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soulgirl
Over 90 days ago
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SORRY THIS IS NOW CANCELLED DUE TO LACK OF LOCAL INTEREST
Seeing as its been a bit dead of lately in the Bristol, Wiltshire & Gloucester Room, I thought I would do another party to see if we can get some life back into the room.
Its open to SINGLE males, single females and couples.
So if you want to come put your name down or message me, numbers will be limited as its being held in my house.
Soulie x
Seeing as its been a bit dead of lately in the Bristol, Wiltshire & Gloucester Room, I thought I would do another party to see if we can get some life back into the room.
Its open to SINGLE males, single females and couples.
So if you want to come put your name down or message me, numbers will be limited as its being held in my house.
Soulie x
Quote by soul-girl
As quoted in the article "And it emerged today that Mr Mason actually had an ambition to become the world's fattest man. He lost 20 stone in hospital three years ago but reportedly told staff he didn't really want to lose the weight."
It might sound heartless to some people but if he wants to be the fattest man in the world, let him, he will eat himself to death sooner or later. Dont waste the money on him there are people out there who want to live but have cancer and the money would be better spent on them.
I'm quoting myself again cos everyone seems to be missing the point, he has said he doesnt really want to lose the weight he wants to be the worlds fattest man.
This isnt about medical conditions he might have its the fact that he wants to be fat he wants to get heavier. How can it be justifed that someone is going to be getting treatment when they dont want it.
The money could be better spent on buying new artifical legs for the 7 year old girl who had Meningitis and had to have both her legs removed but instead her father is having to do security jobs in Iraq & Afganistan to pay the £30,000 every year she needs to have new ones because the ones the NHS offer her are basically crap and means she can only use them for an hour or two each day. This girl deverses a better standard of life, she wants to run about with her friends, be able to ride a bike like her friends. She wants to live her life, this man doesnt.
Before anyone fires off at me, I know whats its like to be very over weight I have a medical condition which I spent years trying to control, but now I finally think I have it under control.
As quoted in the article "And it emerged today that Mr Mason actually had an ambition to become the world's fattest man. He lost 20 stone in hospital three years ago but reportedly told staff he didn't really want to lose the weight."
It might sound heartless to some people but if he wants to be the fattest man in the world, let him, he will eat himself to death sooner or later. Dont waste the money on him there are people out there who want to live but have cancer and the money would be better spent on them.
It might sound heartless to some people but if he wants to be the fattest man in the world, let him, he will eat himself to death sooner or later. Dont waste the money on him there are people out there who want to live but have cancer and the money would be better spent on them.
Quote by JTS
Benefits are only paid to immigrant labour if they come from EU states (or Switzerland) (no, I don't know). And then only the same benefits, at the same rates, and the same qualifiers, as paid to those born within the borders of the UK. Illegal immigrants get the same as other people who do not exist (except for medical care if injured)
However if I go to live in Poland and claim benefits there I dont get the child benefit, child tax credit , income support and disability living allowance per week. That is why they come to this country as the benefits are far higher than their own country.
How can the EU state that anyone within the EU can claim benefits if they move to another EU country when all the EU countries off lower benefits. If you are working and earning less than the benefits you can claim in another country then you are going to move to that country work and claim the benefits. The rule should be if you move to another country and have to claim benefits you only get the benefits that the country you were born in offer. If this was to happen then I bet we wouldnt have the high level of unemployed and far less foreign workers.
New laws did come into force only last week and its very easy now to get an harrassment order and injunction against a person.
What you have to remember is that the person doing this probably has done it before and will probably do it again. So you have to think if you are able to stop them now you are saving some other person having to go through it.
What you have to remember is that the person doing this probably has done it before and will probably do it again. So you have to think if you are able to stop them now you are saving some other person having to go through it.
If the government can find me a job that pays £1,500 a month take home pay which will just about cover the mortgage child care costs household bills and food. And if they can offer me some form of respite care for my disabled son who only sleeps 3-4 hours a night then I would happily go back to work.
But I live in a big dream world and know thats not going to happen I will end up working myself into the ground with no sleep and end up back on benefits due to being sacked due to not being fit to do the job.
