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Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 65
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Quote by Rainbows
Just told my best bet mate about my swinging lifestyle and just got cast out out big time!!!!!
Feel very alone right now!!!!!!!!!!!!! :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

You are your own best friend for having the courage to be yourself and be honest about who you are.
It is the toughest thing to be, but also the most rewarding.
You also gave your friend a gift, the opportunity to see someone she loves and trusts being herself. You are a hell of a role model. If she can't see through her prejudices to that it is unfortunate for her, but maybe she will see that too eventually.
Now please allow me to offer you a hug (I need one too, so I'm not exactly being selfless wink )
Best wishes and good luck for the future,
Mark xx
Quote by Thomas
What about the *smallest* age gap ?
For me, until very recently it was about 10 years redface
Still haven't done the deed with anyone younger than me btw ! (hmmm hint hint... rolleyes :lol2: )
Love,
Thomas x

My ex wife was 14 months older than me, and that one didn't work out either. Hmm, now what's the common factor here? Can someone help me out? wink
Mark xx
PS Be gentle
Quote by Sgt Bilko
oops, mouse trouble, meant this to go into poetry corner, sorry. perhaps a moderator will kindly move it.
ta very much
mark x

You will have to copy and paste it into there!! (We're still waiting for the moving individual posts button!!) confused :? :? :?
ta, will do

Mark
Quote by little
I'm glad it was mis-placed. It touched me and i might never have seen it. smile
Lots of love,hugs and kisses
Little
XXX

I'm very glad you liked it. Perhaps I did this subconsciously so it would be seen confused
Hugs n kisses v much appreciated
Mark xxx
Sorry mods, should have put this in the cafe. Now, where's the crawl and scrape emoticon? :P
Mark xx
I think it's quite brave saying that with his first post. Come on girls and boys, perhaps there's a bit of an (british?) aversion to immodesty?
Welcome and good luck.
Mark - so ugly someone sewed a melon over my mush
PS Hey, here's an idea for a new thread...
One thing about me that's ABOVE AVERAGE
which part of london are you in?
i'm going out to one or two recommended spots in NW london tonight - my first outing - so if this area is of use I can let you know how it goes!
I expect to:
a) read loads of my book "Perfume"
b) get to know a lot of other doggers
c) fail to get relief of my extreme horniness built up all week and starting to flip me into autopilot, so much for free will for a while ;-)
d) not be disappointed sad
Have fun everyone. I'm very encouraged by my chat with a regular dogger at Raqs on Friday tho, so I will persevere for a while. He recommended me two spots in this area and seems to have got to know and meet up with several couples quite easily.
Good luck
Mark
oops, mouse trouble, meant this to go into poetry corner, sorry. perhaps a moderator will kindly move it.
ta very much
mark x
You are the dove,
You are the toad,
You are the long and winding road,
You sing to me,
I obey your chimes,
The sun resigns,
And you call it a sign of the times.
My tears a river,
Before you deliver,
My chains of love,
Cut heart from its glove.
Your perfume is high,
My eyes turn to catch it,
Before your absence of scent,
Is lost in my descent,
Spent on the road,
Dry as the toad,
Eaten by the love, the dove, and the spattered embers of the sun,
That died so our love could be begun.
To you I raise this glass,
I kiss your soul alass,
You have gone,
Your heart, you say, has moved on,
Mine twists, feels shat upon.,
To town, to market, so long for now,
Take that frown, wipe this brow,
Clean your face, little angel,
Eat dirt and grow healthy,
Look again for love, freedom and another dove.
--
A little creative upsurge, love mark x
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
encore encore :thumbup:
Mark xx
Hi
I went to Raquel's in Walthamstow last night and had a really nice time with my gf, and am wondering if I'm likely to meet any sh folks there in future. Or even if you were there last night! Perhaps you even had some fun with us (Mark and Claire!)
So, do any of you folks go to Raquels much? It would be nice to chat and maybe meet there some time as it is nice and easy for me to get to.
Last night was only our second visit and it was really lively with several other women. One of them joined us and of course we had lots of men join in too. The first time we went was very quiet and Claire was the only woman, but things seem to be much livelier these days from chatting to people there.
Hope to meet some of you folks one day! biggrin
Mark
I guess we'll be on our own :cry:
But there's always a next time! Was this just too short notice or were there other factors that meant you weren't interested?
All feedback appreciated, biggrin
Mark
Hi all,
Me and ex are going to one of the london swingers venues tonight and it would be a nice way to get to know some of you if anyone fancies coming along while we're there. :swingingchair:
My details are in my ad, see link below, but as we're no longer strictly an item, there are no details of her on the site, so: she is 28, 6" slim with a blonde bob cut, and would describe herself as plain but I think she is very sexy, and a very likeable person. We're up for chatting and more tonight, although for logistical reasons we'll probably only be at the club for a couple of hours, say 10 til midnightish. :violin:
Needless to say, but I'll say it anyway, this invite is for couples only, and single females if you are up to going to a club on your own, so no single males will be accepted. I'll also only give venue details by pm and only to those who have been on the site for at least a month or who I am sure are genuine - e.g. can be vouched for by someone well known here such as a moderator.
If you are new and can get someone to vouch for you have them post a follow up to your post and say something about you - I am not going to go round asking for references.
Please post a follow up if you are interested and I will pm you with details by 7pm. :thumbup:
Excited and a bit scared - my first invite! biggrin :D :D
Mark x
Quote by peenut
I guess its a bit late now, but prevention is better than cure. so take a look at those rubbery wrist support thingys that clip onto the keyboard in your local computer shop, and remember to check your posture as you sit occassionaly er probably worth getting a sreen filter to reduce eye strain as well. and a mouse mat with support.

