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I'm not attending my first SH munch til November, but I organise events so I do have quite a strong view on this.
I don't particularly like the idea of the SHM staff being at this munch or any other. I'm a person who happens to swing, I wouldn't wish to be studied by non swingers at an event, whether they are journalists or someone's mate who fancied a gander at The Swingers.
Of course, I am assuming that both people are non swingers, the fact that they need to attend an event to find out what they're like suggests to me that they aren't swingers. I may be wrong about that?
But....that makes me wonder if there are any people working on the magazine with actual knowledge of the lifestyle in the first place. If not, then attending one munch will hardly equip them with enough understanding, so would they need to attend more?
I'd be genuinely surprised if anyone at SHM finds this reaction a shock, people feel uneasy about being observed in this fashion by people they are unfamilar with (SHMEditor) and someone who remains unidentified (the other guest). That's why the munch rules state that only members can attend. Ultimately, munches and socials are the domain of site members, organised by them, attended by them and funded by them. Using peoples social lives as a research tool suddenly makes a relaxed event for like minded individuals a night out where people will be guarded and on edge.
I can understand why SHM wants to do it but it's just a little too invasive imho.
I don't particularly like the idea of the SHM staff being at this munch or any other. I'm a person who happens to swing, I wouldn't wish to be studied by non swingers at an event, whether they are journalists or someone's mate who fancied a gander at The Swingers.
Of course, I am assuming that both people are non swingers, the fact that they need to attend an event to find out what they're like suggests to me that they aren't swingers. I may be wrong about that?
But....that makes me wonder if there are any people working on the magazine with actual knowledge of the lifestyle in the first place. If not, then attending one munch will hardly equip them with enough understanding, so would they need to attend more?
I'd be genuinely surprised if anyone at SHM finds this reaction a shock, people feel uneasy about being observed in this fashion by people they are unfamilar with (SHMEditor) and someone who remains unidentified (the other guest). That's why the munch rules state that only members can attend. Ultimately, munches and socials are the domain of site members, organised by them, attended by them and funded by them. Using peoples social lives as a research tool suddenly makes a relaxed event for like minded individuals a night out where people will be guarded and on edge.
I can understand why SHM wants to do it but it's just a little too invasive imho.
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you dont belong anymore
its quite strange, been thinking about this a bit lately and sometimes i feel like i dont belong here, i dont mean the site as such, more the scene.
gone are the days when i was that new person everyone wanted to know, which isnt necessarily a bad thing, but even some people i thought were really good friends hardly even speak to me now, they will say a few words on msn if i speak to them then say brb and never come back.
the forums dont excite me anymore, and no thats not a dig at the people posting, i think its more to do with how i am feeling, i dont use them much on either site anymore
i am finding i tend to spend most of my time in the north east chat room with people who are in my area.
i have spent the last 18 months travelling all over the country to meet people, and i have met some fantastic people, one or two who will remain special friends no matter what.
so, is it just me or do others go through this feeling, is it like seasons it changes and goes in circles.
this isnt a look at me post, i am genuinely interested to know if anyone else goes through this phase as i am seriously considering my place here right now.
Earthy xx
I think everyone goes through this Earthy and on any kind of forum, a posting lethargy just starts building up and you get to the point where you can't be bothered to post, often because you've said it all three times before
. Then something happens, a social event, a good topic, interesting new people around and those spark off your enthusiasm again!
But sometimes, the fact that you don't participate makes for a while suddenly makes you feel out of synch with people, it's an odd feeling!
Life on Mars is definitely the best thing the Beeb has done in ages, prob since Pride & Prejudice in fact! Gene Hunt is the most entertaining police character since Frank Burnside
Apparently the new series is supposed to be named after another Bowie song, Ashes to Ashes
"He's got fingers in more pies than a leper on a cookery course"
Apparently the new series is supposed to be named after another Bowie song, Ashes to Ashes
"He's got fingers in more pies than a leper on a cookery course"
I've advertised in that section in the past, it was frustrating to be mixed up with everything else that didn't fit a neat box at times but I got what I wanted so no complaints there! I did get lots of PMs for what I didn't want but I expected to
Maybe women are more discreet in finding partners but I also think part of it is that when women place an ad, they've thought long and hard about exactly what they want whereas (in my experience in chat and with ad responses) a lot of guys place a random ad and don't think past the "I've been naughty, punish me and make me do kinky stuff while I admire your PVC catsuit clad appearance" idea to consider what else can be experienced.
Not that there's anything wrong with PVC catsuits, but that's not all there is
Maybe women are more discreet in finding partners but I also think part of it is that when women place an ad, they've thought long and hard about exactly what they want whereas (in my experience in chat and with ad responses) a lot of guys place a random ad and don't think past the "I've been naughty, punish me and make me do kinky stuff while I admire your PVC catsuit clad appearance" idea to consider what else can be experienced.
Not that there's anything wrong with PVC catsuits, but that's not all there is
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You don't believe it, think it's an April fool?
Then why the f*ck do some of you believe it for the rest of the year!:dry: :whistling: :dry:
Oh well why don't you just tell me Santa isn't realtoo, you thoughtless git!!
What? :shock: :shock: :shock:
:cry:
He does really Kiss, he just won't be visiting Snerts any more
JTS - nice to know even the experienced get it wrong now and then :lol:
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And remember Serendipity in the words of my Swiss namesake "making love to a beautiful woman is a lot like making a cup of coffee: it's got to be hot, you've got to take your time....you've got to grind your beans until they squeak!!!!"
Cheers All.
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At last, someone who might understand why I call them squeakers!! Excellent!
