I am sure this topic has been covered elsewhere (as most topics have by now) but I cannot cease to be amazed by the number of men who write and declare proudly that they are experts at giving O to completion or that they like to spend lots and lots of time giving O to a woman. Why is this?
I have never found O to be something extraordinary, never actively sought it (unless in retaliation for a pushy boyfriend demanding his O rights) and never felt too excited by it.
So I am wondering is what these men write something they think women liketo hear (therefore say it to get on their good books), or is it something they really enjoy doing because it gives THEM pleasure, or what?
How refreshing it would be if men were to write more general stuff about themselves so you would get to know them as a personality first! Also it would be good if they would demonstrate that they are open to learning about pleasing each woman in the way that sheenjoys and not the way their other women enjoyed in the past.
Women... Men... what is your take on the subject?
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Tania
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 59
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Hi bigboy
Please don't make the mistake I made when I was about your age, thinking that people ought to adjust their behaviour to accept me instead of me adjusting my weight to fit into society.
Fat is bad for your health, if not now, in the long run. It is impossible for you to visualise it now and you'll probably hate me for being so blunt but please try to understand that you are talking to a very big lady here who has been through hell and back because of her weight.
At 21 you are still young enough for your skin to recover from massive weight loss without the need for surgical intervention. My advice is, instead of looking for women who like fat men, do something to lose some weight. Then you will be able to date any woman YOU like. And it is not mutually exclusive that while you are slimming you can't meet the woman of your dreams who will appreciate you for you and not for your looks.
So chin up, self respect and all the best in the life that you have just begun! (And if you need any slimming advice, PM me.)
Please don't make the mistake I made when I was about your age, thinking that people ought to adjust their behaviour to accept me instead of me adjusting my weight to fit into society.
Fat is bad for your health, if not now, in the long run. It is impossible for you to visualise it now and you'll probably hate me for being so blunt but please try to understand that you are talking to a very big lady here who has been through hell and back because of her weight.
At 21 you are still young enough for your skin to recover from massive weight loss without the need for surgical intervention. My advice is, instead of looking for women who like fat men, do something to lose some weight. Then you will be able to date any woman YOU like. And it is not mutually exclusive that while you are slimming you can't meet the woman of your dreams who will appreciate you for you and not for your looks.
So chin up, self respect and all the best in the life that you have just begun! (And if you need any slimming advice, PM me.)
I don't know if fisting during pregnancy is dangerous but someone I know had it done at early stages (before her belly was showing) and it was OK. I wouldn't recommend it in very early or late pregnancy as it would irritate the bladder and pregnant women take enough trips to the toilet as it is without needing more. Also there is the matter of infection risk if the fister is not using gloves and even with gloves, there could still be infection through pushing dirty matter from the outside of a woman's genitals to the inside.
You are right, Darkfire. If it is done properly, all you get left with is the pleasure and none of the pain. But there are people out there who want to be bruised and will even complain if not bruised enough. 
As for not trusting those who promise you it won't hurt, etc. you are right again not to, as most people thinkthey are experienced in doing stuff and using tools just because they did it a few times...
Abilene, I am glad you discovered another interest in life, but be careful, my dear, there are a lot of crazed up people out there and too many bad things that can happen to you, especially if you are sharing other people's toys.
As for not trusting those who promise you it won't hurt, etc. you are right again not to, as most people thinkthey are experienced in doing stuff and using tools just because they did it a few times...Abilene, I am glad you discovered another interest in life, but be careful, my dear, there are a lot of crazed up people out there and too many bad things that can happen to you, especially if you are sharing other people's toys.
Martin
I said I am not coming but you still got me down in your list.
In case you are wondering what this is all about, it is just me dropping out of the swinging scene to concentrate on what matters most.
People who want to maintain contact, have my details, others can ask for them before all emails are gone forever.
I am so tired looking for things that aren't to be found.
I said I am not coming but you still got me down in your list.
In case you are wondering what this is all about, it is just me dropping out of the swinging scene to concentrate on what matters most.
People who want to maintain contact, have my details, others can ask for them before all emails are gone forever.
I am so tired looking for things that aren't to be found.
Actually , the more exposed you are to an allergen, the more likely you are to become allergic to it.
My allergy was insignificant in the early years, just a localised rash, redness, itchiness caused by wearing rubber gloves to do the housework in, condom usage, and even my clothes (bras, elasticated waistlines, swimsuits). The symptoms never lasted long enough to make me wonder or worry. However, about a year ago I was forced to wear compression stockings on a daily basis and that is when the real trouble began - due to the prolonged exposure to latex. The orthotist said there is no alternative at the moment so I have to down bottles of antihistamine to fight the symptoms.