Break timing software is also great (if you obey it - its amazing how hard that is!)
I used WorkPace which was good but there are lots of others:

Mark
Quote by Calista
Ibuprofen and a hand splint ...........
it's the only thing that works for me. I'm a secretary by profession and both my pregnancies have given me this sad The only thing that give me any relief are the above ..
C x

Association with pregnancy is an indicator for carpal tunnel syndrome which is not stricly RSI and can be temporary, but can also cripple if allowed to build up. See my long post above!
I strongly advise anyone who suspects RSI (or carpal tunnel) against pain killers - you are just gagging your bodies screams for you to stop causing damage. :shock:
I am not a doctor! wink
Mark
Mark
Ipubrofen is taken as an anti inflammatory rather than painkillers , I quite agree that if you are masking pain with painkillers you are worsening the problem.
C x
Of course! Glad I put my disclaimer in now - should have added: I am not a pharmacist either biggrin
Mark xx
Quote by Calista
Ibuprofen and a hand splint ...........
it's the only thing that works for me. I'm a secretary by profession and both my pregnancies have given me this sad The only thing that give me any relief are the above ..
C x

Association with pregnancy is an indicator for carpal tunnel syndrome which is not stricly RSI and can be temporary, but can also cripple if allowed to build up. See my long post above!
I strongly advise anyone who suspects RSI (or carpal tunnel) against pain killers - you are just gagging your bodies screams for you to stop causing damage. :shock:
I am not a doctor! wink
Mark
Mark
My advice is take it seriously, your dissertation is not as important as your wrist. I had to stop work when my RSI got so bad I couldn't carry on and I have not been able to earn a living since and have no prospect of going back to my old job. That's 2.5 years ago. I wanted a career change and am lucky that I had a supportive company and my own insurance, so this has been easy for me. For most people it is more like a disaster, even if they do recover and a high proportion don't. Some are badly crippled.
RSI varies a lot from person to person so my story will differ from yours (i.e. severity, damage done, recovery or not) but I joined an RSI support group and met a lot of people who were far more damaged than me. One thing that I think is universal is the longer you leave it before taking the pain (which is your body saying "stop this is causing damage") seriously, then the longer it will take to heal and the less recovery you are likely to get.
Most people find it harder to say no to the work than to their body and let it build up and build up until their body just gives in. This is a really really really bad thing to do. I've told several people with early signs this before, and none has taken heed. I didn't either, so I know how hard it is to do the right thing!
Sorry to be so drastic. And how am I able to type this you ask? Well, I have to pace myself very carefully, and not just typing. Yes, you probably realise that your wrist is handy for lots of activities, and the ones affected most probably involve rapid repetitive motions. Hmm, yes. THOSE ACTIVITIES WILL SUFFER!
What to do? Get it diagnosed and get serious about not causing any more damage. That will mean stopping doing anything that causes pain, and as for typing with the other hand, well that is a great way of damaging the other wrist because you'll be putting even more load on that (bin there done that).
It makes no sense to give out remedies because everyone's RSI tends to be different and I'd need to know a lot more to say anything. Ideally you need an expert. Your GP isn't one, and consultants are frequently not either. I know a good guy in Harley St. You could also try alternative health people who advertise expertise - look for a support group. Post on a mailing list devoted to RSI etc.
I think this is a good one and it has other useful links too
Speech recognition software might be your best bet for your dissertation, but it isn't easy to use. It frequently takes quite a bit of getting used to, and that takes time and patience, and if you are stressed and in a hurry you won't have that. I tried IBM ViaVoice and Dragon NaturallySpeaking and Dragon was by far the best, but other people will tell you the opposite (which is why I started with IBM ViaVoice!).
Hope some of this helps. If you want to speak to me about RSI I'd be happy for you to phone or email me about it.
Mark
But what do people think about the safety aspect? :shock:
Me and ex are planning to visit club raquels and she wants to play out one of them nice greedy fantasies :twisted:. I just wonder what you girls do to protect yourselves and what you decide not to do cos them damn condoms etc get in the way of the fun sad :( :(
Please post your comments on what you will/won't:
- touch suck invite with and without a condom
- where you will allow spunk
and why!
...would be very greatfully received.
Here is the SH link on sexual health. It is pretty clear, but do you ladies generally follow it if you go greedy?
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/advice/sexual-health.html
All comments appreciated!
Mark
Quote by blissed
Can I have a moan???
I need to moan which is not very often cos I am a smile gal on the whole.
My bloody ex partner has made me :cry: this morning. I'm sure it is a whole 'control' thing on his part but WHY do they have to do it? He is the only person who can reduce me to a blubbering wreck. I have to say we get on great the majority of the time and his wife is the tops she really is - we all holiday together with the kids and everything. Anyway this is how he left me feeling;
A. A crap mum
B. Useless
C. Dishonest
D. About 5 years old
Anyway that is my moan over - I know I'm not a crap mum, useless, dishonest and my tits tell me I am a good 33 years old. So I am off for a swim (first thoughts were to eat gross amounts of chocolate) and wash that man right out of my hair.
Thanks for letting me share!
Cathy x

Red, there's a little thing I keep coming across in my line of work - IF YOU SPOT IT, YOU GOT IT! If he sees you as useless, dishonest, a bad parent, and exceedingly immature, then it's probably because that's what he doesn't want to face about himself.
And your breasts are, indeed, delicious.
Never thought I'd see that quote on here :!: Read it in my notes only today, he he. How about "name it and claim it" and one I found on the web doing research for my essay (title "Do we ever see another as they really are?") is from Carl Jung: "Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves."
And while I'm at it how about "It is wisdom to know others; It is enlightenment to know one's self." - Lao-Tzu :idea:
Just showing off redface
And finally: "Nice breasts!" - Mark
Quote by
some men can carry high acid levels in their cum.

So do some aliens...

Doh! Been found out. :twisted:
Mark
Rainbows, snowballs, rusty nails, and I thought all these were cocktails confused
Fascinating site this. Thanks you all, and pls continue this thread. :!:
Mark
Quote by orpheous1
theyre different, one is a primal urge/instinct created within or near the brain stem, the other is a chemical release from the left brain i think (the creative and emotional side). If anyone can confirm this please do so cos its an argument ive used since er.............my first girlfriend caught me with me head in another girls knickers....oops

Having a scientific explanation might give you comfort but I have found the experience is more important. At least that's myexperience wink
For example, you may experience the difference betw love and sex in a way that truly does fit your explanation, brain stems and the lot. But that is not going to cut any ice if your gf's experience is that the two are not seperate. She is still going to either dump you or, perhaps if she can't articulate an argument against science, still not trust you cos you are behaving in a way that doesn't make sense in terms of her own experienceof these things.
There, to sum up, science is a load of bollox when it comes to people at least (it certainly didn't help me!)
My experience is that the two are different, but very often inextricably mixed up, and of course frequently confused. Oh, yes, and let's not forget that BOTH have one thing in common, they can take us into ecstacy :color:
Yippeee for that :thrilled:
Mark
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Cathy...Be careful you don't give him a "rainbow" though, his tongue swells up when he tastes his own cum... wink

Ok, so what's a "rainbow"?
Sex is love, love is sex, one cannot be separated from the other, ...quote]
I don't agree, but they are frequently confused. I frequently confuse them. How many times have I told someone I love them just as I'm about to come!? Errm. Well. redface It sure feels like I do when I say it wink
Which brings me to that post cum feeling. Sorry girls! We really really really :love: you until we come (well speaking for mesel), and then...
Mark x
Quote by Banderas
Got an allergy to Nuts in me throat :shock:

Their is just sooo much learning on this site confused :!:
Perhaps some cream would soothe it.
Quote by

i have some kind of sensitivity to my own cum on my tongue too (not experienced others' cum yet). :!:

So your avatar shows...looks like that hurts like a bitch smile

Never tried one mesel lol
Quote by Red(RHG)
Why do I never get hunks to come and fix me pipes?
Cathy x

You never asked me so what do you expect :!:
Next time your pipes need attending to don't call dynorod, call this rod, ok? wink
Mark (loves redheads mmmmmmm...)