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Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 58
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Sex God
Quote by keeno
How do you cope when you are feeling down? What do you do when it seems the world has turned against you? Do you put on a brave face and become the heart and soul of the party or do you disappear into a deep, dark hole?
Depends on the situation itse;f but in short, "Neither", ... certainly not the latter ...
Sex God
Quote by curvy-gal
Hello xxx
Well i've got a bit of a story for ya!
I recently decided to just take the plunge and arrange a meet!
I put an ad on my profile and I had a great responce!!!
However, since I put on my profile that i expect a guy to wear a condom, I've not had ONE pm.
Is this a problem for blokes? Whats the deal? lol
Nope, you're certainly not weird and but for the distance, would be PMing you myself ...
Sex God
Quote by BJME
howthe fuck do u get over the pain in your head and the sleepless nites and the thoughts of what if i had????
and for me the heartbreak, literrally.
How do u tell the next person u meet you are worth something but dont know what???
bbj
Part of the healing process is getting over the feelings you've expressed with such anger and bitterness ... it takes time and you'll get over it and so true, all the advice in the world is simply that ... end of the day, you're just going to have to go through the process to come out the other side and work on any issues you have about self-worth.
Either that or you allow yourself to wallow in self pity which isn't actually going to help you meet anyone and who on earth wants that in a partner?
Sex God
Don't think it matters at all if it's just fuck buddies ... though I would say there must be some sort of attraction there in the first place for it to get there.
Not sure why the looks thing should come into it though, unless you're going to be parading him around or something ...
If he's going to think otherwise, my suiggestion would be that you make sure he knows that he's just a sex object
If he can't accept that or harbours any hope that you'll start to fall for him then stop it now and find another ... or why not teach hubby those things the FB did that you liked so much .
Not sure why the looks thing should come into it though, unless you're going to be parading him around or something ...
If he's going to think otherwise, my suiggestion would be that you make sure he knows that he's just a sex object
If he can't accept that or harbours any hope that you'll start to fall for him then stop it now and find another ... or why not teach hubby those things the FB did that you liked so much . Sex God
Quote by Abilene
It does happen here.
I can understand the anger when people do this but, I don't know, I sort of think the notion that it doesn't happen is a bit on the naive side?
This happens everywhere - be it in a club, pub, on internet chat etc ... the fact that this is a swingers forum is no different and IMO it probably means it is even more likely?
Call me cynical, but I do read comments sometimes about something or other, and think, 'Nah! this guy/girl is talking bollox and is only doing so as it's PC'. People aren't THAT different between 'here' and the real world - just easier to pretend to be something else ... I'll probably get slammed for this
Sex God
... as if the suspect cat poo pic wasn't enough to put people off ... woken up at about 1:30am by sound of cat building himself up for a vomit ... you know, that funny gurgling sound they make as they force it up from their stomach ... did I mention he was lying next to me on top of the duvet at the time? :uhoh:
I never woke up or moved so fast from my slumber ... not fast enough as he vomited up on the bedroom floor!!! Floorboards not carpet 'luckily' but pretty disgusting anyhow ... :fuckinghell:
Decided to move him, kitty litter and cat bed into bathroom as the only room with no carpet in case he does it again but then he made a heck of a racket trying to get out so have had to let him out into the garden for the night ... not ideal
I never woke up or moved so fast from my slumber ... not fast enough as he vomited up on the bedroom floor!!! Floorboards not carpet 'luckily' but pretty disgusting anyhow ... :fuckinghell:
Decided to move him, kitty litter and cat bed into bathroom as the only room with no carpet in case he does it again but then he made a heck of a racket trying to get out so have had to let him out into the garden for the night ... not ideal
Sex God
Quote by petal24
We work together. He's not on here.
And he was slightly bothered about me being married - he knew about that from the start. But that didn't stop him kissing me.
I was very very drunk - he said he was sober. So i'm thinking maybe its just the marriage thing, because his email said he was concerned about 'the situation I'm in'.
