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VenusnMars
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 54
Straight Female, 83
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One of the reasons Mars and I are so secure with swinging is because even if we don`t know what a problem is, we instinctively know when something is amiss between the two of us. I can`t swing under those conditions, the idea becomes too uncomfortable. We don`t always manage to communicate about a problem immediately, especially if we are stressed, as I tend to get anxious, and he withdraws, but we both feel it, and this will always prevent us from getting into a scenario which either of us are uncomfortable with. Any vibes, and I`m out of there! I will not put us and others through any discomfort due to uncertainty.
Such an uncertainty has been hanging over us during the past few weeks, and so I addressed the swinging with him as much as possible, but still the uncertainty was there. Last night I damn near posted a thread, or PMed friends to ask if we would still be welcome to parties on a social basis only, as I had become so uncomfortable with the unaddressed issue.
Turns out it wasn`t a Swinging issue at all, even though the fact we were communicating on different levels would have put a stop to it!
:bounce:
So, a close shave, but we are now working together on a mutual communicative level and are back in business!
All I would say is that Mars` contact with others here is so much more stinted than mine. He knows a great many of you via munches etc, but he is still unsure of how many times he needs to meet with someone before he is confident enough to swing with them, but we already knew that!
I`m happy with that, and I hope all those out there who want to jump our bones are happy with that too! Because he is keen :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
Such an uncertainty has been hanging over us during the past few weeks, and so I addressed the swinging with him as much as possible, but still the uncertainty was there. Last night I damn near posted a thread, or PMed friends to ask if we would still be welcome to parties on a social basis only, as I had become so uncomfortable with the unaddressed issue.
Turns out it wasn`t a Swinging issue at all, even though the fact we were communicating on different levels would have put a stop to it!
:bounce:So, a close shave, but we are now working together on a mutual communicative level and are back in business!
All I would say is that Mars` contact with others here is so much more stinted than mine. He knows a great many of you via munches etc, but he is still unsure of how many times he needs to meet with someone before he is confident enough to swing with them, but we already knew that!
I`m happy with that, and I hope all those out there who want to jump our bones are happy with that too! Because he is keen :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
But I don`t care. This is so beautiful it has to be shared.
One of my dearest friends who was there for me in a huge way when I needed someone the most over three years ago, has blessed me by sharing that she is going to undergo a sex change. I have witnessed so much unhappiness in her life (she is changing from male to female) that it is such a profound feeling to be have watched her struggle through from how she was when I met her, to seeing her finally be able to understand and embrace the life which has been denied her for so long. Yes I cried
, so did she when she realised I was not only able to get my head around the idea, but am also so very happy for her, she deserves this on so many levels.
In turn, I shared my own lifestyle, and how much it has meant to us to belong to a community which is so open-minded toward alternative people. She was interested in joining, although she is in a monogamous relationship. SH can be so rewarding aside from swinging. I know that people who don`t swing are welcome here, but I`m not sure if US citizens are. I also know that there are other sites out there she can and has joined.......but I want her to be able to share her story here goddammit! :lol2:
Let me know yes?
Jen, if you are reading this, I love you, you big lunk, and I still maintain that being a 6ft 4 woman is going to be a hell of a thing to carry off, but if anyone can do it you can! :mrgreen:
Thank you so much for being there for me.......
I am sooooooo going to hate myself for showing a soul on here later, but whatcha gonna do? I`m emotional!
Venusxxx
One of my dearest friends who was there for me in a huge way when I needed someone the most over three years ago, has blessed me by sharing that she is going to undergo a sex change. I have witnessed so much unhappiness in her life (she is changing from male to female) that it is such a profound feeling to be have watched her struggle through from how she was when I met her, to seeing her finally be able to understand and embrace the life which has been denied her for so long. Yes I cried
, so did she when she realised I was not only able to get my head around the idea, but am also so very happy for her, she deserves this on so many levels.In turn, I shared my own lifestyle, and how much it has meant to us to belong to a community which is so open-minded toward alternative people. She was interested in joining, although she is in a monogamous relationship. SH can be so rewarding aside from swinging. I know that people who don`t swing are welcome here, but I`m not sure if US citizens are. I also know that there are other sites out there she can and has joined.......but I want her to be able to share her story here goddammit! :lol2:
Let me know yes?
Jen, if you are reading this, I love you, you big lunk, and I still maintain that being a 6ft 4 woman is going to be a hell of a thing to carry off, but if anyone can do it you can! :mrgreen:
Thank you so much for being there for me.......
I am sooooooo going to hate myself for showing a soul on here later, but whatcha gonna do? I`m emotional!
Venusxxx
Working with the public can really shake your faith in humanity. I used to work weekend nights at a petrol station. Any pissheads or stoners who came in at 2-3am when the clubs closed and pissed me off because they couldn`t function, I used to overcharge by a quid, and buy myself a scratchcard :twisted:
Fair`s fair :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
Fair`s fair :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
I would be more inclined to ask how it works, rather than `prove it does`. If anyone could offer me a rational (and for me this means scientific) explanation upon how this is acheived, then I could except it. Anything other than that I would have to accept on blind faith, and I don`t do blind faith. Unfortunately (for some, maybe even me) I am geared to suspect anything which cannot be supported by science...even if it seems to work, as I wouldn`t be able to see and understand for myself how it works.
I dunno, is it something to do with the gravitational forces of the earth at the time of your birth pulling all your emotion chips into a certain order?! :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
I dunno, is it something to do with the gravitational forces of the earth at the time of your birth pulling all your emotion chips into a certain order?! :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
Quote by BaldEagle
Havn't you partly answered the question.
The clubs arn't just for a quick shag. The prices are to weed out those single guys that just want to go for screw and those that like to build up friends and relationships in a neutral venue.
How does that work then? As far as I can tell it weeds out those who are rich and want a quick shag, from those who aren`t rich and want a quick shag, thus keeping the numbers down.......the same applies to those who want to build up friendships.
Venusxxx
Absolutely noone interesting at all
1971 Ricky Martin (singer)
1946 Jan Akkerman (musician)
1944 Mike Curb (music executive, producer)
1931 Ray Bryant (pianist, composer)
1930 Robert Joffrey (Dancer, choreographer, teacher, artistic director)
1930 Jill Bennett (actress)
1929 Mary Higgins Clark (author)
1924 Carol Haney (dancer, actress)
1922 Ava Gardner (Lucy Johnson) (actress)
1905 Howard Hughes (industrialist, hollywood producer)
1893 Harry Warren (Salvatore Guaragna) (composer)
1880 Johnny Gruelle (writer)
1809 Kit (Christopher) Carson (frontiersman)
Rainbows, you`ll set me off next. I`ll end up reading all the threads I missed when I was sick (like this one)
Venusxxx
1971 Ricky Martin (singer)
1946 Jan Akkerman (musician)
1944 Mike Curb (music executive, producer)
1931 Ray Bryant (pianist, composer)
1930 Robert Joffrey (Dancer, choreographer, teacher, artistic director)
1930 Jill Bennett (actress)
1929 Mary Higgins Clark (author)
1924 Carol Haney (dancer, actress)
1922 Ava Gardner (Lucy Johnson) (actress)
1905 Howard Hughes (industrialist, hollywood producer)
1893 Harry Warren (Salvatore Guaragna) (composer)
1880 Johnny Gruelle (writer)
1809 Kit (Christopher) Carson (frontiersman)
Rainbows, you`ll set me off next. I`ll end up reading all the threads I missed when I was sick (like this one)
Venusxxx
You have been here a long time, but only have 55 posts. Perhaps a change of approach might be worth considering? I don`t know how much socialising you do via Munches, but that, and joining in with the Banter in the Cafe would certainly help you to get to know whose genuine and who isn`t.
Hope that helps
Venusxxx
Hope that helps
Venusxxx
I scored 44 this time.
I`ve changed in my time here!
Venusxxx
41 TO 50 POINTS: Others see you as fresh, lively, charming, amusing, practical, and always interesting; someone who's constantly in the center of attention, but sufficiently well-balanced not to let it go to their head. They also see you as kind, considerate, and understanding; someone who'll always cheer them up and help them out.
I`ve changed in my time here!
Venusxxx
