cos i'd never keep owt down. ;)

Oooh it sounded pretty vitriolic to me Nellybum but fortunately I can balance those scales by perving avidly at double bloke action without the need to heave (except my bosom, obviously):lol:
Anyway, what were we saying? oh yes, single men saying they don't want to meet! Yes, they're terrible for that, they should be turned into Stepford Swingers where preferences and free will are not allowed! :P

22 Sep 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
Do you know, I'm sure I've seen a Christian Swingers website.

I'm pretty sure I have too *scratches head, trying to remember*

22 Sep 2007

Quote by dippergt750
Do you know, it's really odd, men advertise on here for sex. A woman or couple answer quite swiftly and the response is always the same..........."thank you, I would have met up but I'm in Scotlandat a funeralin bed with plague" etc. etc.
We assume that the buzz comes from getting the reply.....do they masterbate all day on the stregth of the sex they could have had if the wife wouldn't have found out?????????????

I have a question!
Do you attempt to vet these guys for previous "sick making" bi experiences when you contact them? If you approach it with the same tone as your profile, that could be a clue as to why you get so many rejections?
As for those remarks about bi men in your profile, I'd consider that "hateful" under the terms of the AUP and I'm far from easily offended! confused

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18 Sep 2007

Quote by Happytrucker04
ok ill be honest i am 25 and had quite a few recent say im too young. maybe in reality its just a poilte way of saying youre not what im looking for or im not interested. Who knows.

Maybe it was the exact reason they weren't interested, end of story. Don't you have any preferences in the people you want to have sex with? wink

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25 Aug 2007

If it's the place I'm thinking of I don't think it's really a swingers pub, just a pub that's kink friendly as it hosts a monthly munch (bdsm).

17 Aug 2007

Quote by Sarah
But what about those that make number plates on the local markets etc?
Are they as careful about documents??

Those (and the blue washer lights Creampie mentioned) are usually sold with a disclaimer stating "for show purposes only" - so the retailer has a get out to sell them legally. Same for clear and dark brake light lenses, neon kits etc!

15 Aug 2007

Quote by cockslut
although the dvla state its illegal to alter your spacing etc on your plate there seems to be an ever increasing amount of cars on the road that are blatently doing 've seen them, like making a 12 look like an R, etc. whats your view on this? if you have altered yours do you swap the plates for the mot?

I've got one, I got it for my 30th birthday and I like it, it just makes my car that little bit more mine biggrin

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The spacing is slightly dodgy on it, nothing is closer together to make it look like something else, there's just an extra space where there shouldn't be one. I've never had a problem from the police though as it's standard fonts, clearly visible on the correct colours back and front and is probably easier to remember the way it's displayed. I ordered the actual plates online from a company in Ireland as it's not illegal to make plates with naughty spacing there and no documents are required.
I do put the original legal ones back on for the MOT, it's an automatic fail if you don't.
Personally, I think there's more to life than worrying about the fact that there's a double space between two letters on my number plate - I don't drink when I drive, I have no convictions, my car is roadworthy and properly maintained, I'm fully insured and have road tax and always use hands free for my phone. My little erosion of the law pales into isignifcance compared to the bad driving and lack of attention to the road I see most days. "The law" seem to agree as they haven't seen fit to be worried about my plate or my driving wink

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11 Aug 2007

Quote by lavabubble
No idea about Amora, never heard of it but just wanted to wave to you both. :giggle:

Waving right back at you biggrin

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Quote by Serendipity
I may be going there next weekend lavabubble, if I do, I'll let you know - as for who it's aimed at and the purpose, well I'm going in the hope that it might be interesting, entertaining or I might learn something

Oooh please do - I'm just wondering whether or not its worth the money and a trip down that far - I'm just nosey and fancy a look and if its rubbish we'll just go on the Eye again lol lol

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Go to the eye again Lavabubble :lol:
It's probably fascinating for people who like to know how things work and I did come away thinking I'd learnt a couple of biological facts I didn't know....but overall, it felt like it was more about the mechanics of sex rather than the intricacies of sexuality!
It was nicely presented, likely to prompt some oohs and ahhs from people who haven't been terribly adventurous before but generally, for anyone with even a mild streak of kink in them, it won't thrill you!
Nice toyshop, pricey but eye catching!

1 Aug 2007

Happy Birthday you nut biggrin

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15 Jul 2007

Quote by Dirtygirlie

So do people write things they're not interested in to save people wasting their time getting in touch?

Yep!

