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Because I am perhaps one of "the more literate" among us, and because I don't tend to make vague statements, I did put the following in my profile when it was written some time ago:
"By exceptional we mean guys with intelligence, respect and those who Goldsmith has some sort or rapport with. This takes time, it doesn't happen in 10 minutes."
Why is this causing so much fuss?

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Hiya we will be in maspalomas at the end of march would love to meet up with other couples for a drink and a laugh
Helen and Mark xxxxxxxx

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Because I am perhaps one of "the more literate" among us, and because I don't tend to make vague statements, I did put the following in my profile when it was written some time ago:
"By exceptional we mean guys with intelligence, respect and those who Goldsmith has some sort or rapport with. This takes time, it doesn't happen in 10 minutes."
Why is this causing so much fuss?

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Because I am perhaps one of "the more literate" among us, and because I don't tend to make vague statements, I did put the following in my profile when it was written some time ago:
"By exceptional we mean guys with intelligence, respect and those who Goldsmith has some sort or rapport with. This takes time, it doesn't happen in 10 minutes."
Why is this causing so much fuss?

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Because I am perhaps one of "the more literate" among us, and because I don't tend to make vague statements, I did put the following in my profile when it was written some time ago:
"By exceptional we mean guys with intelligence, respect and those who Goldsmith has some sort or rapport with. This takes time, it doesn't happen in 10 minutes."
Why is this causing so much fuss?

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Its difficult to put down what one's experiences do to you sometimes. I had an encounter recently which was glorious but I don't really know why or how it was so special. So I am not sure I could advertise for such an experience again or the type of person who I think would make that happen.
From the outset it would be limiting and alientaing a lot of people from feeling they could enter into responding. Because I would probably be very focussed on recreating that experience. So why would I do that if it were to make people feel that it was unlikely they could fulfil that.
So if I chose to use an expression which alienated most people but gave some kind of encouragement to another group whom I felt could most closely fulfill me, I might begin to use a variety of words such as 'accomplished' 'consummate' or even 'effecting'.
Unfortunately the actual meaning of exceptional is double barrelled. It means oustanding in good qualities and also notoriously bad ones. So having to play the teacher, exceptional is indeed a somewhat contradictory word to use. Exacerbating the more literate amongst us.
So again its the use of a 'gotten about' expression which really can cause a lot of misunderstanding.

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Its just not a very specific way to describe what you are looking for. Because in saying something like that you might be considering a fairly narrow band of people to select from. So this could be detailed, but perhaps in a one to one communication.
And again its not your fault for trying. It's all we have to work with.

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So it's not something you can ask for. Its something that you find or discover by chance.
But its not something that's easy to put in an advert. Or at least its a clumsy way of saying 'I'd like to be completely surprised and swept off my feet by mister wonderful. But I don't want to have to deal with anything less than that kind of experience.'
But this is something beyond the simple practicalities of arranging to meet someone who may have potential. Whcih is what a site such as this caters for.

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Its just a stock meaningless phrase that fails to communicate properly.
When it comes to profiles I think real words work best.

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I think its just another one of those expressions that have gotten about and been adopted as part of the language of advertising for sex.
Perhaps a way of saying 'we're quality because we only choose it'
It still does not exclude the possibility that the advertiser may just as easily get fed up waiting for the exceptional and elect to have sex with the worst possible forms of human life.

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I have on my profile that I occasionally meet exceptional single guys - By exceptional I mean guys with a modicum of intelligence, total respect and those who I have some sort or rapport with, the latter being the most important. It's got bugger all to do with being well hung, gymn fit, fat, thin, tall, short, blond, dark, black or white.
I see nothing wrong with this and its not meant to put single guys off in anyway or offend anyone.
I also see nothing wrong in being choosey in the swinging lifestyle, just because we swing, it doesnt mean we will shag anything or anyone. We have high standards in our general life; why would we lower them in the swinging lifestyle.

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i don't know sometimes how debates get developed round here. you could take any profile here and examine it. there are some demanding safe sex, but show piccies of various partners bareback. there are those who want face piccies but don't show their own.
It seems like most profiles are a contradiction, and at the same time constrained by what I think is a limited vocabulary and language. So i haven't put much faith in the profile as a gauge of people's intentions or abilities. But its all there is available to use as a tool.
i just don't know if I'll be bothered again to use my profile. there never was much there anyway. Of the few I have met through the site, their profile was to me; just a formality. they were quite different to the image I had formed. It was just a nuisance to have formed an incorrect impression.

