Everyone remembers their first time, that's a fair amount of responsibility to look after there! Myself I am glad I waited til I was in a relationship with someone I loved before I lost it, we were both virgins and overcoming the nervousness and getting used to the intimacy with each other's bodies was the hardest part. Took a few goes before the full thing happened but wow it was worth it. I don't think I could take her virginity as a casual thing. I take it you're a few years older Sparky? If you did do it, at least she'd be with someone more confident and experienced and mature - guys tend to mature later than girls so better from that respect.
When she enjoys it (hopefully) I'm sure she's going to want to do it again and explore more, will that be with you and there's all the worries about attachment with such strong feelings.
I think you need to talk to her seriously about it and make sure she's wanting it for good reasons, and not just to boast to her friends / not to feel left out, or 'cos she happened to be feeling a bit horny one evening.
I'm sure a lot of people lose it that way and later wish it had been different, but you can try at least to make sure this girl won't.
Oops that was way too serious... Moo!
You want to ask for a spare helmet and probably wear something protective too. My first ever (and only.. don't tell my dad) ride on a bike was a mate's 900cc and he took me and then someone else out on it just locally, but we got up to a reasonable speed - enough that I was a little worried about holding on.
Far happier with my Scoob thanks, yes they're lovely cars aren't they. I don't quite have 300bhp (he's got an STi, or Jap import? or just mod'd) but it is damn good fun and awesome grip and brakes. Gives you so much confidence in it's abilities. Outbrakes a bike any day, so on a short and twisty course I can keep up with fairly sporty things but not a chance against a 900cc ish or more, especially on a dual carriageway (tried it once from a standing start, all the way kept up with 250cc and was trying to overtake but he wouldn't let me past; faster bikes zoomed off but I caught them up by the next roundabout).
I was going to reply and mention that one of the DJ's on Radio 1, or maybe it was a guest - Colin somebody who has presented C4's late night music show in the past - went and had one done recently and talked about it on air and people were commenting on it; but you already got it done. So this advice is more for anyone else still wondering about it.
He said that you have to be sure you really want it, cos it is rather permanent and obviously it has to be one you can live with not just on your tastes now but for 10, 20, or 30 years. Be very sure of the design, make sure to look after it properly especially while it's still settling in / whatever they call the initial healing time just after it's done. But if you really want one and still want one after thinking about it for long enough you'll love it. Just be very committed if you want it, don't do it on a whim.
Hope that's helped anyone.
Hold-ups, fishnet (maybe slightly larger hole - have seen it as "industrial net"). Fence-net's ok but not as sexy. What I'm really trying to find are some that have more material (and not just threads, I mean like solid material) with holes between and the right ratio of material to hole to provide the teasing of flesh and the darkening colour effect and being "trussed up" and "2nd skin" effect too... It's all those in combination that make them so sexy. Oh, and that they finish at your thighs, a very sensitive and erotic area. So you can feel the tops of them.
Tights - sorry, no. Maybe when you're at work or on a cold day out shopping or something. But not to cavort around the room in with your partner. Unless they're (maybe) suspender tights or something. Not really seen anyone in those for real.
Suspenders are rather nice too. Depends on the belt and everything though.
Ooh please can I have one of these to suck! MMmmm looks so tasty!
Heard of it last year via my mate who's left one a couple of times. Seen the site, but don't really read enough to make it as a proper bookcrosser. Reminds me I should check up again see if there's any in the neighbourhood.
Andyjohnny,
Oh my god this post came at exactly the right time.. Thankyou so much for expressing your thoughts and everyone else for the encouragement. I have never suffered severe depression or repeated bouts of it, but I have recently met (non-SH) a lovely girl who I get on with really well and see us at least being great friends long term if not more.
She also suffers the same thing - noone has yet managed to find a cause in about ~15yrs (from what she's said). We haven't been seeing each other for very long at all but I already get along with her so well and feel happy to talk to her about stuff that very very few other friends in my life know about. All this after only a few dates (ok, and many late nite MSN sessions). Obviously we're still getting to know each other this early on. She's not interested in a long term relationship at the moment, I think partly because of the depression, or just calming down her life after a period of wild exploration, that she wants to get to know herself a bit better, and I'd rather have the friendship than ruin anything, but I am also really attracted to her and her personality and I've had some really hard decisions to try and make. I don't know if I can really have an answer I'm happy with just yet but I don't want to ruin what we have as friends, or what it could grow into. It's kind of knocked me for 6 in some ways.
