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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
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Quote by Steve

I might ask the ladies what they would like the men to do!
Maybe you men might understand then whst we like! 69position lol

Some of us already know ;-)
I have lol http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/287379.html
But trust me I ballsed it up lol
Quote by keeno
For people like this I say bring back flogging.
Strip them of their human rights, people like this deserve no rights in my opinion.
If they are 20+ that to me is old enough to take this form of punishment.

Oh I love a good knee-jerk reaction. Espicially about capital and coperal punishment.
Flogging - Yer that'll work ......not.
A deterant only works if the shitbags think they are going to get caught - they don't. If a deterant worked than countrys that had murder as a capital offence would not have murders. Of course no-one gets murdered in Texas.
Supposing the wrong people get punished? A miscarriage of justice. I expect you will all be prepared to personally go round and say sorry. As if that would make a difference to the life times of scarring.
Yes, the state flogging people is clearly in no similar to 3 men beating up 1 man. No heavens forbid that a parrellel be drawn. The state picking on someone.
Rant over. Pick over the bones wink wink reactionaries. wink
Kenno
How would you deal with them if they were caught?
I believe what they did to that man was just as barbaric as flogging.
If you look back on stats of how many have been wrongly accused to the amount of criminals that have rightly accused I am sure you will see the figures for yourself.
I am not saying hang them.
I am saying give them a piece of their own medicine.
I think you will see from my threads I don’t condone violence of any nature.
But when I see acts of this nature on innocent and vulnerable people in our society I see no other option.
When you hear your granddad was thrown to the floor while a gang mugged him and everyone on a bus like I have. It beggars belief on how low the likes of these scum bags will go.
If someone's upset you and have stated they think you have a hidden agenda, I'd take it up with them to be honest.. only that person can tell you what's on their mind. rolleyes
I have tryed and I feel it is a bit like knocking your head against a brickwall it hurts! lol

It's like anything in life really Minxy, people (in my opinion) cannot be 100% trusted, even really really close friends. I don't even trust myself 100%.
I suppose I am lucky I have not had many occasions when others have let me down, so I have never had a problem with trust. But what I have to realise that others have. So I can understand why they will become cynical. I still would like to think I can trust people, I don’t always think people have a hidden agenda.
But then as I said I might just be naive and stupid.
I would hope people could put their trust in me as I would never intentionally go out of my way to break that trust. I am not perfect no but what I hope I am is 100% trust worthy.

This way, you are never left feeling let down or cynical about others.
I hardly ever feel people have let me down, I just always think people feel I may have let them down without gathering all the facts, some people are to quick to jump to conclusions.
I really don't think anyone can be 100% nice, ALL the time, that's too perfect.
I know nobody is perfect!
I am not perfect!
But I do believe people can be nice without intent. gosh to take this away would mean there are no nice people in this world. Then I would have to admit to those people that have said I live in a cocoon and not in the real world, you are right!
Quote by keeno
People tell me I'm too cynical for my own good. sad
I like to think I am just sceptical smile I probably over analyse the world. Trying to find reasons for this or that. It does leave me with a distorted view but then again I am seldom hurt by people as I have often sussed them out.
Are you just being cynical in thinking other people are cynical? smile

I analyse things to, but I can never seem to see the bad in people, I see weekness which I accept as we all have those.
I know there are people that are out for self gain but I normally can smell them coming.
Normally I am not wrong, but now I am questioning that sometimes I might well be wrong.
Maybe I am becoming cynical, I suppose it might be a good thing rather than feeling hurt.
After reading post!
As a lady I couldn’t answer his poll so I thought I would make one of my own and see if woman and men in this situation likes the same things. :twisted:
So if you were given a man a BJ
Would you like him to?
Quote by kentswingers777
When a lady take your cock in her mouth; do like to lay aback and enjoy it, or like me get your hands on her and give as good as you get?

