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Quote by veejay
Ok , so i f we accept that:
Men fall aasleep afer sex with their regular partner
Men dont fall asleep after shagging someone other than their regular partner
Women dont want men who fall asleep after,
dont that prove that monogomy is un natuaral and not desireable?

By that logic, group sex should be the norm?
Men may want to fall asleep after sex with their partner, as this usually happens at night when its the normal time to sleep anyway. When they are with someone elses partner, this is a break from their normal pattern. Anything which causes a change in routine usually has an effect on behaviour.
Women may not necessarily not want a man who falls asleep afterwards. They may still want him, but to have a second treat biggrin
Group sex may be the natural norm. Think about it , if procreation of the species is the natural aim of the sexual act , then it would make more sense for more than one male to be capable of being the father of any resulant offspring. Hence if one of the males who could be responisible dies, there are others left who have a vested interest in rearing the child.
As for the "second treat" if thats all he can manage he might as well be asleep!!
Quote by Reese
Reese thats a terrible thing to say, i m shocked at you!!!
Im a single female who plays with h/bs consent, but no way would I expect you to talk to him about the situation!!Why should you, what iI do and who with is down to me?Im certainly not having him give his permission to anyone!!!

Foxy~
Sorry to shock you, but that's just our personal preference. Perhaps it's because Vix & I would never play apart from each other that we feel this way. Thus, we limit ourselves to single males, single females and couples (where both play together). Again, it's nothing personal against anyone, their lifestyle or their situation - it's just how we choose to swing.
~Reese! surprised
Reese
The shock is not with whom you chose to play with, that is your own choice obviously. What does shock me is the fact that you would want to talk to the partner of someone you were swining with, if they themselves were not involved. From a womans angle i think that smaks of chauvanism and even if you apply it to males as well its too intrusive in to Real Life.
Just my opinion
Suzzy
xxx
Quote by Reese
both.
~Reese

Reese thats a terrible thing to say, i m shocked at you!!!
Im a single female who plays with h/bs consent, but no way would I expect you to talk to him about the situation!!Why should you, what iI do and who with is down to me?Im certainly not having him give his permission to anyone!!!
Oh not this one again!!
Only one comment, what gives any of us the right to make (moral) judgements about someone elses relationship?
Can anyone whos in a long term relationship honestly say they have never witheld the truth form their partner, never sneeaked a new pair of shoes into the house hoping he wouldnt notice, never said they were working late and gone to the pub, never used the credit car and hoped she wouldnt look at the statement?
Whats the diference ?
I know i said one thing but i do think there is a tendancy , on here, to treat married men like little boys, not old enough to make their own decissions.
Anyway , some of them are bloody good fucks!!
Ok , so i f we accept that:
Men fall aasleep afer sex with their regular partner
Men dont fall asleep after shagging someone other than their regular partner
Women dont want men who fall asleep after,
dont that prove that monogomy is un natuaral and not desireable?
Quote by gailen
I was wondering if the girls have similar thoughts while they are driving?
Do you ladies see a guy in a car and have "fantasy" type thoughts?

Yes , of course we me its everytime i see a fire eingine or pull along sided White Van Man esoecially if he has a yellow safety helmet on the dashboard!!
Think ill pass on causing the accident though to get his name and address!!
I would ask Henry VIII, " Do you realise the number of people that will lose their lives and the problems you will cause by renouncing the Roman church, just so you can get your leg over with Anne Bolyn?"
Nostradamus, "what is the real code?"
Quote by kenmoo

NO YOU BLOODY CANT!!!! unless of course u want to be the ball!!

Hmm, that _could_ be fun. But I think I'll take my chances and flee. Really fast. Right now.
:P
Ken
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Thats the first one ive scarred behind the sofat today!!
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Quote by little gem
As a side issue...
Does anyone else(females really) find it really easy to orgasm if you are highly turned on? Like it takes next to no time instead of the usual amount of time, or do you find it takes longer cos youre so turned on? It's something I've been thinking about recently....
Maybe I think too much........ dunno

Im the former not the latter, as someone on here would testify, if he would stop lurking and say something!!!!
Quote by spideyuk
Just editing this to ask a question, why do men only fall asleep after sex with their wives/g/f's? I ve noticed that if they are with someone elses wife they never do?
This suggest to me that the reason cannot be bilogical!!
Come on Dr Neil Stanley, director of sleep at the University of Surrey., answer that one!!

