Til he tries to get the bike on the bus! :shock:
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I ended up banning a guy from a forum elsewhere because he linked to a personal site which he wrote fantasy stories about statutory , snuff scenes, adult , and . As he was a new member I triedvery carefully to be open-minded about fantasy only scenarios, and thought perhaps we should just ask him to remove the link........until we took on board that not only was he not socialising on the main board, but was actually PMing some of the more vunerable members of the site, in a friendly manner, but it just seemed too dodgy.......
It was whilst I was researching sexual deviancy to address this, I found this place! :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
It was whilst I was researching sexual deviancy to address this, I found this place! :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
Tania, after chatting to couple of US mums, it is a myth which many people are discounting now, unfortunately breaking the tradition is somewhat more difficult, as who wants to be among the first few to put their child through being `different` from the other kids....especially when they hit their teens. It`s a tough one.
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Report.
Went quite well all things considered.......like having no upper arm strength to prop myself up indefinately........I forgot half of what I was going to do, and the rest felt a little like trying to pat my head and rub my tummy at the same time.........his favourite bit............something which wasn`t on the list!
His verdict.....
`Another hour of that and I might have cum!` :huh:
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Went quite well all things considered.......like having no upper arm strength to prop myself up indefinately........I forgot half of what I was going to do, and the rest felt a little like trying to pat my head and rub my tummy at the same time.........his favourite bit............something which wasn`t on the list!
His verdict.....
`Another hour of that and I might have cum!` :huh:
Venusxxx
((((hugs))))Quote by westerross
Flippin' 'eck. I've just noticed you've got a bag over your head. Is that a form of personalised group dynamics?
My group dynamic, or lack thereof. I put my fugly mug up, and a trend started (Scandal`s fault), so I put a bag over mine just to be different and feel all superior like. :mrgreen:
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Quote by BradfordCpl
Why ask the women how to do it? Some of us who sit on the fence, have the advantage of being able to speak from both sides.
How bout this?
A little bit of lip
A little bit of tongue
A little bit a teeth
Alot of saliva!
To get a guy to cum, Its all down to getting a rythm and being consistent
But i reckon good oral is just like it is for a women, variety is the spice of life
I`ll consider my sexist arse put in it`s place!
And yes, `variety`, I should have posted that as opposed to `how the fuck do you do it`....I`m not THAT bad!
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Bumped, because too many people are at the Essex munch *sulk* and I`m bored! (and by request)
Ignoring that as I`m not about to get pedantic......
/enter Ice
If you weren`t about to get pedantic, why bring it up again?! :giggle:
Agreed.
When altruism (and yes I did have to look it up in the dictionary) becomes a universal trait, survival of the species would become at risk by default. However, a little more give and take on behalf of many individuals is not such a niave concept is it? I happen to think our species is capable of this. Your theory perhaps is a little more realistic for the now....but is it not also a little cynical? Acceptance for the current `norm` is not likely to encourage progress is it?
I think you might have me there...wasn`t even aware I was doing it. Next time I will try opposing questions :mrgreen:
A good area to encourage people to be in if you want your point to be considered wouldn`t you say? Enter `consideration for selfish reasons`.....everybody wins! Yes, that works both ways.
I think that could be a very valuable thing, so long as that is the motive, and not simply the additional voices seeking power in numbers. At some point that can become very counter-productive.
I think if many individuals took a little responsibility, then the responsibilty would lie with the collective as well as the individual. I`m all for differing personalities, and instinct, else we may as well say goodbye to love, fear and all those other traits which make us feel alive, but it does dismay me when I see people behaving like.....well, gorillas!
I quite possibly am polarised in my approach, it`s a huge subject, one I am trying to tackle with a tenuous grasp of one direction at best. Still, that never stopped me yet, it`s how I broaden my understanding...........see not polarised after all! :mrgreen:
Smartarse ;)
Venusxxx
*you watch too much Star Trek
Quote by Ice Pie
Er, if you note who said the bit in bold, I think you'll find I didn't.
Ignoring that as I`m not about to get pedantic......
