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jezzay
Over 90 days ago
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Have just found this thread and laughed so much!! Yes I know I'm in Norwich but I'm a Geordie.
I correspond with a wonderful gentleman I met on Adultfriendfinder - a brilliant writer - from Suffolk. (It's down south somewhere - trust me you don't have to worry about it.) I have described to him my visits to La Chambre and Partners. His replies (please understand he is tongue-in-cheek. I think.) :
"Sheffield! Oh my dear, how very very brave of you! And those accents!"
"It was brave of you to go to Manchester, for whatever reason. Still, Manchester is I suppose where you’d expect to find a sex club. I seem to have heard about a club in Dunstable, but that’s absurd."
I correspond with a wonderful gentleman I met on Adultfriendfinder - a brilliant writer - from Suffolk. (It's down south somewhere - trust me you don't have to worry about it.) I have described to him my visits to La Chambre and Partners. His replies (please understand he is tongue-in-cheek. I think.) :
"Sheffield! Oh my dear, how very very brave of you! And those accents!"
"It was brave of you to go to Manchester, for whatever reason. Still, Manchester is I suppose where you’d expect to find a sex club. I seem to have heard about a club in Dunstable, but that’s absurd."
Where are you Tigger-Steve? Interest is mounting in a Peterborough happening but we're not getting any feedback. Do you want some of us to help get things organised? I'm happy to volunteer. (Very distracting - writing this and listening to Pulp 'Hard Core' at the same time.)
Truth is - I want to meet the people who have added posts to this thread - I really do!! (OK it's Steely Dan now - slightly less arousing.)
Speak to us!!!
Jezzay
Truth is - I want to meet the people who have added posts to this thread - I really do!! (OK it's Steely Dan now - slightly less arousing.)
Speak to us!!!
Jezzay
I'm as white and English as they come but can gladly sing the praises of Asian guys any time. Especially after this weekend!
But white guys are pretty good too......
And I like black bodies. I have a fantasy of dreadlocks on my pillow......
And that Mexican in Oaxaca with the pony tail was to die for!......
The Canadian in Oz was pretty sexy........
And I built a home with the Turk.
"It's one world, like it or not
It's one world, believe it or not - one world." - John Martyn
Jezzay.
But white guys are pretty good too......
And I like black bodies. I have a fantasy of dreadlocks on my pillow......
And that Mexican in Oaxaca with the pony tail was to die for!......
The Canadian in Oz was pretty sexy........
And I built a home with the Turk.
"It's one world, like it or not
It's one world, believe it or not - one world." - John Martyn
Jezzay.
We're very quick to condemn when we're stood up so here's the positive side :
With trepidation I tied my trusty steed to the drainpipe (OK it's a bicycle) outside the pub. Opened the door with misgivings and there he was sitting patiently in the corner with a pint and ready smile.
Let me introduce to you all - Flapjackboy. Charming and thoughtful, I am hoping to encourage him to attend a Munch. I've told him all about you people I met at Manchester. OK well maybe not all. And he's dying to meet you, especially WBB!
Keep an eye out for him. He shows up when he says he will!!!
With trepidation I tied my trusty steed to the drainpipe (OK it's a bicycle) outside the pub. Opened the door with misgivings and there he was sitting patiently in the corner with a pint and ready smile.
Let me introduce to you all - Flapjackboy. Charming and thoughtful, I am hoping to encourage him to attend a Munch. I've told him all about you people I met at Manchester. OK well maybe not all. And he's dying to meet you, especially WBB!
Keep an eye out for him. He shows up when he says he will!!!
Thanks to the people who have responded to this by posting or PM.
Unfortunately it isn't really working out. Most have been either a lot younger or a lot further away than I was hoping for. I don't think I'm quite brave enough yet to organise an event and invite people to travel to it. Not on my own anyway. And this seems to be what people were expecting. I suppose I was thinking of just meeting a couple or more guys in a local pub and taking it from there.
Maybe another time. Thanks again.
