I often look at user names and wonder what made you choose the name you use.
When I joined I thought for a second when registering and thought what reflects me. Although we registered as a couple hubby said he wouldn't really use the site, so I never gave much thought that he would be called Mr Minx or worse Mr Lady.
Was there much thought that went into your user name?
Did you want it to reflect something about you?
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Theladyisaminx
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Quote by flower411
I missed this on TV but bought the first series a few weeks ago on DVD after hearing it was worth watching.
I have since watched it, so you could loan it Flower so you form your own opinion about it.
Off to get the 2nd series :-D
Do you mean I could borrow it so that I could form my own opinion ?
BTW ....I`ve just joined a facebook group called "The Britsh Grammar Nazis"
:moon: :jagsatwork::kick:
Buy you own copy now
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damn i just wrote a massive reply and pressed the wrong button and lost it all!!!
That is so damn frustrating X
I wish they would have a save document button on here, so we can save as we go.
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Im glad someone mentioned the name Kentswingers, as it was him that popped into my head when i first opened this thread, and i couldnt for the life of me remember his user name, and Im sorry to say that at first I thought it was flower (so many apologies for that one Flower!!)
I am pleased you wrote again as the comment above made my day, that is so funny.
I can only think it is because they both have a numbers in their user names. They are so different which is sooooo funny.
Bless you
Quote by Lost
I think the decline started when Sgt Bilko moved to Australia!
Whenever you pop your head up here this is the image I have :sticky:
The image of a yellow baldy drowning in sploodge?! That's well odd Minx. If I were you i'd look at some therapy :lol2:
The thoughts and images I have in my head the therapists all said are unexplainable but are now in their heads and they are needing therapy :wink:
Quote by Lost
I think all the reasons posted in this thread add to the demise of interest in the forums and no single factor can be wholly attributed to it,
One other thing that I think never helped was the regurgitating rather than reinventing of old topics. You know the sort of thing. When a subject was posted up, by a newbie to the forums, that had been, or something very similar had been, posted on before. A link to that topic would be thrown up by a long standing member to a time long past where something similar had been discussed along with saying "This topic has been done before ad nauseum" People putting these topics want them to be discussed in the here and now by the people in the here and now. Not by the heroes of swing from the ages of swinging magnificence a long time gone.
Hello Losty xYou raised a very valued point.
People in general look back and say the past was better in many areas of life.
The here and now should be just as important and how we go forward is the thing to look forward to.
Hopefully more new people will start to make posts and threads we should be here to encourage and support them.
Quote by robbo-bi1
Have a look at the status of every single person that has posted on this.
Says it all out loud to me............................
Hi Robbo,
To be fair when I read this post you made, I wondered what it meant, I think steve just asked the same question maybe many thought.
I have what you describe as a status, I understand what you mean now. When I joined it was something I saw and wondered why that was there.
So I think it could be off putting by new members you could have a point. It wont however, get rid of the fact, some of us have been more active on the forums than others. You would still see that by the number of their post count.
So the status just means how active on the forums you have been. I believe it was set up as a bit of fun rather than a status by whomever set it up in the first place.
I believe the mix of the forums has killed it.
Years ago I used to write threads, covering all topics from emotive, sexually, politic and fun topics. I felt there used to be a good input with people giving their opinions on all sorts of subjects, could have a laugh and ask for sexual advice.
I value peoples opinions, some posters used to really make me think and it was a place I would ask for opinions, advice and generally enjoy being around.
Sadly there have always been those that like to put others down, without giving their opinion but prefer to attack. There is a art of debate and giving opinions. Personally attacking and just wanting to personally criticise others for me isn't a pleasant place to be. A few years ago a couple of people even took this over to private messaging me which led me to give up being bothered to write threads here anymore.
I still look into the forums and I still see personal attacks still seems what some use it for. Something that I personally never do. I would rather share thoughts opinions and a laugh.
