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VenusnMars
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 54
Straight Female, 83

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Lol, I thought Psychotherapists were supposed to blame everything on the parents! I do feel that some in this line of work are prone to offer the cliche answers. Some people can feel better with ANY answer, not necessarily the right one, just as long as they feel they have a handle.........
Ok, I`ll step off of the soap box now redface
Guess who is hoping to do a psychotherapy course next year?! lol
Venusxxx
I was in the navy.....the german navy I think surprised , and was told that instead of firing underwater torpedos, they would be firing doors. The bad news was that we were to be fired with the doors in order to steer them towards the targets!
We had to go on the underground to reach the docks, and on the way to our train I met a queue of Hari Krishnas, male, female and children. One woman dropped her baby in the crush (but it was ok). I helped to retrieve the babe, and helped them to get thier belongings on their train, thus missing mine.
Please interpret :shock:
Venusxxx
*giggle* redface biggrin
Working on the code I forgot the nature of the pics until it was zipped. I was in geek mode! I haven`t had time to get nervous until now! surprised
Venusxxx
Thanks Mark, that helps smile . I spotted it last night too. It may be a little confusing for new members when they see verified members mention a small charge for overheads, but it`s well worth mentioning why the caution. smile
Venusxxx
Jelly confuses me. Not quite liquid, yet neither a solid. What happens when you go to the toilet? Do you wee it out, or poo it out?

Venusxxx
Do the bum and the baggage (and back if need be), leave the rest, that doesn`t bother me, unless you happen to have a really hairy chest, in which case you are buggered, cos a five o`clock shadow on your chest would be just as bad!
But thats just me.......
Venusxxx
It`s one of mine redface , but there is a whole scenario of how and why this happens in my fantasy, and that has alot to do with it. biggrin
Venusxxx
I`ve been good!
Money
Receipts
Cashcards
Letters
Passport.......
and 78658321 old bus tickets
I only started using a bg last year! lol
Venusxxx
Heather, I`m posting this here as it may come in useful for other members. I`m not sure what the nature of your debt is, so please don`t take offense if it`s too much!
Key points to remember;
NEVER let bailiffs in, or let them persuade you to sign their papers on the doorstep. These papers are a `walking possession` agreement, and once these are signed, they have all the power they need to come in and take possession of your things if you don`t keep up what they see fit as a payment plan. They WILL try to scare you into signing papers, but legally they do not have a foot to stand on. Treat them as vampires. If they cannot get the money out of you, the company they are representing will have to take the debt back. It`s advisable to contact the company and ask them to do this anyway.
DO concentrate on CTX and rent arrears, or any priority or secured debts. These can be upheld by the company by removing your home, security or in the case of CTX, prison. But before you panic, this is very unlikely to happen if you work with them. In fact courts take a very dim view of companies who play a heavy hand with people who are trying, in some cases allowing the client to pay less than they had previously offered!
In the case of Water arrears, as from a couple of years ago, it is now illegal for the water board to cut off your supply, thus taking it out of the priority debt class.
Non priority debts do not have much power at all. They can send bailiffs, but as they do not have much power, don`t panic! In the case of Mars and I, we have an unsecured loan we could not keep up with. We have requested that they accept the repayment amount offered, and freeze the interest. To give you an idea of what happens if they refuse the offer, here are a couple of letters that can be sent.
1 High Street,
Newtown,
Kent
R21 4RH
July 11, 2004
The Loan Company
Company House,
Church Street,
Newtown,
Kent,
R1 7HG
Dear Sir/Madam
Acc/Ref No 12
Thank you for your letter of 01−01−2002 concerning the above account.
We are are sorry that you feel unable to accept the offer which we have made. The majority of our other
creditors have accepted the offers made to them and we have commenced payments. We cannot offer you
more because we can only afford £775 per month between all our other creditors, and it would be wrong to
cease or reduce payments to our other creditors in favour of your company. The offer made to you is on a pro
rata basis, as used by the county court.
In the light of the other creditors agreeing to our repayment plan, please would you reconsider our offer. We
will be making the payments in line with the offer to your company, on a weekly basis, as a gesture of
goodwill.
We look forward to hearing from you as soon as possible.
Yours faithfully
Mr A N Other

