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_Darth_
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 58
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It's a tough situation to be watching and for someone to be in but you can only do so much to help/advise her as she's been in that relationship for that length of time for a reason - hard as it may be to understand from the outside, she was/is getting something from it and he is also - and at the end of the day, she's the one who will eventually realise that the relationship is not one she need remain in.
There's a very interesting book called 'Confusing Love With Obsession' by John D Moore which discusses the various behaviours/methods used by bad partners/victims in such relationships.
There's a very interesting book called 'Confusing Love With Obsession' by John D Moore which discusses the various behaviours/methods used by bad partners/victims in such relationships.
Sex God
I think I'm in a minority on this one - I've always thought her vastly overated ...
Just read Amber's reply below and realise I was thinking of the other Fern ... you know, that young, skinny one used to present kiddies TV when she was a kid herself.
Still, answer roughly the same - though I have to say that I've always thought she has a fun personality which I think people would be attracted to.
Just read Amber's reply below and realise I was thinking of the other Fern ... you know, that young, skinny one used to present kiddies TV when she was a kid herself.Still, answer roughly the same - though I have to say that I've always thought she has a fun personality which I think people would be attracted to.
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Rock and a hard place ...
If he goes, he's a hell of a prize target and that unquestionably increases the risk to the rest of his troop ... no arguing about that.
If he doesn't go, or is stuck behind a desk ... what did he bother signing up for if he's never going to see the front line?
If he goes, he's a hell of a prize target and that unquestionably increases the risk to the rest of his troop ... no arguing about that.
If he doesn't go, or is stuck behind a desk ... what did he bother signing up for if he's never going to see the front line?
Sex God
It's usually phone types because people haven't changed the default name for their phone but have bluetooth switched on ... not really a great idea because of security issues though a useful way of knowing if forum members are around when there's a meet ... I'm gonna shut up now before everyone thinks I'm a geek and should have stayed offline a while longer 
Sex God
Don't see the list myself as I guess you have to be subscribed to the Extras for that, but really, I don't think it intrusive or creepy really.
Needs to be put into context rather than read too much into it.
As has been said, sometimes people look at someones profile out of curiosity plain and simple, sometimes simply because of something they've said in forum or on chat. Doesn't necessarily mean "you're" interested or otherwise ... though I would say I'd think it a bit odd if someone whose profile I'd looked at and not contacted should PM me because they're upset/offended and asking why I'd not contacted them etc etc.
Anyway, surely anyone who doesn't like their profiles being looked at, should just leave them blank?
... I know, mine's blank, but it's just because I've been too damn lazy to get off my arse to fill it in properly ... so go spank me! ...
Needs to be put into context rather than read too much into it.
As has been said, sometimes people look at someones profile out of curiosity plain and simple, sometimes simply because of something they've said in forum or on chat. Doesn't necessarily mean "you're" interested or otherwise ... though I would say I'd think it a bit odd if someone whose profile I'd looked at and not contacted should PM me because they're upset/offended and asking why I'd not contacted them etc etc.
Anyway, surely anyone who doesn't like their profiles being looked at, should just leave them blank?
... I know, mine's blank, but it's just because I've been too damn lazy to get off my arse to fill it in properly ... so go spank me! ...
Sex God
Never understood the attraction of shagging a plastic/rubber doll myself ... though these living dolls are the most realistic I've ever heard of, they kinda look a bit creepy if you ask me - it's the odd frozen expressions and the lifeless, unblinking, unfocused eyes ... certainly thought that old bloke was quite high on the scale of weird! You certainly wouldn't want to be a neighbour would you???
Had to keep asking myself if this was meant to be a big joke ...
Had to keep asking myself if this was meant to be a big joke ...
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Quote by tyneside4fun
i dont have hates as such, maybe little annoyances.....but id say they were about particular members attitudes, nit picking and self righteousness etc etc etc rather than the actual forum as a whole. i also agree that more people posting would be a good thing, its just sad that people maybe dont feel comfortable posting here for fear of a negative reception, from fellow members and mods/ops.
totally agree there dont post often but have found some people allways take things the wrong way not all but some do me thinks some people look at post,s to see if there is something they can argue about or try and belittle people..........ok nothing wrong in putting forward your point of view but everyone might not agree
Gotta say, makes me wonder what they'd be like in real life ... I mean, if someone can't post anonymously for fear of a less than perfect reception in cyberspace ... what hope is there in real life?
