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onlyme1981
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 45
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Orgasminator
Speaking from experience I can honestly say that if you pressure her, she won't do it. Ask her why she feels uncomfortable going there and go at her pace.
I have something that I just can't do (I'm not going to go into details!) and that did affect my recent relationship as he thought I didn't want to do it or just wouldn't do it but in the end I felt so bad about it as he pressured me all the time.
It made it worse in a way as if he'd have shut up about it I would have done it eventually but as he kept making a big deal about it, it made me feel as if I couldn't do it as he'd made it this massive obstacle.
The reason I couldn't do it was because of the past and I'd told him all the details etc - he said he understood but then 10 mins later he was pressuring me again! That isn't the way to go about it.
I'm sorry of this doesn't make sense - it does in my head though!
I have something that I just can't do (I'm not going to go into details!) and that did affect my recent relationship as he thought I didn't want to do it or just wouldn't do it but in the end I felt so bad about it as he pressured me all the time.
It made it worse in a way as if he'd have shut up about it I would have done it eventually but as he kept making a big deal about it, it made me feel as if I couldn't do it as he'd made it this massive obstacle.
The reason I couldn't do it was because of the past and I'd told him all the details etc - he said he understood but then 10 mins later he was pressuring me again! That isn't the way to go about it.
I'm sorry of this doesn't make sense - it does in my head though!
Orgasminator
I went dogging once.... and never again!
Some people like it, others don't - just like anything I suppose.
Some people like it, others don't - just like anything I suppose.
Orgasminator
Quote by Vix
Kinda similar thing was done, recently.
In case you were wondering why you're getting no replies.
And I thought I was being original! Oh well..... I did try
Thank you Vix for pointing it out - obviously I need to hone my search skills.
:P
Orgasminator
Ok, not sure if this one has been done before (I did a search but didn't find anything) but I'll carry on anyway!
Which is your favourite sense? I mean in terms of Sight, Sound, Taste, Touch and Smell.
Mine is probably sight...... I love the sight of my surroundings - whether i'm stuck in traffic, people watching or sitting on a beautiful beach with the sun setting. I just love seeing new sights - nothing ceases to amaze me about this world we live in.
I guess I wouldn't want to live without any of my senses as they are all good in their own way but for me seeing things is the best.
Which is your favourite sense? I mean in terms of Sight, Sound, Taste, Touch and Smell.
Mine is probably sight...... I love the sight of my surroundings - whether i'm stuck in traffic, people watching or sitting on a beautiful beach with the sun setting. I just love seeing new sights - nothing ceases to amaze me about this world we live in.
I guess I wouldn't want to live without any of my senses as they are all good in their own way but for me seeing things is the best.
Orgasminator
I've been on the phone to my network provider to see if they can trace the number - but no such luck. To start with I had to repeat what he said to me 3 times because they couldn't understand my concerns then I was put on hold, then I had to detail the time the person called me and they said there is nothing they can do! I want to report it but I don't have any information.
As my car is on different sites I don't know which one the person got my number from. I'm taking my mobile number off and putting my home number on there where there is an answer machine on during the day. Seems the only way I can get round it!
I just hope he doesn't turn up here.... I'm sure he won't and if he does, my dad'll have something to say to him I'm sure!
As my car is on different sites I don't know which one the person got my number from. I'm taking my mobile number off and putting my home number on there where there is an answer machine on during the day. Seems the only way I can get round it!
I just hope he doesn't turn up here.... I'm sure he won't and if he does, my dad'll have something to say to him I'm sure!
Orgasminator
I am in shock...... The story as it goes:
My car is currently for sale on a few websites with my mobile phone number on it. I just had a call from someone really interested in buying the car, he asked a load of questions about it then wanted to come and see it tomorrow night so I gave him my address and name etc - all seemed genuine until he proceeded to tell me what he wanted to do to me - I can't repeat it - it's just too sick!
I'm an open minded person and can handle dirty talk but not from someone pretending to be interested in my car and then being quite abusive when I told him I wasn't interested!
