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Tania
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 60
0 miles · Greater London
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Well what you do seems to be what is classed as 'soft swing'. It is nothing uncommon and I am sure this experience you had was isolated. Give it another go: another club, another night - who knows? Of course I have never been to a club or actually swang... which makes me a bit of a non authority on the subject so let's wait and hear from others.
Yes, it is a jungle out there and having to date again is not like riding a bicycle. When my partner broke up with me and we moved to different addresses, the first thing I did was to throw myself into dating. I met a different man every day or two. At least it paid my dinners... 
Every man I met I thought 'this is the one, perhaps' but it never was. Then after a couple of weeks of intense dating I felt more empty and depressed than ever. Then someone came into my life and offered to be there for me till something better came along. I foolishly accepted then realised that I was trapped in a dead end relationship. I am not one to look for 'something better' whilst involved with someone.
I miss the life I had. The home I had. The barbecues in the garden. Holidays with him. Watching him shave. Sharing the housework with him. Listening to his music with him desperately trying to educate me on groups and singers whose names I forgot as quickly as they had been spoken. Driving in the rain with him behind the wheel. Cooking for him and hearing him praise me. His DIY skills. The sleepover parties we held. His nagging about his job on the phone. Sorting out his finances and seeing the relief on his face. Lots of things I miss. I felt complete when I was with him. My weaknesses were his strengths and his weaknesses were my strengths. It was how it was meant to be.
Now I am single with a surplus of love to give and no takers. I have realised that it is not good to love or be loved. You have to love AND be loved at the same time for things to work out. Anything less is a temporary arrangement. At least that is my view on the subject.
Wishing you enjoy your life whether as a single or part of a couple.
Every man I met I thought 'this is the one, perhaps' but it never was. Then after a couple of weeks of intense dating I felt more empty and depressed than ever. Then someone came into my life and offered to be there for me till something better came along. I foolishly accepted then realised that I was trapped in a dead end relationship. I am not one to look for 'something better' whilst involved with someone.I miss the life I had. The home I had. The barbecues in the garden. Holidays with him. Watching him shave. Sharing the housework with him. Listening to his music with him desperately trying to educate me on groups and singers whose names I forgot as quickly as they had been spoken. Driving in the rain with him behind the wheel. Cooking for him and hearing him praise me. His DIY skills. The sleepover parties we held. His nagging about his job on the phone. Sorting out his finances and seeing the relief on his face. Lots of things I miss. I felt complete when I was with him. My weaknesses were his strengths and his weaknesses were my strengths. It was how it was meant to be.
Now I am single with a surplus of love to give and no takers. I have realised that it is not good to love or be loved. You have to love AND be loved at the same time for things to work out. Anything less is a temporary arrangement. At least that is my view on the subject.
Wishing you enjoy your life whether as a single or part of a couple.
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It does seem unfortunate. But I only have your point of view to think about. Is this fair or right to expect others to give you support and advice to you alone and not your recent partner also?
Get off it Duncan! This is not a case of political correctness, the girl is hurting and is looking for some support. I am sure the sexual partner can defend his/her self if need be.
Hi Jess, nice to find you here after our chat the other night.
Sorry to hear about this person's reaction. Been there not too long ago (even though I didn't do the naughties because I felt we ought to get to know each other better before hitting the sack) and know how it hurts when they suddenly switch off or disappear.
All I can say is that women like us can sometimes be intimidating. We know what we want and we realise a good thing when we see one so we cannot really control ourselves and have to give it all.
You have two options:
a) put it behind you and move on
b) keep thinking about it and analyse everything you said and did till your mind goes numb and you no longer know whether you are coming or going...
There is plenty more fish in the sea and as long as you play safe, there is no reason why you shouldn't make the most of each encounter, no matter how brief.
Hugs
Sorry to hear about this person's reaction. Been there not too long ago (even though I didn't do the naughties because I felt we ought to get to know each other better before hitting the sack) and know how it hurts when they suddenly switch off or disappear.
All I can say is that women like us can sometimes be intimidating. We know what we want and we realise a good thing when we see one so we cannot really control ourselves and have to give it all.
You have two options:
a) put it behind you and move on
b) keep thinking about it and analyse everything you said and did till your mind goes numb and you no longer know whether you are coming or going...
There is plenty more fish in the sea and as long as you play safe, there is no reason why you shouldn't make the most of each encounter, no matter how brief.
