Being the 'romantic swinger type' I prefer not to know about my future victims history of swinging. I also would class myself as a fairly private person sexually and would rather not discuss previous meets with people, although sometimes I don't mind talking about experiences, especially if they do relate to a potential meet.
I think it is better to say nothing because quite frankly why do people need to know?
Recently I got talking to a lovely single guy who I was really looking forward to meeting.
Then out of the blue he told me that he had previously played with someone else and they agreed to buddy up and tell each other of any other meets.
Apparently when he told her of our pending meet she was not happy and he called it off.
I have had time to think about this and actually feel quite annoyed that he didn't tell me of this agreement before offering to meet me, or at least talk to her before offering. I don't like the fact that I didn't know he had a buddy or that I was going to be topic of conversation and most of all that a 3rd person could decide if I was ok to be met or not.
Is this a typical situation and what are your feelings on this? Has it ever happened to you?
I would luvvvv to meet someone who lived in the same town who could accomodate. That actually would be my ideal. The place is big enough to still be discrete and as I've not really been out much in the last 8 years not many people know me.
I did have a buddy for a short time in the same district as me. No one new me in the flat he lived at and it was great escapism. Unfortunately he fell in love with someone he met before me and we called it a day as it was developing into a relationship.
Distance is difficult being a single Mum as my childs Dad is not in the same Country and my Mum is a pensioner so not fair to keep asking her. Now he is a bit older and it is legal for me to leave him on his own I will do up to 30 miles if I can afford the fuel. Any further and I worry.
No I don't mean do you accomodate your neighbours.
This one is more for the singlies amongst us really as I think a couple having people over doesn't make the neigbhours bat an eyelid, but when you're single I think it looks a lot different.
Are there any singles out there (men or women) who have kids that do accomodate?
Unfortunately my child is a young teenager now, so getting him to stay with his gran is getting harder and harder as he doesn't think he needs to, but... When he is out the house it would be lovely to use my home (after all it is my home!) but I worry about the twitching curtains and the neighbours talking and possibly saying something to my son.
Does anyone else in a similar position to myself accomodate and how do you get round it? Do you neighbours ever mention it? Do your get knowing looks? Or are the neighbours typically British and not saying anything?
I've got 10 child free days coming up so what you say might actually change my actions.
TED days are nothing to do with teaching really. They really involve SAS training so that the teachers are prepared how to handle the horrible children who think they can walk out or disrupt the class.
They also have 'gymnastic' training so they can vault across the room at double speed to stop Joey from hitting Johhny in a flash.
They have training on how to get the truth out of naughty children who won't snitch on their mate without using chinese torture.
All these things are vital to keeping the harmony in a class room and allowing the more innocent children to reach their full potential.
See... you didn't know your local unassuming teacher was so highly trained and skilled.
One thing that is missing though. I do think they should have a regular supply of jaffa cakes bought for them, so they can teach about the cycle of the moon properly. Schools in some areas of so under resourced. How is a teacher to do this without jaffa cakes??? I ask you!!!!!
I don't know if I am the only female to think this either, although may be in the minority with the 'straight' label again, but... I have actively looked for bi guys in the past, because being a tad greedy and enjoying playing with multiple men occassionally I can see myself buddying up with a bi guy much more comfortably than one who craves to have FFM all the time. I would also feel less guilty as it doesn't seem fair that I may happily enjoy MMF as many times as can possibly have it and begrudge my buddy the FFM because it does nothing for me.
So... the cautious men that are not putting bi curious or bi on their profiles could be possibly missing out on an ideal partnership.
As I said before, I'm not homophobic and as long as I'm being kept busy I'm not going to get upset if two of the guys are playing with each other, in fact it brings another element to the front, as you can discuss who u fancy together or who you would like to play with and share the desire.
I don't know, maybe I'm wrong?
Most people do not read my profile. I have had rather a lot of couples ask to meet me, cutnpastes from couples telling me how bi their lady is and how much she would enjoy playing with me and single women asking to play with me and men asking to buddy up with a sexy bi lady.
I just write back, saying "sounds great, I hope you have fun finding her" or something like that.
I also get guys emailing me saying hi to us 'both' and would we like to meet up with a guy to spice up our fun.
I then turn round and say, "I know I'm big, but both of us?"