I really do feel physically sick! I'm taking my mobile number off the website and of course he phoned on a with held number so I can't track him down to report him.
Does this go on a lot?
I've sold a few cars in my time and never had this kind of response.
What's really annoying is the fact that I thought my car would finally sell after 9 months of advertising! (I have to try to joke about it
)
My car is currently for sale on a few websites with my mobile phone number on it. I just had a call from someone really interested in buying the car, he asked a load of questions about it then wanted to come and see it tomorrow night so I gave him my address and name etc - all seemed genuine until he proceeded to tell me what he wanted to do to me - I can't repeat it - it's just too sick!
I'm an open minded person and can handle dirty talk but not from someone pretending to be interested in my car and then being quite abusive when I told him I wasn't interested!
I really do feel physically sick! I'm taking my mobile number off the website and of course he phoned on a with held number so I can't track him down to report him.
Does this go on a lot?
I've sold a few cars in my time and never had this kind of response.
What's really annoying is the fact that I thought my car would finally sell after 9 months of advertising! (I have to try to joke about it
) Orgasminator
Yep.... I'll be up for it - Weather permitting of course!
I've been saying for a while that I need to meet people from SH - I've been here too long not to and I'm very curious about what you're all like!
I've been saying for a while that I need to meet people from SH - I've been here too long not to and I'm very curious about what you're all like!
Orgasminator
I'm a smoker but when I meet people I always try to cover the smell for the other person's sake. I know you can't get rid of it completely but you can try with mints, gum etc.
I'm a sensitive person but if someone told me they'd rather I didn't smoke before meeting them I'd probably comply. I know it's a filthy disgusting habit but I enjoy smoking and wouldn't give it up for anyone - only if I wanted to. But saying that if someone really didn't like it then I'd probably refrain for a few hours for the sake of some fun!
I'm a sensitive person but if someone told me they'd rather I didn't smoke before meeting them I'd probably comply. I know it's a filthy disgusting habit but I enjoy smoking and wouldn't give it up for anyone - only if I wanted to. But saying that if someone really didn't like it then I'd probably refrain for a few hours for the sake of some fun!
Orgasminator
Right ok.... well I've just dyed my hair for probably the 50th time since the age of 14.
Whenever I get bored I try to change my appearance - does anyone else do this or is it just me? (Probably some psychological explanation somewhere!)
There is nothing else I can change so I change my hair colour all the time, I've been Blonde, Brown, Red, Orange (
), White, Black, Blue, Pink etc etc..... This time I've gone for Red/Brown.....
Anyway back to the point.... do any of you feel a change is needed every now and then and what do you do?
Whenever I get bored I try to change my appearance - does anyone else do this or is it just me? (Probably some psychological explanation somewhere!)
There is nothing else I can change so I change my hair colour all the time, I've been Blonde, Brown, Red, Orange (
), White, Black, Blue, Pink etc etc..... This time I've gone for Red/Brown.....Anyway back to the point.... do any of you feel a change is needed every now and then and what do you do?
Orgasminator
Well my Avatar is me.....
I met some people from the ads last year - they loooked better than their photo's!
One of them obviously found a pic from the net and thought he'd put it on as himself - looked nothing like him!
I think you just have to be trusting in these situations.
I met some people from the ads last year - they loooked better than their photo's!
One of them obviously found a pic from the net and thought he'd put it on as himself - looked nothing like him!
I think you just have to be trusting in these situations.
Orgasminator
I like Big Brother.... although this year there doesn't seem to be anyone you could class as "normal" - I know there is no such thing as normal but where do they get these people? I've never in my life met anyone like any of them! I've led a sheltered existence maybe!
I always say every year that I won't watch it but it's addictive! Especially when thats all anyone talks about at work, down the pub etc etc.
I don't really care for the reasons or think about why I watch it - I suppose I just watch it cos it's mostly enjoyable "veg out, couch potato" kind of TV that you don't have to think about.
I always say every year that I won't watch it but it's addictive! Especially when thats all anyone talks about at work, down the pub etc etc.