I have often thought about writing threads again. I have started and then thought what is the point. It often feels like a battle ground in here and not a welcoming place to be.
Very sad really.
I would like to see the forums split again so there is a place for everyone again and the parts you don't like you don't need to enter.
Years ago I used to write threads, covering all topics from emotive, sexually, politic and fun topics. I felt there used to be a good input with people giving their opinions on all sorts of subjects, could have a laugh and ask for sexual advice.
I value peoples opinions, some posters used to really make me think and it was a place I would ask for opinions, advice and generally enjoy being around.
Sadly there have always been those that like to put others down, without giving their opinion but prefer to attack. There is a art of debate and giving opinions. Personally attacking and just wanting to personally criticise others for me isn't a pleasant place to be. A few years ago a couple of people even took this over to private messaging me which led me to give up being bothered to write threads here anymore.
I still look into the forums and I still see personal attacks still seems what some use it for. Something that I personally never do. I would rather share thoughts opinions and a laugh.
I have often thought about writing threads again. I have started and then thought what is the point. It often feels like a battle ground in here and not a welcoming place to be.
Very sad really.
I would like to see the forums split again so there is a place for everyone again and the parts you don't like you don't need to enter.
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Done that- Still no movement.
Nope.... didn't work for me either. :taz: Maybe something changed in the uploader since Will set his avatar. I think you'll need to open a support ticket.
Will to the RESCUE........
:rotflmao: at the sig Paddy!What cubes didn't tell ya, is that you have to hold it and shake it.
Sorry! carry on serving drinks!
Quote by deancannock
Mrs thatcher was lieing through her teeth.
She was an out of control power freak. She lapped up the Yuppie days....the Loads of Money days...where bankers were encouraged to gamble with our money. We were all told ownimg property was what we should all strive to do. That to have no concern for our fellow citizens was a good attitude !!! Even her own party saw the monster she became and kicked her out.
Lets hope and pray we never have another.
I totally agree with what you have said here Dean. I remember the Yuppie days driven under the Thatcher government. Wasn't this the time when everyone wanted to be traders ? When greed led to black Monday 1987?
What did Stock brokers every produce for this country?
I remember Thatcher saying all can own their own property.
In 1988 didn't she then push houses prices up by doing away with the Tax Relief on single couples that lived together. Which made people see an investment in property?
Then by 1991 mortgage interest rates had risen to 15% which let to a lot of people losing their homes. But lets not forget there wasn't any council houses to fall back on. Only private landlords who were pushing rents up to cover the costs of paying back the mortgages of their property.
It was around this time that two parents found they had to both work to meet the rent/mortgage and credit started becoming a way of life for most people as the knock on effect of Thatcher seeing off houses and driving everything started to have an effect?
It all started then, people were all caught up and had no choice of putting roofs over heads one of the fundamental needs of people, is shelter.
Many people since the Thatcher days have had two choices pay money into the landlords hand and make them richer to buy more property or try and get a mortgage and take their chances. After all they had seen all our financial services taking risk with others money. There were self cert mortgages to be had anyone could get a mortgage which was what Thatcher said all can own their own property. I believe she lead a new mentally which is reaping the rewards today of what she sowed.
I wonder if people have heard of the Chaos theory, where a butterfly effect came have a devastating effect it starts with a small ripple that can takes years to cause giant waves. Thatcher might have won a war, she might have won against the unions but her attitude that all can have, have destroyed family, mentality and the community and drove greed and in doing so has destroyed a lot of what this country had and today is suffering from which is chaos. I also blame other governments for being blinded and not stopping this effect from happening.
I believe Thatcher had an idea of what she was doing but she wasn't bothered about the longer term consequences of her actions. Which is the problem with all the politicians they have short sighted views.
Quote by flower411
Thursday night at nine
If the conversation falters I thought I`d put some suggestions forward in advance :lol:
1 1980's custom cars
2 Christmas Trees
3 Short actors playing tall characters
4 The colour green.
And of course in keeping with the nature of the site....