I partly feel I haven't got enough experience with relationships to know how I would be with some of the directions it could go. I don't know how bad it has been for her or how bad it is likely to get, as far as I know she's never tried to commit suicide. I don't want to go into it naively and she's not (oh no! no way!) secretive or closed-minded about it, but I am a bit apprehensive.
But I agree with other posts here - love conquers all and their undelying personality is the most important part, if you are in love with that and can be there to provide support and help when needed then what more is there to ask yourself?
Thanks for the comments peeps.
Oh my god if she ever finds this site/this post (not that she doesn't know this about me anyway)... Just in case: hi, please tell me if you've just read this!
After a practice run in July I should be graduating from club newbie (albeit that's a social) and ready for this meet. Can I come too please? Already met some of the people going, and would like to meet more of them and put more faces to names besides. DreamerHelen you should recognise me by name at least from the chatroom. If you need anyone to vouch for me I won't have any problems pointing you at someone - pm me.
naughtynymphos, hope you have a great evening. Maybe I'll get a chance (prob. a different club - shame, from what I've heard about Chams) another time (or with someone else or whatever). Bi night sounds ok, although it might be better to have tried it properly before jumping in at the deep end with a specialist club night. Ta for your message again. Tell your hubby I'm cool with it too unless I get a chance to first.
One more time bump.. Know it's not much notice, but just to increase people who'll have seen the thread title a bit more.
Never been to a club before, if anyone would like to invite me as a partner?? Probably staying at a B&B Sat. night, to be decided nearer the time (have a biiig list of them, sure I can find one with a free room) - otherwise preparing for worst case scenario of sleeping in car, if I really have to (but really expect not to).
I'm coming on in leaps and milestones - my first Cafe thread the other week, and now my first LMU thread. Anyway...
I'm on hols at the mo and my plans to visit a friend at the weekend fell through but I still fancy a trip out somewhere, maybe Wales or Midlands-ish. Or even a little further north if persuaded. Mainly for sightseeing, a bit of a drive, and indulge my photography hobby.
It would be nice to meet up with anyone I know on the way for a drink or two or an evening, planning on staying in a B&B and will find one nearer the time / as I get there. No expectations of anything beyond that. I've been to a couple of munches and, most recently, Wish's birthday party, and several people can vouch for me being a perfect gentleman and very genuine, polite and honest. Love to tease and be teased, am a bit cheeky and up for a laugh, good sense of humour.
I'm 29yrs old, slim, into pvc, stockings (fishnets in particular), oral, kissing the neck right around the hairline, and my ad's are in my signature for any more details - couples, ladies, also orally bi-curious for suck/wank only if I should meet someone or male half of a couple suitable enough I feel comfortable with (am a little picky as it would be my first time with that).
Would be great to meet people I already know, but anyone interested is welcome to say hi, particularly if someone regular on here can vouch for you. Try me and see! As I said, just good company would be cool, I'd like to get to know one or two more of you northerners (well, to me... not exactly Scotland is it).
Breezer
I'd love to come too. Location...hmm... We need somewhere open-air that allows a bit of privacy/not just anyone being able to get in, could be difficult. A marquee would be good too if it decides to rain. Unless someone knows of a place to hire. Anyone got either of these?
Why oh why did she dump me? She was the love of my life. I can't live any longer, I think I'll just stand here and wait for this rock to fall on me and end the misery. :cry:
OR
(you know the massive sphynx in Egypt with most of the nose missing?)
They'll never find it here! I'll just push it a bit further up the hill.
Been a big Madonna fan ever since the mid-late 80s, Vogue and Into the Groove are my faves from that era, Frozen I think has to be my all-time top fave song ever although it jostles for that spot a bit with other songs depending on my mood. Annoyed too many people turning the volume up when that was out as a single...
She was dead sexy 80s/early-mid90s, and still looks good, although some of her looks haven't appealed as much over the years. But wouldn't say no. Love the music - avoiding the really early years (er... yeah...).
Saw her in Earl's Court and the tickets were expensive, but it was worth it (sold 2 of 4 of them off anyway at a profit to make it cheaper for me + friend to go see them). What a show!
An enlightening thread - never considered a double-ender could involve guys when in action either (well apart from acting like a very long dildo). I do rather enjoy having something up there whether balls or a dildo/vibe, in combination with front-end fun (from a wank upwards) actually.
It would take a lot of trust and knowing someone well enough before I'd let anyone else control what/how much is in there. It would have to be artificial too although a finger tip isn't totally out of the question given time/right circumstance. Also yet to experience rimming - a tongue could be pretty good.
I suppose all the ladies wanting to try are up north, same as for everything else... :cry: