Quote by Anoush
off topic, but I fucking love that meercat! I just with I could make the noise.
I love it too, I want one for Christmas
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goldsmith
Over 90 days ago
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Quote by BIoke
Well as a very new person to this, I only joined yesterday, lots of good info discussed here. I must say as someone that wants to try out the bi thing i didn't realize that would exclude me from lots of str8 couples, oh well
It shouldn't but if they say it does then more the fool them for responding to you as your username is pretty self explanatory. It does give the impression that you're past the 'trying' stage though.. I only say that as I know some 'straight' blokes on here will play with other 'straight' blokes over the likes of me who is mostly into guys... I think the fact that they are both 'straight' makes it OK in their consciences
There's also a massive mispercepion by some uneducated/inexperiences straight blokes that every gay and bi bloke is gonna find them irresistable :roll:
Does anyone understand what I meant when I started this thread, it's gone so far off the point now you need a sat nav to get back. I am not uneducated or inexperienced, just confused as to why single str8 guys look for single bi guys on their profiles. Simples!!
Quote by Ste_n_Kez
Probably because people get ripped to bits so have decided not to bother as muchYou have to admit its happened a lot of late.
Well said and we totally agree with you Lil
Ditto to the above.
And I find a lot of the OP's are quickly left behind to make way for deviations of it, or in some cases totally different subjects are introduced and the comment/point/question that was orginally made/asked in the OP is long forgotten.
I opened a thread some time ago which was recently resurrected and I have re-read it all the way through this past couple of days. It would appear that most people who posted on the thread havent actually read the OP, bearing in mind the comments that followed. Very frustrating.
All I commented on was that lots of single guys state they are str8 - then they go and tick the box that says they are looking for bi males!! - I really didnt think I was talking Martian!! Its all very simple I think. But its odd how many of them say they made a mistake ticking the box. I wasnt criticising bi males at all.
And I am certainly not bi-phobic (if that comment was aimed at me).
And I am certainly not bi-phobic (if that comment was aimed at me).
Quote by Sara_2006
i was answering the op mostly on the moaning issue, and when you post after someone it can be taken that you are criticizing them, that is why i took it slightly personally no offence was caused and also non should be taken i was just giving my opinion as well
Thats good then, Yes I see what you mean xx
Quote by goldsmith
I wonder if anyone else is as perplexed as me. Why do some 'str8' guys look for bi males, bi couples, couple with bi male etc etc on their profile, then when asked about it in chat they say 'oh that was a mistake' or 'i thought it would improve my chances of a meet'.
Surely if you're a straight male you arent interested in bi guys. Or if you are bi curious, then you aren't str8, you're bi curious. Its simple really.
But the main thing that baffles me is why its so often a mistake, and once you are in a situation where the guy thinks he is has a vague chance of meeting you, they go off and change their profile to suit the current situation.
Any logical explanation would be most welcome.
Thanks
Goldsmith
Ok let me clarify - what I should have said back then was single 'str8' guys looking for single bi guys. It actually makes little sense.
Similarly single guys looking for single lesbians or a lesbian couple, there are a lot of profiles with those boxes ticked. And dont say its cos they want to watch, thats silly lol
And the choice we have made not to meet bi or bi curious guys is just that - our choice. We dont have to give reasons, or apologise.
Quote by Sara_2006
if more people paid attention to the chat etiquette and aup then there would be less people moaning and criticizing of the site.
I wasnt moaning, or criticisine the site, I was merely stating the reason I think the chatrooms are sometimes very quiet, but full of people not openly chatting - at all.
use the site and chat as you see fit as long as the aup and chat etiquette are observed, sit and dont say anything if thats what you want. stop moaning that no one says hi to you, get on with it, move rooms, keep trying and above all have fun
Get on with what?
The point is you can go into a room, well many rooms, and there is no chat, not a word, from anyone. Why? Are they all whispering, or are they in several rooms not chatting lol.
Oh and a further point is that a lot of the 'quiet ones' arent too busy doing whatever they are entitled to do to put your cam on!
These are merely observations, thats all, just a viewpoint.