Btw, we didn't have sex - just kissed. But now I want more & am trying to figure out if he likes me or not. The married thing I can overcome if he fancies me.
He sounds kinda odd to me - but I think he'll overcome his concerns about the 'situation' you're in ... he's already partway there as he initiated the kiss.
But I'm with Manolishi actually about this whole question - it's not entirely clear from your profile whether you're swinging or planning to, with your husbands knowledge and agreement or simply doing it on your own as a decision of your own.
Sex God
Quote by BJME
I am going thru the same now down here in Bristol. Every day is torture knowing that someone u love dont love u anymore. To cap it all she is the most wonderful person ever in my life and Ive lost her even though we still live in same house its agony watching her get ready to go out to socialise with others. Its eating my insides away day by day. If anyone down here has time to give me to talk over a drink Id really appreciate the company. Cos at the moment its VERY LONELY IN LIFE. Sad I know but Im sure peeps understand that.
BJ
Sorry to hear that BJ, it'll get easier though it may not feel that way right now. I don't think living in the same house together is a great idea though as that's just making it harder especially as it sounds like she's moving on and planning for the future. You need to do the same though I'm guessing the house is co-owned which complicates things.
Quote by keeno
Consider this. Is it better to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't really care for you or to be on your own?
Good question and good point - answer clearly the latter though it won't yet feel that way for anyone going through the process now ...
Stay Frosty!
Sex God
Quote by Abilene
Ok, I am seriously not going to mention names in here as I feel that shows no class but I do feel that a little something about this may need to be put out there. Also please do NOT try to play detective and guess who I may or may not be talking about because you WILL end up being wrong because it's not an obvious thing.
This is a swingers site right? Where people with all kinds of tastes, styles and kinks like to come right? Well, should it really be the place to come if you have attachment issues? In other words if you get attached TOO fast. If you get upset with someone if they are playing with others, flirting with others or heck just talking with others should you be here? As long as the person has been 100% honest with you and no expectations were ever laid out, no promises made and no misimpressions given then you are doing whatever may have happened now or in the future between you and that person a misjustice because you are likely to push the person away. Had there been any promises etc made then I could surely understand but this is not the place to put your toe in the water unless you think you can handle swimming. There is nothing wrong with having feelings, thats not what I am trying to say, all I am saying is that maybe if you have attachment issues then you need to figure those out before venturing into a place as openminded as this is.
Ok, I hope I put that all clearly, respectfully and with an honest heart.
Mods .. if you feel this is in the wrong place or that I am out of line please feel free to move it.
Abi xx
Short answer, Yes, if you have attachment issues, prone to jealousy etc, this is the wrong place to be ... as would also be the case even if this were not a swingers site - in a real world 'relationship' for instance ... you are right that such issues need to be dealt with first as they are destructive.
Sex God
Hmmm, I think you guys need therapy :P Shopping is no big deal, decide what you want and go get it - that's the man's approach to shopping, none of this farting around going up and down aisles that you don't need to go down!
I concur, gets a bit more complicated when you have a woman with you ...
Anyway, where does it say you HAVE to do your shopping at the same time as the masses on the weekend? There are enough supermarkets open 24 hrs or late into the evening that this is not necessary ...
I concur, gets a bit more complicated when you have a woman with you ...
Anyway, where does it say you HAVE to do your shopping at the same time as the masses on the weekend? There are enough supermarkets open 24 hrs or late into the evening that this is not necessary ...
Sex God
I know you say you're too shy to do so, but really, just turn up ... what are you afraid will happen?
Treat it as just a trip down to the pub - go in, get a couple drinks and relax, observe the people around you - lots of them will just be chatting away. Any decent club will give you a quick tour to see where everything is and most/all have a social area. It's not like you'll be walking into a place with naked couples/singles banging away in front of you and nobody will rip your clothes off just because you're there. Even in the play areas, you don't have to participate and are free to simply observe.
You've nothing to fear but the fear in your own minds.
