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Quote by tabbi
The first time someone found mine.....he pissed himself laughing at my reaction......
A mixture of shock, horror at someone having THAT much control over MY body, and utter utter surprise.......apparetnly my face was a picture as all that happened at the same time as the most intense feeling I'd ever experience ...added to the sheer terror that I felt like I was about to pee myself
But fellas be warned.........it's technique that does it. The only thing that hard and relentless poking does is bruises and hurtsThe last would-be 'G' spot explorer left me with a lovely bout of honeymoon cystitis from the bruising ...grrrrrrr
This sounds so like my ex's description of when she slept with another guy and came back to report this experience. I tried to replicate it for her several times but without success.
So, can you or anyone elaborate on the required technique? Hints and tips please! Or is it just long fingers? Actually, mine are pretty long, although I think maybe his were longer. Hmm!
How much pressure is needed? She seemed to think a heck of a lot. Maybe I'm too tentative?
Mark
PS Do men have a G-spot? Click here for the other discussion!
Not wanting to be outdone by the female g-spot thread...
Anyone inclined to explore my g-spot...?
Male G Spot (external)
... it's a small, soft dimple about the size of a twenty pence piece, tucked
just underneath the scrotum. An adventurous partner can find the spot pretty
easily, and should gently press on it or stroke it in an upward motion.
"There are a series of muscle fibres and ligaments from the buttocks and the
base of the pelvis that come together there, along with plenty of blood
vessels and nerve endings that heighten sexual pleasure," says Seifer.
Male G Spot (internal):
Let me know :-)
Mark x
Anyone inclined to explore my g-spot...?
Male G Spot (external)
... it's a small, soft dimple about the size of a twenty pence piece, tucked
just underneath the scrotum. An adventurous partner can find the spot pretty
easily, and should gently press on it or stroke it in an upward motion.
"There are a series of muscle fibres and ligaments from the buttocks and the
base of the pelvis that come together there, along with plenty of blood
vessels and nerve endings that heighten sexual pleasure," says Seifer.
Male G Spot (internal):
Let me know :-)
Mark x
This was my first social and also first visit to Rios and I enjoyed it on both counts. I've only been to Raqs (in Walthamstow) before and so to see a plusher venue was nice (although the playrooms downstairs were a bit pokey and basic (and empty!) ).
To all I said hello or chatted too - it was great to meet you. And those I didn't - was there anyone? - doh! Hope to chat next time!
Thanks Sarah. I'm sorry Gilly didn't turn up. I hear your reasons for why this is such a pain. Maybe if I get more into S&M I can bring her on a lead next time. Hmm... Oh yes, err...
Happy times to all, Mark xxx
To all I said hello or chatted too - it was great to meet you. And those I didn't - was there anyone? - doh! Hope to chat next time!
Thanks Sarah. I'm sorry Gilly didn't turn up. I hear your reasons for why this is such a pain. Maybe if I get more into S&M I can bring her on a lead next time. Hmm... Oh yes, err...
Happy times to all, Mark xxx
I was only 18months old when mine was done. I'm told it bloody hurt and I wouldn't pee for days.
As for now, women really like my cock, which doesn't mean they prefer me cut. It does mean however that there is nothing to stop a woman really liking a circumcised cock - look or feel - so you probably don't need to worry about that.
Hope it all went well and you enjoy sex in the future.
I'm curious to know why you needed the op now though if you'd like to tell. I still feel a bit like I was mutilated without my consent, although I know it was done with good intentions. But its a touchy thing for a bloke you know, and I suspect it might have lead me to feel insecure sexually for years.
Mark
As for now, women really like my cock, which doesn't mean they prefer me cut. It does mean however that there is nothing to stop a woman really liking a circumcised cock - look or feel - so you probably don't need to worry about that.
Hope it all went well and you enjoy sex in the future.
I'm curious to know why you needed the op now though if you'd like to tell. I still feel a bit like I was mutilated without my consent, although I know it was done with good intentions. But its a touchy thing for a bloke you know, and I suspect it might have lead me to feel insecure sexually for years.
Mark
Quote by Vix
Had a Yamaha Fazer until I smashed it and my wrist last september. Still doing the physio. Next phase of mid life crisis ... you guessed it ... swinging! :-)
Mark
Here's my old Fazer... got shot of her for the HD, but still biking AND swinging... it's not a case of one or the other, Mark.
It is if you ride like me Just couldn't handle overtaking while giving and receiving oral.
What can I say, at least I tried.Mine was blue and a lovely ride,
Came off in Holland and nearly died,
Scrambled my way to the side of the road,
And now I swing in a different mode.
