focusing on 'appearance' for a woman my ideal would be a mature, slim, tatood burlesque/gothic/leather/business styled woman,smelling beautiful with a powerful front hiding a tender edge; and for a male it would be someone older, clean, well endowed and able to control their urge to cum.
Biggest put off and alarm bell: "I'm married and can't let my partner know" urgh, shame on you asshole!
Not experienced anything from here yet but looking forward to my first time