Treat it as just a trip down to the pub - go in, get a couple drinks and relax, observe the people around you - lots of them will just be chatting away. Any decent club will give you a quick tour to see where everything is and most/all have a social area. It's not like you'll be walking into a place with naked couples/singles banging away in front of you and nobody will rip your clothes off just because you're there. Even in the play areas, you don't have to participate and are free to simply observe.
You've nothing to fear but the fear in your own minds.
Sex God
Conspiracy theorists must be having orgasms over this! 
I just think it's amusing that all the single guys who are really couples as their partners don't know about the using this will be thinking - 'Shit! Has she found me out? how to play this - what's my excuse, can I turn this development to my advantage? As she's here - does this mean we can swing as a couple?'
I just think it's amusing that all the single guys who are really couples as their partners don't know about the using this will be thinking - 'Shit! Has she found me out? how to play this - what's my excuse, can I turn this development to my advantage? As she's here - does this mean we can swing as a couple?'
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Quote by midscplfun
Complete con ... loada tommy tank for the easily influenced ... same goes for the 'Most Haunted' nonsense you see on TV.
An opinion held by lots........................and the only thing answer I can give is you cant prove it doesnt happen or exist which adds far more weight to the whole unexplained arena whether it be Most Haunted, Tarot or Mediumship etc ................ For the betting population amongst the believers we have far better odds
Don't get me wrong, I'm not a total sceptic and the subject is an intriguing one, but I think that's a bit of a silly argument. Just because you can't totally disprove something does not mean it 'exists' ... or vice versa ...
There is actually an argument - can't remember the name of it, something like the theory of falsification - goes something like, you can never PROVE something 100%, only the high probability that you're right ... eg. The sun comes up every day ... we've seen it come up every day for centuries so it's highly likely that it'll come up tomorrow - it only takes one day when it doesn't come up to prove you wrong.
Sex God
Quote by anais
Don't fret Anais I've never had a problem yet getting a ticket for TG. You can order online and pick them up on the door.
At worst you can always cancel a hotel room up to 24 hrs before, but hopefully you won't need to use that option.
Thanks Bassman.... I'll book with confidence then hehe
Now is TG held in the same venue everytime? So I look for the nearest hotel.... I'd rather find something walking distance than something miles away. Long as I dont get a hotel wheres its £26 for two slices of toast for breakie again
The bathroom was nice tho! xanaisx
No, TG uses a number of venues though 'Mass' at Brixton is considered by many as their 'home' venue. Last one they had was at a club called 'Hidden' in Vauxhall which was a really good venue, lots of different areas and great tunes.
Thanks for that info..had a feeling they moved venues. Oh well..maybe I should go for a hotel thats sorta central then?
Saw some good feedback in BDSM forum about the last one!
Must make it to Hades sometime too..you been?
xanaisx
Have not been to Hades myself, but hear good things about it ...
Sex God
Quote by Tiger_25
Hi,
Would love to come to the drinks - not sure about TG yet though! Sounds a bit scary, but maybe once I've got my head round the idea.
Nothing to be scared of ... the fetish crowd are generally a pretty relaxed bunch of people ... have never seen any violence at a fetish event as people don't generally get boozed up like at a vanilla club!
Sex God
Quote by anais
Don't fret Anais I've never had a problem yet getting a ticket for TG. You can order online and pick them up on the door.
At worst you can always cancel a hotel room up to 24 hrs before, but hopefully you won't need to use that option.
Thanks Bassman.... I'll book with confidence then hehe
Now is TG held in the same venue everytime? So I look for the nearest hotel.... I'd rather find something walking distance than something miles away. Long as I dont get a hotel wheres its £26 for two slices of toast for breakie again
The bathroom was nice tho! xanaisx
No, TG uses a number of venues though 'Mass' at Brixton is considered by many as their 'home' venue. Last one they had was at a club called 'Hidden' in Vauxhall which was a really good venue, lots of different areas and great tunes.
