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(must remember that in future)
we have not been online much but still looking forward to meeting you all,and hope to get in to the chatroom again soon,
Nicky
umm this is a intresting one for me,as i have some swinging friends that i do think i now wouldnt be able toplay with because the friendship is now far more important to me than the sex would be.
We have spent heaps of time together within the lifestyle but proberbly 2 or 3 times more in RL for well over a year. I guess i almost kinda consider them as family,and feel that playing together now would change our relationship possibly not for the better. I know we wouldnt lose the friendship but the bond or ground rules would have changed,and so it will have changed.
Umm just read thro and not sure it makes sense but will leave it at that as i feel im going round in circles.
Nicky
:thumbup: nice shoes by the way!
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Good point well made!
Russell
For me, personality always wins over looks, although looks do (of course!) have some influence too. This was brought home to me recently when I was looking at the profile of a couple and perusing her pictures, and at the time I thought "I could NEVER sleep with her because she does not turn me on with her looks." Anyway, a few weeks later I got to meet the couple in the pub, and she was very very nice to talk to, and her personality definitely turned me on! Not too long after that, Nicky and I played with them and had a good time. So that was "case closed" for me - personality wins in that situation!
Having said that, it does rather depend on the situation and how much chance you actually get to know someone. If I was at a swinging party (which Nicky and I will be on Sat) and saw an absolutely gorgeous and horny looking woman, and managed to persuade her to come and play, then since I wouldn't actually have had chance to really get to know much about her personality, then it would be the looks that carried the day!
Let's face it - everyone would ideally like their play-partners to have both looks and personality. But it entirely depends on how you go about meeting your play-partners as to which is more important, as well as the fact that everyone is different and rates looks and personality differently. And that is the glory of swinging! Everyone is different, which means there is always a chance of finding the sort of person or people that you are looking for.
Russell
My understanding (which includes a little research into the subject) is that the average erect penis is between 5 and 7" long. (LOL - I always like to be above average!)
I definitely think that it entirely depends on the woman (or man) as to what size they prefer. Nicky definitely prefers ones on the larger end of the scale (though that doesn't mean she won't play with people smaller than that.) But on the other hand, I have been with a couple of women who found I was uncomfortably or even painfully big.
Vive le difference - that's what I say!
Russell
Think my favorite exclamation is:
"SHIT the BED!"
And I quite like the phrase:
"Needs must when the devil farts in your kettle."
Russell
Just a small point about the HD profile system. I think the height ranges that you can choose from are far too wide! (5ft - 5ft 5, 5ft6 - 6ft or whatever.) Surely this is totally useless if you are filling in the "ideal partner" profile, or doing a search using criteria. For example, say I want to meet a woman who is not small and not tall - for me that would be between 5ft 3" ish and 5ft 10" ish. Well I can't! I can only say she must be 5ft 6 - 6ft!
Surely either the height bands should be a little narrower (e.g. 5ft - 5ft 2, 5ft 3 - 5ft 5, 5ft 6 to 5ft 8 etc etc) or totally specific (height is 6ft 2) and then make it so you can enter a range of heights in your search or ideal partner profile. (I know the latter is harder to code and so more costly but c'mon people - it's not that hard really!)
The other thing I don't quite understand is how come free members can't get into the chatroom?
Russell
Hmmm gosh what a tricky question to answer! I have always said before that if I could swap lives with someone then I would swap with someone who is songwriter for lots of different bands/singers - that way you get rich but not too famous, get to meet lots of famous people, and probably get access to a certain amount of groupies too! So I'd say I'd like to swap with Guy Chambers for a week. He's the one who used to write with Robbie Williams but has also worked with many others like Kylie (OMG - meeting Kylie would be damn cool coz she's sooo hot!) and Texas (mmm - Charlene Spiteri!) and Will Young (if anybody could turn me bi it'd probably be him) and Rachel Stevens (yummy but skinny) and Natasha Bedingfield (tasty but skinny) and best of all Charlotte Church (who has an amazing curvy body and would be a dream shag - and we could make some really sweet music together too!)
Russell
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But I could be persuaded to look harder... 