I think latex allergy is a serious issue and people should be made aware of the symptoms so that they can be careful not to be overexposed to it. Well done, felixx, for bringing the matter up! :thumbup:
My allergy was insignificant in the early years, just a localised rash, redness, itchiness caused by wearing rubber gloves to do the housework in, condom usage, and even my clothes (bras, elasticated waistlines, swimsuits). The symptoms never lasted long enough to make me wonder or worry. However, about a year ago I was forced to wear compression stockings on a daily basis and that is when the real trouble began - due to the prolonged exposure to latex. The orthotist said there is no alternative at the moment so I have to down bottles of antihistamine to fight the symptoms.
I think latex allergy is a serious issue and people should be made aware of the symptoms so that they can be careful not to be overexposed to it. Well done, felixx, for bringing the matter up! :thumbup:
I developed a latex allergy also. I used to get some allergic symptoms but I always attributed them to other factors but it was not until 10 months ago that the symptoms got severe (I get a head to toe rash that is extremely itchy and need to drink heaps of anti-histamine syrup to find relief). This happens even if I only get touched by latex (as in hospital nurses wearing latex gloves or the pedicurist wearing them and so on.)
I also use the Avanti condoms which are the only ones in my knowledge that are latex free but unfortunately they are not available everywhere, are too dear and too wide for the average man. You can't win in this world, can you?
I also use the Avanti condoms which are the only ones in my knowledge that are latex free but unfortunately they are not available everywhere, are too dear and too wide for the average man. You can't win in this world, can you?
Letting agents/estate agents... it is all semantics. I have suffered discrimination for years and years and if I hear once more that their referencing agency won't give me enough points because of my 'situation' I will scream and attack them. LOL Whatever happened to common sense and intuition? Am I more likely to trash a house than a 'professional'? I think not! I don't pop champagne bottles and wet the ceiling or crash the pending light or whatever you call it in English. Plus I know that an iron is meant to be used on an ironing board, not on the carpet...
All it boils down to in our day and age is the HAVES and HAVE NOTS. I am sadly in the second category (no boyfriend... LOL) So if anyone wants to give me a shag
And as Jags very well points out, we should respect everyone in life, no matter what they do for a living.
All it boils down to in our day and age is the HAVES and HAVE NOTS. I am sadly in the second category (no boyfriend... LOL) So if anyone wants to give me a shag
And as Jags very well points out, we should respect everyone in life, no matter what they do for a living.
Perhaps they are using the term 'professionals' in estate agents' speak to define anyone who is not on benefits or a blue collar worker? God, I've heard it often enough 'the landlord is seeking professional tenants' and when I couldn't understand, they explained to me, very kindly but a bit impatiently, that a housewife and a chef were not considered professional. Go figure!
Is the festival held near a rail station or within easy reach?
Do you have more info on the festival like entry fees, opening times, accessibility for people with disabilities, etc?
I had a quick check on multimap and Norwich is 2 hours' driving from a relative's area.
Apart from the beer festival, is there anything else interesting to do in Norwich or is it a quick in and out job?
Thanking you in advance for your prompt response.
Do you have more info on the festival like entry fees, opening times, accessibility for people with disabilities, etc?
I had a quick check on multimap and Norwich is 2 hours' driving from a relative's area.
Apart from the beer festival, is there anything else interesting to do in Norwich or is it a quick in and out job?
Thanking you in advance for your prompt response.
I was talking to a friend of mine who has had this bio-resonance therapy. It seems to be used for many reasons. She swears by it and her sisters who have also had it were cured of cancer. I don't know what to say but maybe anything is worth a try if you are really determined to change your life.
How about Evans? You can go to any high street store or shop online. Sizes up to 32.
There is also Ann Harvey which is a bit more upmarket and stocks sizes up to 28.
and then there is the expensive but lovely 16-47 store owned by Dawn French and Helen Teague
Ah and don't forget that H&M make a small amount of larger fashions (up to size 30 I believe).
This has a plus size section.
Ambrose Wilson and all the other companies they are trading as (e.g. Simply Be) does not have good quality clothes, IMO. Also their sizes are a bit off so every time I have ordered from them I had to return everything.
There is also Ann Harvey which is a bit more upmarket and stocks sizes up to 28.
and then there is the expensive but lovely 16-47 store owned by Dawn French and Helen Teague
Ah and don't forget that H&M make a small amount of larger fashions (up to size 30 I believe).
This has a plus size section.
Ambrose Wilson and all the other companies they are trading as (e.g. Simply Be) does not have good quality clothes, IMO. Also their sizes are a bit off so every time I have ordered from them I had to return everything.
