I don't think I was really naughty, but I liked to live as close to the boundaries set by my parents, and like to slip over the line to see what happened. :twisted:
I think I have always been a little mischievous, might be why I am here. :rascal:
Someone asked here about shyness, which made me think I often considered myself as lacking confidence but I don’t know if I would say I am shy.
I believe the two can be the same thing at times.
The way I overcome my lack of confidence is to laugh at myself I often make a fool of myself, someone once said I do it on purpose but that isn’t true, I can be a twit at times. But over the years I have learnt laughing at yourself is the best way of dealing with it, when people laugh with me I do not mind, when I find to many times people laughing at me I find I start to feel uncomfortable.
It is at these times I go shy and sink back within myself.
You normally find the people that put themselves as the joker are the people that deal with their own insecurities in that way, but as I was told by my parents growing up, “laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry aloneâ€.
This has always held me in good stead when I have found myself to be in embarrassing positions where I feel unconfident.
How do you cope with lack of confidence?
What with the parting of Michael Jackson and Farrah Fawcett on the same day lead me to question the importance that music has in everyone within life.
We can all admire a great actor/ actress but a musician it seems has such an impact within our lives and music holds everlasting memories.
It was not until today I have realised that I have been more moved over the parting of music icons like Freddy, John Lennon, Michael Jackson etc even though I have not always followed their music, more than the parting of an actor / actress that yes I have felt a sad loss for, but hasn’t hit me like the parting of the above.
I don’t cry but feel a loss has happened.
Maybe it is more mourning what they still had to offer.
So does music have more of an affect on our lives than we realise at the time?
My children play sports and I am sorry are competitive they like to win.
I have had conversations with many a parent’s that say it isn’t about winning it is about taking part that matters.
I personally in life bring my children up to know that you can’t have everything your own way, and to respect others in decisions you make in everyday life.
But when it comes to sports I believe you go out to win, or what is the point?
I also believe that you don’t win at all costs you win because you are good at what you do, and if you lose you lose with dignity and accept you were beaten by a better side or person.
It is amazing how many parents that have divided views on this that it baffles me.
Children enjoy being winners if winning if fair, what is wrong with that?
Yes you can enjoying taking part but isn’t winning even more enjoyable?
I do know that some are not as good as others, I always tell my children don’t mock them encourage them and help then, but should we be holding others back to give them a chance?
I believe having other children encouraging them helps them to excel and be part of a winning side rather than aways being on the losing side.
What are your views?
Pete those are my sentiments exactly.
I was never a true Michael fan but grew up with his music always being around from the 70's. I have to say a legend that is a sad loss, someone that has spanned 30+ years and my children enjoy his music. There are not many artists that can leave behind that legacy.
I believe the most brilliant of artists if in music or art are the ones with the most troubled of mind.
People say he was an abuser, I would like to ask where were the people when he was a mere lad being abused, and exploited by many adults around him. I would say sitting back and enjoying what he was offering them his music.
People will say he had money, it is no good giving a child money to make things better and expecting them to be normal.
Money isn’t everything in life.
I believe there was one person that convinced many that he was guilty of anything and the day I watched that documentary was one of the days I thought TV could be an evil media, and that Michael Jackson was trailed that day and how so many found him guilty the poor man never stood a chance.
RIP Michael I hope you find peace in your mind wherever you are today.
:shock: I have just got home and first heard this here.
As a children I remeber watching the jackon 5 and micheal just a child singing Ben.
As someone said an Elvis moment.
It's not me it's you.
Does you stomach always come first?
Were you talking to me?
It is rude to make a lady wait.
I am to tired today someone kept me up.
I would always like to look clean neat and tidy when I had meets, but never got nails done for the occasion.
I dont own a skirt or dress, I said what I am in my profile, and I have never felt the need from the guys I have met to have me any other way from what I am.
I have always found the guys that like you and want to share time with you is because of your mind and not the outer cover.
Good luck in what you decide to do.
Jaymar I sent you a mail when this I found to be locked but I can write it here now as the mail hasent been opened.
I feel at times we had a difference of opinions, but what I always felt with you is that you have always come across with honesty and I respected your opinion as I would never disagree with anyone that stood for what they believe in.
You have made me think at times too.
What your post said I totally agree with you, although luckily I have kept a distance from being pulled into any particular circle of people.
It must feel awful to have been let down by people you thought of as friends here and one of the reasons I kept to myself, I see exactly what you say in what others say and are, it is easy looking from a distance and seeing that happens.
As you have said your relationship is important.
At the end of the day that is what is important, we are both lucky to have that.
All I am left to say is always be true to you and yours and let no other drag you down.
Good luck and best wishes to you and your family.
Take Care
Minx
Skimbleshanks "the orange cat from the musical cats"
If you have a leak call a doctor or plumber all depends what pipe you are leaking from. :P
unless you save them they disappear after 30 days I believe.
