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naughtynymphos1
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 52
UK

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Quote by alspals
Ps..on a wider level, even sane, sensible people make assumptions about how one partner feels about a particular activity, as It's nearly impossible to set down ground rules for all eventualities..we can have basic ground rules, but when preferences have been over elaborated or too specific, things come to feel mechanical & contrived..sometimes spoiling the fun before it's begun!
Oh the woes of the modern swinger :cry: :cry: lol lol

blimey i have been swinging for over 5 years now and i never realised it was soooooooooo complicated lol
i'm glad i have a easy life and marrage lol
Well its a difficult one cause you are clearly a different person to me, when i meet people for sex it is just that and their problems are just that...theirs, but on the other side my problems in swinging are mine i don't share them with others or ask for help but i guess thats just down to personality differences, but if u feel u would like to help i think the best thing to do is just try and get her to talk to him, if she upsets him at least she knows where she stands.
Quote by easyease
one more case that prooves that marriage and swinging are like oil and water.............

anything can be like oil and water.
was u not the guy who opened the thread about people cheating? is that not a case of none swinging marrages being like oil and water?
Any marrage is what u make it, like any relationship it has to be worked at, many many couples have very sucsessful swinging marrages, its all about being open and honest with each other not matter how you wish to spend your marrage.
Quote by alspals
Personally i would keep my gob shut and let them sort it out, its upto her to speak to her hubby about how she feels and if she can't even do that u have 2 wonder what kind of relationship they have....
U put she can't talk to him about how she feel in fear of upsetting him....
what kind of husband would get upset over their wife saying how she feel in a swinging situation if she was unhappy about it!!!
sound a odd couple to me and if i met someone who was unhappy about what they was doing and only doing what their hubby wanted i would soon put them on my not to meet no more list confused

thanks for that NN, I've known them for a long time now..and they do actually have a really good relationship, as far as I can see..and I dont think either is using swinging as an Elastoplast for a failiing marriage.
I guess the mistake they have (he has) made though is to assume that because we, as swingers, are perhaps more liberated than most, that 'anything goes' and they should have had the conversation beforehand about taking things beyond a 'normal' threesome.
Having gone along with it the wife isn't afraid to speak to hubby, she just acknowledges that he obviously enjoyed it much more than she did (or he appears to, maybe he was faking it too!) and therefore doesn't want to upset him (not that it's guaranteed he would)..my advice to her was to try and clear the air now before she got even further into it.
The question you have to ask yourself is what goes on behind closed door, the side to their marrage u do not see, its easy to put on a show when other are about, not saying that they are but.....if she feels she can't talk to her own hubbie there's something wrong in that relationship, u say u doubt he would get upset, yet she obviously thinks he will so the question is do u know him better than her.....or have things been said between them u don't know about?
Quote by Wishmaster
Try those minty strip thingies . the little paper thin ones.... get ur g/f (or b/f for that matter) to put one on their tongue then give ur 'old fella' a chomp ..... lovely!!!
Under no circumstances, however, allow your partner to have toothpaste on their teeth or in their mouth and then go anywhere near your bell end!!!!....... unless you have sound proof windows and padded walls.......... and don't actually need to use it for a while!!!

is toothpaste not good for men then?
actually i quite like toothpaste if any ladies out there have a leccy toothbrush try a bit of toothpaste on it wink wink wink
Hi and :welcome: to swinging heaven
Anyone worth meeting will not judge you on your colour
So kick your shoes off and have fun hump
Quote by Dj Ally
Finally a big thank you to all the put into the collection, I'm very gratful, & it went a long way to a larger session of retail girly therapy today...THANK YOU, I will be more than willing to do the next meeting, but please give us pleanty of warning to prepare myself biggrin

ohhh looks like we may have an official munch dj folkes lol
Quote by freckledbird
Just trying to imagine the reaction you'd get at a munch with that username :shock: , particularly if there are any vanillas about lol

i know would scare me to death :shock:
Well i must admit i find the name a bit off putting
Please note i am not saying ur a single guy but that name does give the inpression of one posing as a couple to me.
But i think ur main problem is, as 99% of this site ur looking for a single bi fem and their simple isn't enough to go round lol so any single bi fems on this site can pretty much have their pick and will as a rule go for well know people rather than newbies
Quote by meat2pleaseu
Of course living here slap bang in the middle of you all, you are either a southern git or a northern git ... biggrin bolt
Matt

