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soulgirl
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 50
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Quote by Theladyisaminx
I copied this from another thread not my words
"I think some kids can be born evil, it could be in their Genes from day one".
I would have to disagree, I don’t think any child is born evil. The reason I say this is the mind is so complex and even a very small child’s mind can have thoughts or feeling that they are unable to control or understand. They don’t have the resources to communicate their true feelings, fears etc. If we can’t read our own child and pick up at such a young age something is wrong, and we reassure them, some of these thought in children can fester and grow.
So I believe until such times we can totally understand the mind we can not say some children are born evil.
What are others views?

Children are not born evil its the parents that make them evil or dont have the ability to stop them being evil.
ok its gone off topic a bit here about aggressive profiles, I see mine as a light hearted profile its good to have a laugh and it might be the longest on sh I dont know, but I just cant see the point of being agressive on profiles as there are ways of stopping alot of this from happening in the first place if you use you account profile properly.
You can block single males or couples or single females in your account sets from sending you messages but if you have any single males couples or single females on your friends list these people will still be able to message you.
If you dont like winks you can also stop winks from coming through on your account sets and an automatic message is sent back:- Whilst I love the attention I prefer a real mail to a wink, please take a few minutes to make sure that you have read my profile and then why not drop me a personalised message if you think we are looking for the same things.
Always get to see the person on cam first their phots might be a few years old
a tip a friend gave me if ask to see their driving license so you can confirm who they are and make a note of the details
ask if they have meet anyone else off the site and get confirmation from the people
Lost innit just, does my head in and the search function comes up with people 0 miles from me and then when you look at their profile they are 100 miles away, whats that all about
Quote by soul-girl
saw this elsewhere, and it was a right chuckle to read, so thought I'd try it here.
Things you could put on your profile but wouldnt dream of doing!!
mine would be
prefers bridget jones knickers to thongs sillyhwoar:
and
somethimes farts during over zealous masturbation by a. n other redface surprisedops:

at least I'm not alone with the farting lol
and I squirt during sex
ok being really honest here:-
I've not had a decent shag since January 2009 when I did my last MMF.
I personally dont drink cos I just cant handle the hangovers in the morning.
Being the mom to a 21 year old from an age of 12 I have always let him have a bottle of beer with a meal at weekends or if we were watching a film on a friday or saturday night.
Recently he joined the army and passed out 2 months ago, but is still doing exams every week and he's told me out of 12 people only himself and one other person stays in in the evenings and studies for the exams, while everyone else goes out on the piss.
Also turns out the other lads parents also let him drink from an early age and both of them cant really see the point of getting pissed every night, and wasting their money.
The following website has some 8" platform shoes on, was just thinking I might have to buy a pair or two

Quote by Thebonediggers
saw this elsewhere, and it was a right chuckle to read, so thought I'd try it here.
Things you could put on your profile but wouldnt dream of doing!!
mine would be
prefers bridget jones knickers to thongs sillyhwoar:
and
somethimes farts during over zealous masturbation by a. n other redface surprisedops:

at least I'm not alone with the farting lol
and I squirt during sex
Quote by deancannock
now now then....lets not take everything to extremes. Law there states..anyone caring for a child for REWARD..ie money..payment must be registered. So if you just agree to pick up neighbours child then it is not relevant. If you giving them a £5 for doing it...then it is !! In the end I agree with it...Anyone that is recieving money for looking after children should be registered. If I am paying a child minder, I want to know that if they done anything wrong...no matter how long ago it was. remember this is exactly how these people get to do their evil things. They worm there way into people confidence and seem like the most freindly and helpful people around. If it means just one child doesn't get molested or messed with then I'm happy for there to be safeguards.