Love, Mark x
Quote by westerross
Some of these opinions are very black and white.......And there are flavours of trust, degrees of trust etc.
When it comes to trust it has got to be black or white. You either trust someone or you don't. You cannot half trust someone can you? 'Degrees' of trust imply that you could.
For you this may be so, but not for me. For example, I may trust my partner to keep to agreed boundaries in one kind of situation, but know that in another it would be extremely hard for her to do so - I also know my partner is a human being and can make mistakes. I would want her to try to avoid getting into the latter kind of situation, but it might still arise. Or perhaps she was just emotionally vulnerable.
So if she crosses an agreed boundary my trust is not broken beyond repair, but I am hurt and will trust less until I feel that we have adequately dealt with this (i.e. discussed what happened, why, my feelings, her feelings etc etc.). Then my trust will be rebuilt. If this process fails, then my trust would be broken. Hence degrees of trust.
Duncan - What about the example I've given? Can your trust not be undermined (i.e. put into doubt rather than broken) by a human failure, or would it always either stay rock solid or be smashed beyond repair (presumably depending on the nature of the boundary that was broken and the impact it had on you)? I guess that is an example of what I mean by degrees of trust - trust may be put in doubt, but the doubt can be removed, thus restoring trust.
Another (perhaps better) example is that as I get to know a partner better, our relationship deepens which strengthens my trust, making it easier to for me to trust them in a given situation.
Thanks
Mark
Some of these opinions are very black and white. I think there are too many variables to be so definitive about this. Each person is so different, and consequently so is each relationship so I agree with Judy on this.
Surely for some, trust will be a fragile thing that must be coddled and once bumped too hard seems shattered beyond repair, but for others trust might become a bit tarnished but can be polished up to its former brilliance and even more. And all the variations inbetween that you can imagine.
And there are flavours of trust, degrees of trust etc.
So to say, don't swing if you have any doubts seems a bit daft to me. Jealousy is a messenger like any other emotion, and not necessarily a no go area. I'm reading an interesting book at the moment (The Ethical Slut) and have just started the chapter on jealousy and I think it has a lot of useful things to say about it.
However, it hasn't explained to me why I feel relatively ok about my ex (possibly to be partner again) dating, having sex with dates, and even relationships but feel absolute despair at the prospect of her swinging without me there. There is no logic and this stuff is fiendishly difficult to suss out, but probably well worth the effort.
I'd be interested in any other jealousy experiences and what people learned from them, whether they overcame them, and if so how etc. etc.
Nicola - thanks for starting a fascinating thread - I don't think it is necessary to think things through completely before posting something. Surely one of the points of posting is to have others help you figure something out! So please don't hold back, but keep posting interesting q's like this.
Mark x
My entry for quote of the thread (spoken in a, well Yodaish voice) :
"Jealousy, the shadow of greed it is" - Yoda
A very wise half pint Jedi?
Surely for some, trust will be a fragile thing that must be coddled and once bumped too hard seems shattered beyond repair, but for others trust might become a bit tarnished but can be polished up to its former brilliance and even more. And all the variations inbetween that you can imagine.
And there are flavours of trust, degrees of trust etc.
So to say, don't swing if you have any doubts seems a bit daft to me. Jealousy is a messenger like any other emotion, and not necessarily a no go area. I'm reading an interesting book at the moment (The Ethical Slut) and have just started the chapter on jealousy and I think it has a lot of useful things to say about it.
However, it hasn't explained to me why I feel relatively ok about my ex (possibly to be partner again) dating, having sex with dates, and even relationships but feel absolute despair at the prospect of her swinging without me there. There is no logic and this stuff is fiendishly difficult to suss out, but probably well worth the effort.
I'd be interested in any other jealousy experiences and what people learned from them, whether they overcame them, and if so how etc. etc.
Nicola - thanks for starting a fascinating thread - I don't think it is necessary to think things through completely before posting something. Surely one of the points of posting is to have others help you figure something out! So please don't hold back, but keep posting interesting q's like this.
Mark x
My entry for quote of the thread (spoken in a, well Yodaish voice) :
"Jealousy, the shadow of greed it is" - Yoda
A very wise half pint Jedi?
Dewi I empathise. My ex and I are pondering the same q at the moment and it is a fucking difficult one isn't it. I'd be careful about asking for advice tho cos the way I experience this confusion of emotions is that I'll latch onto some advice (usually that fits a needy part of me) and ignore the rest!
Others are otherstoo, only you are you, so while their advice may be perfect for them, only you can know what is right for you. It isn't so much that you know the answer, but only you can take responsibility for it. Come back in a few months and no-one is going to want that. Shitty huh!