I don't really care for the reasons or think about why I watch it - I suppose I just watch it cos it's mostly enjoyable "veg out, couch potato" kind of TV that you don't have to think about.
Orgasminator
Right, well I went for my scan yesterday........ and I went on my own.
I decided it is time for me to stand on my own two feet and not to rely on anyone.....I'm glad I went by myself as I proved that I can do things on my own.
Get the results Tuesday so all should be good!
Thanks for the advice.
I decided it is time for me to stand on my own two feet and not to rely on anyone.....I'm glad I went by myself as I proved that I can do things on my own.
Get the results Tuesday so all should be good!
Thanks for the advice.
Orgasminator
Well for me SH is about having a good lot of friends who are there no matter what.
At first I came here for regular sex but I've changed as a person since I joined and no longer come here for that. I'm happy to come here and read the Forum, add my thoughts, sometimes post my own topic or sit PM'img all night!
I look forward to seeing what people are up to and what they're thinking. I've found the people on this site to be the most welcoming, friendly (most of the time!), broad minded etc etc I've ever found anywhere - in "real life" or online.
People are always around to help, to make you laugh or sometimes make you cry!
I've not met anyone from the Forum in person yet but I'm looking forward to that in the future.
SH is so good because of the people who make it what it is..... a bloody great place to meet people - for sex or otherwise.
At first I came here for regular sex but I've changed as a person since I joined and no longer come here for that. I'm happy to come here and read the Forum, add my thoughts, sometimes post my own topic or sit PM'img all night!
I look forward to seeing what people are up to and what they're thinking. I've found the people on this site to be the most welcoming, friendly (most of the time!), broad minded etc etc I've ever found anywhere - in "real life" or online.
People are always around to help, to make you laugh or sometimes make you cry!
I've not met anyone from the Forum in person yet but I'm looking forward to that in the future.
SH is so good because of the people who make it what it is..... a bloody great place to meet people - for sex or otherwise.
Orgasminator
Hi all,
Just wanted a bit of advice....
As you may know, J and I split up. Well anyway, I have to have an MRI scan soon (I won't go into details on here as I don't want it to seem like I'm attention seeking) and J has offered to come with me as I'm not feeling overly confident about it and I don't like hospitals at the best of times.
I want someone to be there with me but I'm not sure it should be him as I still feel very strongly about him and I don't want to drag up old feelings. I don't have anyone else who can come with me but I really don't know whether to just be a big girl and go on my own or have him there for support. We are trying to remain friends but I'm likely to be quite emotional on the actual day and don't want to hurt myself or him by seeing him in this situation..... sorry if I'm not making sense!
Anyway, I just wondered if someone could please make the decision for me or point me in the right direction as to what would be best!
Thanks
Just wanted a bit of advice....
As you may know, J and I split up. Well anyway, I have to have an MRI scan soon (I won't go into details on here as I don't want it to seem like I'm attention seeking) and J has offered to come with me as I'm not feeling overly confident about it and I don't like hospitals at the best of times.
I want someone to be there with me but I'm not sure it should be him as I still feel very strongly about him and I don't want to drag up old feelings. I don't have anyone else who can come with me but I really don't know whether to just be a big girl and go on my own or have him there for support. We are trying to remain friends but I'm likely to be quite emotional on the actual day and don't want to hurt myself or him by seeing him in this situation..... sorry if I'm not making sense!
Anyway, I just wondered if someone could please make the decision for me
or point me in the right direction as to what would be best!Thanks
Orgasminator
Thought I'd add my comments!
This site is great.... not just the swinging side but all of it. These are the best bunch of people I've ever come accross. I don't think charging to be a member is a very good idea..... it won't stop the annoying people etc etc.
If you don't like how the site is, then you are free to go to another.
Obviously not everyone will agree what is worthwhile to read and respond to and what isn't - we are all different. Some say the site is going downhill some say it's the best it's ever been - just shows that not everyone can be pleased all of the time.
I'm not trying to diss your suggestion - just thought adding my thoughts!