Wouldn't wnat to work with anyone like that ... Feck! I'd be spending all my time in front of HR for having upset their feeble feelings!
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Quote by Scandal
Ive got news for you “its not!â€
Ive been on here now for about a year
Im a single guy
Now allow me to point a few things out
It took me 4 months of posting in here before I got my first meet
You don’t just “pay your money and take your pick†lads
You have to work at it
And when people get to know you they will want to meet you
You don’t just walk up to someone in a pub an say “ fancy a shagâ€
Ether her or her boy friend will slap you
So! To summarise
Be nice
Be funny
Be polite
Be patient
Be friends
Any questions ?
Not again!!!!
:roll: :roll: This really is another tedious, dull, boring, look at me thread about the only way "we"do things round here.
What you are doing is called "my way or the highway" or "single transferable solution"
It means that you think that there is only one way of doing things and is typical of some of the solely based forum munch bunch.
Of the hundreds of thousands of people who use this site what on earth makes you think that many, all or any of them want to go about things the same way as you do? What works for you doesn't work or appeal to others.
What about clubbers for a start, do they get you to fill in a questionairre before you engage? No! Are they interested in your Nans dog or your daughters fookin pony riding lessons?
There are thousands of couples and singles who are looking for meets on this site and many others who are not particularly interested in 95% of you other than if, when and where you can meet and what your interests are. Doggers - explain that one!!
There's plenty of people who wouldn't want you or I as a friend, they need to know if you're sexy, easy to get on with and if you walk the walk or not. I, and many others like me haven't got the time or inclination to spend hours wading through reams of mails wanting to know your best joke, wage, political leanings or any other information you might think is interesting but would bore the crap out of me.
For alot of people, I didn't say all (and that's the point) all we need to know is if you're sexy, wether you're fanciable, meet certain criteria and if you'd like to meet or waste my time and yours. Of course there are horses for courses and everyone is different but what there isn't is one way i.e. the sercher way of meeting people on here for sex.
What you have done, and several people before you and, no doubt several after you is met some people and feel piously righteous enough to tell everyone the closely guarded secrets of "the way".
There are women and men who want a quick shag, you can meet them, they post on here, the last minute adds? DUH!!!! go figure!
You might be better considering this, in the minisculey (sp) small corner of the internet that you occupy, in your tiny haven of friends that maybe make you feel secure, there is a huge concophony of millions of other people who have never heard of you or your "way", a few moments of self reflection may help you to see that we're not all quite like you and we're not all hoping to judge our success or failure by your own self deluding standards. Blinkered cossyness is crap, diversity is wonderfull in my "humble" opinion.
I was going to go on about how I detest the whiney newbie This site don't work posts and the corresponding oldie Take my sage advice ... single male ... numbers against you ... work at it ... stand out ... grovel, grovel type posts ... which would probably piss a load of people off ...
But ... You know something? I couldn't put it better than you have ... so I concur!
Sex God
Quote by Medic_1
PTV (post traumatic vulva) is not uncommon in cases like this.
Treatment and prevention is simple :-
PEOPLE make sure you cut your fingernails first.
(that was a SH Health message from the Treatment Room of SH Towers)
Absolutely ...
Saw something I though was weird the other day - couple on the train, noticed the male had long pointy fingernails on one hand - the other hand was taimmed nice and neat ... well, to me that was odd ...
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Quote by poshkate
the question I think really is whether you could actually act it out in real life..........its all well and good firing off emotions saying that you could do it........but seriously until you know the full details of a situation there is no way you can tell.......
... which is what I was saying ... it's all well and good everyone jumping in and saying, 'Hell, yeah! I'd kill the scumbag with no hesitation to save a loved one, and then go off for a nice cuppa tea' ... but it's completely hypothetical and the reality would doubtless be very different and who knows what you'd do then? We all imagine we'd act decisively as it's easier to think that way, but for all you know, you might be scared shitless, frozen to the spot and piss yourself ...
The problem with hypotheticals like this is they are posed in such a way that there is only one answer ...
That's not saying nobody has a valid opinion, just that I think what people imagine they'd do, may not be what they'd do in real life ...
