Damn I could do with a nice stiff one!
I would say it would all depend about the person and how well I knew them.
If I knew them pretty well I would assume that they have probably thought very carefully about what they are doing and possible consequences of their actions.
If you are unsure why don't you just ask them instead of assuming?
When I was introduced to the forums I looked and felt scared to post, not because of the people, but was about my own self belief. I had insecurities that I had to face.
I had to this point always avoided writing letter etc.
I never felt others would understand my writings.
I came from the chat rooms where the chat was different from sitting here trying to put forward an opinion so others can understand you. It is so very different.
The reasons behind this was because I was told on leaving school by a form teacher I had for 4 years that all I was fit for was sweeping the streets.
It is funny my parents believed in me but how others can infiltrate your mind and can cause self belief.
The person that introduced me was very encouraging, but I don’t think they know how much they have helped me, for that I would always be extremely grateful.
So I would like to thank these forums for giving me the opportunity to overcome my insecurities and for the people here who without I wouldn’t be able to have a good debate, laugh with.
I have also learned so much being here about all sorts of subjects.
I would like to apologise for sometimes writing long epics of threads lol
But now I have the confidence in writing nothing can stop me now, I love it.
Long may it continue.
Have these forums helped you overcome issues?
Have you learnt from them?
Last night I was looking back over all my threads and forums post I had done since being here.
I don’t know if others have ever done this it was so funny.
Some threads I read back and thought what must have been thinking that day lol
I felt there have been times I have kinda of used this place to log a daily dairy almost forgetting that others can see your inner most thoughts.
I felt if anyone knew me in the vanilla world and read these, they for sure would know who I am.
But I really enjoyed looking back and seeing how the threads/post have evolved, and how I no longer seem so bad at feeling I need to justify my opinion.
I felt reading them that some were funny, embarrassing, happy, sad, stupid, sexy.
Also that I must have too much time on my hands, I must get a life.
If you haven’t all ready done this I would say it is a fascinating journey.
Have you looked back?
Have you felt how funny, I can’t remember saying that?
Are there things there that you wished you hadn’t said?
Before coming onto SH I haven’t had many times in my life that I felt paranoid.
But since coming on here I seem to feel it from time to time, I do at times find it hard to deal with, I know a lot of people would say don’t let things bother you but it is hard.
How do you cope with something that you haven’t had much experience of in the past?
It is a very strange feeling one that can drive you mad at times.
Maybe I shouldn’t care, I should just not give a damn, but I can’t.
I only ever feel it when I feel I have offended or upset someone or when I feel someone has misunderstood me, I don’t give a damn if people like me or not I don’t feel it then, as I know we can’t get on with everyone in life, we can but try.
Have others felt this way?
How can you go about resolving this issue?
I often think maybe talk to them direct but can this work?
I generally would back off and go in a quiet corner and say nothing, or just carry on as if nothing is the matter.
I suppose I have to understand we have no control over how others see things, maybe I should just let them get on with it.
Flower I don’t see it as bullying I see it as being a true friend, true friends are one still there when times are hard and every other bugger had disappeared.
But be careful!
I helped a friend once, I helped move her, spent the night packing everything, stay with her the next day, helped sort her out.
Decorated her whole flat every room, gave her a shoulder to cry on when times were hard, and was always there when she needed me.
Because I forgot a meal date with her I have never been forgiven.
So all I would say is be really careful you don’t do it all for nothing.
But I wish you good luck, sounds like a hard task.
Didn't make me a coffee :cry:
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. i read some of the more contraversial threads and i sometimes go to answer then i stop and think do i want to get dragged into a row for voicing my gobby opinion maybe one day i will and let everyone find out what an opinionated argumentative git i really am 
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