This site is great.... not just the swinging side but all of it. These are the best bunch of people I've ever come accross. I don't think charging to be a member is a very good idea..... it won't stop the annoying people etc etc.
If you don't like how the site is, then you are free to go to another.
Obviously not everyone will agree what is worthwhile to read and respond to and what isn't - we are all different. Some say the site is going downhill some say it's the best it's ever been - just shows that not everyone can be pleased all of the time.
I'm not trying to diss your suggestion - just thought adding my thoughts!
Orgasminator
Thank you everyone - what a lovely welcome
I'm sticking around this time so I'll try to get used to all the new people!
Take care all
I'm sticking around this time so I'll try to get used to all the new people!
Take care all
Orgasminator
Hey, I've not been here for a while..... things seem to have a changed a bit since I was last here, only due to the fact that there are soooo many new people!
Anyway, hope everyone is ok...... I'm doing ok, J and I split up about a month ago so things weren't good for a while but it's getting easier day by day. It's a fairly long story so I won't bore you all with it!
Have I missed much? I've had a quick look through the millions of posts but I'd be sat here for a month if I read them all!
I'll be popping in quite frequently as the old addiction to SH has reared its head
Anyway, hope everyone is ok...... I'm doing ok, J and I split up about a month ago so things weren't good for a while but it's getting easier day by day. It's a fairly long story so I won't bore you all with it!
Have I missed much? I've had a quick look through the millions of posts but I'd be sat here for a month if I read them all!
I'll be popping in quite frequently as the old addiction to SH has reared its head
Orgasminator
Hello all,
I know I've only been gone for just over a month now but you told me to pop in and say hello....so I am! I thought it would be nice to keep in touch.
Things don't change much do they? Apart from about a thousand newbies!
I'm just catching up on all the latest....very interesting it is too!
My life is pretty much the same....that's soon to change though as my partner has gone and got himself a job 200 miles away! We'll be fine though, hopefully I'll be moving with him once he's sold his flat in a few months time. We'll still see each other every weekend so that suits me for now.
I hope you're all taking care of each other in the usual SH style!
I know I've only been gone for just over a month now but you told me to pop in and say hello....so I am! I thought it would be nice to keep in touch.
Things don't change much do they? Apart from about a thousand newbies!
I'm just catching up on all the latest....very interesting it is too!
My life is pretty much the same....that's soon to change though as my partner has gone and got himself a job 200 miles away! We'll be fine though, hopefully I'll be moving with him once he's sold his flat in a few months time. We'll still see each other every weekend so that suits me for now.
I hope you're all taking care of each other in the usual SH style!
Orgasminator
Hello everyone.
Ok, I'll start by apologising for not staying in touch with certain people while I've been away...... things get in the way of life and I tend to forget about things I shouldn't!
Anyway, some of you know me (kind of), a lot of you probably don't but I just wanted to say goodbye.... forever this time!
Thank you to those who have helped me out with advice, who've made me laugh, who've made me cry, who've just been there and anyone who has ever had contact with me. I'm not going to name names, but you know who you are and you have helped me when I needed it.
I would like to think I've been a help to others on here and that I contributed to the Forum in a positive way...... I will miss it but I have chosen a different path.
I've met a lovely man, we've been together 3 months now and things are going great. Although he knows I used to post on the Forum I've decided to stop and concentrate on other things in my life (probably because this place is so addictive, I never had time for anything else!). I've never been a "full-on" swinger - pardon the expression and truthfully I want him all to myself!
I'm not sure what else to say, so I'll just go now. I'll keep my log in name for a week in case anyone wants to PM etc and then I'll ask someone to remove it from the system.
Thank you again..... I'll miss you!
K x
Ok, I'll start by apologising for not staying in touch with certain people while I've been away...... things get in the way of life and I tend to forget about things I shouldn't!
Anyway, some of you know me (kind of), a lot of you probably don't but I just wanted to say goodbye.... forever this time!
Thank you to those who have helped me out with advice, who've made me laugh, who've made me cry, who've just been there and anyone who has ever had contact with me. I'm not going to name names, but you know who you are and you have helped me when I needed it.