This case came to light as 2 part time police officers agreed to look after each other children when one was working. They did not get paided for it, but both of them gained from this arrangement as they did not have to pay someone else to look after their children.
What I dont understand you cant drink until you are 18, but you can have sex at 16 and end up pregnant bringing a life into the world which I would say is one of the biggest responsibilities you will ever have in your life.
tell them you tripped over the hairdryer lead and hurt your foot and cant walk on your left foot.
Quote by tyracer
talk to me soul.
i'll send you a

aawww tyr my little lovely, at least my days on here have been more fun with you and some of the other from southcoast room. maybe the southcoast socials need to start again wink
I've still got all my vinyl but most of it I've transferred onto my i-pod now as it does tend to get annoying keep changing singles over all the time.
Quote by Ukwineman
do you know what i have seen this put in many couples and singles profiles, complaning about so called single males we are here you know.
Soul-girl this is not a go at you so please dont take it as such.
As a single guy who takes the time to read profiles and only reply to the relevant ones, and some one that has been here for a while, posted regular, been to socials and munches. no one ever replies dunno
ok i maybe a minger in some peoples eyes, or not the stud they looking for, but there are truely single males out here.

Ukwineman, I dont see it as a go at me, but I do sometimes wonder why people often think its easy for single females and couples on here.
I've spent alot of nights in the chatrooms and on msn chatting to people and arranging meets and then at the last minute to find out their wife or girlfriend wont let them out, why they couldnt have told me they were married or had girlfriend in first place does annoy me. And I guess this is one of the reasons why I'm giving up.
I'm a single female so I want to meet single males, but I would also like the single males to live within a reasonable distance from me so if they or I get any free time its not alot of travelling involved.
I guess its just life, you cant always find what you are looking for.
well for me it seems everyone in my area is looking for single females or other couples, and the ones that want single guys want young studs with hugh dicks.
not sure whats worse.. being led on by a married guy or not being contaced at all :haha:
being lead on by a married guy and then you get a phone call from the wife asking who you are :shock:
Quote by Ukwineman
do you know what i have seen this put in many couples and singles profiles, complaning about so called single males we are here you know.
Soul-girl this is not a go at you so please dont take it as such.
As a single guy who takes the time to read profiles and only reply to the relevant ones, and some one that has been here for a while, posted regular, been to socials and munches. no one ever replies dunno
ok i maybe a minger in some peoples eyes, or not the stud they looking for, but there are truely single males out here.

Ukwineman, I dont see it as a go at me, but I do sometimes wonder why people often think its easy for single females and couples on here.
I've spent alot of nights in the chatrooms and on msn chatting to people and arranging meets and then at the last minute to find out their wife or girlfriend wont let them out, why they couldnt have told me they were married or had girlfriend in first place does annoy me. And I guess this is one of the reasons why I'm giving up.
I'm a single female so I want to meet single males, but I would also like the single males to live within a reasonable distance from me so if they or I get any free time its not alot of travelling involved.
I guess its just life, you cant always find what you are looking for.
Thank you all. Its nice to know I am not alone, you never know I might change my mind after some "vanilla" time and you never know I might show my face at the odd social now and again. biggrin
the other side of love - yazoo
bad days - the charlatans
milo - bowling for soup
thanks for the mmrs - fall out boy
nothing precious at all - stereophonics
the bitter end - placebo
bitches brew - inspiral carpets
she - green day
cancer - my chemical romance
believe all american rejects
sorry i had to do 10 of them as its all just so weird to hear them all being planned random, I normally only listen to some of those groups when I'm in a certain mood lol
Ok I have mixed feeling on the armed forces. I know alot of people in the forces I was even involved with running an organisation for them back in the 90's and still keep in touch with alot of the people from back then. My ex husband served in Bosnia and one day I got a knock at the door and 2 Officers standing in front of me, and I thought omg hes dead, luckily he'd only been injured nothing too bad, but it did really scare me.
Some of my friends who have done over 20 years serve take pride in their work keep fit and have served in various other places they've seen friends injured and killed but still continue to do the job. They leave their families behind, young children some only a few weeks old to go to places like Iraq, Afganistan and their job always comes first, and I really admire people who do that.
My childrens half brother passed out as a Dog Handler in August and there is rumour that he will be out in Agfanistan next year, hes really looking forward to it and says he can put his training into some proper use. The job he is doing is something he has wanted for so long and currently hes still under training, hes enjoying the job and cant wait until hes transferred to his permanent base in 6 weeks.
But what really annoys me is I know one person whos been in the army 18 years is totally unfit, doesnt really care about his job just does it cos hes only got 6 more years to do then he gets a pension and they can all go to hell.
I guess you cant judge the armed forces on one persons attitude its the same with this forum really you're always going to get one or two people who dont agree on something that is written down.
I just hope that the friends I have out there come back safely.
After much thinking I've decided to leave the swinging scene, due to the fact there doesnt appear to be many genuine single males on here. I've lost count of the number of males claiming to be single only to find out they are married or have a girlfriend.
I'm a single parent with limited free time and anyone whos seen my previous forum post will know I definately dont want the hassle of married men or those with girlfriends.
I would like to say I have made some great friends on here, some have also left the scene who I am still in touch with and some still on the scene who I hope to stay in touch with. I'd also like to say I've chatted to some great people especially those in the southcoast room and bristol room.
I hope all you genuine swingers continue to have fun and I may pop back from time to time just for a chat.
Take care everyone,
Soulie xx
Quote by Leics
There are some good comments to be honest but like someone said before its supply and demand , a bit of a harsh phase to use in this context.
I think it would be a good idea to offer a `loyality card ` scheme , not like a tesco points card (lol)but say visit the club 4 times get in free for the next or offer a free entrance at a special event.
Something to reward the loyal singles.
Comments please

