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tarkadahl
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Quote by ToshUK
I guess the thinking behind the ideas above is to give each of you the chance to step slightly out of your comfort zones briefly.

Hi Tosh, that is about it really, but I would find it very sexy to have her the centre of attention - with my agreement, I think she'd love it and as it had been my idea, then she is only trying to please me!!
I like your list, let your dirty mind work overtime and send some more :-)
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Quote by Tania
If you live in house with garden, then this scenario might be of interest to you:
Tie her breasts tightly with rope so they jut out. Make her wear a silky blouse (not see through) and send her out in the garden to hang the washing up or fetch stuff from the shed. She will feel very self conscious, especially if she runs the risk of being seen by neighbours who will do a double take at the size of her melons but not suspect what is going on.
An alternative solution is to make her ride in the passenger seat in your car dressed like that and make her smile to all men in cars when you stop at traffic lights... just to see their reactions! Go very close to the speed limit near traffic cams to give her an adrenaline buzz as she will be begging you to slow down... LOL or simply threaten to do so if she doesn't rub her nipples with her palms at every traffic light. :twisted:

The second one is appealing (the first a bit impractical for us) but as a passenger in the car it could be fun, even if it is something like a short skirt and very thin top and no bra, I bet it would get some interest (certainly from me if no-one else).
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Two more good suggestions there thank you bottomline and Qbu, I'm getting quite a good list now, thank you everyone.
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Quote by Game4anything34
1. Go to a hotel bar together with her dressed in sexy outfit (short skirt, no underwear), but make her sit at a table on her own for a bit while you watch her from across the room opening her legs etc. with a drink so other business men can see.
2. Take her to an adult cinema.
3. Book her a sensual (yoni) massage and allow you to watch.
4. Get her to be totally submissive one night where you go out and she has to do anything you say.
A few to get you started smile

Thanks Game4anything34 - some nice ideas there - I particularly like 1. That is the sort of scenario that would be a real turn on - especially if someone came on to her a bit. 4. is also very appealing, 2 and 3 would depend where we were I guess, probably not too many of either somewhere like the Cotswolds but for a city break I will certainly investigate.
Thanks for your replies, I was giving up hope :sad:
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Hi, yes, they could be 4 options I've mentioned above but I was hoping the broad and hopefully peverse knowledge of SH members would possibly come up with ideas I'd never think of, those above were examples of the sort of thing I had in mind but I am looking for inspiration from your good readership.
As for speaking to her - that rather rules out the element of surprise!
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Quote by Qbu
Tarkadhal - are you looking for forfeits or dares? Forfeits suggests your partner does your bidding for a 'misdemeanour'. Dare is maybe different and involves you more possibly? dunno

Hi, one decent reply anyway! TBH either, she will do my bidding for a misdemeanor or I can dare her to do something.
We had a card game last time - snap basically - but the penalty for loosing was based on the value of the card. So I drew up a list of things I'd like her to do for when I won and she drew up her own list for her wins. So a low card win for me may be for her to masturbate for ~2 minutes close to my face so I could enjoy the view but she was not allowed to cum, and her low card win would be for me to give her a body butter massage for 5 minutes. Higher cards carried 'more interesting' penalties - I can elaborate if anyone is interested. This time I want it to be a bit more public - flirting with other couples or men, just pushing the boundaries a little more??
Part of the pleasure for me is a control aspect - not something I normal have much of, and I've had her permission to say so, and for her it is the promise to obey so she can convince herself that she has no responsibility in what she does (she can and does refuse if she wants, which incurs some pre-agreed penalty). I can quite understand it would be boring to many but one step at a time hey!
The point of asking on here is that I was hoping someone may have dreamt up things that haven't yet crossed my mind.
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Last time I posted on here I got a tirade of abuse and hardly any genuine answers so I've left it a while until it calmed down!
What I am looking for are at least 10, hopefully more, sexy dares and forfeits for my wife. We get the occassional few days away where we like to get a little naughty and I am attempting to push the barriers a little further next time. As yet it has all been bedroom fun, toys mild bondage/spanking etc but I would love to have a few more ideas up my sleeve for next time and take it outside our hotel room.
Basically they'd have to be legal ie not end up in a court case so shagging on the bonnet of the car in the supemarket car park is probably out but stuff like flashing (to me) in a supermarket ie squatting down to get something off a low shelf while not wearing underwear or wearing a revealing top and then asking someone of her (or my) choice for assistance with something. I'm not sure whether I could get her to go to a swingers club but that would be great if I could - maybe the ultimate forfeit?
Anyway, if you have any sexy dares or forfeits you like to use then I'd be delighted to hear from you - and hopefully my wife will also be delighted !
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Quote by Lilith
Sorry... One other thought...
Given that people can be on this site without the knowledge of their significant other, and given that a lot of people feel so strongly about cheating that they wouldn't want to unwittingly participate in an adulterous act, it does strike me as rather counter-productive to berate someone in a piblic forum who is being upfront about his situation. Surely this sort of open attack on site members - making them feel unwelcome in the community and judged - is more likely to result in people hiding their situation for fear of being ostracised... Again, I'm not saying you have to approve / encourage / be actively welcoming. But, certainly in this scenario (to adapt something my mother always said) I'd suggest that if you don't have anything nice to post in response to the op's thread, then don't post anything at all...