Quote by Serendipity (in her profile)
I'm not interested in hearing from guys who want to "take" me dogging for a shag

It saves time having to explain to people that when I say I like dogging, it doesn't automatically mean I want to be spread across their bonnet and given one lol

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And it does seem to have worked for the most part biggrin

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15 Jul 2007

I may be going there next weekend lavabubble, if I do, I'll let you know - as for who it's aimed at and the purpose, well I'm going in the hope that it might be interesting, entertaining or I might learn something wink

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15 Jul 2007

Quote by Lifes2short2007
why r single men in particular frowned upon? :

Because they're evil and should be banned and blamed...from and for everything. Damn them and their single maleness!
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10 Jun 2007

Shagpiece!
It's a good one because you can prefix it with things, depending on your mood
e.g.
Dirty shagpiece
Sexy shagpiece
Hot shagpiece
Come 'ere shagpiece
Give it to me you fantastic shagpiece
Get out shagpiece
See, how versatile is that?! wink

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25 May 2007

Quote by Silk and Big G
What time shall we pick you up ??

FFS! Will you stop borrowing my car without asking G!! lol

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Actually I share the limo fantasy too...need to make it happen this year biggrin

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13 May 2007

Quote by tweeky
I'm actually not a particularly big supporter of IVF anyway.

As I receive infertiltity treatment I would be interested to know why it is you are not a particualrly big supporter? Please do enlighten me.

Quote by Dawnie
I was going to ask the same tweeky :thumbup:

Two reasons, both personal rather than a generalisation though.
1. IVF seems potentially very destructive to marriages - it's expensive, often disappointing, reduces an act of love (sex) to something that has to be timed just right and the treatment attempts can go on for years, not work and end up with couples splitting over their inability to conceive which is so sad, when it's probably not the reason they chose to marry each other. And yes, I know that's not true for everyone who goes through IVF/Fertility treatment but I've seen enough evidence of it to know it's common.
2. If egg freezing, sperm donors, IVT etc had been this prevalent in the lates 60s/early 70s I wonder if someone like me, who was adopted, might have spent a lot more time in an orphange/childrens home. Obviously I can't answer that, but my personal choice would be trying to adopt over IVF because of my own background.
So, like I said, it's my personal feeling - what anyone else chooses is up to them, we all have our own reasons for what we would or wouldn't do! biggrin

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12 May 2007

Quote by Mrcoupleseekfun
The assumption you offered is that the people on methadone are neither hardworking nor middle class - isn't it possible that they are both?

No, because it mentions in said article that they are both on benefits with no job prospects. He is claiming disability because he was attacked with a hatchet.
You may think my views are narrow minded, i'm not really bothered, but i think its plain to see where a baby/babies would be better born into...
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I'm not labelling you as anything, simply commenting on the fact that your view of who is suitable might be skewed. I was and still am in agreement that the couple with the drug problem were not a suitable choice for receiving IVF assistance. I'm actually not a particularly big supporter of IVF anyway but certainly not for people whose lifestyle could potentially harm a child before it's even been born.

11 May 2007

It's not really out of context, comparison or not, you believe that those attributes make your friends more worthy of IVF - I don't think that any of them were relevant, other than the fact they don't take drugs. The assumption you offered is that the people on methadone are neither hardworking nor middle class - isn't it possible that they are both?

11 May 2007

Quote by Mrcoupleseekfun
You would've thought that somebody in their local NHS trust with even the tiniest ounce of common sense would tell said couple that they couldnt have fertility treatment until they were clean.....or is that just me thinking too sensibly?

I would certainly hope that a couple in recovery from a drug addiction would be required to be completely clean before receiving fertility treatment, there is no need or reason for any child to be intentionally created by doctors when there is a risk of health problems that can be avoided.

Quote by Mrcoupleseekfun
A close friend of mine was refused fertility treatment for years, she was hard working, her husband was hard working, both respectable, none drug taking, middle class citizens yet the NHS decided they werent worthy enough.....yet the NHS decides a couple of (ex)smackheads are worthy parents instead?
How does that work then?

I really don't think that being hard working, respectable and middle class :shock: means you are a more worthy candidate than a couple where one partner doesn't work, is seen as less respectable or working class! I'm quite certain some people would say swingers are less than respectable - do you think that would be a fair reason to deny someone IVF?
And, on top of that, why do people pursue fertility treatment for years yet never consider adoption? Surely being a parent is more important than being pregnant? However, that's a different discussion entirely confused

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