I have found 2 articles so far.
This is the first one...
Some have said female ejaculation is actually urine; others that it is a fluid secreted by the female homologue to the male prostate; still others, that it is a combination of both. Before going any further, we should ask: does it matter?
Second one...
Some women inadvertently suppress the full pleasure and intensity of a G-spot orgasm due to a side effect of stimulating the urethral sponge. An irritation or feeling that you are going to urinate may cause you to shutdown your arousal when in fact you may be on the verge of a female ejaculation. Rather than bearing down to suppress it, try relaxing instead. For many women, some fluid may be released -- it is not urine. Rather than being embarrassed, embrace your ability to gush with pleasure.
This is the best article found yet and best describes my observations when it happened to me.
This is all relatively new information. It is only in recent years that women have been talking about ejaculation, and indeed it is from within the lesbian community, where sensitive fingers have probed and encouraged unbridled sexual release, that the 'secret' has been shared among women. Dr. Perry still lectures about the phenomenon, as does Beverly Whipple, and Dr. Gary Schubach has recently produced research that proves we are not 'peeing' on our partners, but releasing a clear, odorless, and colorless liquid saturated with the chemicals of arousal and strikingly similar in makeup to males' prostatic fluid. It has shared sources, in that some of it is released from the paraurethral glands, some from the bladder (in a chemically altered form of urine), and some from the Bartholin's and Skeene's glands that routinely produce vaginal lubrication. Doctors Schubach and Perry have each done independent research determining that the fluid is not urine, and there are still unsolved questions about just what it actually is. A hormone called aldosterone is produced when we are flushed with endorphins, as happens during sexual arousal. This hormone sets in motion a series of chemical changes in the body, one of which is a significant increase in fluid saturating the genital area, a sensation known as 'vasocongestion'. Simply put, some of us fill up and spill over (a tip of the hat to singer/songwriter Chris Williamson). And it feels divine!
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venus68
Over 90 days ago
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Quote by splendid_
venus,
this link here will take you to a really useful thread that is quite interesting to read.
Just took a look at the link and it didn't tell me anything
I know what it feels like, I've had it done to me lots of times over the last 2 years when it first happened to me, but I want to know what it is that is happening to me? Why it happens? How it happens?
I guess it happens by rubbing the g-spot up and down vigorously, as that seems to be what is happening when it happens to me, I'm not sure about the 'relaxed' business though as I just couldn't stop it when it was done properly, but for me it is like an instant release of pent up pressure and just makes me feel a lot lighter and chilled.
K I can understand that when you have an advert up that you get too many to answer to, funnily enough this does happen to me being a single female my in box is rather full too.
What I mean is the normal daily messages that come along and surely if you have replied once and someone then decides to make it an 'invite' you don't have to feel obliged to reply to any further ones.
What I mean is the normal daily messages that come along and surely if you have replied once and someone then decides to make it an 'invite' you don't have to feel obliged to reply to any further ones.
I think my settings are set to not accept winks. Least some blurb comes up saying something like that so I don't have to deal with them.
I think it would be good also if there was a 'thanks but no thanks' button you could click. It would save time and show that you have made an effort to respond.
I think it would be good also if there was a 'thanks but no thanks' button you could click. It would save time and show that you have made an effort to respond.
I have to admit if someone mails me who is way off from what my profile says I am looking for I rarely respond, as to be honest I don't understand why they bothered in the first place. If someone is purely paying me a compliment and acknowledges they are not expecting any more then I will say thank you.
However, I have noticed increasingly when I have sent messages back, just saying thanks for your message but sorry not for me. I'm getting really really nice messages back thanking me for at least responding.
Are people on here really not bothering to at least acknowledge interest? Surely if someone has made an effort to email you and show interest the least you can do is acknowledge it?
If this is typical, no wonder so many guys cutnpaste which is one of my pet hates.
So... the question is. Do you reply even when you are not really interested and if not always, which times do you choose not to?
However, I have noticed increasingly when I have sent messages back, just saying thanks for your message but sorry not for me. I'm getting really really nice messages back thanking me for at least responding.
Are people on here really not bothering to at least acknowledge interest? Surely if someone has made an effort to email you and show interest the least you can do is acknowledge it?
If this is typical, no wonder so many guys cutnpaste which is one of my pet hates.
So... the question is. Do you reply even when you are not really interested and if not always, which times do you choose not to?
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Am i being thick or uneducated here?
I thought it was a bit of pee that came out when all the muscles were relaxing / contracting during orgasm?
enlighten me please
happy to help any girls experiment lol
Noooooo it's definitely not pee, least mine isn't as it comes out clear and it doesn't feel like pee.
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Good question, its not something that happens offen for me and i have no idea why some guys can do it and other can't, i have to admit tho i have though where the hell does all that fluid come from its not like you store fluid in your womb...or do you? lol
omg, maybe it is amniotic fluid! I wonder if it is safe to do when you are pregnant?