One or two of my friends claim benefits and they drive new cars have expensive clothes and I often wonder how they can afford it. Oh yes they live in rented houses paid for by the government. I dont I have a mortgage to pay ok the Government pay the interest but I still have to try and pay back the 39 weeks that the government didnt pay any of the interest and then theres the endownments, life insurances etc you have to pay as well. I get disability living allowance for my son and most of that goes on transport costs for his hospital appointments. Anyone whos not had to live on benefits will never understand how hard it can be.
Some of us cant help the situation we are in, others can but as long as there is a benefit system people will always find a way to work around the rules.
But I live in a big dream world and know thats not going to happen I will end up working myself into the ground with no sleep and end up back on benefits due to being sacked due to not being fit to do the job.
One or two of my friends claim benefits and they drive new cars have expensive clothes and I often wonder how they can afford it. Oh yes they live in rented houses paid for by the government. I dont I have a mortgage to pay ok the Government pay the interest but I still have to try and pay back the 39 weeks that the government didnt pay any of the interest and then theres the endownments, life insurances etc you have to pay as well. I get disability living allowance for my son and most of that goes on transport costs for his hospital appointments. Anyone whos not had to live on benefits will never understand how hard it can be.
Some of us cant help the situation we are in, others can but as long as there is a benefit system people will always find a way to work around the rules.
Quote by Steve
Makes me fukin sick to the back teeth it does.....
I am now on JSA (Job Seekers Allowance) as I was made redundant a short while ago and they have "awarded" me £64 per week :bounce:
Doesnt even cover the fukin mortgage payments let alone anything else....
And I will be badgered to find work and if after 13 weeks I haven't found work I will then have to present myself at the Job Centre every week instead of every fortnight and get a weekely badgering !!!!!!
You only have to wait 13 weeks to get help with the mortgage payments well they will pay the interest on it. The law changed on this in February and before it was 39 weeks which I had to wait, nearly had the mortgage company start repossesion on my house.
I'm also shocked that people so young would have children, they have only just become adults so to speak and there is so much in life that they havent done havent experienced and basically they are living off the state and not worked a day in their life. How can they provide for their children?
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Abusive & threatening phone calls can be distressing soul destroying for anybody.
Being a target myself I hope to put some kind of conclusion to my harassment & gain some vital info on how to proceed.
I would like to know of anyone's experiences of taking out an injunction against a malicious caller & what happened?
So far I have reported my malicious caller to the police along with any other information they might need - I do not know the persons address & at the last update the crime unit have given me is that the calls have been made on a pay as you go mobile.
They have spoken to the caller to let them know I have reported the abuse & the calls have stopped for a little while... but now the caller has gotten a little braver & realises the police do not have their address & as a result the calls have come back thick & fast!
Malicious callers derive gratification a perverse sense of satisfaction from the power and control they feel they are able to exert over their victim. Their aim is to control, dominate & subjugate.
Responding with anger or threats satisfy these objectives and are just what the caller wants to hear & even when the number has been withheld I always answer with a polite tone to my voice & hang up with a "...thank you for your call."
Yes I can change my number & I will, BUT only when all other avenues have been exhausted.
Now my next step is to take out an injunction against the caller but with no address how far can will it get me?
Any further advice will be gratefully received,
PM's are fine but any info & experiences posted within this topic can only serve to help others with similar problems.
I too had calls and ended up having to report it to the police and luckily I know who had done them so they issued a harrassment notice on them.
However the police say that 99% of people who make such calls us pay as you go mobiles. The sim cards are as little as 50p and you dont have to register them.
Unless threats are mad to you or you are getting more than 300 plus texts/calls a day the police are unable to do much about it as it can take them months and months to trace where the calls are coming from and then they have to find the person in the area who are making the calls.
The best thing to do is change your number or get a phone that can block calls.
Quote by JTS
Nigerians do not have any RIGHT to live here. They have to apply for work permits and visas.
Any citizen of any other EU country can come here to seek work or live. The same as any of us can go to other EU countries.
In fact, more people go FROM the UK to work in other countries (and live) than arrive here from abroad.
And since we no longer train the workforce we have resorted to poaching trained people from other countries.