Unfortunately it isn't really working out. Most have been either a lot younger or a lot further away than I was hoping for. I don't think I'm quite brave enough yet to organise an event and invite people to travel to it. Not on my own anyway. And this seems to be what people were expecting. I suppose I was thinking of just meeting a couple or more guys in a local pub and taking it from there.
Maybe another time. Thanks again.
I have to support Mal's view. I'm single and I WANT to be PM'd by single men. I get very few PM's and have never had an unwelcome or abusive one.
Before any major changes are made I think there has to be some investigation to see if there really is a problem.
Oh - yeah! here's a point. If Mal hadn't PM'd me in response to a down-in-the-dumps posting I once made I would never have gone to the NW Munch. And that would have been a disaster!
Before any major changes are made I think there has to be some investigation to see if there really is a problem.
Oh - yeah! here's a point. If Mal hadn't PM'd me in response to a down-in-the-dumps posting I once made I would never have gone to the NW Munch. And that would have been a disaster!
Alex,
I'm a single lady who has wasted hours and hours on here, and emailing, and has sat in pubs feeling totally ridiculous because of no-shows. Whenever I see postings from single guys complaining because of lack of single women and lack of responses I get really angry. I 'talk' to these guys for ages, arrange a nice, safe meet, think about what I'm going to wear, get terribly nervous and then sit there like a total prat with the 'regulars' looking at me pittyingly. I can't explain it. All they have to do is send a text/mail saying 'Sorry, I bottled it. I hadn't thought it through'.
I'm older. Sometimes they think they want the 'mature woman'. But when it comes down to it they don't want to meet where they might be seen by their mates. How does that make me feel?
The problem is they don't think. They have a fantasy in their heads of the randy, no-strings encounter but really they want a regular, nice girl, And the two just aren't reconcilable.
Sorry to be low-key but at least you know you aren't alone.
I'm a single lady who has wasted hours and hours on here, and emailing, and has sat in pubs feeling totally ridiculous because of no-shows. Whenever I see postings from single guys complaining because of lack of single women and lack of responses I get really angry. I 'talk' to these guys for ages, arrange a nice, safe meet, think about what I'm going to wear, get terribly nervous and then sit there like a total prat with the 'regulars' looking at me pittyingly. I can't explain it. All they have to do is send a text/mail saying 'Sorry, I bottled it. I hadn't thought it through'.
I'm older. Sometimes they think they want the 'mature woman'. But when it comes down to it they don't want to meet where they might be seen by their mates. How does that make me feel?
The problem is they don't think. They have a fantasy in their heads of the randy, no-strings encounter but really they want a regular, nice girl, And the two just aren't reconcilable.
Sorry to be low-key but at least you know you aren't alone.
Boy, have I swung! I've had so many partners. And when the guy from the band said 'Do you want to go back to your original partners?" and everybody shouted "No!" I knew it was the party for me. All of us holding hands and weaving across the common in the dark was particularly good.
Yup - you can't beat a good a good ceilidh.
And though I get fed up because all the action appears to happen in the North I just love living somewhere where the children can play out, barefoot on the grass, till late while parents have fun.
And during the evening I arranged to go to Womad - Reading - from 23rd July. I have a two-man tent and very comfortable double air bed. Anybody from here care to join me?
Jezzay.
Yup - you can't beat a good a good ceilidh.
And though I get fed up because all the action appears to happen in the North I just love living somewhere where the children can play out, barefoot on the grass, till late while parents have fun.
And during the evening I arranged to go to Womad - Reading - from 23rd July. I have a two-man tent and very comfortable double air bed. Anybody from here care to join me?
Jezzay.
It seems I've been too shy and subtle in postings/ads. I'd really like the attention of two or more men, not too young - not too old.
I've been on the site a while now and it's great. I've had a couple of lovely moments through it and want MORE.
I'm a mature, single lady with young attitudes, slim and fit. Fair and ever-so-slightly tanned.
References on application!!
Jezzay
I've been on the site a while now and it's great. I've had a couple of lovely moments through it and want MORE.
I'm a mature, single lady with young attitudes, slim and fit. Fair and ever-so-slightly tanned.
References on application!!
Jezzay
Hey Mal,
You never said that about mine! See 'Come on you Yellows'.
