I hadn't realised I was supposed to feel bad about having done this lol. Oh dear naughty me. I've had 8 to play with at one time on one occassion and several on numerous occassions. I've had some that were planned and some that were impulsive and more recently one that was with me blindfold, where a friend made sure everything ran smoothly.
I think perhaps I am slightly addicted to this scenario, I do love it and yes I guess I do love being the centre of attention and I love it when all the guys cum over me and it's because of me. It's just bliss.
I usually leave on a high and feel exhilarated. I think if I am honest, 4 is the ideal number for this though as that way I can keep everyone entertained in one form or another and I'm not too keen on leaving people out.
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Quote by noladreams30
Is anyone else in a relationship where they are with a man who wants to be cuckold?
I was looking for someone to date. I've been swinging for 4 years and single for 9 and decided it was time to have something with a bit more meaning. Finally I find someone on a dating site that seemed to be on my wave length and I enjoy talking to. We have arranged to meet, but haven't yet, it is coming up very soon.
Since texting and the subject of my boots coming up and him loving them, I asked him if he had any other kinks (I met him on a vanilla site) he said he would love to see his woman have sex with another man and would love to be dominated.
My jaw drops open at this stage and i'm wondering if I am doomed to swing for the rest of my life lol as it seems it doesn't matter where I meet men they want to swing hehe.
So... where I have done 3sums and gangbangs and do love them. What is the difference between a 3sum and being with a cuckold man? Am I supposed to behave differently? Do they join in or just watch? Is it as much fun as a 3sum?
I guess what I am looking for is reassurance as the more we talk the more I like him and the idea of having my cake and eat it is getting more appealing by the minute, but is it?
Also, how long would you leave it when embarking on a new relationship before you introduced swinging if it wasn't born from swinging? I really don't want to muck this up, I have a crap track record.
I thought that being cuckolded was more than just indulging in threesomes or watching your partner with other people? I thought there was an element of humiliation to it as well. As in being made to watch your partner, being told about partner's exploits with other men, being made to 'prepare' partner for other men whilst denying one's own pleasure etc. I think most men who enjoy the cuckold thing get their kicks out of being slightly sub in this respect.
Maybe I have it wrong, but I defo thought was more to it than just threesomes.Nola x
Nola you are right, this is why I started the thread as I was not sure exactly what it entailed. Of course I have had many 3sums 4sums and moresums, but always as a single woman, so it is a totally different kettle of fish.
After talking more to him I feel the best way to find out about this is through trial and error and listening to him. He has mentioned alot of the things you have said here, the idea of helping get me ready, the idea of humiliation etc.
So... as I do love learning and new experiences I may just go with the flow. Seems most guys are not put off by the idea, which is good.
Quote byVenus, I hate to point this out, but the subject of swinging has already come up.
Also, how long would you leave it when embarking on a new relationship before you introduced swinging if it wasn't born from swinging? I really don't want to muck this up, I have a crap track record.
So if you wish to keep this guy, perhaps you should keep up?
.......but do remember that what someone thinks they want is not the same as what they want, so be ready to backwater.
I wish you the very best of luck.
Trais
I would disagree with you here. Swinging to me is when both parties participate sexually and equally. A cuckold relationship I feel comes more under the band of fetish.
Yes we are talking about other men being part of the relationship, but he would not necessarily be involved unless I wanted it.
Red with Italian food, red meats and when generally in the mood.
White wine with fish or delicate foods and on hot sunny days when well chilled
and bubbly white or rose when in the mood to celebrate.
I hate lambrini
I like merlot, shiraz, cabernet savignon and usually from , Australia, California, Romania or New Zealand. I don't particularly like French wine unless it fizzes and not keen on Spanish wine either.
Worst wines have got to be Blue Nun, Lambrusco & Lambrini for me. probably others I can't think of at the moment.
White wine with fish or delicate foods and on hot sunny days when well chilled
and bubbly white or rose when in the mood to celebrate.
I hate lambrini
I like merlot, shiraz, cabernet savignon and usually from , Australia, California, Romania or New Zealand. I don't particularly like French wine unless it fizzes and not keen on Spanish wine either.
