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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
United Kingdom
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Quote by Lost
Each to their own in this debate.
It would depend on what they have and what they are suffering from. In my own experience, the pain was intense and excrutiating but at no time did I want to die. I wanted to live to see my kids grow up.............and I still do.
Dave_Notts
I had the same experience and at one point I admit to thinking "I wish they would just turn off the machines" They didn't, and I am so glad. 3 months later I was home and three years well heres to the future :cheers:
Minx ultimately if your Mom is in a good mental state then she knows whats best for her. Hard times for you that i don't envy though :sad:
I for one am glad you are still here!
I might even play you chirpy later to celebrate that fact!
Quote by Samndave
Minx, I lost my Mum 3 years ago, and as hard as it was, I would have wished quality over quantity any day, my Mum had a brain tumour and to be honest we weren't given all the facts, Mum had surgery and the tumour was alot worse than first thought and as much as possible was removed and for a month to six weeks after sugery Mum was great almost back to her old self, but then the radiotherapy began and so did Mum's and our slippery road to hell, all this was between December and October..
I will be honest I think my Mum had decided that she wanted to be with my Dad who had passed 2 years previous, but my Mum was 59 and having home help in twice a day to get her up and put her to bed and me and my sister helping her out during the rest of the day...
I would have rather had 2 or 3 good months with her than the 6 months we had that were awful for her and us, because she ended her life with no dignatiy in my opinion...
Sam xxx
Sam,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss!
Thanks for sharing that with us!
You are right, it is all becoming straight in my mind.
My mind is a bit like spagetti junction at times and talking to others just helps me unscrabble the strands
Take care
Minx
xxx
Quote by Willow_female
Hey Minxi….
Life is good I am happy…. Everyone can have that…… it is only a thought process….
Now come on don’t bloody get soft on me lady…. None of that’s allowed……
Your mum must be a very strong beautiful woman….. My kids sometimes call me hard hearted… but god, if you cant talk about it with them when you have a clear head and share with them how want things to be… when can you….
Hey someone told me the other day, that there is a possibility that we could get the chance of a Para shoot jump…..I would love to do something like that…mmmmm but then when I think about it my feet fizz……lol….
We all have the right to do what we ‘feel’ is right for ourselves…..it is the people who understand us and our families (sometimes) that help and support easy for them either….. but you can all still have fun doing it……
Lub ya Lady XxX
Willow
I am fine honest!
I really respect your honesty here and it really helped kicked me into touch, about the way I have been feeling about a lot of things of late.
So I would like to thank you fot that. xxx
You are so right it is a thought process and I am not scared of her going we have spoken about that.
I suppose it is more to do with holding onto what you have.
We have our humour to, which we are lucky, it sounds like you have a great relationship with your kids to.
About the parachute jump I have done one in my mad teens.
You have to do one!
The freedom you feel, it is one of the most amazing experiences of my life, one that I have been thinking about doing again as a rebellious 40+ year. :twisted:
Maybe I will came and hold your hand!
Quote by Willow_female
Minxi this is a subject very close to my heart….
My own personal view within the parameters of your topic is ‘Quality’
I too made a choice between them…Different circumstances…. But the same choice…..This was a huge journey for meand I have learnt much, so much that. I have chosen ‘Quality’ over quantity too…..
This is why I live my life to the full, enjoy every moment I can and don’t worry about the past or future…..just enjoy what I have now…..For I don’t know how long now is going to last (who does?!!!)……and I don’t care…It has been said many times, we are all gonna die facing this and not fearing the end of your experience here, gives you so much freedom. …And if there is something I haven’t done, it’s ok… cause I obviously wasn’t meant to…..and if I have do it…..well I had fun doing it……and I am happy…..
This was hard for me to get my kids to understand….. very hard at some times… but hey 2 out of 3 aint bad!
Don’t know if I have helped minx……hope I have tho…xxxx
Willow,
That has really moved me but also I would like to think I would deal with it in the same way.
I have upmost respect for you and damn words can not express the way I feel right now.
You are an inspiration, one to look up to.
Thanks for sharing that with me. I for one am hoping you will be around for a long time to come.
Take care Hun,
Minx
xxx
A friend of mine has just told me that they know someone whose daughter hits her mother. I was horrified and wondered how the parents can lose such control to have let this happen.
I would not let my daughter ever think she could do this to me, I love my children so much but to let this happen without consequences would be failing my children.
I am shocked to hear of any child treating their parents in such a manner.
How would you feel if this was you?
What action would you take to stop it from happening again?
I would not let my daughter ever think she could do this to me, I love my children so much but to let this happen without consequences would be failing my children.
I am shocked to hear of any child treating their parents in such a manner.
How would you feel if this was you?
What action would you take to stop it from happening again?
Quote by creampie123
How do spiders manage to walk on ceilings and not fall off?
Miss Cream xxx
LOL we've just finished having a conversation about that ... only ours involved spiders with painty feet ???? the concensus was that you only worry if the painty footprints are across your face and stops at your mouth lol.
I was thinking about it the other night. Jesus Christ, the thought of that scenario makes me feel incredibly ewwwwwwwww :scared:
I've gotta say, Ive never seen the "painty feet" but then again, I don't look at them long enough to notice it
The Mr has just seen me put this and said the reason the physics of gravity doesn't work in this case is the ceilings has a hook-and-eye type effect on them. there's also little fibres aswell. He said he's not 100% but almost sure
Miss Cream xxx
I Thought they had little suction pads on the bottom of their feet!
Quote by niceguysdoexist
My mother faced the same dilemma with lung cancer. She decided to opt for quality for her remaining few months a faced the disease with great fortitude and spirit. Like you I wanted her to take an option that might have prolonged her life . Sadly one has to respect that the wishes of the diseased are paramount and dedicate ones time to making the most out of whatever time is given .
My thoughts are with you in this matter and if you ever need someone to chat to or just someone to throw dishes at drop me a line.
Thank you for your response and kind offer. I have asked the question to possilibly help to place things in the right order in my mind.
Your words have helped me think, I might still take you up on the other offer at a later stage.
So once again,
Thanks
Minx
x
I have written before about my mum and her battles with cancer.
She is on a trail medication to help prevent the cancer from coming back, but these are giving her side effects that are stopping her doing things she want to do.
She is on a slow daily dosage so she has no let up from the symptoms. She should be on the treatment for three years, has only been on them 6 months.
She had decided to talk to the hospital and give up the treatment as she said quality of life is better than quantity.
I have to think what is best for her and agree with her.
But there a selfish side to that just wants her here longer.
Do you have a view on this?
Is quality better than quantity?
Am I just being selfish with my own feelings?
She is on a trail medication to help prevent the cancer from coming back, but these are giving her side effects that are stopping her doing things she want to do.
She is on a slow daily dosage so she has no let up from the symptoms. She should be on the treatment for three years, has only been on them 6 months.
She had decided to talk to the hospital and give up the treatment as she said quality of life is better than quantity.
I have to think what is best for her and agree with her.
But there a selfish side to that just wants her here longer.
Do you have a view on this?
Is quality better than quantity?
Am I just being selfish with my own feelings?
Apart from anything to do with sex.
That feeling of, not a care in the world.
There are a lot I have that gives me that feeling but one is: watching my children play cricket, so quiet, such pleasure having a picnic and just seeing them enjoying what they like to do.
What makes you feel totally chilled?
That feeling of, not a care in the world.
There are a lot I have that gives me that feeling but one is: watching my children play cricket, so quiet, such pleasure having a picnic and just seeing them enjoying what they like to do.
What makes you feel totally chilled?