Training, by the way, used to be carried-out by the employer.
The point about immigrant labour being paid less than resident labour is a fine example of the labour market at work.
Which, by the way (again), is also the way that an incoming conservative government will work...and do not forget...they are subject to EU law and cannot do most of what they say they will...not without leaving the EU.
The same applies to British works now. I worked as a Secretary for a few years and then re-trained as a Credit Controller. Both these jobs used to pay per hour minimum but now I'd be lucky to get an hour. SO in the 5 years I havent worked, my salary has dropped by an hour.
I have been there when one person found out the news that he didnt have long left to live. He'd spent 2 years fighting cancer and his greatest wish was to see my youngest born and hold him. He had 2 wonderful years with my son.
His wish was to spend whatever time he had left with my children, his grandchildren. It was an emotional time, every morning when he woke up and he saw my son toddling into his bedroom going "grandad" both their faces would like up. The saddest part was when he finally died and the morning after my son walked into the bedroom and said "no grandad gone". I think that was probably the saddest time of my life as my son was just too young to understand.
I guess we would all do different things, I guess I wouldnt change anything I do now, I take each day as it comes, who knows when it will be your last.
His wish was to spend whatever time he had left with my children, his grandchildren. It was an emotional time, every morning when he woke up and he saw my son toddling into his bedroom going "grandad" both their faces would like up. The saddest part was when he finally died and the morning after my son walked into the bedroom and said "no grandad gone". I think that was probably the saddest time of my life as my son was just too young to understand.
I guess we would all do different things, I guess I wouldnt change anything I do now, I take each day as it comes, who knows when it will be your last.
I have done it but it was because I had really gone off someone I was actually going out with and know he was going away for 6 months and didnt want the hassle of breaking up with him before he went as I know he would take it bad, so just faked a few orgasms for a while until he went away. I dont know if he guessed but if he did he didnt say anything.
Quote by kentswingers777
Yes Soul your above comments are a prime example of what is wrong in this once great country of ours.
I have had a raging toothache all week culminating into a nasty infection. I visited my dentist ( NHS BTW ) and was seen for five minutes for them to give me a prescription, which they did. I got charged for that privilege and then had a to pay a further 15 quid for my two items at the chemist. That works out to and I have not even gone down the road of tooth extraction costs yet.
Kent you are lucky to have a NHS dentist, I moved to a new town 3 years ago and I can not get a NHS dentist. And the only way my children can get an NHS dentist is if I sign up for one privately which at £90 to register as they say I have to have a check up and an X-ray of my teeth taken I can not afford this. I managed to get an emergency one a few months when I first moved here as I needed a tooth removing and that was private and cost me £200.
Both myself and my daughter need work doing on our teeth now, but unless I win the lottery there is not a chance in hell of me being able to afford to.
JTS if you go to our local job centre where I will have to another an interiew when my son turns 7, they are actually having to turn people away as they do not have enough staff to advice people on jobs. Before you could get an appointment within 2 days now its 10 days. I asked for an appointment to see if there were any part-time college courses and was told they would contact me with a date for an interview and that was 2 months ago and I still keep calling and getting the same answer - you are priority as you have a disabled child so we really cant help you with any courses at the moment.
At present I am asked to go in every 6 mnoths, they look at my details say ok nothing we can do to help you get a job and pay my bus fare home. What a waste of time and money to be honest.
Quote by kentswingers777
gradually more and more benefits will be cut and the newspapers will cite the small minority of fiddlers to justify the cutting process. tory (modern conservatives) and labour (new labour) will vie with each other as to who can make the most efficient use (cuts) of public money (tax). hospitals, fire stations, ambulance stations, schools, libraries, parks dept and meals on wheels will close to reduce the psbr cos our fuckin tax has been earmarked to fill black holes caused by worthless derivitives in bank's balance sheets that banksters have stolen from us via their crony politicians who they own ! oh and i forgot, they will cut our pensions, raise the retirement age and raise taxes.....meanwhile, stories in the financial institutions owned press about benefits to illegal imigrants will abound, so some silly fuckers will blame them for all our ill's. its called "cant see the wood for the trees" wake up sheeple, kenty, you go back to sleep.
I never sleep.
Of course you cannot blame the " illegals " for our problems, they have been caused by politicians and world markets but....the benefit culture MUST be changed. The immigration should be seriously looked into and stopped until we have some idea how many are over here.
We have to get away from this " not can't work, won't work " culture! Jobseekers is a joke as you have to be actually seeking work to claim it, but a lot just doss about and become " the long term unemployed ", when they are more than capable of working.
There are a lot of issues now which will affect how people vote next year. Immigration will be high on the list for many, along with the NHS. For me it will be the promise by the Tories, to kick people off of benefits they do not deserve,and back into work.
We are more healthy as a nation than we have ever been, yet have the most ammount of people ever on incapacitity benefit. For a lot they should rename it scroungers benefit.
Yawnnnnnnnnnnn...............I am feeling tired now.
The benefit system is completely wrong. I know of a few families who have moved to this country because the amount of working tax credit and child benefit that they can claim per month is the same amount of wages their husbands would get for a month from the country they have come from (I wont name the country but think you can guess). Then on top of that they get help with their rent and council tax. They havent paid a penny into the state and yet why are they able to claim these benefits.
And because of the amount of benefits that people can claim my childrens school has taken on 6 more children from this country and now they have had to employ someone who can speak their language just to help the children in the class rooms. I think there are currently 25 children from this country in the school.
And now if I want a doctors appointment I have to wait a week, cos the local Doctors just cant cope with the amount of people from the country registering.
And yet if you go back to the 60's I know of a few people from Pakistan and Jamacia who came to this country then, but didnt bring their family with them, they worked hard, saved hard and when they had enough money their family joined them.
I wonder if we just stopped offering these people all the benefits if any of them would bother to actually come over here.
Quote by brucie
what percentage of "single ladies" are actually single ladies or even ladies at all?
judging by the amount of empty profiles of the single ladies who dont cam, id say very few. most are not just men, but very lazy and unimaginitive men.
ive never got the point of the pretending to be a girl thing? its not unique to here though. it also happens a lot on a discussion board on a website for my profession. were talking grown men on high six figure salaries posting on a discussion board as the persona of a young lady for extended periods!
go figure.
Oh the great debate about profiles again, there are many empty profiles on here not just from single females but single males and couples. The same can be said for cams in rooms, how many couples or single males dont cam.
If you are a single female on here and do cam you can sometimes get so many whispers and its just too hard to keep up with general chat and the whispers. Ok can you turn off the whispers, but sometimes you might want to have private word with friends on here.
Quote by kentswingers777
If you had the chance what would you change in your life?
All of it. Every last little bit of it, from round about the age of 9 and up.
Unfortunately that option ain't available to me, and I'm not all that inclined to dwell on coulda-woulda-shouldas, so all I can do is make sure the rest of my life is better than what has gone before. I'm still trying to work out exactly what sort of changes they need to be?
I'm trying! ((( Insert witty punchline here . . . .
;) ))) 
N x x x ;)
Sums it up for me.
The question is like asking " what would you do if you won the lottery ? ". You ain't going to win it and you cannot change what has happened in the past.
The past is old hat...it is the future that counts.
Perhaps I should have not said "If you had the chance what would you change in your life?" but I want to do so much with my life, try new things, hopefully get to see my kids grow up etc etc. I've started to make a list of all the things I want to do, places I want to visit.
The one thing I did last weekend was have a get together of some old friends I hadnt seen for 7 years, actually none of us had seen each other for 7 years and yet we all live within an hour of each other. The 8 of us just went out had a laugh and it was like we'd never been apart.
Yesterday I found out a friend of mine died they think from a bloody clot and its only 6 weeks since she had her baby daughter. Another of my friends died a few months ago leaving behind my beauty goddaughter Fifi who was only 6 months. Another friend has breast cancer and is currently awaiting chemo.
Its really made me think that life is too short and there is so much I want to do and achieve. I've also decided that even through things have been hard in the past I'm going to put all of that behind me and make the most of whatever time I have left.
If you had the chance what would you change in your life?
Its really made me think that life is too short and there is so much I want to do and achieve. I've also decided that even through things have been hard in the past I'm going to put all of that behind me and make the most of whatever time I have left.
If you had the chance what would you change in your life?
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He got it for one reason and one reason only....he is the first Black President of the USA....period.
From where I am sitting he has been in the job for five minutes, hardly a great acolade for a peace prize?
If we are being politically correct here hes not the first Black President, his mother is white and from Kansas and his father from Kenya. Hes actually the first mixed race President of USA.
Yep been through all the tax credits etc but still doesnt cover the child care as they wont pay for the one to one care.
And my son doesnt qualify for any extra help from the council a hour to look after my son I'd do it for that shame I cant pay myself lol
Actually I did try McDonalds but there is a waiting list of people who want school hour jobs, same with local supermarkets as well. Its just a shame that all the years I works and get skills no company seems to want them part time. As most companies say part time staff are more trouble than they are worth.
Personal I find there is a big brick wall out there for people who have disabled children, I have been trying for 2 years just to get extra help respite care and younger cares help for my other child.
And my son doesnt qualify for any extra help from the council a hour to look after my son I'd do it for that shame I cant pay myself lol
Actually I did try McDonalds but there is a waiting list of people who want school hour jobs, same with local supermarkets as well. Its just a shame that all the years I works and get skills no company seems to want them part time. As most companies say part time staff are more trouble than they are worth.
Personal I find there is a big brick wall out there for people who have disabled children, I have been trying for 2 years just to get extra help respite care and younger cares help for my other child.
Oh I can claim careers allowance but then they stop it out of your income support, but when I'm forced to work I can get to keep the £35 a week which will pay one days child care for my disabled son.
I know there are people out there who do abuse the benefits system, but I honestly dont see how I will be fit to work. 3-4 hours sleep a night and the government do not take into account that I have a disabled child they just see me as another person on income support.
I know there are people out there who do abuse the benefits system, but I honestly dont see how I will be fit to work. 3-4 hours sleep a night and the government do not take into account that I have a disabled child they just see me as another person on income support.
As from 25 October 2010, if your youngest child is aged seven or over, or will be seven in the next year, your Income Support may stop during that year if you are only claiming it because you are a lone parent
I've now been a single parent for nearly 2 years. I have tired to find a part-time job to fit in with school hours and have come up with nothing. I've sent out well over 500 letters to various company, been to every employment agency where I live and basically if you want school hours all of the companies have come back with the same answer we dont do them or if we do staff already employed op to take then if they come available.
I've now taken to looking for a full time job but my biggest problem is one of my children is disabled and I just cant afford the extra child care if I did get a job as he need one to one care so any after school clubs/child minder it would have to be one to one care, which costs double the amount of an able bodied child. My other child is 10 and she said she would be ok gong home on her own after school as she said it would save me some money on child care, but I honestly dont want her going home on her own, she'd have to spend nearly 3 hours on her own and to me thats is totally unfair.
My disabled son only sleeps for 3-4 hours a night as well and at the present moment in time I'm tired all the time, and when I spoke to the "Job Centre" they said cant you catch up with sleep when hes at school. Yes I can, but if I'm having to work when am I going to get time to sleep.
So how does the government think I'll get a job?
I've now been a single parent for nearly 2 years. I have tired to find a part-time job to fit in with school hours and have come up with nothing. I've sent out well over 500 letters to various company, been to every employment agency where I live and basically if you want school hours all of the companies have come back with the same answer we dont do them or if we do staff already employed op to take then if they come available.
I've now taken to looking for a full time job but my biggest problem is one of my children is disabled and I just cant afford the extra child care if I did get a job as he need one to one care so any after school clubs/child minder it would have to be one to one care, which costs double the amount of an able bodied child. My other child is 10 and she said she would be ok gong home on her own after school as she said it would save me some money on child care, but I honestly dont want her going home on her own, she'd have to spend nearly 3 hours on her own and to me thats is totally unfair.
My disabled son only sleeps for 3-4 hours a night as well and at the present moment in time I'm tired all the time, and when I spoke to the "Job Centre" they said cant you catch up with sleep when hes at school. Yes I can, but if I'm having to work when am I going to get time to sleep.
So how does the government think I'll get a job?