Good observation FoxyLady... Yeah Dr Stanley, wakey wakey... wriggle your way out of that one... now we know where all our taxes are going... I'm off to live in Guam biggrin
The frigtening thing is Pierced John made more sense!!!!
Quote by kenmoo
Can I join? I meet all those criteria, but I lack a vagina.
<sobs> Oh the humanity!
Ken

NO YOU BLOODY CANT!!!! unless of course u want to be the ball!!
Quote by MISSCHIEF
I did wonder if he was being towed at first, then i noticed the sure giveaway, driver had a flat cap on!!

Took me a couple of reads then confused Thought you said the driver had a 'cat flap' on :shock: Which would have been very worrying :?
Tis early morning :? thats my excuse :?
It is a northen thing, i think!!! old blokes = flat caps and vice versa!!
Quote by MISSCHIEF
I have also suffered from road rage, (so damned oap toddelling along in the middle lane at 3 0mph) and sleeplessness!!

30mph :shock: Blmey, was he/she attached to the front of your car? confused
I did wonder if he was being towed at first, then i noticed the sure giveaway, driver had a flat cap on!!
Well, I qualify on all but number 2 criteria, which by the way as i write this i can remember what no 2 criteria is, thereby proving i am suffering from an in ability to concentrate.
I have also suffered from road rage, (so damned oap toddelling along in the middle lane at 3 0mph) and sleeplessness!!
mind you i really cant see my self polaying football, can i be the referee? you will obviously need someone fair(well i am when i coume out of the hairdressers) and non argumentive like me!! :twisted:
Quote by piercedJon
OK, found the bottle opener lol
I am sure that ages ago they worked out the reason for the sleep response and it was published...
It was down to the fact that after sex a man was not "fighting fit" so would potentially be un able to fight off other males that wanted to imprgnate a heathy female... biologically we are not that far removed from the rest of the animal species, but "moralistaly" we mate with just one... because thats what society deems as acceptable.
The reason a woman stays awake, biologically, is that she is then in animal terms looking for the next guy to potentially mate with her... with 2 or more lots of competing sperm she is more likely to be impregnated with the best of the sperm as its been proven that sperm fight to compete not only against the others within 1 set of seminal fluid, but even more so against "outsiders"
The sleep response was quick, and short lived (about 10-20 mins), so that the male would be up and att it again and full of go to fight off potential competitive males... its also the same reason that people should "cat nap" if they are tired, any more and the full sleep mode kicks in, less and you dont feel refreshed.
The funniest, and most interesting thing to come out of the advent of science and DNA testing is that while men have been always percieved as "spreading their seed" between 25 and 35% of children born during wedlock are not of the married "father" so that means that it may be true that guys shag arround, but also says that just as many women are also shagging around!

At last someone with an intelligent response!!!
I can go along with most of thatbut querriet your line,"The sleep response was quick, and short lived (about 10-20 mins), so that the male would be up and att it again and full of go to fight off potential competitive males"
Noiw does tht mean that if we let the male go straight to sleep he will have quicker response time than if we engage him in converstion?
As for sending someone off to B&Q, never done that in my life, far morelikely to send him off to brew up!!
Quote by Yeah_Yeah_Yeahs
right....shit i hate explaining my jokes....
my "speech" was reffering to Oscar speech's when they always thank everyone under the sun...it was meant to be a light hearted joke.....which evidently flew over most peoples heads!!!
Are you guys always this welcoming?
:P

It was perfectly obvious how you had intended it, but one does wonder when someone menations their parents like that!!
Quote by Yeah_Yeah_Yeahs
Just to say hi.....erm....hi!
I'm kinda new to all this internet shenanigans and usually find myself endlessly typing away for no apparent reason, as above.
Erm....i'd like to thank my mum, dad, my .......Ooooh wait....
Nice to meet you! whoevers reading this! Eeek!!!
confused

What are you thanking them for? going out and leaving you alone with the computer? Is it half term where you are?
Quote by neilinleeds
yep kinky, very true.
it's not cause we're selfish lovers who lose all interest once we've come, honest! t'is a well known fact that orgasm floods the brain with melatonin, which is the bodies natural sleeping tablet. we just can't help it. ;)
well that's my excuse anyways, and i'm sticking to it! biggrin
n x x x :P