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have just watched prof Richard Dawkins on the Genius of Charles Darwins,its just made me to believe more of the supreme God,after living on this hell down here i would like a change after have past on!
how on earth can watching Dawkins make you believe more in god? did you miss the point?
who missed the point Dawkins is the prophet of doom,his explanations cannot proof that God doesnt exist!...on this programme he took a bunch of school kids and tried effortlessly to convince them out of their religious believes but in vain!
What makes you think you would get in there? If you do now believe in Heaven and Hell, do you not think you should rush to church and repent your sins? You can't just think, "Oh dear, I'm going to croak it, I had better repent" You have to start from now.
Seriously you had better consider your membership here because I reckon he doesn't approve.
Since I put on my profile that I like it when I am made to gush I have had 4 men successfully do this to me. I don't know what it is about it, but I do love it. However... what is it? What makes it happen and how often can it happen? My sofa was swimming yesterday, I'm surpised I didn't faint with dehydration!!!!
Why is it some men can do it so easily and others can't? What is the secret?
Why is it some men can do it so easily and others can't? What is the secret?
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I'll have the jaffa cakes then and the hobnobs for you, although I nearly died on a hobnob during nbc training, so do be careful.
Blimey Venus, how did you get a hobnob through your gas mask in Nuclear Biological Chemical training?
Venus said she "nearly died on a Hobnob" - perhaps the government has a directive that in the event of nuclear war being declared, standing on a Hobnob gives one the best chance of survival?
Perhaps there's a minister somewhere with a nuclear bunker & shares in Hobnobs? Scandalous!
Most of the cockroaches I've interviewed on this matter would seem to concur with that assessment WW. :inlove:
lol you ppl are funny. During the training you had to momentarily take your mask off and eat a bit of biscuit and then say your name and number. Then they let you out to make like a windmill. I eyeballed the biggest piece of hobnob (having a greedy nature
) and tried to eat it, but a bit tickled the back of my throat and make me cough a little. I had to hold the cough back, say my name and make quick my escape, so... I nearly died on a hobnob lol I first came here 4 years + ago and in that time I have joined twice as I forgot my first profile name which was under a different email address. The second time luckily I have managed to keep and I have spent as long as a year away from here while I was concentrating on other things.
I'm very pleased that I didn't cancel the account as I love it now more than ever and as I was an old member don't have to pay to see pics
I would say, strip the profile down a bit, but keep it dormant as apposed to cancelled. If in 6 months time you still don't see yourself coming back then review the situation.
I'm very pleased that I didn't cancel the account as I love it now more than ever and as I was an old member don't have to pay to see pics
I would say, strip the profile down a bit, but keep it dormant as apposed to cancelled. If in 6 months time you still don't see yourself coming back then review the situation.
This is the advice I gave someone in a similar situation once and he said it worked. You might like to try it.
When you have some time to sit down together, get 2 pieces of paper and 2 pens.
You write down 5 things each that you would like to do that you feel is missing from the relationship. (don't discuss while writing these, it is purely personal to the person writing).
She may come up with more hand holding or cuddling or going out for a meal, it doesn't have to be sexual. You can put in a couple of sexual things, but see if there is anything else too, like spending more time together, whatever.
Then you swap them and you both pick one or two things on the list and agree to do them. She may not pick what you want the first time, but once each goal has been achieved, you do it again and eventually she may pick the one that makes the difference.
Give it a go. It means she is still in control and is also getting something back in return. The important thing is that you do keep to your side of the deal though.
When you have some time to sit down together, get 2 pieces of paper and 2 pens.
You write down 5 things each that you would like to do that you feel is missing from the relationship. (don't discuss while writing these, it is purely personal to the person writing).
She may come up with more hand holding or cuddling or going out for a meal, it doesn't have to be sexual. You can put in a couple of sexual things, but see if there is anything else too, like spending more time together, whatever.
Then you swap them and you both pick one or two things on the list and agree to do them. She may not pick what you want the first time, but once each goal has been achieved, you do it again and eventually she may pick the one that makes the difference.
Give it a go. It means she is still in control and is also getting something back in return. The important thing is that you do keep to your side of the deal though.
Imagine that you are at the pearly gates and one direction takes you to heaven and the other takes you to hell.
If you go to heaven then you have to spend the rest of your existance being good and being around good souls. There is no evil, there is not bad and there is no bad people, but... you have to live by the 10 commandments and once you are there, there is no going back since you are already dead, it will be eternally 'nice'.
In contrast in hell, there are evil people like murderers there, but there are also your adulterers, all the homosexuals and bi curious people (as they're not allowed upstairs) all the people that coverted over their neighbours things (including their wife/hubby) and people who generally didn't keep to the rule book or repent for doing it.
Where would you prefer to be? There is no middle ground, you can't have a bit of both (which I think most of us do in reality) It is one extreme or the other.
I'm not going to say where I would put myself as yet, as I don't want to influence anyone or for anyone to start pointing at me trying to tell me my opinions. This is purely based on how I was led to believe heaven and hell was as a child, so pretty ficticious, but who really knows?
If you go to heaven then you have to spend the rest of your existance being good and being around good souls. There is no evil, there is not bad and there is no bad people, but... you have to live by the 10 commandments and once you are there, there is no going back since you are already dead, it will be eternally 'nice'.
