Thank you both for your replies, appreciate the time you took to reply.
A few days on and I am much more at peace with this knowledge and I am going to let 'sleeping dogs lie' :-)
Wobbly
Orgasminator
Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
Login
WibblyWobbly
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 64
Straight Male, 56
0 miles · South Yorkshire
Forum
Orgasminator
It has been a while since I have posted here... a kiss to my old friends here and a cheery hello to those friends not yet met.
In my experience there is no better place to get honest, well thought out, help and here is why I need advice...
Been seeing a man who, at 46 is nearly 9 years younger than me, for over a year now. Our relationship has been turbulent, such that we split up for about two months but hooked up again at the end of July. We are getting on very well, he stays over most nights and we are getting quite domestic.
However, I discovered a couple of evenings ago that, while we were 'taking a break' he had sex with a beautiful, nay drop dead gorgeous, 20 yr old... She went up to his place at least a couple of times and had hot and rampant sex. He has known her since she was 18 and has trained kickboxing with her.
Not for one minute am I saying what he did was wrong... we were not seeing each other and what man wouldn't take the opportunity to have those heavenly moments... they didn't continue seeing each other because of the age gap but, it is clear that he was smitten. He doesn't know I know about it and doesn't matter how I got to know... but I am sure of the facts.
My issue is my own sanity... I am not unattractive but I am over 2.5 times her age with wrinkles, flab, stretch marks, etc. Even at 20 I couldn't compare to her, she is stunning... so now I absolutely know I am second best how do I deal with this?
I don't want our relationship to end, we tell each other we love the other, we do have a laugh... and he is giving me absolutely no cause to think he is communicating with her. But he so has to be remembering the experience, with a fab wank bank of memories... We have always been good communicators regarding sex... like if I am away at a friends for the evening/night he will let me me know that he had a wank... it never bothered me about his thoughts/fantasies but now it does... because of the direct comparison he surely has to draw.
I suppose time will heal...
Wobbly x
In my experience there is no better place to get honest, well thought out, help and here is why I need advice...
Been seeing a man who, at 46 is nearly 9 years younger than me, for over a year now. Our relationship has been turbulent, such that we split up for about two months but hooked up again at the end of July. We are getting on very well, he stays over most nights and we are getting quite domestic.
However, I discovered a couple of evenings ago that, while we were 'taking a break' he had sex with a beautiful, nay drop dead gorgeous, 20 yr old... She went up to his place at least a couple of times and had hot and rampant sex. He has known her since she was 18 and has trained kickboxing with her.
Not for one minute am I saying what he did was wrong... we were not seeing each other and what man wouldn't take the opportunity to have those heavenly moments... they didn't continue seeing each other because of the age gap but, it is clear that he was smitten. He doesn't know I know about it and doesn't matter how I got to know... but I am sure of the facts.
My issue is my own sanity... I am not unattractive but I am over 2.5 times her age with wrinkles, flab, stretch marks, etc. Even at 20 I couldn't compare to her, she is stunning... so now I absolutely know I am second best how do I deal with this?
I don't want our relationship to end, we tell each other we love the other, we do have a laugh... and he is giving me absolutely no cause to think he is communicating with her. But he so has to be remembering the experience, with a fab wank bank of memories... We have always been good communicators regarding sex... like if I am away at a friends for the evening/night he will let me me know that he had a wank... it never bothered me about his thoughts/fantasies but now it does... because of the direct comparison he surely has to draw.
I suppose time will heal...
Wobbly x
Orgasminator
Quote by Pat69drive
Advice required re web site design and visitors sites . Does the insertion of various tags held to drive to the top of searches . What are the most effective traffic drivers . Any recommendations for web site designers . ?
The above answers will give you the help you need... there are no true shortcuts other than creating sites that download fast, provide information that people are interested and don't be tempted to the dark side of SEO (search engine optimisation).
If you get really stuck with something then you will get excellent answers and helpful responses from loads of people... me being one of them! ;-) by following this link;
HTH and message me if you need further assistance.
Orgasminator
Thanks... Just had a quick look through CRUSE site... and reading their PDFs
Orgasminator
Happy belated birthday FB 
Hope you and the old man is very happy!xx
Hope you and the old man is very happy!xx Orgasminator
It's been a while... a long, long while... I hope you are all well and having a fantastic and sexy time with each other.
This year has been pretty shite really... due to my Mum dying and I'm really trying to get over it but I wonder if I need to seek therapy for post traumatic stress as Mum died after a horrible ten days in hospital fighting for breath... I felt powerless to help and I keep having flash backs to the last day of her life... anyway I thought I'd ask the the best bunch of broad minded and life experienced people I know to see if any of you had similar experiences after the death of a loved one, especially one who died too early and stressfully... not that dying is good at any time but you know what I mean.
It's been over a year since she died but it only seems like yesterday sometimes...
Sorry that this is not a happy seasonal good wishes kind of post.