Abfabs offer half price entry to an evening if you bring along a new member and they also offer a Saturday Loyalty Scheme - once you have achieved four stamps in any period of eight consecutive weeks, you will receive one free entry which must be taken within six weeks.
The nescafe advert we capture coffee at its brightest. Was watching tv the other night only for about an hour with my daught and they showed it every commerical break and it just goes on and on.
Quote by Lost

Oh come on, no one is ripping no one apart just asking a simply question doesnt mean anyone is slating them for thinking the way they do.

Ahh thanks soul biggrin i asked the question - does that make me a simply then !!!! :lol2:
I think of singles more as sex aids not swingers. Thats just for couples innocent

Being a single and now classed as a sex aid do I need batteries or can I be plugged into the mains :silly:
Quote by Dirtygirly
Hmmmm... I wonder if this is what is meant by people being ripped apart for having an opinion as mentioned in the other thread about what's happened to the cafe?
Seriously... I don't agree with that opinion either but I don't feel the need to slate someone for thinking the way they do. It's all subjective and it's not really the end of the world because someone doesn't agree with the way we think. By all means challenge it but there's a way of doing that without being nasty or sarcastic or generally treating people like their opinion doesn't count because its not what we think.
It's fairly clear to see why the cafe is so quiet if this is what people are faced with. confused

Oh come on, no one is ripping no one apart just asking a simply question doesnt mean anyone is slating them for thinking the way they do.
I personally dont really have any views on the subject cos I think you can view the scene as you want to. I've been on here as a couple and a single female and I intend to stay and have some fun. Isnt that what lifes all about. biggrin
Quote by Steve

If himandher only think couples are swingers why do they have single males as on their friends list innocent

Not standing up for or against their take on the subject but because they are a swinging couple does that mean they are not allowed singles (male or female) as friends then dunno
But are they just single male friends :confused2: or have they meet them on a meet :wary: cos if they have then it just makes what they say confusing lol
Quote by Sassy-Seren
You can interpret swinging whichever way you want - we all have our own opinions, for my money though a single person cannot be a swinger.
Single with a Single - how is that swinging, they are both single?
Single with a couple (and both parties to the couple are aware) - how is that swininging - that is just a threesome.
Single with a couple (and only one party to the couple is aware) - that is not swinging - that is being unfaithful.
So on my intepretation - a single cannot be a swinger.
I am not telling anyone what to think - that is just what I think.

Basically what you're saying here is the only people you think can really call themselves 'swingers' are those couples who meet other couples confused
So, will all the single males, single females, bi females and couples who only meet singles, doggers ( single of course ) please leave by the nearest convenient exit...............shit, this place is gonna be fun....not!
:dry:
If himandher only think couples are swingers why do they have single males as on their friends list innocent