I'm afraid anybody who talks in upper case is not hot. They're cold. Very very cold.
Jezzay.
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Quote by doomy22
Hi, I'm able to acommodate for Saturday/Sunday in Bolton - Looking for a girl 18-30 up for some discreet no strings fun. If this is you then send me a PM - single girls only please. And hurry! Sorry for short notice.
Also, great site
If I am ever asked for a definition of optimism I shall remember this post.
Jezzay.
I'm not sure why but I have a bit of a yen for Afro-carbibean gentlemen with dreadlocks. Now I know I could trot off to Hedonism in Jamaica and it would all be there waiting for me but I've done a whole lot of travelling in recent years and want to stay home.
I placed an ad in this vein and got over 60 replies. 3 were actually from black guys with dreadlocks! (Most of the rest were fairly horrible and some offensive so I won't be doing that again in a hurry!) But unfortunately a meet has not been forthcoming.
So I am white, slim and verging on the elderly. I'm quietly known on Swinging Heaven and am sure I can find a couple of young men who will vouch for me.
Oooh now what's going to happen.
Jezzay.
I placed an ad in this vein and got over 60 replies. 3 were actually from black guys with dreadlocks! (Most of the rest were fairly horrible and some offensive so I won't be doing that again in a hurry!) But unfortunately a meet has not been forthcoming.
So I am white, slim and verging on the elderly. I'm quietly known on Swinging Heaven and am sure I can find a couple of young men who will vouch for me.
Oooh now what's going to happen.
Jezzay.
Hi Onlyme,
I am s-o-o-o-o with you on this one. I have put up with what you've described for exactly the same reasons as you. Everything else is going well but - oh dear.
I have - had - one friend who would drive a long way to see me after a long day at work. A couple of times I got him into the shower on the pretext of how sexy it was. Actually, rubbing Badedas all over each other is quite sexy. But he never got the message. He is no more.
We SHOULD say : "I will worship every part of your body in turn if you would only make sure it is fresh enough for me' but we don't. Cos it isn't sexy and it isn't romantic.
But also - changing the subject a little - I think we are 'programmed' to respond to some people and not others. There have been occasions when the lack of freshness has been tolerable. OK more than tolerable - sexy even. When the person is who your genes think is a good match then their smell turns you on. Yes? No?
Jezzay.
I am s-o-o-o-o with you on this one. I have put up with what you've described for exactly the same reasons as you. Everything else is going well but - oh dear.
I have - had - one friend who would drive a long way to see me after a long day at work. A couple of times I got him into the shower on the pretext of how sexy it was. Actually, rubbing Badedas all over each other is quite sexy. But he never got the message. He is no more.
We SHOULD say : "I will worship every part of your body in turn if you would only make sure it is fresh enough for me' but we don't. Cos it isn't sexy and it isn't romantic.
But also - changing the subject a little - I think we are 'programmed' to respond to some people and not others. There have been occasions when the lack of freshness has been tolerable. OK more than tolerable - sexy even. When the person is who your genes think is a good match then their smell turns you on. Yes? No?
Jezzay.
This is a good one for me.
Before I freed myself up from 'straight' or 'vanilla' sexual thinking (and joined SH) I would have said 'They have to be taller.' No question. Part of me still prefers a taller guy but I now think it's to do with conditioning, family traits etc.
Because.... I have now had such supremely sexy times with guys my height or a touch shorter (I'm 5' 4 and a bit) that I would never again discriminate on height. I like it when all the bits match up, if you see what I mean.
Also I think confidence comes into it. If a short guy keeps saying 'I'm such a short-arse' that would eventually put me off. But a short guy who acts as if he's no different from a tall one suggests lots of healthy confidence and self-approval. Which is good.
Jezzay.
Before I freed myself up from 'straight' or 'vanilla' sexual thinking (and joined SH) I would have said 'They have to be taller.' No question. Part of me still prefers a taller guy but I now think it's to do with conditioning, family traits etc.
Because.... I have now had such supremely sexy times with guys my height or a touch shorter (I'm 5' 4 and a bit) that I would never again discriminate on height. I like it when all the bits match up, if you see what I mean.
Also I think confidence comes into it. If a short guy keeps saying 'I'm such a short-arse' that would eventually put me off. But a short guy who acts as if he's no different from a tall one suggests lots of healthy confidence and self-approval. Which is good.
Jezzay.
Hey Fabs,
I went to Live 8 at the Eden Project. For those of you who didn't cotton on, that was the concert with all the performers from Africa. The best performers from Africa - the ones who can show people that Africa is ready, is emerging, has it's own culture and needs our support and our political action, not just our cash.
They asked us to help get rid of dictators (he was from Zimbabwe) and to open up our trade (Youssou N’Dour). Whatever country they were from they had their own message, appreciating our support and asking for it to continue.
To say I enjoyed it is an understatement. I am still buzzing. It was one of the best times I've ever had. Iit was like being at one great party and every performance was superb. Professional, musical, uplifting - I never stopped grinning for 24 hours and I wasn't the only one. The whole thing just felt right. Hyde Park ended with Paul McCartney ("I thought he was dead") and 'Long and winding road'. We ended with over 50 African musicians in the costumes of their countries and an African choir singing the African national anthem. Even the guys were crying.
If you are ever struggling with your consience about what to do find an African. Ask them.
Jezzay.
I went to Live 8 at the Eden Project. For those of you who didn't cotton on, that was the concert with all the performers from Africa. The best performers from Africa - the ones who can show people that Africa is ready, is emerging, has it's own culture and needs our support and our political action, not just our cash.