Worst wines have got to be Blue Nun, Lambrusco & Lambrini for me. probably others I can't think of at the moment.
Guess who just put a huge big smile on my face???
Thank you guys
Like all the best thought out plans my evening has been cancelled, so I will be spending my first night being 40 in front of the box alone (everyone say ahhhh) but somethings can't be helped and it was a geniune reason. I'm told we will be going out tomorrow instead, so I'm not going to make it to Chams tomorrow after all lol.
Still I'm sat here feeling rather happy and I have my bottle of Hardys brut rose (which is quite appropriate, as I am related to Thomas from my Grandmothers side) I do hope no one is good at tracing family trees on here lol and if you are get in touch as my Dad would love that.
It's been a fairly traumatic year being 39 and I can't say I'm sad to see it go. Fingers crossed this one will be much better.
Thanks guys xxx
Thank you guys
Like all the best thought out plans my evening has been cancelled, so I will be spending my first night being 40 in front of the box alone (everyone say ahhhh) but somethings can't be helped and it was a geniune reason. I'm told we will be going out tomorrow instead, so I'm not going to make it to Chams tomorrow after all lol.
Still I'm sat here feeling rather happy and I have my bottle of Hardys brut rose (which is quite appropriate, as I am related to Thomas from my Grandmothers side)
I do hope no one is good at tracing family trees on here lol and if you are get in touch as my Dad would love that.It's been a fairly traumatic year being 39 and I can't say I'm sad to see it go. Fingers crossed this one will be much better.
Thanks guys xxx
I'm told he experienced it once before with an ex of his and has wanted to do it again since. I have quizzed him on various things and I agree that it is not a 24/7 type of relationship in this manner that I am looking for, but he says it's a kink, something he would enjoy, but not a way of life. That I could work with.
We are looking at more than buddies, it's obviously too soon to say if it will go that far or not and we're not looking at jumping in both feet first, but taking it date by date until we have established exactly what we want from each other and if we can achieve it.
I'm quite open minded and I'm certainly not thinking of not meeting him because of this, in fact it might be just what I needed as I was worried about how I would be in a vanilla relationship (bored and frustrated) and in a swinging relationship I was concerned that I might feel jealous. I don't have to worry about that with this as he has already stated that he would be loyal to me and want anyone else.
To be honest if that were to change and he wanted to change to swinging at some point then hopefully our relationship would have grown by then and be able to sustain a healthy swinging relationship.
So... alot to consider, a lot to learn and a lot of patience a head I think.
Thanks for the thoughts so far, they have all be useful x
We are looking at more than buddies, it's obviously too soon to say if it will go that far or not and we're not looking at jumping in both feet first, but taking it date by date until we have established exactly what we want from each other and if we can achieve it.
I'm quite open minded and I'm certainly not thinking of not meeting him because of this, in fact it might be just what I needed as I was worried about how I would be in a vanilla relationship (bored and frustrated) and in a swinging relationship I was concerned that I might feel jealous. I don't have to worry about that with this as he has already stated that he would be loyal to me and want anyone else.
To be honest if that were to change and he wanted to change to swinging at some point then hopefully our relationship would have grown by then and be able to sustain a healthy swinging relationship.
So... alot to consider, a lot to learn and a lot of patience a head I think.
Thanks for the thoughts so far, they have all be useful x
Quote by Ego_kai_esy
Correct me if I'm wrong, the definition of a cuckold is someone who always enjoys seeing his missus with another guy whereas, having a fantasy about it is different. I mean, I do fantasise about it and I wouldn't have any problems going on with it but that doesn't make me a cuckold. As a matter of fact, if it happens on a moment when I'm not in the mood for it i'll probably gonna snap! :twisted:
So make sure that "fantasising about my missus getting shagged by someone else" is a taste and not just a fantasy.
Who said that it was a fantasy? This is something he feels strongly about. He even wants me to see men without him present. Obviously there is a lot of discussion to be had, but I'm pretty sure he is wanting this for real and not just a fantasy.