But I need to change the title as I've had 19 views and 1 PM whereas this lady has had 478 views!
How do I do that? Just post it again? Anybody got ideas for a better title or shall I just nick this one? Changing the geography of course.
Jezzay.
You never said that about mine! See 'Come on you Yellows'.
But I need to change the title as I've had 19 views and 1 PM whereas this lady has had 478 views!
How do I do that? Just post it again? Anybody got ideas for a better title or shall I just nick this one? Changing the geography of course.
Jezzay.
This is probably the dullest most mundane thing I've said so far on SH but I took a year out last year and travelled, staying in some very strange places at times.
The one thing top of my list for if I do it again? A universal sink plug! I would have killed for one, trying to wash stuff in not a lot of running water. Even smart hotels in some countries have lost them. I once booked into somewhere pricy just so I could have a bath instead of a tepid shower and guess what...?
If you haven't yet gone, Corrie, have a great time. Got a feeling you and I are going to miss SH over the next couple of weeks.
Jezzay
The one thing top of my list for if I do it again? A universal sink plug! I would have killed for one, trying to wash stuff in not a lot of running water. Even smart hotels in some countries have lost them. I once booked into somewhere pricy just so I could have a bath instead of a tepid shower and guess what...?
If you haven't yet gone, Corrie, have a great time. Got a feeling you and I are going to miss SH over the next couple of weeks.
Jezzay
Wow, what did I start? Excellent. Thank you everybody. I have a shortlist to hit Waterstones with. Well actually it's quite a long list.
I just recently read the Da Vinci Code and thought it was great but I hadn't thought about looking for another by Dan Brown. Thanks, Corrie - you have a great holiday too - yeh John Grisham. 'The KIng of Torts' was superb (have you started it yet, Mal?) and also 'A Painted House' which is a complete change of style for him. Something I always admire.
Now I was going to simply ignore Mr FC in a dignified manner until Blue went and backed him up. So I guess that's my airport reading sorted out. I've never even heard of NUTS.
Two I can strongly recommend in return are Barbara Kingsolver. 'The Prodigal Summer' is a beautiful book with great characterisation, environmental awareness and subtle sensuality. (Good subject for a seperate thread maybe - erotica without graphic detail.) 'The Poisonwood Bible' is quite different but also excellent.
And for great fun William Sutcliffe. Well observed and hilarious insight into the boy/girl thing in lots of contexts. 'Are you experienced' is a must for anybody who has travelled and 'The Love Hexagon' is just a must. Here's a taster - thanks again.
Keri is talking about after sex " I'd be lying there, and you're beginning to get your orientation back, and before I'd even remembered who I was, this voice would rise up from the next pillow and start thanking me. Can you believe that?"
Lisa laughs, and allows a short silence to open up before saying, "You'd forget who you were?"
"What?" says Keri, frowning.
Lisa lowers her voice. "You'd forget who you were? During sex?"
"What are you on about?... You always forget who you are. That's the whole point."
"Is it?"
"Yeah."
"Really?"
"Course it is."
"Oh."
Why" says Keri. "Don't you?"
"Er... I don't think so."
"You sure?"
"If you walked in in the middle, and asked me what my name was, I'd definitely remember," says Lisa.
I just recently read the Da Vinci Code and thought it was great but I hadn't thought about looking for another by Dan Brown. Thanks, Corrie - you have a great holiday too - yeh John Grisham. 'The KIng of Torts' was superb (have you started it yet, Mal?) and also 'A Painted House' which is a complete change of style for him. Something I always admire.
Now I was going to simply ignore Mr FC in a dignified manner until Blue went and backed him up. So I guess that's my airport reading sorted out. I've never even heard of NUTS.
Two I can strongly recommend in return are Barbara Kingsolver. 'The Prodigal Summer' is a beautiful book with great characterisation, environmental awareness and subtle sensuality. (Good subject for a seperate thread maybe - erotica without graphic detail.) 'The Poisonwood Bible' is quite different but also excellent.
And for great fun William Sutcliffe. Well observed and hilarious insight into the boy/girl thing in lots of contexts. 'Are you experienced' is a must for anybody who has travelled and 'The Love Hexagon' is just a must. Here's a taster - thanks again.
