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Thanks for that Kat. There is definately a common theme among the posts on this thread.
I accept that there are a number of genuine reasons for email bouncing (to put your address on a contact site, and then block non address book listed mails seems a bit odd)
Some of the trails that have gone cold on me are ones that have been initiated by women in reponse to my ads tho' which seems strange, unless I've come across as a real weirdo (yes guys, they do respond to our ads occaisionally)
But the numbers game thing is correct....
I accept that there are a number of genuine reasons for email bouncing (to put your address on a contact site, and then block non address book listed mails seems a bit odd)
Some of the trails that have gone cold on me are ones that have been initiated by women in reponse to my ads tho' which seems strange, unless I've come across as a real weirdo (yes guys, they do respond to our ads occaisionally)
But the numbers game thing is correct....
absolutely agree with you, particulalry the last paragraph. it is rude, even a "I dont like your photo" reply would be fine.
and while I'm on this particular soap box, sometning that reallly annoys me, (doesnt seem to happen on here tho) is people who cant post up their email addresses properly.
I reckon I get about 50% of mail bounced back from approaches made on other sites
and while I'm on this particular soap box, sometning that reallly annoys me, (doesnt seem to happen on here tho) is people who cant post up their email addresses properly.
I reckon I get about 50% of mail bounced back from approaches made on other sites
OK I’ve been looking into this internet swinging gig for about 6 weeks now. I welcome the comments of the more experienced and I thought some feedback may help others.
Firstly (for the single guys out there trying to break in) my response ratio when I reply to ads from Women seeking Men is about 5% (except when I cock it up and reply to a woman seeking woman ad, ‘cos then I always get a snotty reply, sorry my fault for getting over excited and not reading properly).
YES 5%…..we should all know by now that the ladies who post get inundated with replies, it’s a fact of life (and sex) and I genuinely appreciate their predicament. If they replied to everyone who mailed them they would have no time for sex at all.
Included in that 5% are the timewasters (send me a pic of your cock). WHY???? Reply, phone me, or meet me, and you can see (and have) the real thing !!! I’m sorry I just don’t get the “cock pic collector” thing.
Once a dialogue is started (by this I mean a couple of email exchanges at least) I’ve had the trail go cold…..if I’ve said something to upset someone or fallen short of expectations, then surely a “thanks but no thanks” email is not too much to expect (I’ve had one and it was fine)… I’m a big boy, I can take it
I’ve also had mails from women who saw my ad and have approached me. I’ve replied but had nothing back……so what’s that all about.
But it’s not all negative (and I really don’t want it to come across as that ‘cos I intend to stick around and make it work, I believe there are genuine people out there) I currently have one phone number which I will be using in a week or so…..if it comes to fruition, trust me ladies and gents, you will be the first to know
I think a lot of what I’ve said and feel just comes down to good manners and politeness. I’ve always prided myself on mine and currently work in an industry where it is paramount, but I will be interested to hear the views of others
Firstly (for the single guys out there trying to break in) my response ratio when I reply to ads from Women seeking Men is about 5% (except when I cock it up and reply to a woman seeking woman ad, ‘cos then I always get a snotty reply, sorry my fault for getting over excited and not reading properly).
YES 5%…..we should all know by now that the ladies who post get inundated with replies, it’s a fact of life (and sex) and I genuinely appreciate their predicament. If they replied to everyone who mailed them they would have no time for sex at all.
Included in that 5% are the timewasters (send me a pic of your cock). WHY???? Reply, phone me, or meet me, and you can see (and have) the real thing !!! I’m sorry I just don’t get the “cock pic collector” thing.
Once a dialogue is started (by this I mean a couple of email exchanges at least) I’ve had the trail go cold…..if I’ve said something to upset someone or fallen short of expectations, then surely a “thanks but no thanks” email is not too much to expect (I’ve had one and it was fine)… I’m a big boy, I can take it
I’ve also had mails from women who saw my ad and have approached me. I’ve replied but had nothing back……so what’s that all about.
But it’s not all negative (and I really don’t want it to come across as that ‘cos I intend to stick around and make it work, I believe there are genuine people out there) I currently have one phone number which I will be using in a week or so…..if it comes to fruition, trust me ladies and gents, you will be the first to know
I think a lot of what I’ve said and feel just comes down to good manners and politeness. I’ve always prided myself on mine and currently work in an industry where it is paramount, but I will be interested to hear the views of others
WOW so much support, I'm touched....really
I even had a photo turn up in my inbox this morning, and very nice it was too :-)
just goes to show, for all those doubters out there (and yes I was one) this appears to be working...
that'll be me today, "a spring in my step and my hat at a jaunty angle"
I even had a photo turn up in my inbox this morning, and very nice it was too :-)
just goes to show, for all those doubters out there (and yes I was one) this appears to be working...
that'll be me today, "a spring in my step and my hat at a jaunty angle"
Wow, I never expected this post to evoke such a pasionate response.
Heather, thanks for your reply, I appreciate your support. maybe we'll meet up some day (if you like).
All I really meant was that's it can be very frustrating for genuine, single guys, who get so many un answered, or bogusly answered replies)
I'll hang around until I get at least one genuine encounter ('cos that's my nature). Only then will I truly take a view.
Beckers xx
Heather, thanks for your reply, I appreciate your support. maybe we'll meet up some day (if you like).
All I really meant was that's it can be very frustrating for genuine, single guys, who get so many un answered, or bogusly answered replies)
I'll hang around until I get at least one genuine encounter ('cos that's my nature). Only then will I truly take a view.
Beckers xx
the problem with typed format is that irony is hard to get across...even with a smiley at the end of the post...I've posted up in the photo ads, lost track of all the emails I've sent out (not just from contact addresses on this site, but a couple of others)
I've had a few email exchanges (3-4 mails each way, some blatent timewasters, but not all I'm sure), but after a month, no actual liasons.
What does a genuine guy have to do....Ladies????? Any hints ??
Not trying to sound whingy, but it seems to be a massive amount of effort for as yet no return.
As an aside, why do you ladies post advertising for fellas when there are the thick end of 3000 posts already offering services. Just curious.
I've had a few email exchanges (3-4 mails each way, some blatent timewasters, but not all I'm sure), but after a month, no actual liasons.
What does a genuine guy have to do....Ladies????? Any hints ??
Not trying to sound whingy, but it seems to be a massive amount of effort for as yet no return.
As an aside, why do you ladies post advertising for fellas when there are the thick end of 3000 posts already offering services. Just curious.