Blimey am suprised nobody has come along and said that is a sexist comment. You know what people can be like. lol lol
I usually lie back and enjoy it. It is also very horny to watch a lady giving your a blow job.
What a poorer world we would live in without one. cool
I might ask the ladies what they would like the men to do!
Maybe you men might understand then whst we like! 69position lol
I have come to the conclusions that so many people who you are nice to start to become cynical, you find it is here and in the vanilla world.
If you help someone, are nice to them, try and befriend them etc. They always seem to think you have a hidden agenda.
Why is this?
What this is now doing to me is making me feel cynical.
I wonder what their agenda was in talking to me?
Why can’t some people just accept there are some nice genuine people about?
People that don’t have any damn agenda, maybe because sometimes they are not clever enough to know how to work people for self gain.
Maybe they are just plain stupid, or just naïve and gullible.
What are others views?
Do you find too many people are cynical?
How do you cope with someone like this?
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No body move, fly me to SH Towers.

I keep hearing of these towers, I have searched the whole place I cant see any! rolleyes
For people like this I say bring back flogging.
Strip them of their human rights, people like this deserve no rights in my opinion.
If they are 20+ that to me is old enough to take this form of punishment.
We come here to see if we could find a couple of men to meet so I could have experiences of other men with hubby.
It was both of our choice.
I fancied a bit of hijack so I found this.
I should be working but I feel in a mischievous mood. :rascal: lol
Quote by Sixfootsix
Having a lovely chat to a sexy man on the phone! redface

What have we told you about phoning the speaking clock minxie? lol
Don't knock it until you have tried it! wink lol
I have read all these responses it is such a hard subject to talk about with friends in the vanilla world, as sometimes you feel you don't want to burnden them with your own issues.
This is what I love about these forums that people will open up and express how they feel and their opinions.
This is helping me to gather my thoughts and put things in order.
I would like to thank you all in sharing with everyone here, what is, a very emotive topic.
Minx
xxx
Quote by keeno
This is going to sound incredibly stupid redface
I've pondered on this one for years lol
Spiders (not that I like talking about them or even thinking about them!) - How do they get from one place to another with their webs?
I mean: I've seen loads of spider threads/webs horizontal (for instance, across a pathway....you get a face full of web)....how do they do it?
Do they leap from one bit to another, trailing their horrible webby stuff?
I know they can get to other places once that first "bit" is spun. I know they can kinda jump downwards and then travel upwards via the web but it's the horizontal thing that gets me.
Gone shivery now, talking about the little sods!
redface redface

They fly.
No honest, they do.
They squirt out a single strand of a thread until it becomes big enough to act as a wing and then they fly.
Spiders are very small amd light so it doesn't take much.
lol lol tell me you are joking! you are aren't you? lol
I know I have seen spiderman. lol
Quote by lyns
I always wonder who decided that by adding heat to bread you get toast??

Or who tried anything to find out it is edible dunno
Quote by keeno
Just one question...
Where did the child learn that hitting someone is an acceptable solution to a problem?
Any guesses?

Some would say when being smacked by their parents.
I have hit one person in my yonger years and that isn't something I feel proud of, as you know I have been bullied from a prevous thread.
But I hit her after she was in my face not backing of after i tryed talking and reasoning with her, I used it as a last resort. You could say thats because I was smacked as a last resort punishment as a child.
You could say my children would hit because they have been smacked, but my children have never hit anyone in their lives.
It is somewhat strange in my opinion that you hear parents not just here but other places to that say mine hit other children, but we have never smacked them in their lives.
So I guess you have to work out your own answers to your question.
These are just my views!
Sorry just wanted to add this thought to.
How would a child know that to hit hurts?
So ask yourself this to smack a child isn't it teaching them something to?
I dont hit my children or beat it has in the past been a slap on the back of the hand or the legs.
I know I will be called barbaric for my actions.
Minx you have guessed a lot from my question. I would be tempted to suggest that there is a degree of violence between man and wife. Clearly I don't know these people and I am only guessing but..... well It makes you think.
Yep I agree that could be the case to.
But then that would be opening up a whole different can of worms. wink
Quote by keeno
Hi welcome to the forums.
Hmmm, if you want to do something different I would suggest that you can see a lot of cock sucking and short skirt stuff already in the chatrooms./ Maybe you should aim for a little playley so
Secutary.
On the other hand the members of Swinging Heaven aren't reknown for their imagination so you could dp what you like as long as it involves sex. It'll please the crowds.

dp? :shock: Is that a suggestion? lol
Quote by Willow_female
I would like to say to someone here………………
“I would love to meet you and be able to spend time with you..….. to have the chance to share with you, experience and explore you, to make you smile and laugh and help take us to heaven!!!…….”
Mmmmmmmmmmm
One day I might get that chance……..
dunno dunno dunno
Ohhhh I just did...... :giggle:
kiss kiss

O Willow I didn't know you cared! lol
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Just one question...
Where did the child learn that hitting someone is an acceptable solution to a problem?
Any guesses?

Some would say when being smacked by their parents.
I have hit one person in my yonger years and that isn't something I feel proud of, as you know I have been bullied from a prevous thread.
But I hit her after she was in my face not backing of after i tryed talking and reasoning with her, I used it as a last resort. You could say thats because I was smacked as a last resort punishment as a child.
You could say my children would hit because they have been smacked, but my children have never hit anyone in their lives.
It is somewhat strange in my opinion that you hear parents not just here but other places to that say mine hit other children, but we have never smacked them in their lives.
So I guess you have to work out your own answers to your question.
These are just my views!
Sorry just wanted to add this thought to.
How would a child know that to hit hurts?
So ask yourself this to smack a child isn't it teaching them something to?
I dont hit my children or beat it has in the past been a slap on the back of the hand or the legs.
I know I will be called barbaric for my actions.
Quote by keeno
Just one question...
Where did the child learn that hitting someone is an acceptable solution to a problem?
Any guesses?

Some would say when being smacked by their parents.
I have hit one person in my yonger years and that isn't something I feel proud of, as you know I have been bullied from a prevous thread.
But I hit her after she was in my face not backing of after i tryed talking and reasoning with her, I used it as a last resort. You could say thats because I was smacked as a last resort punishment as a child.
You could say my children would hit because they have been smacked, but my children have never hit anyone in their lives.
It is somewhat strange in my opinion that you hear parents not just here but other places to that say mine hit other children, but we have never smacked them in their lives.
So I guess you have to work out your own answers to your question.
These are just my views!
Quote by naughtynymphos1
My middle daughter went ot hit me once, you can't sterio type the type of child that does this, it wasnt a case of she was naughty at 4 and got worse every since, she was a very loving child and it wasn't till she hit puberty that she started, lets say going off the rails slighty, now i know people always blame the parents for everything kids do and to me thats wrong, when they get to teenage years they develope their own personalitys and no matter what you do some kids will just fight against you, i would never hit any of my kids, i have three daughters and have never risen a hand to any of them, i do not believe its the way, but bar hitting her i have tried everything, now as i have just said i have three kids and neither of my other children are like her, my eldest is a pleasure to have, then youngest is only 7 so not hit the teenage years yet, but over all a good child, i have said on many occasions how can you bring kids up the same and them be so very very diffarent?? if it was my bad parenting thats made my middle daughter the way she is why arn't all my children the same?

I have a 17 year old boy and twins boy and girl 12.
I would say boys are so much easier, they have never pushed me as far as my daughter does. But she is the one that is loving considerate giving, loyal to her freinds, great with smaller children and animals. But when she gets a bee in her bonnet o my it is like world world three has just broken out.
When I get to the bottom of it all, it is generally sparked by something that has happened at school, an argument with a friend. Once she has calmed down you can reason and understand her she has said she feels frustrated by how nasty some people can be, but she finds it easier to take her frustrations out at home.
She said she feels safer doing this as she knows we will always be here for her.
She has told me after an argument with me that the reason she is so upset was because she had horrible thoughts about me, then she feels guilty. I totally understand this as I used to with my mum.
I think sometimes girls find it harder than boys as we let things get to us more, boys just seem more able to brush them off.
I have friends with girls to they come to me to talk about things, what I have witnessed is that the girls that are much more caring by nature are the ones that get frustrated and pent up the most, because things really hurt them and they find it hard to cope with their innmost feelings.
Mostly it is their friends unknowning to them that have said something that seems so trival, that really gets taken to heart.
This is just my opinion.
Quote by noladreams30
A friend of mine has just told me that they know someone whose daughter hits her mother. I was horrified and wondered how the parents can lose such control to have let this happen.
I would not let my daughter ever think she could do this to me, I love my children so much but to let this happen without consequences would be failing my children.
I am shocked to hear of any child treating their parents in such a manner.
How would you feel if this was you?
What action would you take to stop it from happening again?