5 Sex with people you don`t like
I know nothing about 1980's custom cars. If I make it for would you be on item 2 of the agenda by then?
I am unable to make it tonight I am off out, but if you are still around when I get back I might pop in.
Although I might be a bit tipsy, so if I tell you I love you, it only takes two drinks, just ignore me and be gentle with me please.
Flower you know how this will look to some, you and I both unable to be here. There are some that already think we are connected in some way. :shock::scared:
Although I might be a bit tipsy, so if I tell you I love you, it only takes two drinks, just ignore me and be gentle with me please.
Flower you know how this will look to some, you and I both unable to be here. There are some that already think we are connected in some way. :shock::scared:
I normally watch the news once a day and never read the news papers but call me cynical where this case is concerned but could it be used to divert attention away from the results of the leveson inquiry? Which could have a far greater impact on peoples lives.
I don't mean to undermine what has happened here but there are authorities around to sort this incident out. The DJ's I am sure are wishing they could wind back time.
I would also add a prank or joke is often found funny when you know the person, and know the person will not be offended by it and see it in the light spirit it was intended.
I think the lesson that must be learnt is to think about the reaction you actions could have on others. If they have thought about this in the beginning they might not of done what they did, as not to know the others concerned you would never know what reactions your actions would have.
I don't mean to undermine what has happened here but there are authorities around to sort this incident out. The DJ's I am sure are wishing they could wind back time.
I would also add a prank or joke is often found funny when you know the person, and know the person will not be offended by it and see it in the light spirit it was intended.
I think the lesson that must be learnt is to think about the reaction you actions could have on others. If they have thought about this in the beginning they might not of done what they did, as not to know the others concerned you would never know what reactions your actions would have.
Quote by starlightcouple
I know the hospital you are talking about Minx but will not mention it as that would give your location away I believe.
But yes I saw that it had all the staff singing at some point when it opened and now after a very short space of time it looks like closing. There have been many hospitals that have closed over the last twenty years and plenty of A and E departments closing in certain hospitals as well. Currently my elderly Father has been put into Queen Elizabeth in Woolwich, and whilst a nice hospital, it is hugely overcrowded and the A and E department has apparently taken on two other local hospitals A and E patients as the likes of Queen Mary's in Sidcup's A and E has closed.
No sense at all Minx and yes Tories will blame Labour for the financial mess we are in, and the past Labour Government will blame the previous Tory party. But the last Labour Government with Bliar and Brown at the helm were in power for 12 years I think, and failed to recognise the biggest financial disaster in British history, with the banks going bust, and the debt accumulated by people themselves which have now put this country into serious financial trouble with over a pounds worth of debt, and rising daily.
They are all the same but the Tory toffs are worse I think as the top people in that party have not done a days proper work in their lives, after leaving Eton straight into politics with the Tory party.
It is a disgrace that with an ever increasing population ( for whatever that reason may be ),the local amenities are shrinking. How can this country cope with 70 million people in it, and probably closer to 100 million people in 50 years time. Of course Minx money has been invested in schools and hospitals, but to the detriment of some that have had to close as well remember.
Star watch out as there are another people coming to queen Elizabeths
. I have heard through the grapevine that what happened is that to spread numbers of population this hospital was put into trust of Kent and a hospital over spend there is causing the closure of this hospital which was orginally under another trust group.
I can't back this up as of yet but heard through someone in the know so to speak.
If this is the case it is messing about with boundary lines that would have caused this closure to happen and not over spending within the orginal trust.
Which is even more bonkers in my view if this is the case as the post codes don't even add up it isn't in Kent.
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I can see where you are coming from minx but you will need to look at history as to why what you propose will never work.
In History the facts about how we were governed were not as available to the masses as they are now, people were not allowed to question or think outwardly. I would say a lot is more transparent if you want to know. Which is leading us to all to question more. We can keep saying about history but we are looking at the present and what is around us now.