I have no idea what you should do, but I have some things which I find very useful in my rel with my ex and offer to you as possibilities: total honesty all the time, total acceptance all the time, and I try to trust in me, her, life, the universe and everything (even when it donesn't deliver what I think I want and it feels really really really fucking shit - shit is part of being alive so try to accept that to and I think you will be more alive than if you don't). These tenets won't work for everyone and may cause big problems if just switched on, so you must judge if they are for you and then discuss if they are for her, where you are at with them right now, how to go forward together with them etc.
Good luck mate, oh, actually I do have one piece of advice: don't take these decisions unless sober. I proposed at new years eve many years ago while in exactly this kind of situation. The marriage that followed is history and I have two kids who's dad doesn't live with them and all the guilt that comes with that. Doh! We all make mistakes tho, and who knows in another sitution I might have proposed to someone I didn't want and end up discovering my perfect partner! Doh! Doh! Doh!
All the best, and try getting some sleep!
Mark
Others are otherstoo, only you are you, so while their advice may be perfect for them, only you can know what is right for you. It isn't so much that you know the answer, but only you can take responsibility for it. Come back in a few months and no-one is going to want that. Shitty huh!
I have no idea what you should do, but I have some things which I find very useful in my rel with my ex and offer to you as possibilities: total honesty all the time, total acceptance all the time, and I try to trust in me, her, life, the universe and everything (even when it donesn't deliver what I think I want and it feels really really really fucking shit - shit is part of being alive so try to accept that to and I think you will be more alive than if you don't). These tenets won't work for everyone and may cause big problems if just switched on, so you must judge if they are for you and then discuss if they are for her, where you are at with them right now, how to go forward together with them etc.
Good luck mate, oh, actually I do have one piece of advice: don't take these decisions unless sober. I proposed at new years eve many years ago while in exactly this kind of situation. The marriage that followed is history and I have two kids who's dad doesn't live with them and all the guilt that comes with that. Doh! We all make mistakes tho, and who knows in another sitution I might have proposed to someone I didn't want and end up discovering my perfect partner! Doh! Doh! Doh!
All the best, and try getting some sleep!
Mark
I'm sad that there is so much judgement going on in this thread and hope that sharron isn't feeling got at.
Sharron you've said you didn't want to go into as much as you have so make sure you look after yourself on here. You don't have to justify what you are doing unless you want to. There is a lot of disapproval on this thread and people are entitled to have their opinions, but I think bob dylan put it nicely "withhold your judgement for yourself". (That's from a great track by the way - the harmonica is just lush Can anyone name it??? :P ).
Personally I think (judgement coming here - oops) that Sharron has behaved very respectfully and sensitively in this discussion.
On what you have just shared, I'd like to say that you are in a very difficult position. Clearly your partner is aware of the issue and how his behaviour is affecting you. It seems that he expects you to get by without sex, which is expecting a hell of a lot, and suggests to me that there are underlying difficulties for him that you are not aware of, and that he is probably not aware of or is unwilling to share with you.
Perhaps you fear that if you are honest with him you will lose your relationship with him and the father of your child. This is a very difficult situation which only you can take responsibility for, so I hope people realise this and will stop advising you on what to do. I wonder if counselling would help you both to unpick this without it being too risky. Have you discussed that?
Anyway, good luck on here and in life.
Mark xx
Sharron you've said you didn't want to go into as much as you have so make sure you look after yourself on here. You don't have to justify what you are doing unless you want to. There is a lot of disapproval on this thread and people are entitled to have their opinions, but I think bob dylan put it nicely "withhold your judgement for yourself". (That's from a great track by the way - the harmonica is just lush
Can anyone name it??? :P ).Personally I think (judgement coming here - oops) that Sharron has behaved very respectfully and sensitively in this discussion.
On what you have just shared, I'd like to say that you are in a very difficult position. Clearly your partner is aware of the issue and how his behaviour is affecting you. It seems that he expects you to get by without sex, which is expecting a hell of a lot, and suggests to me that there are underlying difficulties for him that you are not aware of, and that he is probably not aware of or is unwilling to share with you.
Perhaps you fear that if you are honest with him you will lose your relationship with him and the father of your child. This is a very difficult situation which only you can take responsibility for, so I hope people realise this and will stop advising you on what to do. I wonder if counselling would help you both to unpick this without it being too risky. Have you discussed that?
Anyway, good luck on here and in life.
Mark xx
Quote by katie_sw_uk
This is a wind-up right?
Too clever to be a bloke, though.
This has to be done by a woman, pretending to be a bloke, pretending to be a woman.
