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Master of Sex
I sprinkle grated cheddar, finely minced spring onion and sometimes shredded ham on to the cooked pancake still in the pan. When the cheese melts I roll it up.
Spinach and lots of nutmeg with cheese is good too. The spinach has to be cooked slowly with butter first.
Mushrooms cooked in olive oil and garlic are good.
A couple of times I've shredded a crisp iceberg lettuce and spring onion and chilli with a splash of soy sauce and sesame oil. A bit like a spring roll. Bean sprouts would be a good addition to that.
A banana sliced lengthways thinly, warmed on top of the pancake then with a sprinkle of dark sugar then thick cream and a splash of rum.
Runny honey and lemon juice.
Damson jam and sloe gin
Maple syrup, natch.
One variation is to grate an apple into some of the mix and fry that. It is a lot thicker and needs to be cooked more slowly. Thats nice with cinnamon and caster sugar.
Olive oil to fry the savoury ones; butter for the sweet ones.
And as people who know me will verify, I'm a tosser.
Spinach and lots of nutmeg with cheese is good too. The spinach has to be cooked slowly with butter first.
Mushrooms cooked in olive oil and garlic are good.
A couple of times I've shredded a crisp iceberg lettuce and spring onion and chilli with a splash of soy sauce and sesame oil. A bit like a spring roll. Bean sprouts would be a good addition to that.
A banana sliced lengthways thinly, warmed on top of the pancake then with a sprinkle of dark sugar then thick cream and a splash of rum.
Runny honey and lemon juice.
Damson jam and sloe gin
Maple syrup, natch.
One variation is to grate an apple into some of the mix and fry that. It is a lot thicker and needs to be cooked more slowly. Thats nice with cinnamon and caster sugar.
Olive oil to fry the savoury ones; butter for the sweet ones.
And as people who know me will verify, I'm a tosser.
Master of Sex
Blow was the 18th Century slang for ejaculate or ejaculation. We still know the term, 'Thar she blows' on spotting a whale and some may know the term, 'byblow' for an illegitimate child of the aristocracy. Thus a blow job was the business of creating an ejaculation.
I'm with the people who thinks enthusiasm counts for more than technique. Technique can be learnt, enthusiasm less so. Besides part of oral sex is about the pleasure of the performer. A woman will suck a cock for her own (complex) pleasure, just as I will lick labia and clit for mine. Naturally I wish to make my pleasure extend the the owner of the vulva but I still do it because I enjoy it for its own sake. And that despite the physical discomfort of performing it too.
Lastly as to where the semen goes, I leave that to the woman. I get enough pleasure from having it come out. I let her pick where it goes. But my glans gets super sensitive immediately on ejaculation and ladies who suck enthusiastically to get the last drops out make me scream inside silently in agony lol I don't tell them because its their pleasure that I don't want to spoil.
I'm with the people who thinks enthusiasm counts for more than technique. Technique can be learnt, enthusiasm less so. Besides part of oral sex is about the pleasure of the performer. A woman will suck a cock for her own (complex) pleasure, just as I will lick labia and clit for mine. Naturally I wish to make my pleasure extend the the owner of the vulva but I still do it because I enjoy it for its own sake. And that despite the physical discomfort of performing it too.
Lastly as to where the semen goes, I leave that to the woman. I get enough pleasure from having it come out. I let her pick where it goes. But my glans gets super sensitive immediately on ejaculation and ladies who suck enthusiastically to get the last drops out make me scream inside silently in agony lol I don't tell them because its their pleasure that I don't want to spoil.
Master of Sex
Thanks to foxxyyy too from me for putting this together and thanks to anyone who helped her. It's been years and years since I met anyone at a social and now I have spoken in person to people I have chatted with for so long. They are as nice in person as they are in the chat rooms.
Welcome to the new people too who were coming to their first social. I guess it will be a long time before I get to a social again so at least some people know me just a little better I hope.
I tried to speak to everyone but if I missed you, accept my apologies.
Welcome to the new people too who were coming to their first social. I guess it will be a long time before I get to a social again so at least some people know me just a little better I hope.
I tried to speak to everyone but if I missed you, accept my apologies.
Master of Sex
There's an outside chance I might get there on a return from Watford that night. It's not very likely but I'd be grateful for the details in case I get lucky.
But in any case, thanks for organising it Foxxyyy, have a lot of fun and give my regards to those who have spoken to me over the years.
But in any case, thanks for organising it Foxxyyy, have a lot of fun and give my regards to those who have spoken to me over the years.
Master of Sex
Although I'll be there, this year I have commitments that will stop me getting there most of the week as I have done in previous years. I hope to be there Tuesday and Wednesday probably lunchtime and evening. I definitely can't get there Thursday and Saturday (grumble grumble) and don't know yet about Friday. As always I'll be happy to say hello to any SH people there.
Master of Sex
I thought this might be an idea to start this to allow East Anglian people the chance to arrange any meet ups. I realise it's a bit close to the start but I only had the bright idea today.
I shall be there Thursday from around 11am to around 4pm. If a meeting place is needed I suggest close to the entrance to the Flower Show tent. It's always in the same place.
Good luck for anyone who hopes to meet up in neutral surroundings and to have a beer or something.
I shall be there Thursday from around 11am to around 4pm. If a meeting place is needed I suggest close to the entrance to the Flower Show tent. It's always in the same place.
Good luck for anyone who hopes to meet up in neutral surroundings and to have a beer or something.
Master of Sex
I'm sorry you have had such grief, Wibbly. You were the first person to write something nice to me when I made one of my early posts here. As others have said something like CRUSE may help or friends or your GP might know someone who is good at listening.
In truth I don't think the grief will ever go away but as life goes on it goes into a special compartment in your mind.