We have 3 kinds of cookery books in my family:
an ancient one written by the King's own chef and it also includes various bits of info like how to choose meat cuts and how to set a table, how to design a menu and how to behave yourself at the table;
a not so ancient one written by a famous chef who had also cooked for the Palace
and a more modern one, the only one written by a woman, which is like a small encyclopaedia full of gems and food stains.
All the rest are just there for decoration. It is impossible to try out a recipe for the first time and get it right, probably because the instructions are not so good. Lots of modern dishes are too fiddly. Food never turns out the way it looks in the M&S cookery book pictures and there is a good reason for it: that food was 'dressed', not cooked.
And finally, as most of the experienced cooks in here, it is pointless to do things by the book as we all develop our individual style of cooking and a lot of it is done by the eye, not by the measure.
Dinner anyone?
an ancient one written by the King's own chef and it also includes various bits of info like how to choose meat cuts and how to set a table, how to design a menu and how to behave yourself at the table;
a not so ancient one written by a famous chef who had also cooked for the Palace
and a more modern one, the only one written by a woman, which is like a small encyclopaedia full of gems and food stains.
All the rest are just there for decoration. It is impossible to try out a recipe for the first time and get it right, probably because the instructions are not so good. Lots of modern dishes are too fiddly. Food never turns out the way it looks in the M&S cookery book pictures and there is a good reason for it: that food was 'dressed', not cooked.
And finally, as most of the experienced cooks in here, it is pointless to do things by the book as we all develop our individual style of cooking and a lot of it is done by the eye, not by the measure.
Dinner anyone?
I'd change lives with Marina Sirtis so I could play the part of Deanna Troi in ST:TNG and get saucy with Jonathan Frakes (William T. Riker). But I would add a twist to the scripts and also get saucy with Patrick Steward (Jean-Luc Picard) as he is so damn sexy in his petit form! Mmmm-hmmm! 
Goose, a delicate pass is not some passionate kissing. For a kiss to be passionate it needs to be reciprocated. By the time you get to exploring each other's tonsils, you are way past the delicate pass point! LOL Read my above dissertation for a definition of a delicate pass...
Anyway, if you move slowly, and get affirmation at each step that you are going the right way, there is no way you can get it wrong. ;)
Anyway, if you move slowly, and get affirmation at each step that you are going the right way, there is no way you can get it wrong. ;)
Let us assume you have met someone online and exchanged a few PMs and you feel all warm and fuzzy about this budding friendship. Let us assume further that you get the guts to ask them out one day. You meet and it is a comfortable feeling, you laugh a lot and talk about your lives. Then you must say goodbye but nobody really wants to go - it is just too good - so you adjurn to a private place for some coffee. You end up cuddling up on the sofa. It is a nice, friendly thing to do. Then the guy touches the girl's hair. If she does not complain, he strokes her arm. If there is still no complaint, he bends his head and gives her a kiss on her hair saying something innocent like 'I love the smell of your hair'. Then if she wants to take it further she can ask 'what about the smell of the rest of me?' or if she is not interested she gets up and says 'thanks, you are very sweet, fancy another coffee?' As you understand that would break the spell and signify that the guy has reached a boundary the girl does not want to cross. Saved face for everyone. She could also say ,but we are treading dangerous ground. You are too precious as a friend and I don't want to go that way... hope you understand.' But if he is extra sensitive, that might hurt his feelings.
Essex, I am sorry but I don't see why it would drive a wedge as you say. If a friendship is genuine, it will survive awkward moments.
I once made a 'pass' to a friend of mine. We had to sleep in the same bed because he broke his own bed. As we were lying in bed, he began saying some things and the wicked me came out and I removed my clothes under the bedsheets and then told him. He freaked out and began screaming as if he was being . We had a good laugh, I put my nightdress and knickers back on, said goodnight and that was that.
I once made a 'pass' to a friend of mine. We had to sleep in the same bed because he broke his own bed. As we were lying in bed, he began saying some things and the wicked me came out and I removed my clothes under the bedsheets and then told him. He freaked out and began screaming as if he was being . We had a good laugh, I put my nightdress and knickers back on, said goodnight and that was that.
Quote by goose35
How do you change the way you read people??
If you find out let me know please
I PM several people but have no clue as to if its a PM buddy thing or more. I just don't want to make a fool of myself with them and spoil it what i have got with them.
It can be a bit of a roller coaster trying to analyse things instead of just damned asking and be done with.
Goose, I am sure your friends would not hold it against you if you did make a delicate pass on them. Friends are meant to be understanding and the worst that can happen is you two having a giggle telling the story 'remember the time you tried to... and I...' I think I would feel flattered if one of my friends liked me in a sexual way and you can have sex with people and still remain friends, so what's the problem?
