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Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 56
Bisexual Male, 64
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Quote by Gerty35
do we actually need a state broadcaster?

Yes if we want to maintain some level of quality on TV. Without the BBC, TV will be completely driven by viewing numbers and advertisers. I think we would lose quality dramas, new comedy and cutting edge programmes because the advertisers would not accept reduced viewing figures for programmes that weren't mainstream. We would end up with even more reality shows, food programmes, home improvement shows etc.
I am not sure why you think we would loose these! I recently listened to a programme on radio 4 about seasoning hard wood. It struck me that I was probably the only person in the whole world listening to it. I would subscribe to be able to listen to it. I do not expect others to do the same. Also how can the BBC continue in a digital world where in the small group I was in, only 1 in 6 people have to pay?
We do have advertising on the BBC, every sports event (except the Olympics) has a sponsor, even Wimbledon tries to sell you a couple of watches and a soft drink.
The question still remains, how do we know we are getting quality programmes and good value? We have nothing to measure it by.
Perhaps franchise some areas of the BBC off with a strict code as a pilot project? see how others fair when they don't have to answer to anybody but a board of governors instead of a board of directors.
Quote by Gerty35
effing time outs ! just did a nice reply to this, hit post to discover I'de timed out on the site ! I'll try again tomorrow.

No what you mean about the fracking time outs! they are a pain! lol
Although he had a career as a lawyer before he became an MP, I look at Tony Blair as the first career politician to make it to the top job.
Photo friendly, a good orator and someone quick enough to make it up on the hoof so to speak. He was the complete opposite to the John Major government who by the mid 90's had been corrupted by there office. Wind forward to 1997, the labour party ran a campaign akin to selling toothpaste!
The second term majority was assured because the good news was promoted better than the bad news and the conservative party had lost it's way, were squabbling among themselves and were pretty unelectable. They could not even take political advantage of the foot and mouth crisis.
So Mr Blair has done just what he set out to do. Work hard, earn well, retire early. Politics was just a career choice, the labour party the chosen vehicle, the public his necessary evil.
You can love him or loath him but he did what he started out to do, make the world a better place (for him)
Can I apologise for my poor English!I have titled this thread as a question then offered my point of view as if to say "agree or disagree"
This was not my intention. My intention was to offer the subject as a discussion piece.
At a family get together this weekend, I found out that out of 6 people I am the only one paying for a television license. The other 5 in the room all watch or listen to the BBC legally but do not need a television license.
2 only watch television on catch up on their lap tops, 2 are over 75 and the other is registered blind, does not have a telly but listens to the radio. Add to this my cousin who lives in central Europe who watches and listens to the BBC it makes me wonder if the BBC (regardless of any current scandals that are raging) is fit for purpose.
First of all, call it what you like, the license is a television tax. You can’t opt out of the BBC if you own a television! So in my mind it is a tax.
Second, we are always being told that the BBC is excellent quality and good value for money! How do we know this? There is no competition to the BBC, it does not have to look for outside funding, it has a charter but what I would call the charter quota seems to be available pretty much exclusively on either radio 4 and BBC4.
Thirdly, in an age of enlightenment, do we actually need a state broadcaster? It smacks me a bit of Orwell’s 1984! Do we need the state to prescribe what we watch, how we get our news and what the state feels is suitable entertainment. The argument for not dropping radio 6 was “it is a platform for new talent that would not get a chance otherwise” so did Elvis do a session for radio 6, where the Beatles ever indebted to radio 6? No, talent is talent! If your good enough and put in the effort, you will make it.
When television went digital, an opportunity was missed. We could have had to “opt in” to the BBC. Personally I would have. Then the license fee would be just that! You pay, you watch. When the analogue radio signal is turned off, if you want to listen to the radio, you pay. If you want to access the BBC via lap top, mobile phone, whatever, you pay. Concessions to be made for the elderly and infirm from the exchequer but for the rump of the country, you watch or listen, you pay. That way we get to decide if the BBC is top quality and good valve for money, with our subscription.
I am reading this thread along with the one about wave technology with interest. If the race is for renewable energy, fracking is not the way forward. But as part of an integrated energy plan, it probably has it's place as long as all the safe guards are put into place.
With renewable energy in it's infancy and (as even the greatest champions of it concede) not reliable 24/7 are we better to conserve what energy we have rather than hope that somebody comes up with a miracle energy source?
Every new or re-cycled idea always seems too good to be true and from experience it always is. The truth is that the western world is wasteful when it comes to just about everything and I would take Mr Dyson's patronage with a pinch of salt, he appears to be a rampant self-publicist.
I have worked extensively in most parts of Scotland but not for some time. I always got the feeling that the vast majority of people in favour of independence were from the central belt. Which makes me think that if the majority of voters in the boarders region vote no to independence, should they be able to vote to become English?
Obviously I am mischief making but when Europe is being run by German money,north sea oil is down to it's last dregs and our infrastructure, not just linked but inter woven I am struggling to see the point of Scottish independence.
But then I am not Scottish, so my point of view obviously doesn't count or I would get a vote as to whether I want to see the break up of the union!
It is a big decision entrusted to a very small electorate which will effect 10's on millions in Britain!
Choose wisely.
Quote by Lizaleanrob
how are we gonna know at what point to join in if we dont watch innocent

That is such a pervy comment!!!! love it! lol
The sad thing about this thread is nobody has put "Love Actually"!
Thought we were a romantic lot, I obviously got that one wrong
Okay, no apologies for sounding a bit middle England!This is a Civil war and at the moment contained within Syria's boarders so not sure what right we have to intervene. What is happening is truly horrendous and humanitarian aid is quite rightly flooding in. (but not from every nation)
We should be prepared to take action if either gene side is proven or if the dispute spills over the boarders into neighbouring states (Israel is next door)Other than that, diplomacy and trade sanctions seem to be the way forward, One man drawing a red line in a country that is not respected in a lot of middle east countries has shown the detachment that a lot of the political class living in there ivory towers don't even know the feeling of the people in there own country. Although "Mr President" does not have to worry about public opinion, he retires in a couple of years! All Hale democracy!
We wanted to be "Darling buds of Herts" (having just watched a 90's TV series)but it was too long. We kept shortening it till it was accepted. Not sure why we put the 1 on the end though.
There can be a few reasons for this, The nerve endings in the penis can get very "excited" when stimulated. The feeling of sensitivity after cumming are actually present before but with the drive to have sex and cum, these are felt in the same way. Once a guy has cum and the urge has gone the feeling can become intense.
The nerve endings are not normally an issue prior to cumming but in some cases (especially with guys who have not been cut apparently)the intense feeling can be overwhelming is usually most sensitive where the head meets the shaft. It is therefore quite normal for some guys to feel this.
However! Certain medical conditions can also cause this such as balanitus. This is not a sexually transmitted disease but a condition, most common in people with diabetes or people who have trouble controlling there blood sugar levels for other reasons.
This is a bit of a late one and looks like we may have missed the last of the good weather but still. We are looking to visit Kestrels Saturday 7th September from about the middle of the afternoon. If there are any other couples going (especially with a bi or bi curious male but not essential) either give us a shout on here or come say hello. (we will probably be hogging the jacuzzi)
xxxx
It's not easy to disagree with what has been written, as a group I think we can offer all kinds of support. When I (Mr) first went to the doctors, things were that misunderstood that on my second visit he told me he was "surprised to see me again!" and did not have a clue how to treat me.
Times are changing though and people are more aware of mental illness. What I was trying to say (if a little clumsily) was that people who are helping others can indeed suffer from heightened stress, panic attacks and in extreme cases narcissistic thoughts. I am not saying this gentleman is but thought it was the responsible thing to say "if you are, it's okay, you’re not a freak!" in fact far from it.
We can all support Mark, be a friendly community towards him and (if he feels he needs it) to point him in the right direction.
Not sure if this is allowed but for ANYBODY AND EVERYBODY who needs to talk to someone, whether they are suffering from any form of stress or upset in their life, “The Samaritans” are always there for you and ready to listen, they do not judge or offer advice, they are a friendly person who will listen in confidence to you. They are a fantastic organisation staffed by people who give their time free to help others.
You might (quite rightly) say I have taken this too far, the poor guy was just airing his views, but I don’t really care to be honest, I do care about Mark and the thousands of sufferers of mental illness in the UK. I stand by the fact I question whether this is the correct forum but the post has been made and I won’t turn my back on Mark and tell him to take the post down. I think the statistic someone mentioned is 1 in 100 people suffer from bi-polar, I think that should read at least 1 in 100 people, add to that many other forms of mental illness and you begin to see the scope of it.
The point is, you no longer have to suffer in silence, the longer you do, the longer it will take for people to understand mental health. The NHS ploughs financial recourses into the headline killer illnesses and quite rightly, mental illness is a silent killer and it kills 100’s of people in this country every year. This is not including the families it breaks up and the addictions many sufferers go on to develop. The more this issue is talked about, the sooner it will be treated seriously and the proper and proportionate resources diverted to it.
Sorry if this is disproportionate but it has hit a nerve, I am one of the lucky ones, I no longer take medication and although I will have a mental illness all my life I use cognitive therapy and lead a full and normal life.
This is very well thought through and very personal post. I can only think that everybody will wish both you and your partner well. You seem to be accepting of your wife’s condition and what goes with it.
But I have to agree with the comments above. It is possibly not the right place to air your thoughts, I am sure just writing it and sending it for submission has in some way helped but with specific medical issues being on a forum that we have to assume your wife is unaware of maybe unwise.
Bi-polar is a lifelong condition that some people choose to treat with various degrees of success with medication. Part of this medication is therapy! The NHS is unfortunately underfunded and under resourced in this department and the waiting lists are long, but they can and do help. Without being personal back, it is possible that those close to people with mental illness can develop symptoms of depression themselves. I am not suggesting for one moment you are but it maybe that the long term effects on yourself are starting to show (quite understandably)
I am sure your GP is only too familiar with the effects of stress and would have no problem with you going to visit him/her, There is no stigma attached to stress or any other form of mental issues.
After writing what I have written, it may sound trite to say i and I am sure everybody else fully supports you,
Quote by Rogue_Trader
Our pampas is huge...but its all in the back garden...wassat all mean then????
Do I need to dig it up and re-plant it?

Pampas in the back garden I think means your a secret swinger.
Hi Andrew and Nicole,
We have sent you a message, hope you don't mind. We are not a small couple either but haven't found that this has been an issue at all. We are all different shapes and sizes and this tends not to effect peoples personalities. Good luck and hope it goes well
J&V
xx
Quote by Rogue_Trader
As a rule, were 2 legged dinosaurs meat eaters and 4 legged dinosaurs there dinner? and come to think of it, other than fish, do we eat any animal that eats other animals?

Basically upright dinosaurs were carnivorous, but that is a generalism.
Western diet is predominantly omnivorous with the majority of our protein coming from domesticated herbivores. The reason being is herbivores are easy to mature and keep penned up.
When you look to nature you can see the same...carnivores feed on herbivores...herbivores outnumber the carnivores by 10's of 100's or else the food pyramid doesn't work and everything dies out. The only animal that outnumbers everything is the omnivore but then they can digest and process both plant and animal for its energy, so have access to many food stocks.
MMMM, your so sexy when you are serious Mr Trader, I will think of you every time a sea gull tries to swipe my ice creamkiss
Quote by Rogue_Trader
Have not heard the AC/DC tag since the early 80's
I prefer the term bi, as its more descriptive of the actual process where AC/DC means either alternating or direct...can't have both in a system. Whereas you can have a bi-wired system.

So I am an old git! I endured AIDS taunts for kissing another guy in a pub in the 80's. I Had to travel miles to keep my sexuality a secret from my family and then friends. I did this because I was AC/DC! I will say I am bi to be polite but cut me in half it it will say AC/DC. It could be worse, the old phrase for someone who likes both sexes could have been 5 Star! If it had been, I think I would have been straight.
You beat me hands down on the science bit but surely AC would be more descriptive than bi?
If you "alternate" between the sexes, don't think I would mind being shortened but not reclassified.
Quote by Rogue_Trader
The neighbours that live across from me have chickens. They have also lost their kitten. I blame the chickens. They do look quite evil.

Raptors...
Birds are the last remaining descendents of dinosaurs. It's one of the reasons why chickens beaks are clipped. Once they have the taste for blood they don't forget it.
As a rule, were 2 legged dinosaurs meat eaters and 4 legged dinosaurs there dinner? ans come to think of it, other than fish, do we eat any animal that eats other animals?
Okay, not sure if this is fully on topic but;-
When I (Mr) was growing up, I had feelings for both males and females, when I got a bit older I found I was "AC/DC" and I was fine with this and played on both sides of the fence. I settle down for a few years and when I come back to it I find I have been reclassified as "BI" !!!!!!! I liked being AC/DC, I don't remember any act of parliament going through, I didn't vote for it and can only think it must be some sort of crappy EU directive!
Or are we so bad at spelling that we think 4 letters and a forward slash is too difficult!
And by the way, it isn't our Tesco's, it's theres! If it was mine, do you think I would have 33 different f**king types of humus!!!!!!!!
Quote by lovems
Has anyone any information about the status of Kestrel Spa/Abfab. We were hoping to go there after Erotica in October but it looks like the council are trying to close them down :sad:

We were there on Saturday and it was definitely open! The numbers were down, not sure if that was a mixture of the weather, the football season starting and the press reports or not but the jacuzzi's were hot, the pool was lovely and so was the company.
They have till February 2014 to comply with the ruling and think they maybe planning an appeal. It will be a shame if it closes as we love the place but will carry on attending as long as it carries on trading.
It is up to the people involved really, we love the couples room at Paradise Spa, all manner of things going on but we don't play with others in there but it is great to be in the middle of it.
Speaking to other couples who go, they think the same as us.
Too Hot wrote:
Irrespective of the mafia/gangster (lol) allegations - there are no such issues in the rest of France, nor in Germany or Holland as far as we know, and the quality is still far superior.
Mmmmm, think this comment makes us feel more uncomfortable than any tacky club. Surely a "super club" if funded by organised crime is not worth it? Okay this is speculation but are the facilities in comparison with the overall cost entry cost? Are we naive in thinking that the clubs in Britain are run by genuine businesses? The thought that any club we have visited has any dealings with organised crime is more repulsive to us than any "seedy/grubby" club, we are swingers but don't want to be unwitting launders of grubby money in the process!
Quote by Rogue_Trader
If the universe is finite but expanding as we are lead to believe then what the hell is it expanding into?

Unless you know the mathematical principal about spacetime then the question is moot.
Expansion is a 3 dimensional concept whereas the universe occupies 4 dimensions. So it expands in 4 dimensions not 3. The 4th dimension being time which is how future is created. One of the reasons we can remember the past and not the future is we haven't "travelled" in to it yet.
Anyway the current new theories do not strictly hold with a finite universe there are some speculations regarding an infinite universe model.
And I thought twin peaks was complicated!
So Stuff cant exist without time but time can exist without stuff? If so infinite is not relevant as at the edge of the universe there isn't anything because the space beyond doesn't exist because it's not populated by time? In which case the universe is infinite because everything exists only within time and only the universe has time?
I like the theory that the universe expands and collapses in cycles, not in a uniform way but like a snake eating it's tail. Only because it's the only theory that I can actually picture.
Blimey, I only came on to see if there were any good knob gags!
Quote by couplefunuk
How do planes fly?
Is it Newtons 3rd law - i.e. wing pushes air down, resulting in wing being pushed up, or was Bernoulli right all along and it's all down to pressure?
And another thing - how do bikes stay upright? Recent studies have shown that the conventional thinking (centripetal acceleration of the wheel) doesn't provide enough force to maintain a balanced system. So, what gives?
dunno
*Him*

I think (so I heard from a man down the pub) we have a built in gyroscope in the way of fluid in our inner ear. This sends information back to the brain that makes adjustments that we are not aware of. If we didn't, we would fall over signals get stored in the brain for reference hence you never forget how to ride a bicycle!
But I prefer to think that it is magic that keeps the bike upright though.
Pigeons do see magnetic fields and do recognise landmarks, but they still fly home from places they have never been to before. It is thought that the do use the sun as well as the stars to navigate and it has been suggested they can smell the right way. None of this has been confirmed because nobody has thought to ask the pigeon's!
Bee's communicate to each other by dancing. They will tell the rest of the hive the best place to go through a series of wiggles. If they are moved a short distance then they give the directions from there familiar location but if they have been moved 1 metre away then the rest will be 1 metre away from there intended destination (big miss for a bee)but if you move they a long way away, they have to start there dance from there as they have very few points of reference and have to explain new ones. (I think)
I thought that they only had to move the queen though and the rest of the bees would follow.
I really should go to a different pub!
Your excuse of "I only drove into the house coz somebody moved it" is genuine too (to a degree)we see things differently at different times of the day and in different conditions. If you do a repetitive task (not that one)at the same time every day in say bright sunshine your brain stores the information so you don't have to use as much new brain power next time. If the situation changes ie you do it 3 hours later in the bright sunshine your brain does not always make the necessary adjustments and because we are not concentrating (we don't have to as we have the information stored)shit can and does sometimes happen. As far as "the house moved" we spin on our own axis, we circle the sun, the sun circles the milky way, the milky way moves in the universe and the universe is constantly expanding so no wonder you hit the house.
But why is the Moon called "The Moon"?
Kathy Burke
Lee Halfpenny
Jonny Morris (RIP)
Is this 3 famous people or 3 famous people + one? Need to know how many pies to get in!