Europe has had many coalitions over the years and seldom do they work. It usually ends up in instability and short-lived parliaments.
How about Finland, Germany, Ireland and the Netherlands?
I know Ireland are suffering but is that a knock on effect from a global financial problem or the way the Irish are governed?
You can say in history it hasn't worked but I feel we have evolved on from then and are continuing to do so, we wouldn't be having this chat in history and others being able to see it openly too. Might have done in a dark corner of a pub with fear of being heard.
In a way, I think that is why - in the early days of of the ConDem alliance, they set out to establish fixed length parliamentary terms in order to establish some semblance of stability. The present conduct of Nick Clegg outlines why coalitions eventually break down.
I still think we look at the person to blame for everything. Many are breed that way, we much all take some responsible surely?
He isn't to blame for all the mess we see ourselves in. Yet many think he is. I know the media do.
Just as an aside in response to your other comment about MPs, they are actually 'independant'. They are not necessarily there to 'represent us' in government but as legislators.
Are they independent?
I have been to the houses of parliament in the room where they vote on legislation I asked how the voting system works. Basically you have two lines, two boxes at the end of those line which are for those that vote for or against on the legislation. All votes are logged into volumes of books held on the shelves that you and I can read and see.
As it stands at present you assign yourself to a party or go independent, if you assign yourself to a party those in that party can see what line you are in. If everyone was independent I wonder how they could try and banish someone from a party from no toeing the party line?
These are the questions I ask myself.
As regards to the money piled in to maintain schools and hospitals by Labour, it was under the PFI initiative which has cost the country dear in in many respects is no better than the loan sharks lending at incredibly unsustainable rates against your next pay packet. There are many theoritsts to whom you could refer. One is Keyns the other is Hayek. Interesting reading.
I don't mean to be respectful but to read ones view can be subjective. like reading reading my views or opinion it is all subjective really.
Although I believe to have a personal view and opinion is a good thing if we can link it with our own personal experiences. I believe it make you a natural thinking even if what you think is crap.
Although I like reading others views see if I can link anything into my own personal expierences So I shall look into Keyns and Hayek thanks.
I have never supported the two main parties but I would like to mention what I saw during the last labour government within the area I live.
There are three main Secondary school within a three mile radius of where I live which I looked at back in 2001 for my eldest son. All schools were Build between 1917 – 1956 when I saw them on their open days I looked around and the decor was awful plaster paint falling away from ceiling and walls, cracked windows etc. They just felt old and unloved and uncared for.
In 2007 when I looked at them again for my next children all were being totally rebuild to make state-of-the-art learning environments. They looked modern loads of natural light and completely reformed.
Hospitals within a 5 mile radars some of the best teaching hospitals around built in the 1800’s looked the same. Money has been spent and it shows.
In the past these places have had bits of money spent on them to put plasters on the wounds but it wasn’t until the last 10 years ago that it showed that anyone really cared about these places and whom used them.
While I can’t support either of the main parties as I believe politics within them is more about appoint blame I will say it is ok for a conservative to say we left the books in good order. When there isn’t any sign of investment in looking after the structure of what we need. Labour did however spend some of it in places of need.
Now we are fighting to save one of those hospitals that have just had that money spent because of cut back it has been ring marked to close.
Where is the sense in that?
If that isn't a waste of tax payers money what is?
That hospital has been open since the 1800's falling down and now revamped to close.
Politics gone barmy in my view.
Can anyone come up with a common sense reason why this might be?
As I am really struggling to understand it.
Conservatives would blame Labour and labour would blame the conservatives, no doubt but what would common sense say?
While politics seems to be the appoint blame culture it is I can’t see a way forward with the two main parties, you only have to watch the parliament channel to watch the bickering that goes on there between adults is laughable.