Its something that totally baffles me constantly. If you open a room, and people are in effect invited in (as its not a private room) isn't it polite to say hi and make people welcome.
I do have to admit that I get quite irritated in some rooms when people come in and get ignored - and I cant for the life of me see why anyone would think a simple 'hi, how are you?' is something that should be construed as an invitation to whisper and more.
I think the main problems are:
1. People whispering to their own clique and ignoring other people, perhaps not intentionally, but so into their own chatter in whispers, they don't notice anything else going on. Rooms where there are mainly whispers going on tend to stunt the chatrooms.
2. People are often in several rooms at once, I saw one member in 7 room the other day, I was browsing the chatrooms and they were just about everywhere I went. I do wish SH would remove this facility.
3. There does seem to be a large number of people who just sit and watch the chat and that of course is their choice to do so - but why the Dickens go into a chat room if you dont want to chat - or are they just sitting there hoping for some cam action to start (probably).
I open my own room most nights, and everyone (when its a managable number) is personally welcomed when they enter (if a lot of people are in then I put a blanket welcome into the room) and all are invited to join in with the chat. No prizes for guessing why new people come in and say 'wow, this is a very friendly room, can I stay?' Perhaps it's because I and the regulars in Golds Room are friendly, polite and easy going, and actually chat - none stop
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I do have to admit that I get quite irritated in some rooms when people come in and get ignored - and I cant for the life of me see why anyone would think a simple 'hi, how are you?' is something that should be construed as an invitation to whisper and more.
I think the main problems are:
1. People whispering to their own clique and ignoring other people, perhaps not intentionally, but so into their own chatter in whispers, they don't notice anything else going on. Rooms where there are mainly whispers going on tend to stunt the chatrooms.
2. People are often in several rooms at once, I saw one member in 7 room the other day, I was browsing the chatrooms and they were just about everywhere I went. I do wish SH would remove this facility.
3. There does seem to be a large number of people who just sit and watch the chat and that of course is their choice to do so - but why the Dickens go into a chat room if you dont want to chat - or are they just sitting there hoping for some cam action to start (probably).
I open my own room most nights, and everyone (when its a managable number) is personally welcomed when they enter (if a lot of people are in then I put a blanket welcome into the room) and all are invited to join in with the chat. No prizes for guessing why new people come in and say 'wow, this is a very friendly room, can I stay?' Perhaps it's because I and the regulars in Golds Room are friendly, polite and easy going, and actually chat - none stop
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Quote by Kaznkev
totally disagree camera fun is not the same as shagging behind hubbies back which is what was on offer,and i think the profile is v clear as it uses the personal pronoun WE
Again tho my problem was not being asked,hell if i got offended by requests i'd never cam it was the not taking no for an answer,i just think assumptions were being made about me,me and kev are not joined at the hip but at the begining of the chat isaid we only played out togeather.
Remember this chappie was supposedly 1/2 of a couple and contacted us for 4 way fun
slap my thigh and call me masie
Remember Kaz that most men remember the word 'yes' and forget the word 'no'. Its called selective hearing lol. I think you have a good point here, when you put WE on your profile, you mean both of you. And if Kev's not there, then you have every right to be on cam on your own. Your rules are your rules and nobody else has a right to challenge them.
Me and silver always make decisions as a couple and if its decided that I play with someone without Silver, then it is again decided by us both. I would never, ever arrange to meet someone without his knowledge and agreement. Thats what being a couple is all about - I think the word partners sums it up.
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Quote by brucie
i have found that swingers can be surprisingly conservative about things and particularly infidelity and prostitution.
so i thought id start a debate.
And quite right too, swinging isn't about getting paid to have sex, well not in my book it's not. What it is, for me and most of the people I know, is an enhancement of what you already have and giving your sex life a little extra spice. Regardless of whether you are single or a couple.
With regard to infidelity - well thats a major subject - there are a lot of people in this lifestyle who 'do it' behind their partners back. Which I think isn't swinging at all, its 'playing away'. I have had many discussions with mainly single guys (who arent single) about this, and they generally come up with reasons for it like 'the wife isnt keen on sex', or 'if she doesnt know it won't harm her'. There are a miraid of other reasons they play alone, and to be honest, I think its not only unfair to their partners, it's also unfair to the people they 'swing' with as they are being dragged into a 'cheating' scenario too.