Now i could except that if it happened with all men , all of the time, but and im speaking from experience here, men (married or single) never fall asleep when they are playing away. If someone dosnt explain this to me soon im going to make it a seprate thread!
Its taken me ages to remember thie answer to this question, mainly cos my first one was from another site But from here, it was abt 3 weeks after advertisning, but you have to remember the site was a lot quieter way back then!!
Quote by kinkyluton
Goodday to one and al and welcome to the latest fanfare of news from the kinkyluton column...
while reading the papers today...i came across this...i thought i share
The gentle buzz of snoring is among the most annoying sounds known to woman.
Especially when it happens shortly after a passionate encounter.
"Gentle Buzz of snoring" never yet met one who can snore genltly!!!
Yesterday scientists explained exactly why it is that men have a tendency to nod off after making love.
Apparently, it's nothing to do with wanting to avoid a cosy chat with their partner. According to the scientists, they are simply tired out.
We ll after recently trying a strap on for the first time, i find this slightly more believable than i would have done before!!
'As frustrating as it is for most women that their male partners just roll over and fall asleep after sex, men aren't entirely to blame,' said Dr Neil Stanley, director of sleep at the University of Surrey.
Note it is a male doctor coming up with all these excuses!!
'Humans are the only animals in which sleep and sex are linked and while often seen as just a poor excuse, there are scientific reasons why men feel tired after sex.
'The blood rush after climax depletes the muscles of energy-producing glycogen, leaving men feeling physically drained.
Poor dears!!
'Because they have more muscle mass than women, men become tired after sex and this subsequently leads to them feeling sleepy.'
Eighty per cent of men said they felt more relaxed and were able to drift off without any problems after making love, compared with 46 per cent of women.
The other 20% were probably asleep when interviewed for the survey!!

They were among 10,000 adults surveyed by organisers of The Vitality Show, Europe's largest health and beauty exhibition.
Birmingham was found to have the highest number of men who fall asleep after sex.
Men in the city managed on average to stay awake for just three
to four minutes, according to the survey.
Obviously men in Birmingham are more likely to tell the truth
In Glasgow and Liverpool, meanwhile, men claimed to take up to 20 minutes before falling asleep.
Men in Glasgow and Liverpool lie
For women unwilling to relocate there, however, Dr Stanley offered some tips on keeping men awake long enough for a cuddle and chat.
'Have sex out of the bedroom, away from the usual sleeping environment, or play uplifting music - not the usual romantic sounds,' he suggested.
'Try I Feel Good by James Brown, Elvis Presley's A Little Less Conversation or Britney Spears's Toxic.'
Dr Stanley also recommends his
patients to 'talk sex'. 'There is no better time to communicate with one another than after a mutually gratifying sexual experience.
'Discuss all the things you enjoyed and found arousing, try to avoid talking about the negatives,' he said.
Should i not ask him why hes only got half a dick then?
He suggested the more adventurous could videotape their lovemaking sessions - so they have something to watch afterwards.
HE has to be joking!! never yet met a man who cas stay awake ALL the way through a video!!
Not everyone nods off after sex. The survey found 48 per cent of men had actually fallen asleep during the act itself.
They wouldnt wake up again if they did that with me!!

A mere 11 per cent of women admitted being guilty of this.
If we did it would be his fault!!

so whats your views and your jokes on this people...
Ive been kinkyluton, you have been lovely…….. THANK YOU

My views? Biased one sided male clap trap, but then im pre menstural so i m not responnsible for anything i ve wrttten
Just editing this to ask a question, why do men only fall asleep after sex with their wives/g/f's? I ve noticed that if they are with someone elses wife they n ever do?
This suggest to me that the reason cannot be bilogical!!
Come on Dr Neil Stanley, director of sleep at the University of Surrey., answer that one!!
Quote by RickRoper
Freshly mown grass is lovely, yes!
Also:
Coal smoke from a REAL fire
Steam with atomised oil in it
Freshly baked bread
Diesel fuel.
Rick biggrin

And i thought mine were strange!!!! :confused2: :confused2: :confused2: :confused2: :confused2: :confused2: :confused2: :confused2: :confused2:
Quote by fun4acouple
Ill make dinner afterwards!!!

haha that reminds me of that harry enfield couple, when they would be shagng and the lady would be on her lap top busy at work.
One should never take cooking lightly!! /An offer to cook is worth far more than comments on perfume or looks!!
Quote by mal609
Cocked that one up, didn't he? lol
In no particular order
Mark - Head honcho and chief Dalek
Bluexxx
Heather
Jags
JasTim
Mal
Misschief
MrsFC
Sgt Bilko
SteveG

Ive change my mind ill have the Chief Darlek cos i like the outfit!!!
Exterminate, exterminate , exterminate, exterminate!!
Quote by mal609
So let me get this right, if i shag a mod i can write whatever crap i like and it will stay? :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy:

No, it just means we can throw you out and you won't feel it was because you weren't one of the 'favoured' ones, because EVERBODY would be!! See? how fair is that!!! lol
Mal
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sad :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :(
Thought it was too good to be true rolleyes :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:
in that case ill have Bilko cos at least as he talks such a load of crap his talents must lie in other directions
So let me get this right, if i shag a mod i can write whatever crap i like and it will stay? :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: