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mazandden
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 43
Straight Male, 48
UK

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Quote by Sassy-Seren

I'm loving where this is going! me, splendid, fire and stormy, any one else??!?!?!?!

Hello wave
:happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy:
YAAAAAS!!!! The gorgeous sassy too- we're in for a treat - better pack extra supplies in that suitcase of mine!
Quote by splendid33
I thought that swinging was a lifestyle and sexual choice.... to that end age is not an issue for me.
Some of the best sex I have had has been with younger women.....19 and 24 to be exact. I don't actually think that age is factor either way as for me the turn on is the confidence the person has with themselves.
Experience is negligible as it is only relevent if they are experienced with the things that I like. It is also not dependent on age.
So maz... anytime you feel like coming down south let me know and I will get my best cotton sheets out.... :twisted: :twisted:

I'm on my way..................
How long will it take me?! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
4 hours.......... (was in edinburgh a couple of months ago..- before I "knew" you and that is how long it took me)
shall I get the bedroom, living room, bathroom etc sorted out ??wink

Does this mean that I’ll have to do overtime? :happy:
Stormwalker
you were always going to be doing overtime hunny...... just not on the decorating. :inlove:
I'm loving where this is going! me, splendid, fire and stormy, any one else??!?!?!?!
Quote by sheddy
I think the moral of the story here is consistencey across everything you have on the site Teddy. Profile, ad's and posts in LMU people can afford to be very choosey when looking for a single male so they check these things very carefully when looking.
Good luck join in the fun and :welcome:

you are soooo nice today!
Is that cos you've spent all day looking at Kates pics?!
lol
Quote by essex34m
Maybe people have checked those out and found that you really do not fit their criteria.

But there are so many criteria he could fit into biggrin
That is soooo right, well, i wanted to fit into the criteria of helping him out in his last few months as 'a single' before he gets married, but then I wondered about this 20 year old gf..............and the divorce.......................
I can send him a kebab shot though!
so you have to be almost divorced, single, with a 20y.o. gf to get a kebab shot?
nah, you get one for free hun!!!!!
you have a pm xx
Quote by PoloLady
Personally I (tend to) avoid young couples - just as I do my best to avoid meeting 'we would like to try' couples.
I have been there and done that and got bitten - once bitten twice shy as the saying goes - unfortunately I have been bitten a few times.
In short - when I meet couples I like to enjoy sex with people who know how to be relaxed about the whole thing. I do not want to be someone’s experiment to see if they like something (especially when half way through they decide they don't and everyone feels uncomfortable)
I know it is putting all people of those groups into one barrel and marking it "no thanks" and that there will be some in there who just don't deserve to be. But - we all have to look for the things we know suit us the best (unless you're not really fussy as long as it's sex).

Ooooo I hate the 'not fussy so long as i get me leg over ' approach!!!!!!!!!
We also do have 'age criteria' for very similair reasons to you pl which is 18-35 ish ish ish!
But wasn't the point I was getting at, wasn't whether you have an age group criteria but what your thoughts on younger couples being into the scene are.
I know that when we have told any of our friends that we are swingers, they do usually think it's just something that their parents generation do, and never think that someone their age (the 18-35 bracket) would consider...........
Quote by Steve_Mids
Maybe people have checked those out and found that you really do not fit their criteria.

But there are so many criteria he could fit into biggrin
That is soooo right, well, i wanted to fit into the criteria of helping him out in his last few months as 'a single' before he gets married, but then I wondered about this 20 year old gf..............and the divorce.......................
I can send him a kebab shot though!
We quite agree PL!!!!! Whilst there probably are people out there who are swinging 'cos the spark is lost from their relationship, I'm sure that's not the case for the majority.
We just found it really strange when a poor young couple were getting a touch of hassle as noone seemed to believe that such a young couple would be interested in swinging, therfor there must be some other reason (so yes the preson arguing with them was an arsehole methinks!) When we stuck up for them, it turned out it was a pretty common opinion in the chat room at the time!
Deecee- It's never been something we've come across until the other day in chat, and it's never been directed at us - we're having plenty of fun and always will have- you sexy boy!!!! :twisted:
Quote by sheddy
Why don't you send them my way.....
I'll happily check out sizes etc...................................
:twisted:
size of pk's 'assests' that is!

lol Sorry to disapoint but I have her pic's sorted the ones I can't do are of me :cry:
oh well, spose I could 'check those ones out' for you too,....
:twisted:
Quote by splendid33
I thought that swinging was a lifestyle and sexual choice.... to that end age is not an issue for me.
Some of the best sex I have had has been with younger women.....19 and 24 to be exact. I don't actually think that age is factor either way as for me the turn on is the confidence the person has with themselves.
Experience is negligible as it is only relevent if they are experienced with the things that I like. It is also not dependent on age.
So maz... anytime you feel like coming down south let me know and I will get my best cotton sheets out.... :twisted: :twisted:

I'm on my way..................
How long will it take me?! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
4 hours.......... (was in edinburgh a couple of months ago..- before I "knew" you and that is how long it took me)
shall I get the bedroom, living room, bathroom etc sorted out ?? wink
yup and the kitchen......
I'll bring the 'special' suitcase I keep under my bed shall I?
How long shall I say to Den I'll be away for?!!? wink wink wink
How long have you got?! lol lol
<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< off to pack a VERY large suitcase.......................... :twisted:
Why don't you send them my way.....
I'll happily check out sizes etc...................................
:twisted:
size of pk's 'assests' that is!
Quote by splendid33
I thought that swinging was a lifestyle and sexual choice.... to that end age is not an issue for me.
Some of the best sex I have had has been with younger women.....19 and 24 to be exact. I don't actually think that age is factor either way as for me the turn on is the confidence the person has with themselves.
Experience is negligible as it is only relevent if they are experienced with the things that I like. It is also not dependent on age.
So maz... anytime you feel like coming down south let me know and I will get my best cotton sheets out.... :twisted: :twisted:

I'm on my way..................
How long will it take me?! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Quote by PoloLady
I'll just pop this one in now and come back later....
Some of the mature couples I have spoken to about age preferences have satated they don't like younger couples for one simple reason - they are too close to the age of their kids.

No, I quite agree, we would probably not go for a couple that were a similar age to our parents.
It wasn't just the point about preferences I was making, which i'm sure most people have, (we can't all like the same things) it was the fact that some people seem to have suggested that a young couple shouldn't be swinging at all, almost as if they should be able to get a shag anywhere without having to resort to a swingers website!!
I probably shouldn't have put in the part about feeling uncomfortable next to a younger couple as that ties in with the preference part, what I really wanted to find out were peoples thoughts on the 'needing' to swing aspect that seems to be hinted at by some.......
does that make sense?
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Just wondering what everyones thoughts are on this as recently we have noticed some people getting a bit of hassle in the chat rooms for being 'too young'...
One comment we noticed was 'why would someone your age NEED to swing'
We're a youngish couple, 28 and 23, and we do find a lot of people are put off by that.
For us, its definately not a question of needing to swing, but we thought perhaps some older couples see it as something you need to do because your sex life is drying up having been with someone for so long.
We definately don't need to, as we have a fantastic sex life without swinging, we WANT to swing becasue we want to share it with everyone else, and have an even better time at that!
We also get the impression that some older couples, well particularly the girls, are suggesting that they would feel more uncomfortable in themselves with a younger couple (perhaps they think younger automatically = more attractive?)
I reckon that neither of these reasons are justified, I'm sure that a lot of couples are not swinging because they can't get what they want from each other any more, but because they are having a fantastic time with each other, so therefor age shouldn't be such an issue and It certainly shouldn't be the case that a younger couple would be more attratctive than an older coule either!
So younger swingers, have you noticed anything like this?
And the more mature, what do you think???
maz xxxxxxx
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Thanks to SH we have turned from vanilla innocents to full blown swingers with an added bit of perversion lol lol
Also, have you found your lifestyle, swinging or sex life evolved at all or just changed since you joined Swinging Heaven?
Our own personal sex life has evolved no end, we do it more frequent , experiment lots more and talk more about what we do and don't like.
We have also found we put a lot more variation into how we do things to.
Not sure if its evolved because we just generally talk about sex more or we have just became more sexual or just because we have been together longer?
Shaz x

Yup totally agree with you there Shaz, we are definately finding the same as you!
Den did our first few posts - page 7 or 8 - way in, not too bad for a first one, but now i've seen the other ones, hang on till i go get the links and edit them in.....
They are dire! one I didn't even know had ever been posted! grrr!
this was our first:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopicpage/65651/180.html
This was our first welcome where we hadn't got the hang of the quotes- we didn't write the 'blimey' part
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/79452.html?highlight=
and grrr- den! :
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/79662.html?highlight=
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/79692.html?highlight=
I didn't use the forum till I wanted fancy dress ideas, so we only really started posting in May..................
Den has NEVER bought me flowers, so I'd be over the moon even if they were petrol station flowers!!!!!!!
It's our anniversary on Friday so maybe he'll get the hint when he reads this tomorrow........
lol :rose:
Den if you're listening: i like any pretty flowers!!!!! Especially tulips and lillies and daisies and roses and.......
Quote by steanrachy
Hmmmm, been thinking about this one and in my humble opinion i think anything like this might be a bad idea and possibly steer people away from the site!!
It has its good points i agree, but it also has some fundamentally bad points, for instance, a scoring system could be used inproperly or be subject to innacurate point giving or taking away. What if somebody who has contacted a member and then gets a rejection leaves them bad feedback because of this? There is also the possibility that a meet could be cancelled at the last minuite for a genuine reason (which we have had to do in the past) and the person/s that you were supposed to be meeting gets the hump, doesn't consider that there may be genuine reasons behind the failure to attend and leaves a negative score?
I think SH is fine the way it is, failure to turn up, let downs and time wasters are all part of the learning curve and an embuggerance that we live with for an other wise fantastic site! cool

your feed-back rating is going WAAAAAAAAAAY down boys and girls!!!
you're on negative numbers now!!!!!
awww, we would have loved to go, but we're in Paris that weekend! :cry:
Sign us up for the next one though!!!
M&D xx
I have 2!!!!!
One for doing some gymnastics thing, ( you know how they get people on to show off their routines when they can't think of anything else exciting to do) and one for being a waitress at some charity thing for some well water appeal of some sort.....
Both times I was on telly, struting my stuff, and both times I got ripped to shreds for it at school so probably chucked the badge away redface :cry: lol
den says he doesn't have one, he was too cool for blue peter!
maz xx
We only just saw this post as we havn't been online due to both laptops not wanting to play anymore!!!
Hope you had a great day!
Chat soon we hope!
kisses, M&D xxxxxxxxxxx
I give fitness and nutritional advice to the rugby team I work for and you can't loose weight properly from diet alone, you need the correct type of fat burning exercise, cardio at fat burning intensities, combined with weights training.
The jist is, if you eat a fairly balanced diet, which is higher in proteins and, lower in refined/processed carbohydrates, with plenty of fresh fruit and veg, you can't go far wrong.
Happy to give proper advice if you pm, but can';t be bothered to write out everything here!
lazy bitch! lol xx
Well, just be careful folks, we signed up to swing in scotland, (different to the one you are talking about) and you had to send in pics and info about which sites you belonged to, in order to join and get info on parties - the 'site' has since dissapeared, along with our pics, and no parties to be had!
You live n learn eh?! So just be careful and don't be as stupid as us, they were posting as the 'belle baise/fever of the north'..........
Grrrr!
(we don;t get called the drunken numpties for nothing, eh?!)
M xx
Welcome back splendid!
Unfortunately we didn't miss you, cos Den's lap top also buggered up and has been sent to france, and I only just worked out how to get the net linked up on my desk top, ,y lap top STILL being buggered too! humph!
I have had severe withdrawl symptoms and this is my first POST in AGES!!!
MAZ XX
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Inexperienced members sometimes need a little helping hand to understand where they are going wrong.

Sorry to quote just this part and I really dont want to take away any value from the rest of your post, but I really do feel that this bit is very important and is relevant to ALL of us, Mods, Ops, Users.
I think that sometimes we all need reminding that we were new once and didnt know how to use the site, how to do a post etc.
Perhaps we all could be a little more considerate with our posts and how we come across to other members of the site wink
redface redface redface
i'm a baddy!! I think I might know what you're referring to...
*Bends over to recieve her punishment
smackbottom
I try not to as I got this when I was new, and so did den ( I chatted in forums before he did) so know it's not nice when it's soo blatant, I will be a good girl from now on!
I have even started replying with some lovely pms to all the unwanted pms we have been getting recently!
Guilt will make you do anything eh?!
Anyways, I think a few, quick bold rules so that blondes like moi who are space cadettes and don;t pay attention/are in a world of their own, might notice them and pay attention, and then a wee spiel to say why a rule has been broken is a great idea!
I don't think it's overregulated, just sometimes notice some appeared tired with doing the regulating.
Whilst that is entirely understandable - we all get frustrated with stupid/wrong etc posts, and we're not having to put up with it constantly, at the same time, people dont learn from getting shouted at!
ok, gin waffle is taking over now!
nope, that's not it, why is my memory so bad?!
When den gets back he'll remind me! x
supraspinatus snowball i think, - off to check, there is definately one with supraspinatus in it!
(supraspinatus is one of your rotator cuff muscles in your shoulder!)
Quote by Dollyminx
redface I like going to the dentist... obviously a weirdo! :shock:

Dolly, we must be the only weirdos!!! xx
Quote by MidlandsBob
is this not the hundredth time you've posted this thread?!

If it is, it's the 99th time I've missed it... :shock:
What were the other 99 parties like?
De_sade
I think this is still the first party, just the hundredth post about it.
well, ok, maybe his 5th post, but all the same and he got a big spanking before!