They asked us to help get rid of dictators (he was from Zimbabwe) and to open up our trade (Youssou N’Dour). Whatever country they were from they had their own message, appreciating our support and asking for it to continue.
To say I enjoyed it is an understatement. I am still buzzing. It was one of the best times I've ever had. Iit was like being at one great party and every performance was superb. Professional, musical, uplifting - I never stopped grinning for 24 hours and I wasn't the only one. The whole thing just felt right. Hyde Park ended with Paul McCartney ("I thought he was dead") and 'Long and winding road'. We ended with over 50 African musicians in the costumes of their countries and an African choir singing the African national anthem. Even the guys were crying.
If you are ever struggling with your consience about what to do find an African. Ask them.
Jezzay.
Quote by fabio grooverider
nothing ever happens in norwich dave... trust me...
they will all be out in their ferguson tractors... comparing treads... crunching carotts or pieces of straw.....
norwich is the only place where "godspell" still plays to packed houses....
Oooooooohhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!! RIGHT. Just wait till the next time I see you, Sunshine.
Huh. :boxing:
Jezzay
(PS Don't 'flame' me guys. We know each other.)
Quote by piercedJon
heading to WOMAD.
Jezzay.
I may be wrong, but what happened to the other one... I'm sure they used to be known as "womad and womad?" or was that another one hit wonder from the 80's?
Ah Jon, I've always wanted to say this to you : "Just be good to me.... in the morning....just be good to me ....in the afternoon...."
And thanks for the info on my Sender ID post.
Jezzay.
Quote by gingerjo-lee
hi there i got this out of a magazine. This happens when orgasms make the bladder squirt out a tiny amount of wee
Not true apparently. Well, sometimes true but not always.
Years ago there used to be a great column in She magazine (before it went girlie) by Dr Devlin who month after month said 'It's just wee. The female urethra is very short - it will happen.'
And then one month he said : 'I was wrong. A reader has sent me a sample and it is not wee.' I loved that a man could publicly admit this change of scientific view.
Since then much has been published about whatever the gland is and does and it is real.
I believe it because recently someone has made it happen to me!!!!!!! And after thirty-odd years of sexual activity without it happening that is quite something.
Jezzay.
Thanks Tallnhairy.
Because they've all got "Re: the title of my ad". Just like the replies that go in the Inbox. And they do refer to the ad. Although one of them simply said : "PISS OFF!"
Jezzay.
Quote by freckledbird
How do you know that they came from SH ? I get those kind of emails all the time in all my inboxes.
Because they've all got "Re: the title of my ad". Just like the replies that go in the Inbox. And they do refer to the ad. Although one of them simply said : "PISS OFF!"
Jezzay.
I'm not 'bouncing' my own thread for any egotistical purpose, honest guv.
But I don't think anybody has picked up on my concern. It's not about answering people in general - it's about the 'SENDER ID not verified' message.
suggestes these particular emails are from people on this site who have 'stolen' or 'forged' an ID. Does anybody know anything about this? Have my replies to them put me at greater risk than normal?
Should I ask Mark maybe?
Jezzay.
But I don't think anybody has picked up on my concern. It's not about answering people in general - it's about the 'SENDER ID not verified' message.
suggestes these particular emails are from people on this site who have 'stolen' or 'forged' an ID. Does anybody know anything about this? Have my replies to them put me at greater risk than normal?
Should I ask Mark maybe?
Jezzay.
Quote by tallnhairy
Hmm got to disagree that thanks but no thanks are about over inflated ego's... ask anyone who replies to adds and after a while an over inflated ego is unlikely to be common... more despondancy about what is wrong with you...
However the risk to you by giving out an email is very real in unwanted advances, maybe you could have a account that you use only for the no thanks replies?
I do have a separate email and am happy to reply to people whoses messages arrive in the Inbox. My concern is the messages arriving in Junk email to which have attached the specific warning message suggesting they are abusing stolen email IDs. This is my concern and the reason for the posting.
Jezzay.
I've recently placed an ad on the site for the first time. The replies are coming to my ID and many are being trapped by the Junk mail filter. They are usually the triers-on who haven't read the ad properly and send rubbish or offensive replies.
I've just noticed a message saying ' could not be verified by Sender ID'. Apparently Sender ID spots people using a forged email ID which is excellent.
So my question is - instead of replying to some of these guys (which I've been trying to do because of the complaints on SH about not getting replies) should I just delete these mails straight away? Have I risked anything by replying to them?
Jezzay.
I've just noticed a message saying ' could not be verified by Sender ID'. Apparently Sender ID spots people using a forged email ID which is excellent.
So my question is - instead of replying to some of these guys (which I've been trying to do because of the complaints on SH about not getting replies) should I just delete these mails straight away? Have I risked anything by replying to them?
Jezzay.
Quote by roger743
If you pick ten random single blokes and ten random married blokes and ten random women, will there really be more tossers in the single bloke category?
Statistically and among the public in general possibly not. But our sample here on SH is skewed.
The couples are here for the swinging and will probably have an average tosser ratio.
The single ladies are - I have to make a generalisation here - unusual in that they have recognised and been honest about their own desires. It takes much more courage to join a site like this than a regular dating site and most will have put in a lot of thought. So I reckon possibly less than average tosser ratio.
The single guys - we already acknowledge that sites like this are going to attract lots of male tossers and ignorent youths. They are hardly going to join www. hoping for a quick shag now are they? (I made that site up by the way. Don't you go bothering those nice people at Google.) And so much higher than average tosser ratio I maintain.
But that just makes it all the more pleasurable when we meet all you lovely non-tosser single guys
Jezzay.
