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23 Mar 2010

Quote by Mr-Powers
Sorry, I wasn't implying that you were. I added that I didn't know your reasons, but I'm sure that some other couples would have that reason

I re read your post and edited mine, great minds think alike eh?
It would be good for people reading this topic to here your own personal reasons though, as I cant think of anything other than homophobia to a lesser or greater degree, and that exists within the theatrical community. Whether that's to a lesser or greater degree it does exist,
I am sure it would, but it really isn't important what the reasons are, they are our choices. If I was homophobic, would I be bi - I think not!
Perhaps not,but is your partner?
No - I don't like homophobic people, so I wouldn't be with him if he was. And if he was homophobic, would he be with me? I doubt it.

23 Mar 2010

Quote by Lost
Sorry, I wasn't implying that you were. I added that I didn't know your reasons, but I'm sure that some other couples would have that reason

I re read your post and edited mine, great minds think alike eh?
It would be good for people reading this topic to here your own personal reasons though, as I cant think of anything other than homophobia to a lesser or greater degree, and that exists within the theatrical community. Whether that's to a lesser or greater degree it does exist,
I am sure it would, but it really isn't important what the reasons are, they are our choices. If I was homophobic, would I be bi - I think not!

23 Mar 2010

Quote by bigDewi69
Sorry, I wasn't implying that you were. I added that I didn't know your reasons, but I'm sure that some other couples would have that reason

I re read your post and edited mine, great minds think alike eh?

23 Mar 2010

Quote by bigDewi69
People who worry about being jumped by bi people when they're straight aren't using much common sense. If you agree to meet up and everyone knows the score then it's just going to ruin the fun if people are put into uncomfortable positions. I can understand being in an uncomfortable position with single guys, but bashing them is for another thread.

I agree with that, when we meet new couples we always make sure we all know what's what before we ever get to the playing stage. It did baffle me really that the person who mentioned it to me said she had come across lots of people who wouldnt meet them because she was bi and they didn't want their lady half of the couple 'jumped' on. I would never, ever expect to play with a str8 female of a couple, its not only disrespectful, its a sure fire way of ruining what could potentially be a good time.
However, just to put the cat among the pigeons, we dont meet bi guys, not because we are afraid that they will 'jump' on silver, but because we choose not to for reasons which we feel comfortable with. Hypocritical or not, that's our rule which we stick to.
Each to their own I say. Although I'm only bi-curious I know I wouldn't jump on any straight guys or try anything sneaky. I've no idea of your reasons but I'd suspect a lot of couples wouldn't choose to meet with a couple with a bi-guy as socially ingrained homophobia would make them uncomfortable around a bi-guy
OMG I was waiting for that, I am certainly not homophobic, ingrained or not. I work in theatre, which is like the cast from the Rocky Horror show at times lol. But you may be right, perhaps some couples attitudes are like you describe.

23 Mar 2010

Quote by Mr-Powers
People who worry about being jumped by bi people when they're straight aren't using much common sense. If you agree to meet up and everyone knows the score then it's just going to ruin the fun if people are put into uncomfortable positions. I can understand being in an uncomfortable position with single guys, but bashing them is for another thread.

I agree with that, when we meet new couples we always make sure we all know what's what before we ever get to the playing stage. It did baffle me really that the person who mentioned it to me said she had come across lots of people who wouldnt meet them because she was bi and they didn't want their lady half of the couple 'jumped' on. I would never, ever expect to play with a str8 female of a couple, its not only disrespectful, its a sure fire way of ruining what could potentially be a good time.
However, just to put the cat among the pigeons, we dont meet bi guys, not because we are afraid that they will 'jump' on silver, but because we choose not to for reasons which we feel comfortable with. Hypocritical or not, that's our rule which we stick to.
From experience we have found bi guys to be less pushy than bi girls.
If you read what I said, thats not the reason we dont meet bi guys.

23 Mar 2010

Quote by bigDewi69
People who worry about being jumped by bi people when they're straight aren't using much common sense. If you agree to meet up and everyone knows the score then it's just going to ruin the fun if people are put into uncomfortable positions. I can understand being in an uncomfortable position with single guys, but bashing them is for another thread.

I agree with that, when we meet new couples we always make sure we all know what's what before we ever get to the playing stage. It did baffle me really that the person who mentioned it to me said she had come across lots of people who wouldnt meet them because she was bi and they didn't want their lady half of the couple 'jumped' on. I would never, ever expect to play with a str8 female of a couple, its not only disrespectful, its a sure fire way of ruining what could potentially be a good time.
However, just to put the cat among the pigeons, we dont meet bi guys, not because we are afraid that they will 'jump' on silver, but because we choose not to for reasons which we feel comfortable with. Hypocritical or not, that's our rule which we stick to.

22 Mar 2010

I have just been informed by someone in the chatroom, that most str8 couples wont meet a couple with a bi female incase the srt8 lady gets jumped on. I think this is rather odd as surely people chat about such things before they ever get into that situation. And being a bi female doesnt mean you have no respect for someone who is str8.
I just thought I would put this one in and see what comments come back, if any.

4 Mar 2010

Quote by deancannock
i said at time of testing..maybe a little ping noise when messaged...might be useful...just like it does on facebook !!!

Yes Dean thats a good idea xx I do like a little ping

2 Mar 2010

I did it now thanks xxx

2 Mar 2010

I found it now, thanks xxxxx but it still hides lol

2 Mar 2010

Quote by Cubes
Sorry.... the white doesn't show up very well on the pale background. It's the little arrow in the top right corner of the chat box.

I must be blind, i cant see it, do you mean in the actual chatroom window?