Keri is talking about after sex " I'd be lying there, and you're beginning to get your orientation back, and before I'd even remembered who I was, this voice would rise up from the next pillow and start thanking me. Can you believe that?"
Lisa laughs, and allows a short silence to open up before saying, "You'd forget who you were?"
"What?" says Keri, frowning.
Lisa lowers her voice. "You'd forget who you were? During sex?"
"What are you on about?... You always forget who you are. That's the whole point."
"Is it?"
"Yeah."
"Really?"
"Course it is."
"Oh."
Why" says Keri. "Don't you?"
"Er... I don't think so."
"You sure?"
"If you walked in in the middle, and asked me what my name was, I'd definitely remember," says Lisa.
And I know Corrie has just done 'what to take on holiday' but I'm off too for 10 days to a cottage in Mallorca with my girlfriend who, being in a relationship, has asked me very nicely to calm down and behave for the duration. So please people - three books. Engrosing and vaguely intelligent but not too heavy. Of which I won't lose the plot each time a tight, tanned bum passes on his way for a beer. (Woah - I'm ahead of you. No I didn't mean a pissed tramp.)
This is a joke, right? "His world of strain and pressure". I'm a lady working in a team of 8 and all the rest are men. Rest breaks, 'Sun'-type page 3 breaks, the pub at lunchtime ('It's been a difficult morning"), "Is City a cert for promotion?" breaks, "She really shouldn't wear those boots with that top" breaks". Trust me - there are a few guys who find work the stress-free and restful place to be, not home.
But you were joking - I'm almost sure you were. Yeah you were.
Jezzay
But you were joking - I'm almost sure you were. Yeah you were.
Jezzay
I don't understand the issue. Where's the problem with Krackawheat and cheese? You can have it with Branston pickle, French mustard, Brinjal pickle or just plain naked. While you're eating it you can chat online, play patience or watch 'ER'. Total bliss. A Bud or a glass of wine - no washing up. (You just wipe the plate and stick it back in the cupboard. Who said "What plate"?)
Hi Dan,
Yes. I suggested something last Saturday - see below - but got not one response so we may be in a minority of two. Worth a try though. What would you suggest?
This is from last week :
" Bored in Norwich
Posted: Sat Apr 24, 2004 11:19 pm Post subject: Bored in Norwich
There must be things happening here! Surely? Please check out my posting on The Cafe "Bored on a Saturday Night".
If it's not happening then I suppose I could make it happen. If I were to set something up - book somewhere - Euphoria maybe - who would be on board? Feel free to PM me. (But not just to say "I'm horny - fancy a shag" please. That's not what it's all about."
Jezzay
Yes. I suggested something last Saturday - see below - but got not one response so we may be in a minority of two. Worth a try though. What would you suggest?
This is from last week :
" Bored in Norwich
Posted: Sat Apr 24, 2004 11:19 pm Post subject: Bored in Norwich
There must be things happening here! Surely? Please check out my posting on The Cafe "Bored on a Saturday Night".
If it's not happening then I suppose I could make it happen. If I were to set something up - book somewhere - Euphoria maybe - who would be on board? Feel free to PM me. (But not just to say "I'm horny - fancy a shag" please. That's not what it's all about."
Jezzay
So Roy and Roger -
"does any1 on this site actually want sex ive sent many messages out whats going on"
"Yes, lots of us on this site want sex. And therein lies the problem, because % of us are men trying to meet up with women or couples, and we outnumber them vastly."
Can you explain to me then, as a single lady, why the last twice I have set out to meet a guy following extended email conversations, I have sat alone in a pub for the best part of an hour feeling totally stupid and wondering why I bothered to select my best bra? And obviously the email correspondence abruptly ceases. (The second was today and I've been cross all day having wasted so much of my holiday.) In fairness they were both from Adult Friendfinder and not here but the principle applies. I now feel like not trying any more and giving up both sites.