Minx, there are times when I read some of your posts and think that I would love to live in your world for a day. I'm not meaning to be flippant, but I think you are a tad naive here. It is unfortunately more common than you would think. Domestic violence takes many, many forms. Children abusing parents is just one.
Sad but true.
Nola I am not naive!
I live in this world the same as you, of course I know it goes on, but it still doesn't make it any less shockable when I hear it.
Don't forget I am a beiever in smacking as last result who knows I might get one back one day.
Althought I havent had to smack my children for a few years as they know now where the boundaries lie. and I have always said to mine if you ever left a finger to me I would break your arm. sounds barbaric I never would but they are not totally sure I wouldn't. I believe they have to have that touch of fear to stay behind the boundaries. Just because I put the threat there doesn't mean I love them any less. We also talk a lot about emotions anger feelings and how to deal with them, as we can all have these feelings at times it is how we deal with them that counts.
I don't know why you seem to think I live in a cocoon you couldn't be further from the truth.
Minx, maybe I sounded a bit flippant. Apologies if my post offended you.
Unfortunately this is something I come across quite often in my work. I was expressing surprise at your shock. Maybe that is me showing my more cynical side. Bullying of parents by their children - both physical and emotional - is very common and, as I said, it is unfortunately something I see quite a lot.
Nola,
I was not offended by your comments at all kiss
I was just coming back with a response,
I may have worded my op slightly incorrectly.
I know a lot of things go on, but it still really shocks and saddens me when I hear it.
What are the answers?
When is respect going to be restored in this country?
How are such issues addressed now?
What can we all do to stop them happening?
This isn't just theses incidences but all types of violence and lack of respect!
When did it all go wrong?
How did it all go wrong?
All I am blessed with is a supportive husband who backs me up when things get out of hand. He only has to now bite his lip and our children know they need to get back in line.
They are not suppressed and they have freedom to speak there mind, what they don't have is the freedom to show lack of respect.
My children are now at the age of questioning others actions, my son is 17 and he believes that schools should bring back the cane, this is something that we have not instilled in him, and I have said there is more to it than that, as we all know. But if you look back I believe when they removed the cane, was when we started on this slippery slope.
Who knows?
I feel the most important thing in life is education.
It is a crying shame some people seem past educating.
Quote by onlyme1981
I haven't posted for er years? lol But I've popped in and read stuff occasionally.
Good thread Tune kiss
I have seen similar threads in my time, on this and other swinging and non swinging sites. IMO it's good to air things a bit, reflect and respond.
Things are never what they used to be. Sometimes that's sad but other times it's for the good. I guess the only way to get the same "feel" for how things used to be is to try to inject a bit more of the "old feeling". No idea how that could be done but I remember "the good old days" and look at them mostly with fondness but things do change and I guess it needs to be embraced but also if it's not to your (as in general) liking then maybe try to change it?
I don't know, maybe I'm talking crap and maybe I have no right to be posting about this, seeing as though I haven't been active in er...ages lol

I believe you have a right to your opinion as does everyone else so no need to apologise!
Quote by noladreams30
A friend of mine has just told me that they know someone whose daughter hits her mother. I was horrified and wondered how the parents can lose such control to have let this happen.
I would not let my daughter ever think she could do this to me, I love my children so much but to let this happen without consequences would be failing my children.
I am shocked to hear of any child treating their parents in such a manner.
How would you feel if this was you?
What action would you take to stop it from happening again?

Minx, there are times when I read some of your posts and think that I would love to live in your world for a day. I'm not meaning to be flippant, but I think you are a tad naive here. It is unfortunately more common than you would think. Domestic violence takes many, many forms. Children abusing parents is just one.
Sad but true.
Nola I am not naive!
I live in this world the same as you, of course I know it goes on, but it still doesn't make it any less shockable when I hear it.
Don't forget I am a beiever in smacking as last result who knows I might get one back one day.
Althought I havent had to smack my children for a few years as they know now where the boundaries lie. and I have always said to mine if you ever left a finger to me I would break your arm. sounds barbaric I never would but they are not totally sure I wouldn't. I believe they have to have that touch of fear to stay behind the boundaries. Just because I put the threat there doesn't mean I love them any less. We also talk a lot about emotions anger feelings and how to deal with them, as we can all have these feelings at times it is how we deal with them that counts.
I don't know why you seem to think I live in a cocoon you couldn't be further from the truth.