So Matt, which munches will you now be uninvited from? lol
look like yam stuck with the yam yam munch aer kid, shud be bostin :thumbup:
say that again in english lol
If your single and play with a married person behind their partners back i suppose i'n a sence ur a free person so your not cheating as such
however i wouldn't meet someone who was married and cheating as i feel swinging is ment to be fun and based on honestly and respect, and i always think how i would feel if i found out my partners was cheating on me, i wouldn't like it so i wouldn't do it to someone else, its a topic that has no rights and wrongs and i have heard ever excuse under the sun from married guys trying to talk u into meeting them from the clasic 'my wife dosn't understand me' to 'i can't leave cause of kids' personally if my marrage was that bad i felt i had to cheat i would leave but not eveyone see's things as black and white as me, i think most guys and indeed some women just want their cake and eat it, want the mrs at home to cook and clean, look after the kids etc and their bit on the side as well, and women who want their home and provider yet want the fun of meeting others as well, suppose its each to their own really.
Quote by Calista

18. Rolls are barm cakes unless they are oven bottoms.
or bread rolls or bread cakes or baps, depending on how far north you are

i thought they was called cobs confused
Cobs is a Midlands expression ..... baps is recognised here but depends if you're native to Derbyshire/Nottinghamshire or from another county.
well i'm from nottinghamshire and i've always called them cobs, mind u i get some funny looks round here lol
Quote by bluexxx
Well Southerners, you can slag off the north as much as you want.................
............. but the North (West) has the most swinging and other naughty activities per square mile than anywhere else in the UK.......You're all just jealous, aren't you?????
Ha.
I rest my case.
flipa

ermmm.....yes lol
Quote by freckledbird

18. Rolls are barm cakes unless they are oven bottoms.
or bread rolls or bread cakes or baps, depending on how far north you are

i thought they was called cobs confused
Quote by Smoking Muff
Yes .
I find it a turn on unless they shot directly into my eye :wanker: :eeek: blast .
Then some how I lost all interest in watching :upset: .
Is there something wrong with me :evil2:

nah u just found something better on tv lol
Ohhh i have done something like that b4, i threw a fag out the windoow and it blew in the back window and set the back seat on fire lol
On a serious note tho people should watch where they throw their fags cause i was walking down the street once and a guy threw his fag out his car window and it landed in a womans pram :shock:
lucky i saw it and told her b4 it had time to burn
Personally i would keep my gob shut and let them sort it out, its upto her to speak to her hubby about how she feels and if she can't even do that u have 2 wonder what kind of relationship they have....
U put she can't talk to him about how she feel in fear of upsetting him....
what kind of husband would get upset over their wife saying how she feel in a swinging situation if she was unhappy about it!!!
sound a odd couple to me and if i met someone who was unhappy about what they was doing and only doing what their hubby wanted i would soon put them on my not to meet no more list confused
Personally i think its a load of rubbish lol
Just outa interest tho i'm a taurus who should i be going for lol
Just to meet someone proves you are genuine, if i arranged to meet you and we turned up at a pub had a few drinks and a chat but u didn't fancey me so we didn't play does that make me not genuine? When people do munches and ask if anyone has met u to verity you as genuine you don't have to have had sex with them smile
Quote by bluexxx
I was wondering if ladies enjoy watching guys masturbate!

Only when Corrie or EasteEnders aren't on :lol2: .
Watching two guys wank each other is of course much more interesting than a solo act :grin:
or in a 69 wink
Nah i find watching boring, why would i want to watch when i could find someone who will let me join in lol
i think ur poll choices are crap tho so i'm not voting, cause i don't find it a turn off i just would rather he helping biggrin
well i have to agree with freckledbird its your party you set the rules if people don't like them they don't have to come, u invite as many as you like and a mixture of couples and singles that apeal's to you, tho i must comment on the allowing for now shows thing, being quite new to the site i think you will find most genuine couples will be weary of putting their names down due to the amount of time wasters who join the site put a few posts up and then leave, i would suggest u get yourself know b4 doing a party.