I have found a Champion!
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Quote by Lilith
@Starlight...
rolleyes ok, we get it; you disagree! Now, why don't you go and polish your halo while the rest of us stay here and chat with Dave, eh?
;-)

I think I like you Lilith!
Derek, thanks for some positive advice, much appreciated (having, as you have probably gathered) never been to one of these clubs before, are there many 'older' couples there?
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I hadn't intended this to be a lengthy moral discusion, I almost wish I hadn't bothered, but in a way I'm glad I did. It is interesting to read all the comments. As yet I haven't met anyone, arranged to meet anyone, experienced a bi relationship or cheated on my wife, and by cheating I mean I haven't had any physical contact with a member of either sex. What I have done is looked at a bit of porn on the net, some of which was live action from members (no pun intended) from this marvelous site. Now, should some gorgeous female invite to join her in a sex romp I would have to re-appraise my situation, but that hasn't and isn't likely to happen, so can we get back to the original question of how do the wonderful people on this site re-invogorate (bad choice of phrase, should really be 'maintain') their sexual interests. Swinging would be one option that I would like to try, I have discussed this with my wife, she is concerned re - sexually transmitted diseases, emotional complications, possible insecurity and possibly a host of other reasons. So, now we have established my credentials, any sugestions?
Dave
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Quote by tweeky
You could tell her that whilst she also thought you had a happy marriage for the last 30 years the last 7 years of it have included you paying to be a member of a swingers site on your own and actively seeking to play without her ......
Now the result of that admission would be very interesting lol

rolleyes is that really any worse than a secret porn collection...? Just being on the site isn't really a big deal, is it now...?
As has been said many times before on this forum, cheating is doing anything your partner wouldent approve of. Including messaging on here, talking dirty on here etc etc. Its all about respect. If you have to hide it you shouldent be doing it.
What a moral lot we all are, the fact that there are many hundreds of couples on here reflects the fact that there are some couples where both partners find enjoyment in sharing their sexual pleasures with others as well as their own partner, but I suggest that you represent a very small minority of the population as a whole or their would be swingers clubs in every village town and city in the country. The fact is that those couples on here have the consent of their partner to do so, lucky them, I feel happy for you, you therefor don't need to keep it to yourself, and if you've never had a thought, or done anything that you have hidden from anyone you care about then stand up and receive the 'moral person of the year' award. I expect you've all explained to your offspring about your lifestyle - you do respect your offspring don't you? - oh and your friends and relations of course. The fact that for some this lifestyle is only ever likely to be a fantasy shouldn't be knocked, I'm certain my wife has in fact benefitted from me visiting sites like this and others, it has opened up a whole gamut of new sexual fantasies for us to try and share, it is just that some are too far (as yet?) for my wife to accept. All our lives are different, some have little opportunity to pop to a swinging club when the mood takes them, some would be mortified if they knew their profile pics were circulated amongst their work colleagues, and some are in positions where if they were they could expect to lose their job. So for some of us, we seek to lift the corner of the blanket and peep under and wonder what it would be like to venture inside!
All I wanted were a few novel ideas that people have played with to improve their sex lives - I didn't expect the Spanish Inquisition!
Dave
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Certainly like the idea Lilith, having never been to a club I'm not sure of the 'etiquette' but I do like the sound of that suggestion. Any recommendations re clubs?
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Quote by Cubes
I'll get in before anyone else does and suggest the first thing you should do is change your profile to 'couple'. ;) I'm not suggesting that it will immediately turn her into a rampant swinger, but if you're open with her about being on here, it might spark an interest.

Hi Cubes, thanks for the suggestion, TBH when I originally signed up it was as a couple (as I was part of a couple!) but my wife didn't know about it, one of those 'head above the parapet' moments, but I didn't think she would be overly pleased, anyway, as she never appeared on here someone 'reported' me as not a couple and so my status was changed. I have certainly considered the idea of coming across the site when we are using the laptop together and letting her see all the people in the chat rooms, I think she would find the anonymity exciting, but I haven't thought that through yet - as I'd have to have an account to get on the chatroom...
Anyway, I'll dwell on that, thanks for your time
Dave
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Hi, I don't know if this is a good idea but I thought I'd give it a go anyway!
Happily married but now nearly 30 years, I'm looking for some ideas on how to spice up our love life. My good lady loves the IDEA of swinging but it is the thought of it she enjoys, suggestions of participating are quickly rejected. She enjoys a bit of role play and general rudery but I was wondering if anyone has some suggestions of some things they've tried or at least thought they'd like to try. Just for the record but not wishing to exclude variations on the themes we've tried role play, dressing sexily (her not me?) indoors and out, some toys (lots of opportunities there I'm sure), guess the fruit and veg!, blindfolds, mild spanking, etc but I'd like to try to come up with a few 'dare' type ideas (maybe the sort of public flashing where she opens her coat with no top and or no knickers on for me to take a photo in a public place rather than anything that will get us arrested) Or perhaps involve a 3rd person somehow?? Sexy games of chance or consequences? I'd appreciate some suggestions, and as a bonus, if there are some to try I'll post the photos on here :twisted: .
Cheers
Dave
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Help for a newby please.
I ventured along to Sandwich Bay in Kent yesterday as I'd heard that it might be a good place to meet as there is an unofficial nudist section and it is supposed to be popular with guys looking to meet. Well, I'm a complete novice, nervous and unsure of the correct 'etiquette'. I strolled along the far end of the bay and there were indeed quite a few guys stripped naked in the sand dunes -some male couples and several individuals. It was a bit like a nature programme with meerkats, their heads kept popping up above the vegetation!
Anyway, my question is really, how do you make contact with someone who might be interested in a little bit of fun in the dunes. In situations like this you wouldn't be expected to walk up to a nudist and have a chat - they might be simply that, nudists enjoying a bit of clothes free sun and approaching someone in that situation might well lead to a hostile rebuff. I didn't strip off myself so that might have helped if I had. Several of the guys were stood up as I passed but none gave any signs that I am aware of that offered any encouragement. So, could someone tell me if there is an etiquette to this sort of unarranged meet, is there some sort of semaphore that says "your welcome to approach me and have a chat"?
Grateful for any advice, cheers
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