Speaking from a couples point of view - we never, ever play with anyone, nor even meet for a coffee without each other knowing and agreeing that its ok. We generally meet as a couple, whether its meeting another couple or a single guy, that way we are together in all aspects. If we decide that I am going to play with a single guy on my own, then we again decide that as a couple.
That is what I think swinging is all about. Although I know there will be others who will disagree - let's carry on with this one, its a good thread and one that can answer many questions for many people.
Quote by dippergt750
If you look at the spelling and grammar.....prefare instead of prefer and there instead of they're, you can see that this lad struggles with expressing himself. At that age, in his culture, he is saying what he "thinks" he means. Sign of the times I fear!
Innit bruv!
He isn't alone, there are lots of people who don't or can't spell correctly, and obviously don't read their posts before or after they have submitted them. Drives me mad to be honest.
Not everyone has a good level of ability with spelling and grammar, but it's obvious to me that sometimes their fingers work faster than their brains - yes I know that's open to many interpretations
I cant remember where I saw it, but some towns have photograph posters of politicians and the like, so that people can put their 'used' gum on the faces of the people they dont like.
Seriously though, gum does create an awful mess, and although I chew it, mainly when driving, and I do wrap it up and bin it when I get home, I do agree it's not the nicest of things to pop into your mouth.
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Seriously though, gum does create an awful mess, and although I chew it, mainly when driving, and I do wrap it up and bin it when I get home, I do agree it's not the nicest of things to pop into your mouth.
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Fantastic post. Yes its lovely to realise how many really good people there are in this lifestyle, and we have met some great people, some have become potential life long friends which is one of the bext bits for us.
Its funny how so many, typicially I suppose, always make comment about something they find displeasing. British culture - we are always ready to complain, but when something is good, we just take it for granted.
Lets celebrate the good things, and stop moaning about the not so good, after all they can be forgotten and moved away from
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Its funny how so many, typicially I suppose, always make comment about something they find displeasing. British culture - we are always ready to complain, but when something is good, we just take it for granted.
Lets celebrate the good things, and stop moaning about the not so good, after all they can be forgotten and moved away from
Goldsmith
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I had this problem, clicking a couple of times works now. If you have changed your cam lately, it may not recognise the new one, there may be a button on the box to show which cam its asking for, or there should be an icon on the little box that you can click to update your flash, which may help.
Thats about all i can think of at the moment. Good luck
Goldsmith
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PS I use firefox btw
Thats about all i can think of at the moment. Good luck
Goldsmith
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PS I use firefox btw
Quote by fabio
I wasn't trying to patronise at all.... if that was the way it came across, then i'll hold up my hand and apologise....
what i was trying to get across was notice (which i thought was very valid), cost (which i know is know is a very valid concern in these times), and trust in the organisor.... and that is why i suggested going to one of the bigger ones first.... get your name out there, as good as golds room is, you'll hopefully remember i have been in there once or twice not everyone knows about it or will know about it...
would i have had 120 mad people turn up in newcastle twice for munches and taken that chance on me without the support of loads of different people giving me advice..... no...
like i said, I hope your socials do go well, and without the people who organise them, the site wouldn't be half what it is......
You're right Fabio, it would be bad if people didnt organise nice things for members.
And like you said I suppose a lot of mad people could turn up. The one thing I didn't mention is that my hotel dinner events are pre-paid by those who wish to come (they pay the hotel direct and not me)to prevent the chef cooking dinners for people who dont turn up and havent paid. This did happen the previous year, just one couple did this and I had to pay for two meals. So all the people who could turn up unannounced wouldn't be let in if they hadn't booked their meal and paid for it as the event hinges around it being dinner and entertainment.
I think its fair to say, that I would love to go to some other events, and will put our names down if we see one that a) we can make it to or b) takes our fancy. And thanks for the info.
Goldsmith xx
