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Sharif
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 51
0 miles · Nottinghamshire
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Quote by dambuster
Please cut me a little slack Sharif. I'm not having a dig at your post, just trying to answer you with my opinions as to why there could be a potential problem, if not with us now, then on the horizon.
I feel the need at the moment to choose my words and statements carefully.
It’s all good in the hood, just a friendly discussion amongst friend’s (all be it a very large group of friends). Likewise I’m not having a dig at you or anyone just expressing a view.
I have to disagree with on the unified login issue, simply based on my own experience. Yes having one login is easier but it’s not that difficult to setup the same login and password for all 3 (that’s what I did when I joined). Back then when I was in the chat room I saw people pasting links to their adds in there, In fact you were encouraged to have an add as you stood a better chance. I saw people in the chat room that were also using the forum and vice versa. So based on my experience I can’t say that people just restricted them self to one section but we will have to beg to differ on that one hay.
Like I said before I feel that is it should be down to the event organiser to manage the expectations and bill the event accordingly. Like it should be down to the organiser to ensure the security of the attendee’s while at the event.
I don’t believe in spoon feeding people, I believe in common sense…
If an organiser states that they are having a BBQ Social I expect there to be a BBQ.
If an organiser states that they are having a Bowling Social I expect there to Bowling.
If an organiser states that they are having a Pub Social I expect there to be a Pub.
If an organiser states that they are having a Birthday Social I expect someone to be having a Birthday.
If an organiser states that they are having a fuckfest I expect there to be a fuckfest, and so on and so forth.
But hay I’m a simple sole, I could be wrong
I don’t understand maybe it’s just me.
So there’s always been munch’s, there’s always been social’s, there’s always been the Forums, there’s always been the add section, there’s always been a chat room (although the nature of it has changed slightly). Ok there’s never been a unified login but that’s never stopped people like using all 3.
So why are people getting confused now? What’s different now?
Ok yes there are a lot more people here now but I’m sure they know what social means. When ever I’ve described a munch to someone I’ve said it’s a purely social event. What’s so hard about grasping the concept of a social event ? the description is in the name.
So there’s always been munch’s, there’s always been social’s, there’s always been the Forums, there’s always been the add section, there’s always been a chat room (although the nature of it has changed slightly). Ok there’s never been a unified login but that’s never stopped people like using all 3.
So why are people getting confused now? What’s different now?
Ok yes there are a lot more people here now but I’m sure they know what social means. When ever I’ve described a munch to someone I’ve said it’s a purely social event. What’s so hard about grasping the concept of a social event ? the description is in the name.
I think the emphasis of explaining as to what type of event and what to expect at that event should lay with the organiser, when they first post advertising the event in LMU. I assume this is what a good events organiser would do anyways. People can then decide if they want to attend based on the facts given. If the event posted goes against the ethos of the site, if the type of event or what to expect at the event is not explained then the powers that be can have a word with them on how to put it right.
Also as total “newbie’s†aren’t allowed to attend munch’s till they are a bit more well known they should not be allowed to organise a munch either.
Although in theory it’s good to have everything written down, in practice it might prove to be too complicated, with pages and pages and pages or rules to cover every possible eventuality. People would simply not read it saying it far too much to read, as you could see from when Mike attempted it.
Also from what I can understand the only reason the term social’s started to appear is because people wanted to invite ex SH members who were not banned but who moved onto the splinter sites for what ever reason. Munch’s rule’s were so well defined in writing that a new term had to be used to allow the ex members to attend. So what’s stopping people from coming up with new terms to get around written down definition’s of socials, were will it all end.
Also as total “newbie’s†aren’t allowed to attend munch’s till they are a bit more well known they should not be allowed to organise a munch either.
Although in theory it’s good to have everything written down, in practice it might prove to be too complicated, with pages and pages and pages or rules to cover every possible eventuality. People would simply not read it saying it far too much to read, as you could see from when Mike attempted it.
Also from what I can understand the only reason the term social’s started to appear is because people wanted to invite ex SH members who were not banned but who moved onto the splinter sites for what ever reason. Munch’s rule’s were so well defined in writing that a new term had to be used to allow the ex members to attend. So what’s stopping people from coming up with new terms to get around written down definition’s of socials, were will it all end.
I think this is becoming something like a dog chasseing its tail; we could be here a very very long time. Munch’s and gatherings of what ever sort are not exclusive to SH or the swinging website’s it happens all on most web based communities. Different sites might have different code of conducts. But no one can guarantee their members will read or follow the code of conduct (although on the main most do) they can be banned once the code of conduct has been breached but by then the deed has been done.
You can define much’s/socials till your blue in the face but if people choose not to read or haven’t read the definitions what can you do.
Possible solution might be to have sight approved munch/social organiser’s. So if you’re not on the approved list you can’t organise one on this site. If you want to be on the approved list you will have to go through some sort of test (we cold name it the Darkfire trial’s 
) or go through some sort of munch organiser apprentice scheme where you are guided by an approved and experienced munch organiser. These approved organisers can also form some sort of Gild Of Organisers. So if you need to organise something on the fly you can call on the services of G.O.O, to hold your hand or organise something for you.
Yes there might be potential problems with the idea, but life isn’t always simple and it’s just a suggestions. By the community for the community.
If you have a problem, if no one else can help, and if you can find them, maybe you can call upon the services of…...G.O.O or am I thinking of the A team :)
P.S you people are making my wrists hurt I’m a chatter not used to all this typing :)
You can define much’s/socials till your blue in the face but if people choose not to read or haven’t read the definitions what can you do.
Possible solution might be to have sight approved munch/social organiser’s. So if you’re not on the approved list you can’t organise one on this site. If you want to be on the approved list you will have to go through some sort of test
(we cold name it the Darkfire trial’s ) or go through some sort of munch organiser apprentice scheme where you are guided by an approved and experienced munch organiser. These approved organisers can also form some sort of Gild Of Organisers. So if you need to organise something on the fly you can call on the services of G.O.O, to hold your hand or organise something for you. Yes there might be potential problems with the idea, but life isn’t always simple and it’s just a suggestions. By the community for the community.
If you have a problem, if no one else can help, and if you can find them, maybe you can call upon the services of…...G.O.O or am I thinking of the A team :)
P.S you people are making my wrists hurt I’m a chatter not used to all this typing :)
Quote by Darkfire
ok, let me get this straight.
a meet for drinks in a pub before everyone moves on to a private house party (aka a "fuckfest" ) is a social (aka no play) ?
and a 'function' in a private venue with private facilities with many people dressed to a 'theme' or provocative & sexy and snogging each other hello is a Social ?
i'm changing my name to blonde, cos I still dont get it.
sorry :dunno:
Thats how i would read it because the "fuckfest" is afterwards and not during the meet.
Quote by Freckledbird
They are socials and munches; meets for play are arranged between individuals or couples.
Although the behaviour of some people at the actual social/munch often makes the 'social/munch/vanilla' terminology a load of bollox.
Oh, and hotel shags? We're not usually invited for any of those, but know that they happen.
Yes but having too many terms seems to be confusing things, So why not go back to basic's and come up with simpler descriptions, that’s give's an idea as to what’s in the tin as it were.