1 High Street,
Newtown,
Kent
R21 4RH
July 11, 2004
The Loan Company
Company House,
Church Street,
Newtown,
Kent,
R1 7HG
Dear Sir/Madam
Acc/Ref No 12
Thank you for your letter of 01−01−2002. We are very disappointed that we seem unable to reach a
satisfactory compromise in this case. As we have already explained, we can only afford £71 per month at the
present time. This is the only realistic payment proposal bearing in mind the enclosed personal budget sheet.
You have stated in correspondence your intention to commence proceedings in the county court against us.
The commencement of legal proceedings under such circumstances could be counter to the ‘Overriding
Objectives’ of the new Civil Procedure Rules. You will be aware that the Overriding Objectives underpin
everything the court does. Moreover, paragraph 4 of the Protocols Practice Direction states that in cases not
covered by an approved pre−action protocol, the court will expect the parties “to act reasonably…….. in
trying to avoid the necessity for the start of proceedings”.
We would suggest that your refusal to accept our offer could be viewed as unreasonable and we would ask the
court to consider this matter with reference to the Overriding Objectives.
The offer of £71 is of course still open to you to accept.
Yours faithfully
Mr A N Other

1 High Street,
Newtown,
Kent
R21 4RH
July 11, 2004
The Loan Company
Company House,
Church Street,
Newtown,
Kent,
R1 7HG
Dear Sir/Madam
Acc/Ref No 12
Thank you for your letter of 01−01−2002. We are very disappointed that we seem unable to reach a
satisfactory compromise in this case. As we have already explained, we can only afford £71 per month at the
present time, and we feel that it is pointless paying this amount to you only to see the debt increase. We invite
you therefore to sue us for the debt, when we shall have the opportunity of offering £84 per month through the
courts.
In addition, once judgment is granted we understand that further interest will be suspended in any event. It
seems that we can only achieve a reasonable outcome to this matter by allowing the courts to decide, although
this will involve us both in extra expense and time wasted with court proceedings.
The offer of £71 per month plus suspension of interest is of course still open to you to accept.
Yours faithfully
Mr A N Other

