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Velvet__Lips
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 55
0 miles · Merseyside

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Hi Guys !
I got all excited, thinking I had an invite to a Munch only to find I've been pm'd by mistake ! sad :( :( :(
If anyone is missing a reply, let me know and I forward it on, failing that i'll delete it.
( oh and where is the cock shot you promised me ??!! lol )
Well, I finally plucked up the courage to ring NHS Direct today and they have cautiously assured me that this isn’t a threat to my general health (thank god for that, imagine having to give up bonking!!) Like you Dawn, I also get this problem if I throw up, and that was discussed today with the nurse.
I think you guys are right, I do bruise easily and it is an absolute nightmare getting a blood sample from me, so this is probably happening because I have weak capillaries.
I'm still curious if any other women get this after an orgasm or two !
Thanks for not succumbing to temptation and replying with sexual innuendo, now I know I’m perfectly healthy feel free to let rip!!!
Hi Guys
Just wanted to run this past you....
For years now, every time I have a really good session I develop tiny little red spots around my eye sockets and on my eye lids, which I'm assuming are broken blood vessels.
They clear up after a couple of days and aren't painfull in anyway.
I don't know if this is connected but I am multi - orgasmic and squirt frequently and I wondered if the effort of this is causing this effect.
Has anyone else experienced this ?
Just to clarify, I don't give a toss what "label" or "box" people want to put him in because of his sexual experiences, I love him for who he is.
A good friend of mine, who is openly gay, and is happily living with a man had his first couple of sexual experiences with women.
Except for the odd passing erotic thoughts about tit wanks he is no longer interested in having sex with women lol
Does this mean he is a bi sexual man pretending to be gay ?
We all have shit going on in our life .......THIS IS NOT THE PLACE.
I come here to meet people and listen to how things are going on in general in the swinging world NOT about work and not to be totally depressed. As for planet Judy ..I will take care of that in my own way and I sure as shit wont want you to sort it. You worry about your life, I certainly wont come on here moaning about it and work. Loads of people are unhappy at work or at home, if we all posted the trials and tribulations of work etc the site would be a right depressing place. It isn't a agony aunt. There is enough negatives in the world as it is. I really don't need to hear about WORK. It cant be sorted here. Tell the wife, tell the barmaid, tell your boss, tell your mate down the pub. They may want to hear all about it.
Its my opinion and I will maintain my right to post that opinion just as you can post yours. OK?
Thank you.
Jude

I'm really sorry Jude, I thought the Cafe was for general discussions, I wasn't aware you censored, on behalf of everyone else, which subjects were acceptable to YOU!
- this site is for everyone, regardless of whether you agree with the comments or not. Judy and I have had our own 'issues' in the past and will, no doubt have some in the future, but it does not negate anyone's right to comment as he/she wishes within the AUP.
As long as Judy is friendly and non-abusive then the comments stand and are indicative of Judy's feelings.
Move on!
rolleyes :roll:
In other words, Cheeky Chimp was free to discuss this with us without being to told to go to another site. Glad thats been cleared up.
Quote by JudyTV
Oh nooooooooooo. Not another moan and groan. Sorry CC but we really dont need this.
This site is becoming depressing. We are supposed to be here to have fun.
Fun = Happy
Happy= a good time
There are other sites for a moan and a whinge. This is hardly the place. Come on. lets all get a life eh.
Jude.

I'm glad to hear everything is good on Planet Jude, must be nice for you !
Being unhappy at work can have a HUGE impact on your life and if you don't have anyone to turn to discuss it, things can get very serious.
When you say "we" who exactly are you including in this ? Where in the rule book does it say we can only discuss subjects you like !!!???
I am in a tough position at work which I recently shared with the good people in the forum and I found plenty of people who where, a) willing to listen b) willing to offer advice and c) share their own exeperiences.
If this type of discussion bothers you, go and read another post ! mad
I have met with 3 people off this site, all good experiences and 2 of them are still good friends, an added bonus ! biggrin
Hi Rob
I 've had a look at your profile as well, why are you looking for a gay female couple?
Do you like a challenge or something !? rolleyes
Quote by duncanlondon
I think most people have experienced what you are going through and you have received a good deal of sympathy for this. If you now feel that the best way forward is to get out of the job then that will solve the problem.
If you have to stay for any length of time you may have to reasess your approach to this problem. This would mean taking the grievance procedure seriously and applying it as necessary. People have advised you on this.