Best wishes,
Wibbly
xxxxxx
This year has been pretty shite really... due to my Mum dying and I'm really trying to get over it but I wonder if I need to seek therapy for post traumatic stress as Mum died after a horrible ten days in hospital fighting for breath... I felt powerless to help and I keep having flash backs to the last day of her life... anyway I thought I'd ask the the best bunch of broad minded and life experienced people I know to see if any of you had similar experiences after the death of a loved one, especially one who died too early and stressfully... not that dying is good at any time but you know what I mean.
It's been over a year since she died but it only seems like yesterday sometimes...
Sorry that this is not a happy seasonal good wishes kind of post.
Best wishes,
Wibbly
xxxxxx
Orgasminator
Agreed with everyone's points made so far but no one has commented on the distasteful headline that Sky came up with... it makes me wonder how some reporter's manage to sleep at night... "Dad Abandons Drowning Son To Save Wife"... I mean... just how sick is that headline!
Hello old friends... decided to pay a visit.
Hello old friends... decided to pay a visit.
Orgasminator
Top race, glad to see Lewis and team back on top, very sorry to see Bunsen Burner not doing so well... come on Ross, pull your finger out!
According to Rubens Barrichello's tweet a few moments ago he is going to the hospital to check up on Massa... so hope he is going to be okay!
All in all, a good Sunday so far!
According to Rubens Barrichello's tweet a few moments ago he is going to the hospital to check up on Massa... so hope he is going to be okay!
All in all, a good Sunday so far!
Orgasminator
Quote by bouncy332
you lucky lot i have an absolute arsehole for a dad and am glad not to have anythin to do with him so all be gratefull to have fab dads i kinda envy you in a good way
I'm in the same boat bouncy, the contributor to my XX chromosome is also a complete arse and finally I've seen the light and now consider myself a voluntary orphan.
For those of you that had loving relationships with your Dad and are sadly no longer with us I appreciate you will probably not understand my sentiments but am not going to go into boring detail to justify my stance. Just understand that I'd so much rather it not be this way and would have loved to have been there with loving card and a gift of appreciation.
Wibbly
Orgasminator
Quote by awol
Anyway, as for what smells I would love... it's not something old but I love the smell of wet earth and the smell of dew and flowers early in the mornings.
I also love the smell of bakeries, fresh bread mmm
Ohhh yes... I was up early a couple of days ago and the smell coming through the window was evocative of camping when young with friends... fun times! And fresh bread does it for me too...
Orgasminator
Another side effect of Durex lube is that it removes nail varnish... GT and I were startled to discover red smears all over the sheets after one particular lusty session a few years back. We were both relieved to discover that it was just nail varnish until we then wondered if it can remove nail varnish then why the heck would we want to put it on our cheeky bits! We didn't use it after that...
We did contact Durex to let them know but they were not in the least bit interested.
We did contact Durex to let them know but they were not in the least bit interested.
Orgasminator
Severn Trent Water is our supplier with just the two of us and we pay £25 a month for all water resources. Our water bill was much, much higher before we went onto a water meter. Your decision should be based on your usage. Check your suppliers website as they should have a way you can check what is best for you and your circumstances.
HTH
Wibbly
HTH
Wibbly
Orgasminator
Hiya,
Not been around for ages but I thought I'd pop my head in to say hello to old friends.
2008 was quite tough because I lost my Mum and to say that I was ill prepared for such an event is a master of understatement... as probably anyone who has experienced the same will agree. I never thought I'd miss her so much!
Anyway... that is last year and now a new one begins so sincerely I wish everyone good health, happiness in abundance and a financially safe 2009.
Best wishes,
Not been around for ages but I thought I'd pop my head in to say hello to old friends.
2008 was quite tough because I lost my Mum and to say that I was ill prepared for such an event is a master of understatement... as probably anyone who has experienced the same will agree. I never thought I'd miss her so much!
Anyway... that is last year and now a new one begins so sincerely I wish everyone good health, happiness in abundance and a financially safe 2009.
Best wishes,
Orgasminator
The heading is a bit misleading to be honest which becomes apparent when you read the article but interesting nonetheless.
Orgasminator
We finks that Lewis is going to win... if not Lewis then Massa... wish I'd got involved with this thread weeks ago... the first GP I attended in real life was 1986 at the Brit GP at Brands... what a fantastic introduction to F1 racing!
Not so good for my bank balance however... been to Belgian GP and German GP as well as numerous GPs in UK and other races...
If any of you get the chance to go to the Belgian GP then grab it with both hands... what a fantastic circuit... usually a bit wet though
Not so good for my bank balance however... been to Belgian GP and German GP as well as numerous GPs in UK and other races...
If any of you get the chance to go to the Belgian GP then grab it with both hands... what a fantastic circuit... usually a bit wet though
Orgasminator
Quote by Bonedigger
Just wondered about compliments and stuff, whats the nicest, sweetest thing anyone has ever said to you or about you.
What a great thread!!
From my step-daughter, the words were written in a card given to me on Mother's Day two years ago.
'I never really tell you how much you mean to me, I take you for granted too much, I couldn't find anything that says this better, so I'll tell you now instead.
'I love you so much and you mean the world to me, you are an absolutely amazing person and the greatest step-mum EVER!!!'
*sniff* the words in the card are so precious to me and GT's promised me that if I go before him there are two things going in my coffin... the card containing those words and a picture of us taken at our wedding where GT is looking at me like I am the centre of his universe...
Once again a great thread - thanks
Orgasminator
Quote by Dawnie
If women wear strap-ons do men ever wear false boobs??????
Noooooo, several men grow their own :lol2: :lol2: :lol2:
Orgasminator
Quote by Laff_n_Chilli
we can't recommend the durex tingle gel highly enuff
<snip>
for supercharging your intimate zones there's nothing better
I like the sensation but cannot stand the smell of the minty one... reminds me of mint sauce and sheep shagging! LOL
Plus... it removed one particular slut red shade of nail varnish onto my new egyptian cotton sheets... I phoned up Durex about it and they said they'd never heard of that happening before and goodbye!
Grrrr
Orgasminator
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Sorry, don't agree here, if we ever decided to buy our own home it would only to give us a little security and to be able to leave something to our kids.
Tony
Sadly it won't because you'll have to sell your house to pay for your care in old age... currently if you have less than £21,000 in assets you do not have to pay a bean towards your care - anything over and it is used up to the £21K level...
Let's say house is paid for... worth £200K... you both need care... £1000 a month each for home care... in eight years that sum is eaten up... I think the days of leaving things to the kids has long gone... unless you are going to be good enough not to linger on... what a society we live in!
Orgasminator
Quote by dekntan
electric toothbrush
:shock:
Hahahhahaa... me too... I have an old pink one in my bedside cabinet... :-D :twisted:
Orgasminator
Quote by jaymar
I come from a "depressive" family. My grandma regularly "took to her bed" when my mam was little with "episodes" they called them. Back then they presumed she was having a breakdown. Now of course, knowing the symptoms she had, she needed more help for depression. Because of being brought up in that environment, my mam became a depressive person also.
Is depression hereditary or is it just that a depressive atmosphere brings you down?Either way, after watching my mam in her depression and nursing her through two suicide attempts I vowed I would do my utmost to try and overcome the illness if I ever had it.
I've had "down" moments in my life, more anxiety than depression. I'm lucky and touch wood I've not had full blown depression. My heart goes out to anyone suffering who suffers as I know first hand the effects it has on people.
I do believe there is a genetic connection... my ex suffers with bipolar which you could virtually set your watch by... after eight years of living with it I became very acute to the signals... little things like him yawning a lot - even though he was hyper told me that in about three days a crash would come and it always did...
His mother and his maternal grandmother suffered the same... *sigh* some have good genes and some don't... fantastically intelligent family though... in the circumstances though that is could be more of a burden than a bonus...
Orgasminator
Quote by Catcorb
Watched 28 weeks later and 300 last night. Both watchable 28 weeks not as good as 28 days but when is a sequel as good as the original?
The Empire Strikes Back was a superlative sequel!
Orgasminator
Quote by hornyinslough
The last few months I have been experiencing PMT that is just getting worse and worse and is intolerable to me let alone anyone around me.
Has anyone tried anything that really made a difference to PMT-related dperession/foul moods/raging anger?
:taz:
You have my sympathy, sincerely you do... my PMS has gotten worse over the past three years... poor GT!
Just silly little things that you could normally just ignore will trigger off the most irrational anger and while you are mouthing off, there is small yet sane part of your brain acknowledging that you are being incredibly unfair...
For me... if I eat the dreaded marmite, keep topped up with fluids (non-alcoholic) and eat small but regular amounts like a Mars Bar for brekkie followed by a packet of chocolate digestives for elevenses...
A wacking great cheese salad cob with crisps followed by chocolate gateaux for lunch...
Hagen Daz strawberry cheesecake at about
Pizza with chips and curly fries with a soupcon of salad (gotta stay healthy) for supper...
works for me!
Orgasminator
Quote by Sarah
I do my ironing and I refuse to do his,and I wouldn't want him doing mine either, the creases will be in all the wrong places!!!
:lol:
Sounds like he needs some training! :twisted:
Orgasminator
Quote by Dawnie
Sometimes I wish I hadn't bloody bothered :doh:
LOL! :giveup:
I really did consider that may have been your reason for asking but your 'one word' response seemed a bit curt... my apologies...
Orgasminator
Quote by Dawnie
ps i am considering!!
Why?
Why is it anybody's business as to why he is considering having a vasectomy... it isn't really any of our business is it? :confused:
He only asked for opinions about vasectomies.. not particularly eloquently though, I grant you...
This isn't meant as a personal attack on you Dawn... xx
It's just that I've noticed over the past year or so that some threads are pounced on in quite an aggressive manner instead of just being ignored...
Surely, if we feel that something is merely innappropriate (as opposed to being either illegal or agains the forum's user policy) then it is best to just ignore the post... :confused:
Sometimes, when I read a thread that has got jumped on by the 'SH Police', I feel uncomfortable 'cos it can get (in my humble opinion) a bit OTT...
Just my tuppence worth to throw into the melting pot of SH...
Sincere thoughts that are meant well...
Hugggggggggggggggggs
Wibbly
xxxxx