I would like to think I've been a help to others on here and that I contributed to the Forum in a positive way...... I will miss it but I have chosen a different path.
I've met a lovely man, we've been together 3 months now and things are going great. Although he knows I used to post on the Forum I've decided to stop and concentrate on other things in my life (probably because this place is so addictive, I never had time for anything else!). I've never been a "full-on" swinger - pardon the expression and truthfully I want him all to myself!
I'm not sure what else to say, so I'll just go now. I'll keep my log in name for a week in case anyone wants to PM etc and then I'll ask someone to remove it from the system.
Thank you again..... I'll miss you!
K x
Orgasminator
I love fireworks personally.
It's true, there will always be irresponsible people in this world who annoy, abuse, hurt etc etc and spoil things for others.
I live on a council estate and have a younger brother and sister (11 and 13) who keep themselves to themselves as the people round here are either up to mischief or doing something dodgy (please don't tell me not to tar them all with the same brush.... I've lived here for 9 years and I've seen what's gone on!). We have fireworks going off during the day and late at night and sure it is a nuisance but to be honest, if those using them get injured - which will happen one day - then so be it. It's their own stupid fault.
My family have a fireworks evening at my house every year as close to November 5th as possible and I can honestly say I really look forward to it (as do our neighbours who hang out the windows to see the show for free!).
Obviously, as with all topics not everyone will agree as that is just human nature but personally, I think life without the simple things in life wouldn't be the same.
It's a kind of tradition in my family to have a good old evening (no alcohol involved for safety reasons!) with close friends and family with a bit of light music, the baked potatoes fresh from the oven and then outside to watch the display all snuggled up to each other ooooing and ahhhing at the wonderful colours and sounds.
If fireworks are used responsibly, I don't see a reason to ban them. It's just the minority of idiots who set them off in the street etc who spoil it for everyone else.
It's true, there will always be irresponsible people in this world who annoy, abuse, hurt etc etc and spoil things for others.
I live on a council estate and have a younger brother and sister (11 and 13) who keep themselves to themselves as the people round here are either up to mischief or doing something dodgy (please don't tell me not to tar them all with the same brush.... I've lived here for 9 years and I've seen what's gone on!). We have fireworks going off during the day and late at night and sure it is a nuisance but to be honest, if those using them get injured - which will happen one day - then so be it. It's their own stupid fault.
My family have a fireworks evening at my house every year as close to November 5th as possible and I can honestly say I really look forward to it (as do our neighbours who hang out the windows to see the show for free!).
Obviously, as with all topics not everyone will agree as that is just human nature but personally, I think life without the simple things in life wouldn't be the same.
It's a kind of tradition in my family to have a good old evening (no alcohol involved for safety reasons!) with close friends and family with a bit of light music, the baked potatoes fresh from the oven and then outside to watch the display all snuggled up to each other ooooing and ahhhing at the wonderful colours and sounds.
If fireworks are used responsibly, I don't see a reason to ban them. It's just the minority of idiots who set them off in the street etc who spoil it for everyone else.
Orgasminator
Just thought I'd announce on here (to save PM'img people) that I now can't go to the Notts munch (Clare and Steve, you have a PM). 
I really wanted to go but other commitments mean I can't.
I hope you all have a fabulous time - I will wait for the feedback afterwards and cry into my beer!
I really wanted to go but other commitments mean I can't.
I hope you all have a fabulous time - I will wait for the feedback afterwards and cry into my beer!
Orgasminator
Ok I'll guess I'm right.... my go:
First there was the one who challenged
All my dreams and all my balance
She could never be as good as you
First there was the one who challenged
All my dreams and all my balance
She could never be as good as you
Orgasminator
Quote by steveg_nw
Oh and I can't wait to meet some of you at the Notts Munch!
Big cheer for all of you!
Ah.....so that's when I get my kick in the nuts then.
Steve
Indeed Steve.... you'd best wear one of them box things cricketers wear!
Only kidding.... I wouldn't like to resort to violence on my first munch..... but you can buy me a drink if you like!