I have considered all of the advice seriously and some I have followed. Currently my manager is on his best behaviour as he now realises I will report him. There is alot going on at work which will completely restructure it and I hopefully will be reporting to a new manager. I'm sorry if I sound vague, I work for a very large co. and I'm worried if I say too much it will reveal my identity.
I am also concerned about any effect this will have on any references given to new employers as I am definately leaving, so for now I'm letting thing lay, but as you rightly say I will take it up again if I can't get out or he starts up again.
Thank you to you all for the effort you have taken to write x
Hi Again!
I thought I would just update you on my situation at work. As I suspected would happen, the whole subject has been sweeped under the carpet. They paid "lip service" to my complaint and have put it all down to me being tired and emotional because of the work load I'm carrying which they freely admit is actually enough work for two people!!
The only bright point of the whole day was I was offered an interview for a fantastic job which I applied for but didn't really think I would be seriously considered for. Couldn't have been better timed!
lets hope I get it because I really don't know how much longer I can survive my current position.
thanks for all your best wishes
Hi Steph,
I haven't met you but the impression I have of you from your posts is that your are the voice of reason and always very kind.
I hope this can be resolved, people like you are the backbone of this site
love & hugs xxx
Hello again Guys!
What can I say, you lot are absolutely amazing, thank you so much for all your best wishes and offers of help, and all to someone you haven’t meet! Big love and hugs back to you all :therethere:
I’ll just answer some of the points mentioned;
I have some evidence of behaviour, in the form of , ( all printed off) these are very clearly demonstrate his attitude and contain allegations which I can easily disprove.
I am not office based so I don’t have the support of colleges or any witnesses. I did make an off the record complaint to the head of the dept some months back about the lack of support I get and the shouting and swearing I’m subjected to, so I plan to mention that again at the HR meeting.
Yesterday, I did terminate a telephone call from my manager saying, I am not happy to be shouted out like this, I am reporting this. I haven’t been to my doctor yet, I am desperately looking for another job, so I don’t want a poor sick record.
This man only manages two people and the other guy has been off for months with stress, I found out today the occupational health adviser has recommended that when he returns next week he is managed by someone else.
I am not a member of a union, and have never worked in an environment where any else was, so I have no experience of this. It worries me that a couple of you have suggested I need to have someone in with me, I don’t feel I have done anything wrong, am I being naïve here???
Duncanlondon, you have raised an interesting and valid point, there is in fact, some major changes going on in my company which has caused unrest for us all, and for this reason I have been making excuses for him. But I won’t allow someone to shout at me in my personal life, and now I have got to a stage where a phone call reduces me to uncontrollable tears I think its time to say this is unacceptable at work as well.
Jomu - I realise now , maybe I should have put this in writing, if HR ask me to do that, I will.
Bi Guy Notts – Thank you for your very kind offer of help, lets hope now it all out in the open I won’t need it, but you are a sweety to offer xxxx
Mike C – my heart goes out to you, no doubt you just want to get on with your job in peace like I do, I hope you find a new job soon ( you can have my old one if I find a new one! lol )
SurreyNewbie – I hear what you are saying, I said “ what feels like bullying” because its such a harsh accusation to make about anybody, and I would never want to falsely accuse anyone His style is aggressive, and he seem to think that because he is my boss he can bollock me in what ever way suits him when he feels I have done something wrong.
I think this covers every thing, if have not named you, it doesn’t mean I don’t value your point, I’m just getting cramp in my hand! xxx
Hi Guys
Just wanted to share something with you in the hope I'll feel better and maybe pick up some good advice.
For months now, I've been suffering from what feels like bullying from my manager. It has got to the point where I feel sick every time he me or calls me. I finally plucked up the courage to report him to HR this morning and they have arranged to have both myself and the manager in separately but now I'm worrying that this will all back fire on me, the head of the department is good friends with him but I couldn't go on like this, I was still shaking for hours after the last conversation I had.
Has anyone ever been in this postion either on the receiving end or in an official capicity?
I would love some wise words x
Quote by fem_4_taboo
some people will know i gave up smoking 3 weeks ago,
well im still no smoking, but its hard to keep motivated when your gaining weight, not sleeping, really emotional and have a gross cough that you never had while smoking.
still im sure the health benefits will show soon just like you going back to the gym.
xxx lou xxx