Hugs
Initially both answers would have to be 'no'. But once you have been with a sexual partner for some time, it would be worrying if you cannot hit each other's buttons to reach a happy conclusion. Everyone can be a let down sometimes, even your trusty vibrator, but if it keeps happening then questions need to be asked and actions taken.
Sorry to hear about your day going all wrong but at least you are all alright - guess it could have been worse. You might have made it to the munch and felt out of place, the couple may have insulted you having misunderstood your intentions and the beer might have been warm. At least the way things happened, you still have something to look forward to in the future.
Hugs
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It is the thrill of the forbidden, the closest they can get to the essence of a woman without sexual contact.
I had a plumber in some time ago. He called unexpected and found me untidy and of course with clothes on the bathroom floor. I just had enough time to kick the knickers under a blouse before he went in to check the leak. When he left, I discovered my used knickers had moved place. Which explained why there came no sounds of fixing things from the bathroom for at least 10 mins. I should have been terribly embarrassed/annoyed but I wasn't. Just thought it was a pity I didn't catch him on the act and tease him a bit.
I had a plumber in some time ago. He called unexpected and found me untidy and of course with clothes on the bathroom floor. I just had enough time to kick the knickers under a blouse before he went in to check the leak. When he left, I discovered my used knickers had moved place. Which explained why there came no sounds of fixing things from the bathroom for at least 10 mins. I should have been terribly embarrassed/annoyed but I wasn't. Just thought it was a pity I didn't catch him on the act and tease him a bit.
HungryP
You are such a tease! For your information the scenes took place in my adulthood - about 10 years ago or so. Our dogs' behaviour made me realise that we are all answering to our animal insticts at the end of the day and should not feel ashamed for being who/what we are as my dogs were not ashamed of being themselves in front of humans.
Hope that makes sense. I just wish I could meet a man that would unleash the animal passion in me. *sigh*
Actually the problem is more common than people think. It is all in the brain as Wicked Wizard said. It is nobody's fault and I know that if a woman perseveres, she can get the guy to ejaculate, but it is generally advisable not to insist, as it causes him distress by making him feel out of par with the rest of the male population. Being a slow cummer myself, I love these guys as I do not have to feel stressed to reach the big O before time runs out on us. 
There has got to be an element of love, care and understanding between the couple though.
Vix, I once experienced spontaneous climaxing. It was brought on by a starvation diet that kept me constantly aroused to the point I would just feel the bed sheets brush lightly against my skin and I'd cum, put on my slippers and cum, brush my teeth and cum... (Ok last bit I made up but the rest is all true!)
There has got to be an element of love, care and understanding between the couple though.Vix, I once experienced spontaneous climaxing. It was brought on by a starvation diet that kept me constantly aroused to the point I would just feel the bed sheets brush lightly against my skin and I'd cum, put on my slippers and cum, brush my teeth and cum... (Ok last bit I made up but the rest is all true!)
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I'm from Scotland and I have to say the Glaswegian accent drives me nuts. Its the most annoying accent around and most of the words you cant even understand,lol.
Well maybe this guy was talking clear for my benefit, don't know. I just thought it would have been wonderful to have been blindfolded or in a dark room just listening to his voice...
As for the Ukrainian accent, that is nice, too with some well rounded consonants.
Well I don't know about dominance and stuff in animals but I do know how happy they looked with their tongues hanging out and their eyes glazed over.... Also caught the same dog masturbating over the carpet and then licking his produce. Mom would not believe me but she had the carpet washed professionally anyway.
Also remembered my impotent dog and my horny bitch... she got so frustrated with his inability to service her she got between his legs and began licking him to erection. When he still couldn't do it, she bit his neck and laid on her back, legs apart and he had to lick her to climax. I couldn't help watching, they were doing all this in front of me in the lounge whilst my favourite TV programme was on. It was an eye opener for me that I always thought that due to our higher intellect we had discovered ingenious ways of getting pleasure. Ha ha ha! We are just animals!
Also remembered my impotent dog and my horny bitch... she got so frustrated with his inability to service her she got between his legs and began licking him to erection. When he still couldn't do it, she bit his neck and laid on her back, legs apart and he had to lick her to climax. I couldn't help watching, they were doing all this in front of me in the lounge whilst my favourite TV programme was on. It was an eye opener for me that I always thought that due to our higher intellect we had discovered ingenious ways of getting pleasure. Ha ha ha! We are just animals!