I've even been asked what I'm doing here if I'm not bi and I was a bit odd. The truth is... I like sex!!!! Omg!!! how awful is that???? I also like meeting new people and variety, but nope I'm not bi.
I also have no concerns with bi peeps by the way, although I couldn't eat a whole one! Seriously I can't help the way I was made and why should I change that any more than a bi person should try and be straight?
I wouldn't swing with me, I'm too fat lol. I have a really weird brain that is attracted to people for the oddest reasons. I have said no to some guys that say they have never been told no before and I have said yes to men that tell me they never thought they had a chance.
For me part of it is to do with the brain. If I don't feel at ease and comfortable with the person, then it isn't going to happen and in the same vain, if I don't feel the chemistry it isn't going to happen, it's almost impossible to know what makes that right combination though.
It's those supply teachers I feel sorry for. 6 to 8 weeks of no income can't be easy, especially with the economic crisis, which means there is much less casual work going about.
I don't know many teachers that aren't having to take on 2nd jobs, like home tuition and marking SATs papers.
My bro lives with a teacher and she reckons she does 52 hours minimum a week during term time, so it's not exactly a cushy job.
I've had a really stressful year and I have to admit I have gone to chams purely with the idea to unwind and destress a bit. I find sex does do that for me and afterwards my smile has returned and I'm much more myself.
I've never ushered over random people off the street though lol.
They do reckon that people who have a regular sex life live longer, which is why I try my best to lol (not very good at getting it though). So maybe there is something in it.
I might add the cancelled swinger lol. Most of the meets I arrange seem to end up being cancelled! I think I must be uber scarey lol
Cooo I'm really enjoying reading the responses. It's so interesting to see that so many of us don't notice that green light. I wonder if there is a way round that?
I've noticed over the years that there are very different types of swingers.
Here are some of the types that I have noticed.
The reluctant couple - One of them is very keen, but the other one is doing it for their partner and a little reticent.
Number cruncher - They are the real prowlers who systematically go through as many partners as they can, rarely looking back unless they get a quiet moment and then they'll start working through again.
Opportunist - Always eager to get involved but lacking the courage to instigate, so they wait for a good opportunity and take advantage of it.
Romantic - They want to make friends, be desired and each encounter is treated like a little romance.
Slutty sex God/Goddess - They're often already in a happy loving relationship and use swinging to get rid of their excess sexual energy. They really are looking for good hard sex and fun.
Social swinger - They spend most of their time socialising and aren't really fussed about the sexual side, although when the chemistry is there they will play.
Greedy cum lover - Mostly for the ladies, they love oral cock play and having cum all over them more than penetrative sex and being the centre of attention.
Indecisive swinger - Possibly missing out on opportunist as they can't make their mind up?
The non-pushy swinger - Often making good friends, but not able to notice the green light, so rarely getting past amber? Would play more if they were approached more directly.
Timewaster - Has lots of enthusiasm, usually has a cam and always ready to meet, but never follows through.
The No Show - Usually wants to meet at short notice, will not show you a picture of their face due to work, but expects to meet saying you won't be disappointed. Dodgy!
Popular Single Guy - This person has been to a few parties, goes in the chat room and possibly forum and is well known amongst the regulars as being well behaved and a safe bet. He knows his manners, understands boundaries and can have a conversation as well as enjoy playing when asked.
Fake pic swingers - These people either use pics years out of date or someone elses and pose as this person in order to get a meet. They hope that on meeting the person will feel obligated to go through with it.
Scared Swinger - Reasonably new to the seen, has lots of dreams and fantasies, but doesn't know where or how to start, let alone approach people.
Seasoned Swinger - Has been around for several years, is known by most people and lots of experience. When they go to a club the staff know them well and there is usually a story or two to be told. These are people that get name dropped in conversation and you either really want to meet or you're scared stiff by them or even both!
Swinging Enigma - For those who are way too skittish to be pinned down!
I'm sure there are lots more that you may like to add or edit in this list. Which category do you fit into and have you met anyone from any other category?
Do you identify with any of them or more than one depending on your mood?
I think I fantasized about 3 men before I lost my virginity, so all distinctive to me in my various stages of sexual maturity.
The first was Johns Travolta while in Grease (I loved those dimples)
2nd would be Lenny Henry (Did he have dimples too?)
And I have to admit I think David Bowie features somewhere in there for me too, especially in the Labyrinth.
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