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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
United Kingdom
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Sorry it’s a bit of an epic to read.
My Daughter is at first year at secondary school, and has for the past couple of months had problems with the friends she choose from the beginning, she has come to realise that they are not the type of people that she wants to be around.
She has tried to break away but then rumours have developed and other children have become involved taunting her but as yet no actual physical connection, which she fears. But I know mental cruelty is sometimes worse as you can’t see the signs.
I had a meeting with the school as it is making my daughters life really unhappy, I can not fault the school in the way they are dealing with it. The school I believe have tackled it in a way that when this happened to me at school I would have had confidence in and trust that it would be sorted out.
As in my day nobody listened until things spiralled into physical attacks.
My dilemma is I believe the school understands my daughter and doing their best by her needs and is taking this matter seriously. What I am having trouble with is making my daughter understand and accept that they are. In her mind she wants to change schools and have a fresh start to not make the same mistakes twice, I believe we need to stand up to bullies and let them know it isn’t to be tolerated in our society.
I would like my daughter to stay and fight this, am I asking too much of a 12 year old?
You can’t always keep running as you face this in all walks of life, not just at school
I also believe to move schools she could jump out of the frying pan into the fire.
I would love her to stay at the school she is at, as I have their full support and so does she, but I also want my daughter to be happy at school and not let others make her so miserable.
When it happened to me I begged my mum to move my school, I don’t want to make the same mistake my mum, who thought at the time the school was dealing with it.
I ended up hating school and never looking back after I left. But then I never felt I had the support at school as she has.
But I have learnt on my own over time never to run and I want her to learn this lesson now.
My Daughter is at first year at secondary school, and has for the past couple of months had problems with the friends she choose from the beginning, she has come to realise that they are not the type of people that she wants to be around.
She has tried to break away but then rumours have developed and other children have become involved taunting her but as yet no actual physical connection, which she fears. But I know mental cruelty is sometimes worse as you can’t see the signs.
I had a meeting with the school as it is making my daughters life really unhappy, I can not fault the school in the way they are dealing with it. The school I believe have tackled it in a way that when this happened to me at school I would have had confidence in and trust that it would be sorted out.
As in my day nobody listened until things spiralled into physical attacks.
My dilemma is I believe the school understands my daughter and doing their best by her needs and is taking this matter seriously. What I am having trouble with is making my daughter understand and accept that they are. In her mind she wants to change schools and have a fresh start to not make the same mistakes twice, I believe we need to stand up to bullies and let them know it isn’t to be tolerated in our society.
I would like my daughter to stay and fight this, am I asking too much of a 12 year old?
You can’t always keep running as you face this in all walks of life, not just at school
I also believe to move schools she could jump out of the frying pan into the fire.
I would love her to stay at the school she is at, as I have their full support and so does she, but I also want my daughter to be happy at school and not let others make her so miserable.
When it happened to me I begged my mum to move my school, I don’t want to make the same mistake my mum, who thought at the time the school was dealing with it.
I ended up hating school and never looking back after I left. But then I never felt I had the support at school as she has.
But I have learnt on my own over time never to run and I want her to learn this lesson now.
Quote by fem_4_taboo
i dont have extras, so dont now whos viewed me.
i do wish there was some icon next to the avatar to show if people are extras, cant tell in the forum only in chat.
that way id know who i can stalk opps i mean view, and know they know i have, or i wouldnt if i knew they were extras
ok that makes sense to me
xxx fem xx
I thought that when you go into a profile the fact the man at the top was light blue meant that they had extras, as in chat the X next to name is light blue.
I looked at a profile the other day of someone that uses the forums and thought they then had extras, so sent a message saying I know you will now know I looked as you have extras, so thought I would say hi, I got a message back saying I dont but now know you have looked.
I just come on here and this is what popped into my head. I am sitting wondering what makes you write a thread.
I have done many in my time of all different topics and subjects, generally when I write threads it is something that just happens to pop into my head at that time.
Others I have been deep in thought about something so just asked here others opinions, other times I have been feeling a little mischievous and the thread has had no meaning or reason at all.
Sometimes it is something I have read in another thread that sent me off in a different direction of thought.
Other times I have been in a playful mood and want people to play with.
So for me there are all sorts of reason I write threads.
What makes you think I will post this as a thread in the forum?
I have done many in my time of all different topics and subjects, generally when I write threads it is something that just happens to pop into my head at that time.
Others I have been deep in thought about something so just asked here others opinions, other times I have been feeling a little mischievous and the thread has had no meaning or reason at all.
Sometimes it is something I have read in another thread that sent me off in a different direction of thought.