Sorry, that didn`t paste too well, but you get the idea. Of course, there are lots of routes to go down before it gets to this point, but seeing as you are so concerned, I thought I`d highlight just how much power you do have in those circumstances. Try reading up on this site for all the steps and advice, it`s very good.
Final key point. Being in debt is not an indication you are a criminal, so don`t feel like one, or let anybody else make you feel like one. Shit happens. cool
Venusxxx
Ok after staying up til about 5am :twisted: , and staying up tonight, to finish the work (I hope, cos I sent it!) on the webpage; I think it`s entirely possible I may die now :crazy:
Goodnight people.
Venusxxx
((((((((((((((Helen)))))))))))))) I have an immense amount of experiance with Debt collectors, and am currently working through debt now. I know my rights, and may be able to help you to know yours.
Drop me a line pet.
In the meantime don`t let it worry you now, nothing will happen between now and Moday, so enjoy it!
Venusxxx
Can`t carry on, it might upset the kids surprised
It also means I can`t browse the pics til they are back in bed sad
Venusxxx
Thanks for that Jaz.............we are having a fantastic time. All the more now we`ve read your post, and know that you`re thinking about us...........
We`ve been thinking about you too................ :twisted:
Mars (and Venus)xxx
Mars and I are about to have the shag of the century! It`ll beat anything you guys will get up to tonight :twisted: . He is upstairs getting washed up right this minute biggrin
Why is this shag so momentous. I hear you ask? Why can Venus sit there telling us that our shags tonight will pale by comparison?!
Well I`ll tell you.
We have been married for 15 years, together for 17. Only once have we dedicated any money to his dream lingerie, and that was my wedding underwear! He didn`t get to see that in one piece, on account of him getting storming drunk on our wedding day, and after being shoved in the back of a van with a severely ill groom, the lingerie was wrecked!
Since then the only lingerie I`ve bought has either been cheap and kinky, or black, so it can double up with my clothing.
Mars loves women in white and cream basques, and stockings. (expensive)
GUESS WHAT I BOUGHT!!!! :happy:
So let`s have a celebration for me getting my Mojo back, which I have to admit, was alot to do with the lovely attention I received at the last Munch. Mars and I have been through hell and back in the last few weeks (me being ill, debts, family member dying, two horrible teens, becoming a carer to a disabled mum in law..I`ll stop there confused ) So we don`t always have the time or energy for each other right now. We took ourselves away from it all, only for one night, but I`m so glad we chose to spend our break with you guys, knowing we could have quality time together alone (there was NO pressure, thankyou all) and we managed to spend our evening in the best possible way.
So when you go to bed tonight, think of us............
And wait for the website, for the pictures are being created tonight! biggrin
And remember why I am sharing it :inlove:
(we are just leaving the cam on go, cos be buggered if we will be able to concentrate on the damn thing!) lol
Venusxxx
Well it wasn`t me, although we did discuss them at length. I only have my ears and navel done!
Venusxxx
Not phoning me at home and asking the kids to put mum on so we can discuss the next shag! lol
(and never assuming it is me on the phone, for my daughter sounds just like me................cept I don`t say `dude` when I pick up the phone!)
Venusxxx
Quote by scsep
Thanks for the encouragement & good to see others do have similar fantasies
Now suppose, (and this is not a sly request) just suppose that you were looking for a man (etc etc ) what is the best approach
It can't be the Cock pic - now fuck me approach - does that work?
Thanks
ps - Nice quote and lovely pic btw

No, that wouldn`t work for me personally, but as to what will I suppose it`s just a matter of us finding the right environment. We have no experiance in this, but I imagine that we would meet someone at a munch, click, and then meet up for a drink at a later date. If the chemistry is still there, and we go back to a private place.....who knows! :twisted:
I find my fantasies change, depending upon what is going on in my life. If I am under alot of pressure I tend to get more dominate in bed, if I`m breezing through life then I go the other way. But I do fantasise quite strongly about either.
I guess that is why people in high profile jobs tend to visit the Doms, the stress factor, and I seem to remember a CSI where a henpecked husband paid for a submissive.......
Sorry, off topic redface
Venusxxx
Same fantasy, wrong age bracket! (no offense, we are testing the water with couples first anyway)
But we can`t be the only ones, so don`t be too discouraged cool
Venusxxx
Lol, that depends on Mars. Left to his devices yes........but I prefer to get all arty!
We`lll see how it goes tonight biggrin
Venusxxx
I did it! I did it! I did it!
I have two pages! Soon as I pin Mars down for a photo shoot it`s going up!! :happy:
Venusxxx
Oh oh oh! Or a picture link, you know, click on a picture to get to the next page?
Venusxxx
Ok, now I`m getting ambitious! How easy would it be to do a link to a second page for the pictures?
Venusxxx
Oh FFS! I started reading the debate and now I can`t remember which bit I was editing in my style sheet confused
Too political!
I`m going to go back to my usual kind of bi-curious even though I`ve done it once in the past, swinging, even though I haven`t done it but kind of did in the past, cautious even though some people find that a turn off, self! lol
Venusxxx (going back to her web editing and chilling out) rolleyes
All is good. It`s pretty basic, but works.
Mars put his foot down and said I can`t submit it until he gets to see it *pout*. Anyone would think he has something to do with this! rolleyes lol
Should be able to turn it in by Saturday biggrin
Venusxxx