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21 May 2005

Quote by Sexysteph
Sharron, if she has had this happening for so long has always had the option to end the relationship so why hasn't she if it is that unfulfilling?

Perhaps because there is more to her life & relationship than just sex!
In all other aspects things may be just perfect.
Relationships never are quite as cut & dried as you seem to portray Steph, unfortunately.

Quote by Sexysteph
How would you feel if your partner was cheating on you and you found out.
Would you really just think to yourself "ohhh its my fault I should have shagged her more"? Somehow I do not think so.

Once again you are judging people without knowing them.
What is my situation? Why are my wife & I separated at the moment?
What self analysis am I going through to look at myself & try to make the marriage work?
What communication are we having to resolve our issues?
She wasn't cheating on me but the scenario of my life is almost how you describe and 'Yes', I have thought "Ohhh it's my fault" I should have done something more (but not shagging in our case).
All I've asked is that people are less judgemental of others and expect everyone to lead their lives as they do. People seem to have jumped on Sharron after her intro & without knowing the full details. For all I know she might be a right devious, horrible, cheating cow but no one knows that yet so why not give her time in the Cafe, get to know her & then start criticising her life choices when we know why she has made them.
Shock, horror she might even turn out to be a lovely lady just doing the best she can!!!

21 May 2005

Quote by Sexysteph
Serious question to any of the guys out there. Imagine you are Sharron's partner. You are not giving her enough sex so she decides to join a swingers site and meet different guys for SEX. Would you be
(a) gutted as she emasculates you by getting satisfied elsewhere
(b) hurt as fuck that she is making a laughing stock of you by going behind your back to screw these other guys and people will notice
(c) Angry that you are being used as a security blanket after all she is being honest with everyone else but not with you.
(d) Angry at the guys she meets (possible retribution?)
(e) Feel like wringing her neck
So examine your feelings well guys.

I think you've forgotten (f) which could be something like
'do something about it before she has to go elsewhere'
which may be to go your separate ways, compromise on what she wants & what you can give her or maybe let her go and get what she needs.
If Sharron has been banging her head against a brick wall for years and still this situation continues then why should she not do what she thinks is best?
Obviously it would be nice if everyone was happy & everyone knew what eveyone else was doing but sometimes relationships aren't like that and some individuals like to exert control over others in a variety of different ways. That control is fought against in an equally diverse amount of ways.
I just don't think people should be judging others from a 4 or 5 line intro.

21 May 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
what i disagree with is swinging is not supposed 2 be about getting a easy shag which is what these people are after............and any tom dick and harry after a shag seems to be using them now as swingers sites seem to be labeled easy shag sites now days.

Aren't some single people after an easy shag?
If they are they shouldn't be using swinging sites seems to be your theory.
Just because swinging couples like these singles being around doesn't defend your theory that the single is after an easy shag.

21 May 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
can i just say something, well i'm going to anyway, i totally agree that what people do is upto them, i have never said this woman or anyone else shouldn't cheat thats totally upto them and also is true to say if u don't like it don't meet them, what i disagree with is swinging is not supposed 2 be about getting a easy shag which is what these people are after, why don't married and cheating use sites for married and cheating people not swingers sites? i just get a bit miffed that people seem to be loosing sight of what swingers are about, and any tom dick and harry after a shag seems to be using them now as swingers sites seem to be labeled easy shag sites now days. :jagsatwork:

From this I'd guess you don't want any single people using this site either?!!!

21 May 2005

Quote by Happy Cats
No it finishes on Wednesday when the mighty reds win their 5th European Cup!

Being a Crewe fan I don't really care about Man Utd, Chelsea or Arsenal but when it comes to an English team against an Italian team, well, that's different.
I'll be shouting for Liverpool even though they got rid of our boy Mr. Murphy last year.

21 May 2005

Quote by SpanishCharmer
I think we should have a definition of old and young...
a girl of 19 with a guy of 26 is not much difference...men mentality is 6 to 7 years behind with respect a woman same age.
A combination old and young would be a person early 20's, another early, mid 30's...for example.
Do not forget that is a question of maturity and we guys need to recognise that till you are in your late 20's early 30's, a woman of our age is much more mature

Aaarrggghh!!! Don't you just hate these generalisations?!!!
I've known some 22 year old girls that could put a 14 year old to shame as regards dippiness!!!
And some 30 year old blokes that I wouldn't want a daughter of mine around, no matter what her age!!!
We are all individual & all different. Averages don't work with humans, only with statistics.

21 May 2005

Quote by VenusnMars
Just finished a phonecall with my mum. I asked her if she was happy to have the kids in Termtime if Mars and I went on holiday for a week without the kids. I explained I would take them on a camping holiday first, but was keen to spend a week visiting SH friends with just Mars.
'I was asked 'what about the poor kids'
I asked her if she had actually heard me say that I'd take them camping first.
Was asked if I could afford two holidays.
I emphasised 'camping' and 'staying with friends' (as in not paying for flights, accomodation yadda yadda). Then I emphasised the fact I have a very stressful job, and was told 'As long as you stick with it' :huh:
Making my time off valuable is sticking with it.
Am I a monster?!
Venusxxx

I think wording your thread as 'holiday' does you a disservice because, in my eyes, it's not really a holiday but a break to go & visit friends.
What you do on that break is immaterial.
There could be many reasons you cannot take the kids, eg friends house far too small, etc, etc but this shouldn't prevent you from not keeping in contact with your friends or having a bit of extended quality time with your partner away from the lit'luns.
Would mum have them if it was for 1 or 2 nights to visit friends?
If so then why not 4 or 5 nights?
As long as kids & gran enjoy being with each other I can't see how you could be accused of being a monster.
Plus, this is just one tiny portion of parenthood. You might be brilliant or complete pants at the rest so wouldn't all of that come into play as well?
Not knowing you Venus I can't comment but if your kids are your world but you want one week off in 17 years then it's hardly time for everyone to start hailing "Shame on you".
I hope things are resolved to everyone's benefit & all have an enjoyable week.

21 May 2005

Quote by bigDewi69
Are united home or away? It would make the difference between nice quiet afternoon, or surrounded by 1000s of angry United fans after they lost

I thought all the Utd fans would be travelling back to Surrey & Hertfordshire!!!

21 May 2005

Quote by Clare_Lincs
Typical for you to forget the one Chelsea couldnt manage :giggle:

But if Man U should lose does that put them on a par with Millwall?!!! lol

lol

21 May 2005

Quote by Clare_Lincs
Ok,so no ones done it yet so I couldnt help meself
Come on UTD lets kick some Aresnal Ass :kick: :lol: :boxing:
Manchester United 5 Arsenal scumbags 0
Bring it on :cheers: :beer: :bounce: :thrilled: :happy:

Ummm, I take it there's a football match on today?
I thought the season had finished when Chelsea won the Championship by a country mile?!!!

21 May 2005

Quote by MrLickingham
What I find tough to understand, though, is why a woman would blow her man to orgasm and thus deprive herself of a good fuck for however long it takes the guy to recover? For that reason, I often feel slightly guilty when I get blown to completion, and more often than not I'll cut the blowjob short, even though it's absolutely terrific, and pull her on top of me so that she can get off. Is this just me, or do other guys get this guilt?

Aren't you then guilty of preventing her giving you a BJ to completion?
She might enjoy that as much as anything else?
And why does "a good fuck" seem to be the pinnacle of events?
If time allows then why not recover whilst doing to her what she has just done to you & then give her what you think you are depriving her.
Or if time is a factor then make do with a small proportion of the multitude of pleasures that can be derived from love making / sex / fucking without seeing "a good fuck" as the be all and end all.
I think guilt only comes into play when you know you have been selfish and intend to do nothing about it. If she missed out this time then you probably both know she won't be missing out next time. wink

wink

21 May 2005

:therethere:
kiss

kiss

Think yourself lucky your age isn't as advanced as mine.

21 May 2005

Oooo, can I just quote that?!!!

Quote by northwest-cpl
Totally agree with you littlemee.

There, done it.
It's nice to know I'm not talking complete bol***ks sometimes!!!
kiss

kiss

Thank you northwest-cpl :kiss:

21 May 2005

Quote by Maia
talking about dancing and laps and them ermm involving legs, I think I have managed to pull a muscle in my groin from too much driving...

Quote by tanglewood72
awww Maia, would you like it gently massaged? hehe

Hands up if you believe her that is was from "driving"!!!
You must remember to warm up thoroughly before attempting any gymnastic manoeuvres!!!

