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arrange a meet in the south east for the over 40s and show these youngsters what its all about ?
Only as long as a 34 year old couple can sneek in
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Quote by MQ
Joining in the forum has had a better result for me to be honest, two really nice guys have sent me pms after seeing what I wrote (yeah ok and looking at my avatar)
It's nice because a little of your personality can shine through your posts and people can be attracted to you for more reasons than just seeing a pic or reading a brief description of you.
Likewise, if someone's posts attract your attention nobody minds if you post a comment to show that you like what they have said, and a pm saying hi how are you isn't going to offend anyone.
I cannot imagine why your avatar would attract attention
:D :D An unsolicited Pm is Ok then?
Quote by Ice Pie
Is it better to ask or be asked?
Yes.
Excuse the flippancy, but to be asked, someone has to do the asking and vice versa.
I would say if you want to approach someone, just do it. If they want to approach you, they will. Doesn't really matter who makes the first move as long as someone does. You're not going to offend anyone by saying Hi. Take it from there.
Regards,
Ice
Thats just confused us more?...
I'm sorry. I'm not expressing myself very well today.
What I'm trying to say is, in order for contact to happen, someone has to ask, and someone has to be asked. Or, as is the case for many of us, things progress naturally following a social encounter.
I personally don't think it matters whether it's you or the other person who makes the first move, but obviously some people will be more comfortable than others taking that step.
Lack of immediate success with your approaches doesn't necessarily indicate a problem -most folk around here are very clear about the type of people they want to meet, and maybe sometimes you just have to take a few "Thanks but no thanks" before you find someone compatible. I can't say there's a generally "best" way to get what you want, because everyone's motivations are different. Just go with whatever you're comfortable with, don't try to rush it, enjoy the process for its own sake without worrying about the results, and the results will be all the more satisfying when they happen.
Regards,
Ice
That makes much more sense :D
The only thing I can say is that there appears to be a lot of people who want to be asked (............ie they have ad`s) but don`t like to reply (.............even just to say no thanks!)
We are patient, which seems to be the key to a lot of this, but it can be a bit hard to find out where we are going wrong if nobody replies.........I appreciate all the advice given and being newbies we need it, but it seems a tag which doesn`t seem to help?
I think that is why we were wondering if an advert may have more success?
Quote by Ice Pie
Is it better to ask or be asked?
Yes.
Excuse the flippancy, but to be asked, someone has to do the asking and vice versa.
I would say if you want to approach someone, just do it. If they want to approach you, they will. Doesn't really matter who makes the first move as long as someone does. You're not going to offend anyone by saying Hi. Take it from there.
Regards,
Ice
Thats just confused us more?........we have asked, but don`t seem to get anywhere......we will be better off placing ourselves in a position to be asked?
Hi
We are a fairly new couple here.......please bear with us.
This post is not intended to be inflamatory or aimed at anyone (I`m sure there are lovely people out there somewhere)
We have looked in on the forum nearly every day, but haven`t found we have much to contribute (to be honest it`s a bit confusing working out who doesn`t like who anymore
) We have read as many posts as we can, and waded through a lot of photo ads and now need some friendly advice please...........
Is it better to ask or be asked? ie. would we be better off placing a photo ad or keep sending off mails in the hope that someone actually gets back to us (even just to say no thanks!)
The Kent host`s have given lots of good advice to get us started, but we seem to be going around in circles a little
We can`t help thinking that if people stop mailing to the photo ads and end up posting themselves, then decide not to reply to anyone, how does the fun begin?
As far as we aware we have followed the rules ie No one line mails, facial pictures have been sent, we don`t weigh 300 stone!,etc
We are a fairly new couple here.......please bear with us.
This post is not intended to be inflamatory or aimed at anyone (I`m sure there are lovely people out there somewhere)We have looked in on the forum nearly every day, but haven`t found we have much to contribute (to be honest it`s a bit confusing working out who doesn`t like who anymore
) We have read as many posts as we can, and waded through a lot of photo ads and now need some friendly advice please...........Is it better to ask or be asked? ie. would we be better off placing a photo ad or keep sending off mails in the hope that someone actually gets back to us (even just to say no thanks!)
The Kent host`s have given lots of good advice to get us started, but we seem to be going around in circles a little
We can`t help thinking that if people stop mailing to the photo ads and end up posting themselves, then decide not to reply to anyone, how does the fun begin?
As far as we aware we have followed the rules ie No one line mails, facial pictures have been sent, we don`t weigh 300 stone!,etc
Bit of a long shot....Just wondering if the sexy lady from Butlins comes in here?
Long legs, dark hair and showing her stocking tops to the world during "Pop idol Final".
You appeared in one of our photos in the background (actually a certain part of you did).............with my wife smiling away in front of you because we could see a mucg better sight than the stage!
x
Long legs, dark hair and showing her stocking tops to the world during "Pop idol Final".
You appeared in one of our photos in the background (actually a certain part of you did).............with my wife smiling away in front of you because we could see a mucg better sight than the stage!
x