In contrast in hell, there are evil people like murderers there, but there are also your adulterers, all the homosexuals and bi curious people (as they're not allowed upstairs) all the people that coverted over their neighbours things (including their wife/hubby) and people who generally didn't keep to the rule book or repent for doing it.
Where would you prefer to be? There is no middle ground, you can't have a bit of both (which I think most of us do in reality) It is one extreme or the other.
I'm not going to say where I would put myself as yet, as I don't want to influence anyone or for anyone to start pointing at me trying to tell me my opinions. This is purely based on how I was led to believe heaven and hell was as a child, so pretty ficticious, but who really knows?
Gosh I think perhaps I'm a little casual about it all. I usually go about normal business until about an hour and a half before I need to leave the house, then I'll have a shower, try and find something clean that preferably doesn't need ironing and put it on lol. Some how I always manage to find something that looks smart/sexy. I guess stockings and suspenders do help and aren't exactly difficult to put on and I guess I do usually wear knee high boots.
My sat nav helps me too as I don't have to plan my route, I just chuck in the postcode and I'm off!
My sat nav helps me too as I don't have to plan my route, I just chuck in the postcode and I'm off!
Quote by Bonedigger
can there not be a category then for with a fuck buddy who isnt my real partner?? that way you know that although the person ISNT married, does have a person that they look to to a meet?
Lol I don't think that is really necessary. I just think it should be mentioned in the profile that they have a buddy and then you can bring the question up in conversation without any drama. It just needs to be acknowledged.
you are right FB. I have a 15 year old son so the majority of the time it is strictly out of the question to accomodate. I am just thinking of those few times when he does visit his Dad (2nd time this year) when I am all alone and I could do with some company (and a little something extra).
I have to say though if I was in a relationship I'm sorry but no way am I only going to have sex in the living room, so they would have to learn to live with it. I think it's wrong that they should complain about less than one handful of times in 6 years and more to the fact shouldn't discuss my private life with my family members. This is what is preventing me more than anything as I don't want my son or my Mother to know what I do behind closed doors.
I am not sure there is anything that can be done by the relevent authorities mind, one I own my house and two, they would have to catch me at it to measure the decebels and it doesn't happen frequently enough for them to do that.
It's a shame as otherwise I get on with my neighbours really well.
I have to say though if I was in a relationship I'm sorry but no way am I only going to have sex in the living room, so they would have to learn to live with it. I think it's wrong that they should complain about less than one handful of times in 6 years and more to the fact shouldn't discuss my private life with my family members. This is what is preventing me more than anything as I don't want my son or my Mother to know what I do behind closed doors.
I am not sure there is anything that can be done by the relevent authorities mind, one I own my house and two, they would have to catch me at it to measure the decebels and it doesn't happen frequently enough for them to do that.
It's a shame as otherwise I get on with my neighbours really well.
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Hmmm... I like that idea FB.
I might even tidy the house and make it presentable 'just incase' I do decide to entertain. It's quite an exciting prospect as I might actually be able to use my child free time instead of have to apologise for not being able to travel or afford to do stuff.
Not sure the milkman idea would work as we don't have one, but the postman!!!! hehe
Postman would work just as well!
Seriously though, think about how much your neighbours could potentially cost you in hotel bills/petrol or even lack of meets. If they say anything, tell 'em to mind their own bloody business.
Or invoice them for causing the additional costs?
I sometimes think the sweetest revenge would be to have a boyfriend and then they would have something to complain about.
Quote by splendid_
ok i was a single fem (not any more) but while i was single i used a buddie/s to tell where i was going and who with giving extimated times i would be away ... also tho we used each other to 'bounce' ideas off as to who i/we were meeting and if they had any reservations as to whether it was a good idea to meet somoneone, and sometimes i have cancelled an arranged meet because my 'buddie' had a bad vibe against the person i was due to meet and i am a great believer to listen to instincs be my own or a good friend.
do not be upset that this person discussed meeting you with their buddie i am sure that they were only thinking of their own safey (allbeit unfounded that you were unsafe to meet) and that meeting you or not would not have gone any further than their buddie
sara, do you actually know that ? I don't know Venus. I have never met her, spoken to her, I don't even really know if venus is a woman.
Swinging is a dangerous activity if you take anything for granted. We all should take care and if this person backed out of a meet then we should all respect their reasons for doing so. We all need to take care of ourselves however we each do that.
I, as a single swinger... (unless wor lass is around)meet someone away from my home and always ensure they are turning up in a car. I text their number plate to a mate.. and their log in names and any other info they have let slip. Just in case they are a nutter and it gives my friends a head start on finding my dismembered remains.
Luckily there has been no need to trace me
. But I always do it. safety and protection are the underlying factors when having wanton sex with random strangers.
That is totally different to the subject matter, which is 'buddy agreement' of course take precautions, but you're not asking your mate if you should meet that person or not, just covering your back. Plus I personally wouldn't meet someone without having spoken to them on the phone first, which I hope would indicate their gender.