21 May 2005

Quote by Libra+Love
Male pee in a trigger bottle is effective too. Kinda works along the lines of scenting. Little cat thinks that's one helluva big cat and wont come back!

Chuckle!
Thinking to myself what would happen if you run out of supplies in a trigger bottle & have to post an ad in a newly created 'Water Sports' section. lol

lol

Will the neighbours understand it's to keep cats off?!!!
Urrggghhh!!!

21 May 2005

I just love people who judge others for a situation they probably aren't in & possibly never have been in!!!
I think there are lots of men & (shock, horror) women too on this site that are not quite as open & honest with their partners as they could be.
But that is their business & they will have their reasons for it.
If I condoned your behaviour I'd probably be PMing you trying to get to know you a little better wink

wink

If I didn't condone it then I would keep my trap shut & give you the benefit of the doubt that deceit wasn't your first option to resolve your relationship problems & try to understand why you have to do what you do.
Sometimes I think it would be nice if others kept a little more quiet when they disagree with someone elses lifestyle choices/decisions. We don't all live in a happy, open relationship despite our best endeavours and sometimes we have to make the most of the cards we have been dealt.
Good luck to you Sharron & anyone that finds themselves in a similar situation.

21 May 2005

Quote by bluexxx
Why not go to a club and get people to watch you?

Quote by Louiselou
That would scare me to death!! LOL. There's being watched and having a bit of a play, and then there's being on stage!! The thought of that takes me back to high school drama enforcement!! Brrrrrr LOL

I've never been to a club myself but don't some have 'private' rooms you might use or maybe just visit a club to try to meet the people you would like to join you & then arrange the meet for somewhere a little less public. You don't have to perform in the club on the the night, surely.

21 May 2005

Quote by Louiselou
My imagination obviously needs kicking into gear!!! I'd not thought of the photo ads D'oh.
Thanks

I hope your imagination is well & truly in gear when your lucky voyeur is there with his Canon Zoom, tripod, lighting, storyline sketch board & Kleenex!!! wink

wink

21 May 2005

Quote by Louiselou
hey
My boyfriend and I are thinking about getting a voyeur in to watch us and maybe do some soft stuff too with me. Apart from regular swinging, does this stuff go on too? Y'know, picture taking and other stuff? We've looked through the web but can't seem to find anything like this.
Help??Lou

Quote by likestobewatched
Same here, we've done outside stuff and places where we could be seen but we fancy being watched "properly" but not sure about how/where as some of the dogging stuff sounds a bit risky

Do you really need a web site to tell you how to do this? Why not just use your imagination & get looking for amenable types who are willing to help you out.
I would of thought an ad in the Photo Ads section explaining your needs would be a start.
I'm sure there are scores of people (probably men mainly) that would love to watch & take photos for you. It would just be a case of weeding out the genuine ones & getting the venue sorted. Yours, theirs, outside. The possibilities are endless and I can't imagine it would be that hard to find somewhere & someone to do this for you.
Good luck & I hope you enjoy whatever you get organised. wink

wink

20 May 2005

Quote by bailiffs
on the erections frount i once read on a problem page this girl wrote in and said
" when my boyfriend wakes up in the morning he always has a erection and he says it wont go down untill we have sex is there anyway of solving this problem???"
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
reply- erm......yeh tell him your not that stupid!!!!!!
louxxxxxxx

......but his way sounds like more fun!!!

20 May 2005

Quote by bailiffs
hi guy's - particually girls!!!
im getting married next year and already im stressing!!!!! at first we were going to have a "small doo" and we wrote a list of all friends and family (close) and already we where upto over 130 quests thats not counting all the people my dad will want to invite!!!
ive been told to get married abroad but with being the only girl i know it will gut my dad if i get married abroad where he carnt walk me down the isle and "show me off".
the only thing i know for sure is that me and my mum and friends (even my 60 year old auntie) are all going to blackpool for a hen weekend.
im calling all married persons to give the best advice possible and make me aware of things i will need to do/ book etc... that normally people forget.
then i can honestly say uve all.....kinda..... had a input into my wedding day!!!!!
i would much appreciate all advice!!!
thanks people
love lou xxxx

My only advice Lou is just remember who's special day this is!!!
Do what you want to do not what others might want 'cos you ain't gonna please all the people all the time!!!
And Best Wishes to you & your future hubby. :cheers:

20 May 2005

Quote by Maia
As for you Littlemee, does this mean we have managed to, at the very least temporarily, distract you from your books?

