Quote by lets_kiss
Most women when they get like this have a boyfriend or husband who talks some sense into them .
Lets_kiss - this bothers me. Swinging as a single female is something that requires a bit of faith in yourself - you WILL have to be brave sometimes, you WILL have to learn to deal with unwanted attention, and you WILL have to find the emotional maturity to deal with what can be a complicated set of circumstances - and you have to do that yourself, for yourself. YOU need to have the strength and self-respect to keep yourself safe here.
If you genuinely think you need a man to 'talk sense into you', you are not safe here. If you continue to get this upset about the effect your (entirely reasonable, it seems to me) views have on others, you are not safe here. If you have trouble refusing to play with people you don't want to play with, you are not safe here. At the very least you're going to spend all your time crying over threads like this, and at the other end of the scale, being a lone single female in a club who is incapable of saying 'no' is an extremely uncomfortable and potentially damaging scenario.
There's some good advice in this thread - if I were you, I would have a good read of it and think seriously about what you want to get out of this scene, and what kind of self-respect you need to have in order to manage it safely.
Cocoa x
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assionkiss:
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..... girlie night in! 
I hope you have a great time here! 
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