My thoughts excactly, thats why, though tempted, i have not contributed to this thread.
Go on. Live dangerously. Tke the chance of being wound up. You never know you might like it and then ...
Mark xx
Quote by Maia
I think I am working on the assumption that some men say that by having a foreskin, the head of the penis is more sensitive than someone who is circumsized....
back to my corner now
Can't speak for clitoral hoods but I was circumcised when 18 months old and so can say that a circumcised helmet is very sensitive. Of course perhaps if I hadn't been mutilated (no-one asked my permission) maybe my helmet would be even more sensitive.
As for now, I'm certainly very sensitive about having been circumcised anyway
Quote by Sexysteph
I applaud new steph's honesty on here and am sad that she doesn't feel able to be honest with her partner.
I was not gonna come back on this thread but feel I have to now...
h256 what partner? Do you know sommut about me that I don't?
I am a SINGLE FEMbabes. I'm still looking for that special guy who can put up with all the crap I have in my life but until then I will continue to swing within the SWINGING COMMUNITY. Yes I do play with hubbys but with their WIVE's permission. Single Guys = Yummy.Ooops
Sorry steph, this was a mistake - for steph please read sharron! I wasn't meaning to refer too you. Doh!Mark x
PS I gave you some hugs as pennance!
PPS Is "somewhere" anywhere near London?
:rose: Quote by naughtynymphos1
lol don't u just love cheaters who come on here saying.....i'm being honest with u?
its not us u need to be honest with
you know what pees me off and i know i say this a lot, there are married and cheating sites and as swingers we are not welcome to join as we are not classed as what their site is all about, so why can cheaters come into swinging sites, i personally feel they give genuine swingers a bad name, suggesting we have no morrals and will 'shag' anything which most genuine swingers wont, heres a question to all u guys out there who seem to think this is ok......is swinging not about openess and honesty? about mutual respect to others and enhancing ur sex life without hurting others? well tell me how playing away is any of the above and if u convince me i for one will welcome cheaters with open arms, and legs come to that lol :wink:
ok off my soap box now
Alison
P.S kinda spooky ur 34 and from mansfield? didn't got to queen elizabeths did u, hope u wasn't in my class lol
This is a tricky one Alison. I think it is wrong to judge, but ok to share non-judgemental opinions.
I applaud new steph's honesty on here and am sad that she doesn't feel able to be honest with her partner.
When I was a naive teen watching hollywood romantic bollocks for my education about relationships (I won't betray my age by naming any actors, you'll have to read my ad :wink: ) I had these weird ideals about falling in love and being able to be totally honest with my partner. And I mean totally honest. Then I grew up and got married, thought I had real love, but was never able to share my every thought, feeling, fantasy etc. The norm I guess. :cry:
Then divorce, and before long the relationship I dreamed of. The "norm" at first, but our trust built and built. Bit by bit I shared my real self, and now even though we are not together any more I have one person that I can and do share absolutely anything with and it is wonderful. I hope in the future I never have to settle for a rel with anything less than this.
So it is possible to be totallyhonest with the right person. All it takes (ha ha) is total non-judgemental acceptance of each other no matter what. Easy huh!? :wink: But it does exist.
Good luck and keep trying to be accepting and expect to be accepted, exactly as you are! Of all the places to find people into this kind of honesty and acceptance I expected to find it here, although I have seen quite a lot of judgement and intolerance too in my first couple of months here. Just the "norm" :wink:
Mark
And just to add to the helmet experiences, for me no pain. Yes extremelysensitive but not too sensitive for me to luuuuuurve v. v. v. gentle sucking - almost nothing - just the gentlest pressure a woman can manage (or I can if she's abandoned my throbbing member at that point). Its lush.
I do get pain sometimes, but nothing to do with the helmet. Actually inside my urethra not far from the glans.
It varies from not at all to bloody uncomfortable and so can really mess up a lovely orgasm. I never feel it until I come. First noticed it about five years ago and not quite managed to figure out any rhyme or reason for when it happens or not.
: Anyone else had this? And if so, have you any clues why it happens sometimes?
Mark
I do get pain sometimes, but nothing to do with the helmet. Actually inside my urethra not far from the glans.
It varies from not at all to bloody uncomfortable and so can really mess up a lovely orgasm. I never feel it until I come. First noticed it about five years ago and not quite managed to figure out any rhyme or reason for when it happens or not.
: Anyone else had this? And if so, have you any clues why it happens sometimes?Mark
ops: you're welcome. Being someone living daaarn saarf originally from god's cuntry has its uses. Any further translation required, just let me know