I'm a sad enough git to be in on a Friday night but not that sad that I'm studying!!!
All work & no play.......etc, etc!!!

20 May 2005

Quote by bailiffs
no three if you include marya!!!!!!!! i think we should go on swinging strike untill all this nonsense has stopped!!!!!!!
u could always come shopping with me and mayra!!!!!
louxxx

If you need someone to carry your bags or give you his inept but enthusiastic opinion on any lingerie you may be contemplating buying then I'm yer man!!! :lol: :shock: :lol:

20 May 2005

Quote by Dino.
o my god , i think i love you :P :P :P

If you carry on like that Maia I can see the makings of an orderly queue forming!!! lol

lol

20 May 2005

Quote by bailiffs
am i the only person that doesnt like star wars???? :? :? :? :?
theres alot of threads on here about this!!! maybe im just boring????
louxxxxxx

The first one was great......but I was only about 12.
Next two I thought were pants!!!
The wife wanted to see the Phantom Menace when it came out & I fell asleep during it.
Ditto the one after that!!!
Does that make 2 that don't like Star Wars?!!!

20 May 2005

Quote by Sgt Bilko
I do find the pic of an unprotected penis entering a vagina a little perplexing though!! :? :?

I was going to add this to my comment but thought it might be her long time partner / fellow HIV+ companion / etc.
Even if it is any of these I would have thought someone with HIV might be a little more 'selective' in the content of their pictures.

20 May 2005

Quote by Maia
Well there's the lusty BJ when th ecock is hard, and then there is that gentle BJ following coming from a BJ. It's a muscle, and you always should massage gently an exerted muscle...)

Quote by bevntony
Made perfect sense to me Maia.

Quote by dambuster
Made perfect sense to me.

Quote by tanglewood72
made sense to me!

No, sorry Maia, not quite sure what you're on about.
Can you explain again........
or better still..................???!!! wink

wink

20 May 2005

Quote by Traffic
I know what your saying, but at first the add failed to mention her HIV status, it was up there for about 3 days, then she ammended it, I think she is good for being honest and I'm sure she finds herself in a very difficult situation if it is a real add, my comment was that isn't it a bit of a chill when we are directly reminded about the risks that are out there, and that having HIV+ people on a swinging site should make us all stop and think.

Surely it shouldn't have to take someone telling you they are HIV to make you "stop & think"?!!!
I'm not sure of your age but I was mid/late teens when AIDS first became a major issue & I have grown up with the awareness of the importance of safe sex, etc. The fact someone points out to me they are HIV+ doesn't affect me greatly except to feel empathy for them as I would anyone with a disease / illness.
I think the lady should be applauded for being honest and not made to feel any different from the rest on this site.
What concerns me greatly is the predilection for 'bare back' by other advertisers. I'm not knocking them for it, it is entirely up to them what they do, but it still makes me wonder if they are really aware of what they could be letting themselves in for. Maybe these are the ones that should be "stopping & thinking"???!!!

20 May 2005

Quote by Horous
This morning I had a thought that had never occured to me before, is there a female equlivent of the morning erection?
I know that the male version is to stop us from wetting the bed, but I had never thought of it from a female point of view before. If you don't have a similar event, what stops you girls from having wetting the bed in the morning.
Truly confused.
John

:doh: And there's me thinking I'm waking up with a chubby 'cos I'm always feeling horny in the morning when all it really means is I should of woken up at 3am to have a piss!!!
So does this mean that when I'm an old geezer and suffering from erectile dysfunction that I will be getting up at 3am for a piss?!!!
And I thought is was because me poor old grandad had a weak bladder!!!

20 May 2005

Quote by northants69m
Hi ..a question for the guys I guess,
Do any of you have a sensitive "helmet" just after you've cum?
I love oral, but I find that when a friend licks the end just as I've cum, and for a short while afterwards, its very sensitive and uncomfortable...pain is almost the word, but not quite.
Any other guys find the same?
Any ladies been asked to take care?
thanls
Dave

Sensitive & tender but not uncomfortable or painful. It's tricky to describe exactly how it feels but what I do know is that any more sucking on it directly after is bliss. It doesn't feel quite the same after a wank though!!!
Why is that?!!!!