Other times I have been in a playful mood and want people to play with.
So for me there are all sorts of reason I write threads.
What makes you think I will post this as a thread in the forum?
I have been having trouble for a few weeks now in chat rooms. It takes ages for rooms to load. Then when it does it keeps freezing as in chat just stops although I am typing, sometimes it resumes after a few minutes, but often I have to log in and out only to find the same things happening.
Please could someone help as I am a :cry: minx at the moment.
As I cant hold a conversation down on sh anymore.
I do believe it could be my end but I have tried so many things I dont know what else to try.
I am pretty stupid when it comes to techy stuff so go easy on me
Thanks
Minx
Please could someone help as I am a :cry: minx at the moment.
As I cant hold a conversation down on sh anymore.
I do believe it could be my end but I have tried so many things I dont know what else to try.
I am pretty stupid when it comes to techy stuff so go easy on me
Thanks
Minx
Quote by fluff_n_stuff
I've been 40 for nearly 5 months. Ermm when does life begin again?
It doesnt happen over night
Open your mind up believe in yourself i did around 42ish and now there is no stopping me.
I am not just talking just sexually.
I have read your posts to loads of threads you are so like me in a lot of ways when I was around your age,
finding ourselves after motherhood can be difficult or we just take stock and give ourselves a pat on the back.
I am sure it will come, just believe in yourself, what I have read you have done yourself proud just hold your head high and be proud.
Before coming on sh and meeting I had never gushed before, I wouldn't not say my hubby never knew what he was doing, I think it was more about since coming here I have asked lots of questions and found a lot of answers about sex. I would not say I was naive before, but more their were parts of myself and body I was still learning about.
being here has given me the oppunity to ask, and people have helped in giving me the answers.
So Thanks to those people.
It is more about keeping your mind open, dont be shy ask and listen.
being here has given me the oppunity to ask, and people have helped in giving me the answers.
So Thanks to those people.
It is more about keeping your mind open, dont be shy ask and listen.
I have heard many times that men sexually are at their peak between the ages of 20-35 and for women its 40-60. I am unsure if I believe this or it is down to circumstances.
I have spoken to friends about this and we all seem to be in agreement that during the times when your children are young and needy sex seems the last thing on a women’s mind, looking back I don’t think it is a conscious thought, but just one that happens.
Once my children were older around 11-12 where their demands on a mum were not as demanding as younger, I seem to come alive sexually again, which coincides with around the 40 years of age.
Life begins at 40 a say goes, maybe this is what the meaning applies too.
I have spoken to my hubby about this, his take is that could be true, he said around the age of 35 he gave up trying and when it did happen, it seemed more a gift I was giving him as a treat and not as passionate as it used to be.
Just a thought as I have often wondered why younger men prefer older women and older women prefer younger men, this could be an unconscious factor.
I personally have always prefer men around my own age to meet as they seem to understand at this age sex is to be enjoyed and appreciated by all parties.
I have found around the age of 40 sex more pleasurable relaxed and enjoyable, we are old enough to have the experience, but not to old to enjoy it.
So anyone reaching 40 look forward to it and I believe life really does being at 40.
I have spoken to friends about this and we all seem to be in agreement that during the times when your children are young and needy sex seems the last thing on a women’s mind, looking back I don’t think it is a conscious thought, but just one that happens.
Once my children were older around 11-12 where their demands on a mum were not as demanding as younger, I seem to come alive sexually again, which coincides with around the 40 years of age.
Life begins at 40 a say goes, maybe this is what the meaning applies too.
I have spoken to my hubby about this, his take is that could be true, he said around the age of 35 he gave up trying and when it did happen, it seemed more a gift I was giving him as a treat and not as passionate as it used to be.
Just a thought as I have often wondered why younger men prefer older women and older women prefer younger men, this could be an unconscious factor.
I personally have always prefer men around my own age to meet as they seem to understand at this age sex is to be enjoyed and appreciated by all parties.
I have found around the age of 40 sex more pleasurable relaxed and enjoyable, we are old enough to have the experience, but not to old to enjoy it.
So anyone reaching 40 look forward to it and I believe life really does being at 40.
This is a bit bias in here so I will add a few of my own mix,
Tina Turner
Cher
kyle
To name a couple of female show women.
I have to say springstean live is so much more better than on disc
Robbie but not as long in the running
But I have to say to see Queen perform live left an everlasting memory. Fantasic
Tina Turner
Cher
kyle
To name a couple of female show women.
I have to say springstean live is so much more better than on disc
Robbie but not as long in the running
But I have to say to see Queen perform live left an everlasting memory. Fantasic