2 Mar 2010

Quote by Cubes
I love the new instant message facility, where you can message people on your friends list privately (I hope), but when the chatroom pane is open the message window is hidden and can only be seen when you are on the main page of the site. Is there nothing that can be done to allow it to 'pop up' over the chat window too as I keep missing messages and I know others have said they do too.
Just a thought.
Goldsmith
xx

If you click this icon

in the corner of the chat panel it will move it into it's own window. Then you might be able to use "show windows side by side" from a right click on your Windows task bar.
what icon?

2 Mar 2010

I love the new instant message facility, where you can message people on your friends list privately (I hope), but when the chatroom pane is open the message window is hidden and can only be seen when you are on the main page of the site. Is there nothing that can be done to allow it to 'pop up' over the chat window too as I keep missing messages and I know others have said they do too.
Just a thought.
Goldsmith
xx

25 Feb 2010

It wont let me go online, it clicks back to offline!

25 Feb 2010

Over the last couple of years, I have opened my own room on server 2, during the evenings mostly. This firstly was due to the fact that I was sick of seeing a room full of people who were obviously in whisper or not there at all and no open room chat. This still happens on a regular basis.
More recently I noticed that loads of people are in several room at once, which does explain a lot of 'quietness'. How the hell can you hold a decent conversation if your are spreading yourself that thinly.
Over the years I have been a member of SH, I have chatted to, and met some great people and when I go into other rooms for a chat. I dont just sit in my room and wait for visitors, I do wander all over the chatrooms
Its nice to say that many people who visit my room, come back, time after time, and the reason they give is that it's friendly, it's polite, it's funny, it's chatty and they all get a 'hi' from me or one of the roomies when they come in. This makes people feel welcome and comfortable and leads them to be able to chat within an established group of people. I think one of the other reasons we all get on so well is that we listen to everyone's point of view, not always agreeing, but it can lead to a lively discussion without anyone falling out. We do get our share of 'idiots' but they tend to get fed up with my room, and leave cos we take the 'mick' out of lines such as 'anyone want to watch me cum?', or '25m vwe wants to meet now'.
I will stop now as this is beginning to look like an ad, which wasn't the intention at all lol

lol

Goldsmith

23 Feb 2010

Instead of the Pool or Beach Bar, we could call one of the rooms The Library, then all those who dont chat can sit there all day and stare, wank, read the paper etc ........ I was going to say this is a joke, but I think I have hit on a good idea !!!

21 Feb 2010

Awwwwwwww you must come next time, it was great fun. The only thing that would have made it more perfect is that you two were there. loves you loads.
Goldsmith
xxxx

21 Feb 2010

Thank you, we really had a lovely evening with some of our dearest friends. Hope we can do it all again soon - it's yur turn next.
Goldsmith
xxx

27 Jan 2010

Quote by brucie
i know i always spell "the" as "teh". i think i have a rare disorder called "THE dislexia". it doesnt bother me.

It's dyslexia Brucie lol

lol

youre not allowed to discriminate against me because of my disabilities
nice ass by teh way
Thanks

27 Jan 2010

Quote by brucie
i know i always spell "the" as "teh". i think i have a rare disorder called "THE dislexia". it doesnt bother me.

It's dyslexia Brucie lol

lol

20 Jan 2010

Quote by Plimboy
If you donate, there is a chance something will get there. If you don't donate, then there is no chance at all - simples!!

Yes, very true, but full of uncertainty. I have now made a modest donation to this cause.
Plim :thumbup:
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16 Jan 2010

If you donate, there is a chance something will get there. If you don't donate, then there is no chance at all - simples!!

29 Dec 2009

Quote by shad
What about the 'have' and 'of' syndrome. As in I could of done something, instead of I could have done something - drives me mad.

That's because you are bloody mad Gold! lol

lol

Some would say barking even.
:thumbup:

29 Dec 2009

Quote by thevillians
The one question i have..
What is proper english ??????

It's like when you speak proper, like what we do lol

rotflmao

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Well proper english is how we speak and write in our own way...
Well i know a few people who say i dont speak proper english,but hey it is the way i have spoken since i was able to.
So i sometimes write the way i speak and i know it isn't proper english,
if we all spoke or wrote proper english it would be boring,and we wouldnt have a thread like this biggrin

biggrin

:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D
It was a joke

29 Dec 2009

Quote by thevillians
The one question i have..
What is proper english ??????

It's like when you speak proper, like what we do lol

29 Dec 2009

Quote by tweeky
I don't think English is taught these days as it was in my day (grabs zimmer frame).
The otherthing that annoys me is the way lots of people sound 'th' as 'f' as in fink instead of think.
I am on my soap box now lol

One thing I do remember from school is being told that sentences should not start with the word the? So should it read "Another thing that annoys me"?
bolt

bolt

Yes you are right, as there are lots of things that annoy me, so 'the other thing' makes it sound as if that's my completed list, which it certainly isn't. lol

28 Dec 2009

I don't think English is taught these days as it was in my day (grabs zimmer frame).
The other thing that annoys me is the way lots of people sound 'th' as 'f' as in fink instead of think.
I am on my soap box now lol

28 Dec 2009

What about the 'have' and 'of' syndrome. As in I could of done something, instead of I could have done something - drives me mad.

14 Dec 2009

Thanks Mal, its a good reminder to those who 'it won't happen to'.

30 Nov 2009

Its really awful. How can anyone come to terms with it. To lose ones child, and like that,must be so dreadful I can only imagine how the poor man and his family must feel.
I think that as a mother, I would have gone for the child first, having said that, you just don't know until it happens, and God forbid it ever does.