/enter Ice
If you weren`t about to get pedantic, why bring it up again?! :giggle:
To some it might be. If social survival is as important to the individual as physical survival, then agreeing with someone farther up the pecking order would be just as valid, to that person, as agreeing with someone who has a gun to their head.
Agreed.
We are not gorillas, but we share with them the instincts of our common ancestors. Those instincts probably developed in a time and place where social conformity was the greater good, for the individual as well as for the collective, and may still be to some extent. Yes, we can think past the programming if we want to, but don't count on altruism to influence that - there's no such thing.
When altruism (and yes I did have to look it up in the dictionary) becomes a universal trait, survival of the species would become at risk by default. However, a little more give and take on behalf of many individuals is not such a niave concept is it? I happen to think our species is capable of this. Your theory perhaps is a little more realistic for the now....but is it not also a little cynical? Acceptance for the current `norm` is not likely to encourage progress is it?
It wasn't rhetorical, it was an invitation to agree. Gorillas grunting again. ;)
I think you might have me there...wasn`t even aware I was doing it. Next time I will try opposing questions :mrgreen:
Depending on their strength of character and confidence in their position, they will feel anywhere from heroically defiant to utterly invalidated. Somewhere between those extremes is an openness to persuasion.
A good area to encourage people to be in if you want your point to be considered wouldn`t you say? Enter `consideration for selfish reasons`.....everybody wins! Yes, that works both ways.
And if they have nothing further to add but wish to express their support for whoever has voiced their view, is that not a valid contribution? An indicator of how close the group is to consensus?
I think that could be a very valuable thing, so long as that is the motive, and not simply the additional voices seeking power in numbers. At some point that can become very counter-productive.
I think the responsibility is collective as well as individual. To make it solely individual would be to imply that all points of view should remain either unexpressed or unanswered. That's not going to happen, obviously, and however much you may try to rationalise the interaction, intellect will never completely submerge the instincts and emotions, just as the *collective dynamic will never completely submerge the individual personalities.
I think if many individuals took a little responsibility, then the responsibilty would lie with the collective as well as the individual. I`m all for differing personalities, and instinct, else we may as well say goodbye to love, fear and all those other traits which make us feel alive, but it does dismay me when I see people behaving like.....well, gorillas!
I don't think you're being pretentious, perhaps just a bit polarized in your approach. I don't think you can analyse collective behaviour purely in terms of the group dynamic, because the group is composed of unpredictable individuals. Seems to me that people in a crowd are acting both collectively and individually at the same time, and they're doing on both an intellectual and an instinctive basis.
I quite possibly am polarised in my approach, it`s a huge subject, one I am trying to tackle with a tenuous grasp of one direction at best. Still, that never stopped me yet, it`s how I broaden my understanding...........see not polarised after all! :mrgreen:
Now, admittedly I have no formal psych training, and I haven't really given a great deal of thought to this particular aspect, this is just me saying what I think I see. I also admit it's a bit of a cop out by way of being a self-fulfilling prophecy because some of my response is analytical and some of it is gut reaction, which rather sneakily ties up my point about the interplay between intelligence and instinct, cos I'm devious like that. :twisted:
Smartarse ;)
Venusxxx
*you watch too much Star Trek
Quote by lucyuktv2
, I don`t think the majority are too anal about this, some threads are worth repeating to see what the new memebrship has to say
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ohhh, an anal thread? :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
What again?!
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there's always room for more anal! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Methinks you are biased! :giggle:
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Quote by Tania
What? Do I have to do a search for each question that comes up in my mind? What's the point of having a forum then, we can all just sit and do searches all day instead of exchanging info. I give up!
Where did that come from?
Tania, it`s advisable to do a cursery search beforehand in case there is an existing thread which answers your question, and to prevent the moans and groans of people who have seen the subject countless of times before. That said, I don`t think the majority are too anal about this, some threads are worth repeating to see what the new memebrship has to say, and others are repeated because they are not that easy to search for.
However, the `Is bigger better` type threads are definately best avoided, these are started on a regular basis when the pubs shut on a Friday night!
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