Sometimes I find it helps to think of anyone's final days as not the true picture of their life, Someone's life is so much more than the last few undignified days or weeks.
It is hard though when it is so vivid in one's mind.
All the best Wibbly and may the New Year give you fresh hope and laughter.
In truth I don't think the grief will ever go away but as life goes on it goes into a special compartment in your mind.
Sometimes I find it helps to think of anyone's final days as not the true picture of their life, Someone's life is so much more than the last few undignified days or weeks.
It is hard though when it is so vivid in one's mind.
All the best Wibbly and may the New Year give you fresh hope and laughter.
Master of Sex
As everyone here will tell you it's your choice not his. That's the really important bit.
But I think it's fair to say to one's partner what it is you might want to see them do. Fantasies should be able to be brought up and the other partner should be able to think about the suggestion at their own speed. Give it a while to play around in your mind and you may enjoy whatever is suggested. First reactions may not last. I bet most of the people here came slowly not suddenly to their lifestyle.
I doubt if nagging or pressure works and if he keeps on about it tell him to back off.
As to black guys, they are guys like anyone else, some are nice, some may well be pains. If you are comfy with him watching you with another man then a black guy is just another guy with the visual pleasure of two skin colours. Shop around and pick someone you like just as you would with any other bloke. I'm sure there are plenty of ladies here who'd be happy to pass on recommendations
But I think it's fair to say to one's partner what it is you might want to see them do. Fantasies should be able to be brought up and the other partner should be able to think about the suggestion at their own speed. Give it a while to play around in your mind and you may enjoy whatever is suggested. First reactions may not last. I bet most of the people here came slowly not suddenly to their lifestyle.
I doubt if nagging or pressure works and if he keeps on about it tell him to back off.
As to black guys, they are guys like anyone else, some are nice, some may well be pains. If you are comfy with him watching you with another man then a black guy is just another guy with the visual pleasure of two skin colours. Shop around and pick someone you like just as you would with any other bloke. I'm sure there are plenty of ladies here who'd be happy to pass on recommendations
Master of Sex
What defines a swinger from the simply promiscuous? (No value judgments by the way on promiscuity, just a handy word)
Is it the acceptance of what your partner does?
I mean a woman or man who was promiscuous but objected to their partner doing the same thing doesn't sound a swinger to me.
I can't call myself a true swinger as I don't have a partner to share adventures with but temperamentally I am. I like to talk with people who are swingers, I'd enjoy playing with them were I lucky and I admire their attitude to each others pleasures. I believe I am immune to the concept of sexual possessiveness.
But I agree to the distrust of labels. People are varied and different. Once you pop a label on something you define what that label can or cannot do.
Better a signpost than a label. Then you can always escape from the chosen path down some lane or over the open fields.
Is it the acceptance of what your partner does?
I mean a woman or man who was promiscuous but objected to their partner doing the same thing doesn't sound a swinger to me.
I can't call myself a true swinger as I don't have a partner to share adventures with but temperamentally I am. I like to talk with people who are swingers, I'd enjoy playing with them were I lucky and I admire their attitude to each others pleasures. I believe I am immune to the concept of sexual possessiveness.
But I agree to the distrust of labels. People are varied and different. Once you pop a label on something you define what that label can or cannot do.
Better a signpost than a label. Then you can always escape from the chosen path down some lane or over the open fields.
Master of Sex
Tosh is originally an abbreviation from my e-mail moniker. I used to be a librarian and am trying to learn Japanese. Toshokanin is their word for librarian.
The UK is a lame addition which I wish I didn't have but my first forays were in international rooms where I thought a national suffix would be handy.
Dull eh?
The UK is a lame addition which I wish I didn't have but my first forays were in international rooms where I thought a national suffix would be handy.
Dull eh?
Master of Sex
When you've been married for 37 years and your wife has not wanted sex for over half that period you sometimes feel as if you are single. 
I don't stick up for infidelity but it happens and sometimes it is the only safety valve for both sexes.
I think I tried to be honest on my profile without writing a self serving life history but I respect other people's standards in this as long as they don't demonise things they don't fully understand.
I do know there are a lot of men here who just want a quick easy legover. Hmmm I suppose that includes me.
*slinks away*
I don't stick up for infidelity but it happens and sometimes it is the only safety valve for both sexes.
I think I tried to be honest on my profile without writing a self serving life history but I respect other people's standards in this as long as they don't demonise things they don't fully understand.
I do know there are a lot of men here who just want a quick easy legover. Hmmm I suppose that includes me.
*slinks away*
Master of Sex
I go there once in a blue moon when I get chance. I've not a lot of comparative experience so others will give you more balance. It's a bit run down but not too bad. I like it as a place to relax and chill out and move from sauna or steam room to a swim. It may claim to be naturist but most women keep towels round them. That's fair enough of course. I move around fairly naked when I'm there.
Couples may get more from rooms upstairs but as a single I've not been up there. People are friendly or have been when I've been there. I have had a few adventures there but if I went there expecting one I expect I'd be disappointed.
I've had a couple of good (innocent) massages there. Its considered a banning offence to proposition the masseuses.
I remember a discussion with a topless member of staff there once on Anglo-Saxon poetry and thinking how unlikely the situation was.
Its easy to get to from Kentish Town tube station.
Couples may get more from rooms upstairs but as a single I've not been up there. People are friendly or have been when I've been there. I have had a few adventures there but if I went there expecting one I expect I'd be disappointed.
I've had a couple of good (innocent) massages there. Its considered a banning offence to proposition the masseuses.
I remember a discussion with a topless member of staff there once on Anglo-Saxon poetry and thinking how unlikely the situation was.
Its easy to get to from Kentish Town tube station.
