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Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 58
0 miles · West Yorkshire
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But the site HAS been in the radio and in other publications in the past, this is not the first time this has happened. Some of you may remember it was once in an article in an Electricians publication.
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It doesn't matter WHAT you do, someone somewhere isn't going to like it.
It is usually because they don't understand, therefore they don't like it.
(They should try it - they might even like it).
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It doesn't matter WHAT you do, someone somewhere isn't going to like it.
It is usually because they don't understand, therefore they don't like it.
(They should try it - they might even like it).
In answer to the original post .......
Have I been approached by only one half of the couple ?
Yes. On some occasions. This seemss to be when the couple have already made up their mind that one of them is looking to be 'voyeur' and get their kicks from that.
Does it make a difference if a couple swing as a couple or singles ?
Absolutely none whatsoever. As long as they know what they want from any meeting, and they make it clear to interested parties, there's no problem.
In terms of approaching a couple and then talking to only one half of the couple, that's just plain rude (unless rule one applies - see above). If, as a single, I approach a couple to talk to them (or whatever), then the key word is 'couple'. If they wanted me to talk to them singly then surely they would not be together whilst meeting ?
Any single approaching a couple and talking to only one half, is effectively saying "I'm not interested in you, only your partner", which is plain unacceptable. I would hope that anyone who behaves like that is 'educated' by the couple in pointing out the fact that their partner is with them, and they should talk to them too. I can understand that it can be a bit daunting for singles to talk to both partners straight away as it is a slightly alien situation that gets easier with time / experience, so to quote Dammie - 'cutting a little slack' is alright, but if it is clear that they are only really looking for one person from the two, then they need to be shown the door (metaphorically speaking.... or not, depending on how rude they are).
As an aside, I recently met a couple from this site, and I'm sure I could have been only interested in one of the people, and that would have been OK with them, but actually engaging both of them in conversation rewarded all of us a lot more then me focussing on her only. They even said so ! (And they didn't really plan it that way either - it's just me, I like to talk to / understand both 'sides' of a couple).
PS. Dawn / Ian - if you're reading this, I don't mean you two ! (Heck, Dawn speaks enough for all three of us !). Oh boy, I'm gonna be dead when she reads this ......
I could go on and on about this, but to sum up my feelings and experience, if a single meets a couple, then they are obligated to talk to the couple.
If the couple meet singly, then it's just another two singles meeting.
Have I been approached by only one half of the couple ?
Yes. On some occasions. This seemss to be when the couple have already made up their mind that one of them is looking to be 'voyeur' and get their kicks from that.
Does it make a difference if a couple swing as a couple or singles ?
Absolutely none whatsoever. As long as they know what they want from any meeting, and they make it clear to interested parties, there's no problem.
In terms of approaching a couple and then talking to only one half of the couple, that's just plain rude (unless rule one applies - see above). If, as a single, I approach a couple to talk to them (or whatever), then the key word is 'couple'. If they wanted me to talk to them singly then surely they would not be together whilst meeting ?
Any single approaching a couple and talking to only one half, is effectively saying "I'm not interested in you, only your partner", which is plain unacceptable. I would hope that anyone who behaves like that is 'educated' by the couple in pointing out the fact that their partner is with them, and they should talk to them too. I can understand that it can be a bit daunting for singles to talk to both partners straight away as it is a slightly alien situation that gets easier with time / experience, so to quote Dammie - 'cutting a little slack' is alright, but if it is clear that they are only really looking for one person from the two, then they need to be shown the door (metaphorically speaking.... or not, depending on how rude they are).
As an aside, I recently met a couple from this site, and I'm sure I could have been only interested in one of the people, and that would have been OK with them, but actually engaging both of them in conversation rewarded all of us a lot more then me focussing on her only. They even said so ! (And they didn't really plan it that way either - it's just me, I like to talk to / understand both 'sides' of a couple).
PS. Dawn / Ian - if you're reading this, I don't mean you two ! (Heck, Dawn speaks enough for all three of us !). Oh boy, I'm gonna be dead when she reads this ......
I could go on and on about this, but to sum up my feelings and experience, if a single meets a couple, then they are obligated to talk to the couple.
If the couple meet singly, then it's just another two singles meeting.