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Just to remind any of the people who haven't been to a Munch before that there are a lovely, friendly bunch of people who have volunteered to act as hand-holders.
Will they hold other bits? or just the hands? :twisted:
depends on how much easy needs to be bribed.....
:thumbup: ;)
Why who would you like to hold other parts Dippy?
:rascal:Can you make the Essex Wideboy hold my handbag? :twisted:
I'll send you a list for the rest, let me know how much
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I've never attended an SH munch so can I pop my cherry with you, Sassy and Easy?
Really .... :shock:
I'm an SH munch virgin!
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Yay the dipsters coming :twisted:
Yup, you, me, Jack D and the underside of a table - the sequel :lol:
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well u are in for a culture shock lol....but as ever will be nice to educate you about northern ways lol
mmwwaahh
RWL
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Oh no, I am *not* going to the Darby & Joan club with you :lol:
One of the girls who works for me has given up through hypnosis (NW London outskirts if it's any good to you Plaything). The first thing the therpaist asked her was where on a scale of 1 to 10 she would rate her desire to give up - 1 being you love smoking and 10 being it disgusts you and you can't wait to give up. He said that unless you're at least an 8, there's no point having hynotherapy but once you're at that level, he saw her for one session and she's stopped for a few weeks so far!
It's kinda funky, I quite like it BUT
1) Make the blues a bit darker
2) Fill in the grey bits with the same blue, they look...unfinished?
3) Have you done something to the ages on the profiles? I seem to have gained a year and frankly, I'm hurt
Ewww I've just noticed that when you're typing a reply all the previous posts underneath are in boxes so white and bright that only Serchers underwear could outshine them! Need some
1) Make the blues a bit darker
2) Fill in the grey bits with the same blue, they look...unfinished?
3) Have you done something to the ages on the profiles? I seem to have gained a year and frankly, I'm hurt
Ewww I've just noticed that when you're typing a reply all the previous posts underneath are in boxes so white and bright that only Serchers underwear could outshine them! Need some
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Whilst I understand the frustration, it's clear that you weren't there as a courting couple and that he was there as a dogger - so why didn't you just tell him to wait til you signalled him (and what the signal would be)? Surely that would have been far easier than expecting him to read your mind and a lot less aggro for you two in the end?
To be fair I know the poster here and the location he was using.
It's a regular place for courting couples as well as doggers, not everyone there is playing and many will just move away from the loon to carry on wit htheir own pleasure. The move away should really be a clue that they aren't interested in *you*.
Besides, isn't it just courtesy to wait for a "invite" whether dogging or not. Not everyone wants to play every time and certainly if there is more than one dogger there then they should have the option to pick who they play with.
Yup, I agree with everything you've said Carparkfun and I don't believe I inferred that they had no choice in who can watch/play - but as they were there for dogging not courting why not cut to the chase, say what's wanted/not wanted and make life easier for themselves :D
Not all couples issue an invite by flashing interior lights, so sometimes dogging really is about stumbling around the dark!
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We could just have been a courting couple for all he knew! Anyway, we moved a few parking space away but he continued to come in and out of the car park for the next hour, ruining our fun and the opportunity of the two or three respectful doggers waiting patiently. We cleared off in the end. If he'd been patient and waited til we'd invited the lads across with a couple of flicks of the interior light, I am sure she would happily have played with him.
Whilst I understand the frustration, it's clear that you weren't there as a courting couple and that he was there as a dogger - so why didn't you just tell him to wait til you signalled him (and what the signal would be)? Surely that would have been far easier than expecting him to read your mind and a lot less aggro for you two in the end?
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lets face it we dont go down the street with banners saying gay pride n f'ck u
Yes we* do...ok, so there's no "f*ck u" on the banner but there is a banner
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but would u do it n say swing pride do we live online but cover in real life n denigh us all when it comes to life ??
I'm sure some people are very open about their swinging, others don't hide it but don't advertise it and the rest keep it to themselves - not much different to the gay community I imagine
*By we, I do not mean me as even if I were a lesbian I would still be far too lazy to walk further than the car
for you and Dipity, :lol: :lol: Most doggers would kill for a low blow :twisted: but yes, we are gits and will use your own logic against you :twisted:
I dug around in the annals and found mine from a couple of years ago....
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Hi All
Thank for the encouragement, I finally found the courage to go out looking at a couple of spots! Three evenings were spent with just cigarettes, CDs and what looked like innocent drivers for company who had no idea what my naughty mind was up to! I decided to go out again tonight and pulled up nearish to another car, I switched my light on on the pretext of getting my bag (just in case) and looked over, to be met with a smile from a couple when they put their light on too, although they did look a little surprised to see me on my own!
I really wasn't sure if it was just a smile or something else, so I acknowledged it, looked at them a little longer than you normally would then turned the light back off and waited (of course, all the advice that I hoped I'd remember rushed out of my head at 100mph!). Lucky me though, the couple in the started getting it on!
I'd love to say I stood at their car and had a birds eye view but I didn't, I wasn't sure if that was what they wanted and didn't want to push my luck but could see (and hear) enough from where I was and they seemed comfortable with that too. It was fantastic to watch them and SO erotic, especially because it all happened without an uncomfortable conversation or any major embarrassment! I have no idea if they were seasoned doggers or if I just got lucky with newbies/a very randy couple but I put my light back on and mouthed thank you then drove home with a HUGE smile on my face!
I have no idea who they were but I do hope I bump into them again, I guess you might be members here....if you are, thank you so much again!
Serendipity
Ahhh, so sweet and innocent til I got sucked into the twilight world of the dogging section - it's ruined me y'know! :P