I don't know if you already know this, but just incase you don't, the coughing you get when you give up smoking is caused by the cillia (very fine hairs which line your lungs) growing back. They are distroyed when you smoke but will grow back quite quickly. They act in a similiar way as the hairs in your nose, trapping tiny particles. You have made some serious headway now into reversing some of the damage done, Well done!
why don''t you ask your wife???
In fact, I insist you do because you have us all feeling like we could be missing out on something good!!! lol :lol: :lol:
You are assuming that all of the ads saying " lady looking for 9 inchs" are actually placed by women.
I personally am not interested in longer than the average length, been there and spent the whole time worrying that I would be hurt if he went too deep.
I can only "accomodate" 6-7 inches, so where is the fun in having a few inches left out in the cold!!!!?????
I think men make a bigger issue out of this than women do.
I would also like to offer a little advice, Please SMILE in your pics, I'm looking for someone who has a fun attitude to life, not a Grumpy Old Man !!!
Quote by morelli
OK
I think Homosexuality is a sin
bye

Really???? Thanks for clearing that up, we never would have guessed!
Try Max Factor's 2000 calorie mascara, I've been using it for years, tried loads of others but keep coming back to this one !!
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
........Wishmaster will be along in a minute to reveal he is really "Pantomine Dame" or something confused :? :?

He's behind you!!!! :giggle:
Oh!!!!! My favourite position !!! lol :lol: :lol: :lol:
Quote by Mister_Discreet
The AUP says you can't indulge in "Abusive or aggressive behaviour towards other people on here."
Since ex members are not "on here", I suppose that technically they can be slagged off with wild abandon :!:

Ah but Ex members are here, First Libra+Love now Sun Bunny, I'm beginning to think these bans are an empty threat to the seriously warped, they still find a way! Wishmaster will be along in a minute to reveal he is really "Pantomine Dame" or something confused :? :?
Quote by Darkfire

And on the materialistic point, time and time again I get requests for sexy underwear, kinky outfits etc, which I'm always happy to wear but I'm also expected to pay for them as well, and I telling you, they don't come cheap!!!

oh goooooood point velvet!!
Ok, my contribution -
Considering the amount of effort we ladies often put into a 'meet', firstly, a few sincere compliments won't go amiss.
Blokes: shit shower and shave and you're ready.
Women : shit shower shave.... plus full leg wax, underarm wax, residue removal, all over body lotion for silky soft skin, fake tan application, eyebrow shaping, plucking with tweezers to upper lip/ nasal hair/ stray pubes that escaped the waxing, nails filed and painted, face on, hair done, 36 changes of clothes incorportaing entire contents of wardrobe(s) and 10 coordinating pairs of shoes/boots, not forgetting the hammering of the credit card in Ann Summers on underwear.... choose perfume, re-do face, squoosh of hairspray...........drive umpteen miles with some arsehole up ya bumper making sexual gestures like a horned-up teenager....get there, re-apply gorgeous tasting lipstick, final check in mirror, remove cheeswire thong that's splitting your ass in two.....get to door...
and he says....
Fancy a quickie then luv? the footy's on in 20 minutes.
:shock:
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
I forgot about all that!!!
Quote by Calista
ok here's mine;
A man freshly showered, delicately smelling of aftershave, smartly dressed and immaculately mannered ..... gentle with his touches (without tickling), delicious with his kisses, leaving me breathless, protective with his hugs, leading with his advances, non pushy, understanding.
Skillful with his fingers, who knows how to touch caress and tease his way through foreplay, getting me right to the edge, can lick, tease and flick with his tongue, until I'm squirming, and begging him to fuck me, and then can use his penis well, not pounding or thrusting too much, but uses it to it's full length (I prefer them smaller btw) and captivates me for hours ....
C x

All this and the ablity to keep it up !! The reason I trade in my buddies for a newer model is because you generally get all this in the beginning but then the effort ebbs away over time!!!
And on the materialistic point, time and time again I get requests for sexy underwear, kinky outfits etc, which I'm always happy to wear but I'm also expected to pay for them as well, and I telling you, they don't come cheap!!!
Quote by Bloke2005
Tune has chickened out :cry: All mouth and no pants I say.... wink

I can wear pants if it helps !!!?????? biggrin
(ok, I sound desperate now, don't I !! )
Not at all..... it's definately better if the pants are off though :wink:
Sorry Dawn - this is a shameful hijack of your thread..... back to showers..
I found this earlier which should get us back on the shower theme and is allowed (apparently) confused :twisted: :wink:

Make you mind up man, pants on or pants off!!! I think you're confused I'll come over and "straighten" you out !! lol :lol: :lol:
Quote by Bloke2005
Tune has chickened out :cry: All mouth and no pants I say.... wink

I can wear pants if it helps !!!?????? biggrin
(ok, I sound desperate now, don't I !! )