I personally believe most people are mid way thinkers more or less. Generally we are humane towards those that really need some support also most of us know we have to make a contribution within society to be part of it. I think the whole system could work together if the focus is the country and what is the best way forward together. I would scrap different parties and put all the heads together listening together and learning together to move forward only then I believe we would find the center ground.
How we achieve this I haven’t yet completely thought out, what I do believe is the person we elect to represent us in government should not be made to toe a party line but to be transparent and open about his views and let the voters make the choice if that is who we want to represent us in government.
How we would decide how we manage the cabinet posts I am still thinking about. But there must be an answer somewhere. I just think then we might have a better choice about who really governs us.
I would also like to see more national referendums
There are three main Secondary school within a three mile radius of where I live which I looked at back in 2001 for my eldest son. All schools were Build between 1917 – 1956 when I saw them on their open days I looked around and the decor was awful plaster paint falling away from ceiling and walls, cracked windows etc. They just felt old and unloved and uncared for.
In 2007 when I looked at them again for my next children all were being totally rebuild to make state-of-the-art learning environments. They looked modern loads of natural light and completely reformed.
Hospitals within a 5 mile radars some of the best teaching hospitals around built in the 1800’s looked the same. Money has been spent and it shows.
In the past these places have had bits of money spent on them to put plasters on the wounds but it wasn’t until the last 10 years ago that it showed that anyone really cared about these places and whom used them.
While I can’t support either of the main parties as I believe politics within them is more about appoint blame I will say it is ok for a conservative to say we left the books in good order. When there isn’t any sign of investment in looking after the structure of what we need. Labour did however spend some of it in places of need.
Now we are fighting to save one of those hospitals that have just had that money spent because of cut back it has been ring marked to close.
Where is the sense in that?
If that isn't a waste of tax payers money what is?
That hospital has been open since the 1800's falling down and now revamped to close.
Politics gone barmy in my view.
Can anyone come up with a common sense reason why this might be?
As I am really struggling to understand it.
Conservatives would blame Labour and labour would blame the conservatives, no doubt but what would common sense say?
While politics seems to be the appoint blame culture it is I can’t see a way forward with the two main parties, you only have to watch the parliament channel to watch the bickering that goes on there between adults is laughable.
I personally believe most people are mid way thinkers more or less. Generally we are humane towards those that really need some support also most of us know we have to make a contribution within society to be part of it. I think the whole system could work together if the focus is the country and what is the best way forward together. I would scrap different parties and put all the heads together listening together and learning together to move forward only then I believe we would find the center ground.
How we achieve this I haven’t yet completely thought out, what I do believe is the person we elect to represent us in government should not be made to toe a party line but to be transparent and open about his views and let the voters make the choice if that is who we want to represent us in government.
How we would decide how we manage the cabinet posts I am still thinking about. But there must be an answer somewhere. I just think then we might have a better choice about who really governs us.
I would also like to see more national referendums
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Stevie is disgusted cos my multi-tasking skills are so much better than his, chatroom and forum posts simultaneously. Read it and weep Stevie boy, read it and weep! One day you too might be that good at it too, you can only dream.
:smug:
Yeah well !!
We all know that you ain`t the inept shrinking violet that you would have us believe !!!
Thanks for open the room flower was a nice evening with all you men, can't believe I was the only woman in there with you all and what gentleman you all were.
Neil and I were the last standing, you load of light weights :lol:
Quote by flower411
New threads were started this afternoon and up to 50 people have viewed them ..
Almost nobody has posted ....
Is this because .....
A. The subject was so boring I couldn`t be bothered
B. Don`t want anybody to know I was here
C. I only ever read the threads and never post
D. I read the threads but never post because the forums are so boring having to wait for hours or even days for an answer, chatrooms are much more fun
E. None of the above
E. I have done enough rambling in the past to last a lifetime, maybe I just lost my mojo to write so if anyone finds it can you let me know where it is please.
Thanks
Minx.
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