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so tell me why you dont play with bi men?
I live my life as i see it,boundaries just get in the way

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That's cool I do find it all a bit intriguing and sad at the same time myself too, to be honest - the fact that people have to cover it up I mean. Especially from people that they know and love. I had a 'straight' bloke chatting to me last night and he said his girlfriend had no idea about his bi tendencies... I tend to operate on the 'well that's none of my business' basis but I still thought about it afterwards. But I do realise I'm in a pretty unusual position on here than a lot of other guys and am thankful for that.
Do the women on here think they'd know if there husband or boyfriend was bi? I reckon they would...

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so tell me why you dont play with bi men?
I live my life as i see it,boundaries just get in the way

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Surely to God, if we choose not to play with bi men, that's not bullshit, its our choice, and that is our right. Swinging is very personal to the individual. Perhaps SH should do away with the tick boxes altogether. Ask SH why the tick boxes are there, they must have a reason for it, and I am glad they do.

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What Nola said :thumbup:... and because I can't really speak right now as I have a mouth full of 'straight' cock
At the end of the day, it's your actions that count, not the label you or anyone else gives you... and a LOT of the 'straight' men here play with blokes - especially when there's pussy about - FACT... not gay opinion. I've been there and seen it happen. Same as Dogging I've found - in my opinion, a bloke who's sex drive is high enough to take him off to a car park in the pissing rain in -10 degrees looking for 'straight' sex will consider sex with a guy - even if it's just a blow. Again, I've seen it happen (and done it) many, many times.
Are they bi? I dunno, I don't really care, just horny and feeling sexy I guess and as long as we all get off on it then great. I discovered very early on here that it rarely 'does what it says on the tin' so now I just make sure I ask the 'tin' lots of questions before I take it off the shelf and open it
And no, I don't think all men are bi, I didn't say that. But I do think in the right scenario a lot of men will play. At the end of the day, this is a sexually driven and motivated site so it's par for the course I think.
I'm not bi but in a sexually driven situation I'll play with females.. I've changed the label on my profile a few times after feedback - you'll never please everyone all of the time though I guess.
x
Oh..and to answer the question :gagged: They don't put bi because they are scared to.

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Can I just add that Geoff and I are very open and honest about our sexuality, not only in here but in real life too and if people don't like it then so be it.
We don't see the need to hide who and what we are with people around us and with each other...why are people taking this thread the wrong way?

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We will be coming up to 15 years of marriage soon and were thinking of renewing our vows.
We thought we might like to do something a bit different so was thinking that it may be interesting to do it in our favourite swinging club .....
Do you think that all vicars would think this highly inappropriate?
Can anyone advise me where to find a vicar who might do this and how to broach the subject.

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Personally, I MUCH prefer straight guys too :rascal:
Hmmm... I'm not helping am I? <snigger> x

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FFS am I talking a foreign language - I have NO problem with people being bi, although we choose not to meet bi guys, its just our choice....

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A guy drives into the car park of a cafe. He steps out of his car, enters the bar wearing his business suit and tie and sits down at a table.
The waitress approaches and he orders a coffee.
“Sir” she says, do you ride a motorbike when you aren’t driving your car?”
“Yes” he says, “I 
“I’m sorry, sir, but unfortunately we don’t serve bikers 
“But I’m not on my bike, I’ve come in a car, I’m wearing a suit, not bike leathers!”
“I’m sorry, Sir, but you bikers are all the same no matter how you dress it up and we don’t serve bikers. I’m quite happy to talk to you, just not serve  :shock:
As her shift had just finished, she then walked out the cafe, put on her helmet and rode away on her own motorbike - don't you just love double standards!!
As someone who is bi (and it’s on my profile and has been for a very long time), I cannot understand when a couple advertise for a male, but won’t accept someone who may tick all the boxes, but is bi. Why? You are discriminating against that persons sexuality. He is bi, which means he may have sex with either or both of you. If the male of the couple is straight and it’s made clear they are looking for someone for the female of the couple, what is the problem? I can understand if he had too much/not enough hair, was too old/young, too tall/short, too fat/thin as these are physical elements of their makeup that cannot be changed, but his sexuality is relative to the moment, ie, if the other male doesn’t want male/male contact, then the bi guy for that period would be playing straight. It's even more odd when the female of the couple is bi as well and therefore should understand what bi means!
By playing straight, he is not denying his sexuality; he’s just complying with the situation honestly to all involved. Perhaps some of these couples may need to look a little closer to home regarding their prejudices and why that may affect the way some males react towards them and what they put/change on their profile. They may be perpetuating the problem.
As an aside, I found more females keen to meet/play with a bi guy than didn’t. So guys, be true to yourself and you’ll be appreciated for what you are, rather than what you say you are.
Mal

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Does anyone understand what I meant when I started this thread, it's gone so far off the point now you need a sat nav to get back. I am not uneducated or inexperienced, just confused as to why single str8 guys look for single bi guys on their profiles. Simples!!