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Quote by Bobokins01
AHHHHHHHH Brilliant made me laugh !!!!!!!!!!! - feel sorry for the chicken - what was the last thing that went through its mind ---- it arse --- lol -----------
Not much went thru its mind ... on account it was already dead ... fridge freezing frosty too ...
Sex God
Like everyone else, answer is a definite, Yes, no hesitation!
BUT Come on, it's a pretty stupid question as it's phrased in such a way that the vast majority of people would give this answer, sitting there with your cup of hot chocolate, in fluffy slippers and on a comfy chair - no need for the wankety-wank reasons about 'to save a loved one etc' .
Truth to tell, the only way you'll really know what you'd do is if the situation actually happened ... ... and my belief is that, it'd be such a horrendous prospect and so outside a normal persons daily life experience, that there would be some sort of hesitation, however brief, and after the fact, there would be nightmares et al.
8-)
BUT
Come on, it's a pretty stupid question as it's phrased in such a way that the vast majority of people would give this answer, sitting there with your cup of hot chocolate, in fluffy slippers and on a comfy chair - no need for the wankety-wank reasons about 'to save a loved one etc' .Truth to tell, the only way you'll really know what you'd do is if the situation actually happened ... ... and my belief is that, it'd be such a horrendous prospect and so outside a normal persons daily life experience, that there would be some sort of hesitation, however brief, and after the fact, there would be nightmares et al.
8-)
Sex God
'Hate' is probably too strong a word for it but I find truly cringeworthy those posts that announce that X and Y are now a couple and then go into a round of mutual 'love you loads because ...'
Month or two down the line, you get the obligatory, 'X and Y have now split up ... and I don't want to talk about it - or - I'm now in the depths of despair and need a cuddle/hug' posting ... Have some dignity/self-respect 'man' ...
Not that I'm against people here matching up etc - best of luck to them I say - just find it a bit weird the need to make these announcements.
Month or two down the line, you get the obligatory, 'X and Y have now split up ... and I don't want to talk about it - or - I'm now in the depths of despair and need a cuddle/hug' posting ...
Have some dignity/self-respect 'man' ... Not that I'm against people here matching up etc - best of luck to them I say - just find it a bit weird the need to make these announcements.
Sex God
... not too bothered about the missing posts etc and assomeone said already, there are more important things going on around us than SH postings ...
... Still, have to ask cos I'm curious, but doesn't this database have such thing as online backups and point in time recovery?
... Still, have to ask cos I'm curious, but doesn't this database have such thing as online backups and point in time recovery?
Sex God
Hi, Sorry but not going to be able to make this ... didn't learn from last year and again left it too late to get tickets for the TG ... real bummer as Halloween TG is usually pretty good :cry: ... though to be honest, have had a shitty few weeks and had to deal with family things.
Sex God
Can only speak at a single, but not sure that makes any difference as at the end of the day, you can only go on recommendations given here/elsewhere and I think whichever club it is, even the really popular ones - the nature of 'things' is that it's not so much the club or even how many or few people there are at a club on any particular night, but the collection of people there on the night that make the difference.
I've been to various clubs when it's been extremely busy in terms of numbers there, and absolutely no play has happened of any kind, and I've been to nights when there have only been a handful of people there and they've been fantastic.
I've been to various clubs when it's been extremely busy in terms of numbers there, and absolutely no play has happened of any kind, and I've been to nights when there have only been a handful of people there and they've been fantastic.
Sex God
Personally, my perspective is that the 'life and soul of the party' thing, is nothing more than a pretence and as such not coping since once you get home or whatever, guess what - it's just you and you can't pretend to yourself ... the opposite, 'sink into a deep dark hole' is completely counter-productive and as such something of a waste of time as it gets you nowhere and needless to say - it's not coping either.
I think how we 'cope' is something that isn't so much a conscious decision 'to cope' but something internal to ourselves ... I'm a natural optimist and one thing I always think of is that no matter how shitty we each think our lives are at any point in time, there are literally milions of people who would envy us our lives - that's not just rhetoric either.
Stay Frosty!
I think how we 'cope' is something that isn't so much a conscious decision 'to cope' but something internal to ourselves ... I'm a natural optimist and one thing I always think of is that no matter how shitty we each think our lives are at any point in time, there are literally milions of people who would envy us our lives - that's not just rhetoric either.
Stay Frosty!