So please don't give up. Be as nice as you can to the ladies you contact and give as much information as you can so we can feel confident you might just turn up. If you bottle it at the last minute - which is perfectly understandable - please send a polite message or text so that she doesn't lose a day out of a busy life.
Serious answers would be welcome - I'd love to understand why it happens. Are there guys on these sites who get a buzz from playing us along do you think?
(I'll be at the NW munch if anyone wants to check whether it's because I look like a hippopotamus.)
Jezzay
"does any1 on this site actually want sex ive sent many messages out whats going on"
"Yes, lots of us on this site want sex. And therein lies the problem, because % of us are men trying to meet up with women or couples, and we outnumber them vastly."
Can you explain to me then, as a single lady, why the last twice I have set out to meet a guy following extended email conversations, I have sat alone in a pub for the best part of an hour feeling totally stupid and wondering why I bothered to select my best bra? And obviously the email correspondence abruptly ceases. (The second was today and I've been cross all day having wasted so much of my holiday.) In fairness they were both from Adult Friendfinder and not here but the principle applies. I now feel like not trying any more and giving up both sites.
So please don't give up. Be as nice as you can to the ladies you contact and give as much information as you can so we can feel confident you might just turn up. If you bottle it at the last minute - which is perfectly understandable - please send a polite message or text so that she doesn't lose a day out of a busy life.
Serious answers would be welcome - I'd love to understand why it happens. Are there guys on these sites who get a buzz from playing us along do you think?
(I'll be at the NW munch if anyone wants to check whether it's because I look like a hippopotamus.)
Jezzay
Corrie,
I just want to say I you have articulated (I'm not talking about lorries here, boys) what I have been feeling when you said :
"I think women in the main who have more casual sex through swinging may feel a lot better about themselves than those who meet guys in a pub or singles websites as the groundrules are clear from the beginning and therefore guilt, shame etc should never be an issue. Women are far more liberated and confident in their abilities and boundaries as a woman, partner, parent and breadwinner."
My confidence has been enhanced through my experiences. It's more than just the lack of guilt and shame. It's also to do with the way the guys you meet this way treat you, the way they compliment you and care about you. They are not worried about you attempting to take them "shopping for curtains" as one of my contacts puts it so they in turn feel liberated to say nice things and treat you well knowing there's no risk of you wanting to march them up the aisle.
'Liberation' is, I think, the key word and in my mind 'swinging' equals 'liberation'. Liberation from the blinkered way most people look at sex and relationships. And - you'll recognise this as a single girl - liberation from '...likes long walks along the beach and candle-lit dinners'. Yeah - right!
Jezzay
I just want to say I you have articulated (I'm not talking about lorries here, boys) what I have been feeling when you said :
"I think women in the main who have more casual sex through swinging may feel a lot better about themselves than those who meet guys in a pub or singles websites as the groundrules are clear from the beginning and therefore guilt, shame etc should never be an issue. Women are far more liberated and confident in their abilities and boundaries as a woman, partner, parent and breadwinner."
My confidence has been enhanced through my experiences. It's more than just the lack of guilt and shame. It's also to do with the way the guys you meet this way treat you, the way they compliment you and care about you. They are not worried about you attempting to take them "shopping for curtains" as one of my contacts puts it so they in turn feel liberated to say nice things and treat you well knowing there's no risk of you wanting to march them up the aisle.
'Liberation' is, I think, the key word and in my mind 'swinging' equals 'liberation'. Liberation from the blinkered way most people look at sex and relationships. And - you'll recognise this as a single girl - liberation from '...likes long walks along the beach and candle-lit dinners'. Yeah - right!
Jezzay
There must be things happening here! Surely? Please check out my posting on The Cafe "Bored on a Saturday Night".
If it's not happening then I suppose I could make it happen. If I were to set something up - book somewhere - Euphoria maybe - who would be on board? Feel free to PM me. (But not just to say "I'm horny - fancy a shag" please. That's not what it's all about.
Jezzay.
If it's not happening then I suppose I could make it happen. If I were to set something up - book somewhere - Euphoria maybe - who would be on board? Feel free to PM me. (But not just to say "I'm horny - fancy a shag" please. That's not what it's all about.
Jezzay.