I'm going to chams tonight with a couple of friends, but I am a single woman and will be playing as such. If anyone is going, don't be shy and say hi.
(especially if you're in your late 20s/30s and are a single male )
I am straight so sorry ladies, love to chat, but that is as far as it goes.
(especially if you're in your late 20s/30s and are a single male
)I am straight so sorry ladies, love to chat, but that is as far as it goes.
Quote by keeno
I've had quite a few guys tell me they don't get off on watching 2 women together, but I have a feeling that is because I have told them I am straight and it's not my thing.
Men do like to please lol.
and women don't?
We all like to please.
Espically our partner or potential partner
Maybe i'm selfish, but no I won't pretend I like something to make someone else happy or visa versa.
If someone chooses to check you out, they can't without contacting you first. Making first contact with a guy can amount to grief if after seeing them they are totally not what you are looking for. I personally prefer it when I guy has at least one body pic on their profile so I can see if they 'may be' my type and someone I would like to find out more about.
You have to remember that we all have our preferences and it is also important to only message people that fit what you are. I'm afraid if you messaged me it would not be a positive response as you don't fit my criteria, but there are plenty of others where you would.
I often check people out in the chat room and from the forum, so it is worth using these facilities and I have started to attend the mids munches and socials so these are also good ways of meeting people and possibly leading to play.
Yes I do meet people from here and swing.
You have to remember that we all have our preferences and it is also important to only message people that fit what you are. I'm afraid if you messaged me it would not be a positive response as you don't fit my criteria, but there are plenty of others where you would.
I often check people out in the chat room and from the forum, so it is worth using these facilities and I have started to attend the mids munches and socials so these are also good ways of meeting people and possibly leading to play.
Yes I do meet people from here and swing.
Quote by keeno
Ooooo a tricky one this.
From a position of complete ignorace on such matters may I offer an observation.
Many men (and women) fantasis about sex. So if asked do you fancy a bit of bondage they'll say yes. But will be completely freaked out if it actually happened. Personally I'd take what he said with a pinch of salt.
Remember not everyone has had your real experience of swinging so they only know what they see on the telly. Honestly I wouldn't push it.
I understand what you are saying although he has told me he has had one 3sum with a previous partner and I assume this experience has stayed with him ever since and is something he would like to repeat.
I have already told him several times that I wouldn't want to do anything with him until after we have got to know each other better and worked on building a relationship. It's important that we know each other well so we can respond to each others needs etc.
It's totally new ground for me as I have always swung alone and although I have people I class to be friends that I swing with, there has never been the idea of emotion or a deeper interest. It's something I had never had to deal with before, so totally new ground for me. I am going to be taking it one step at a time that is for sure.
Is anyone else in a relationship where they are with a man who wants to be cuckold?
I was looking for someone to date. I've been swinging for 4 years and single for 9 and decided it was time to have something with a bit more meaning. Finally I find someone on a dating site that seemed to be on my wave length and I enjoy talking to. We have arranged to meet, but haven't yet, it is coming up very soon.
Since texting and the subject of my boots coming up and him loving them, I asked him if he had any other kinks (I met him on a vanilla site) he said he would love to see his woman have sex with another man and would love to be dominated.
My jaw drops open at this stage and i'm wondering if I am doomed to swing for the rest of my life lol as it seems it doesn't matter where I meet men they want to swing hehe.
So... where I have done 3sums and gangbangs and do love them. What is the difference between a 3sum and being with a cuckold man? Am I supposed to behave differently? Do they join in or just watch? Is it as much fun as a 3sum?
I guess what I am looking for is reassurance as the more we talk the more I like him and the idea of having my cake and eat it is getting more appealing by the minute, but is it?
Also, how long would you leave it when embarking on a new relationship before you introduced swinging if it wasn't born from swinging? I really don't want to muck this up, I have a crap track record.
I was looking for someone to date. I've been swinging for 4 years and single for 9 and decided it was time to have something with a bit more meaning. Finally I find someone on a dating site that seemed to be on my wave length and I enjoy talking to. We have arranged to meet, but haven't yet, it is coming up very soon.
Since texting and the subject of my boots coming up and him loving them, I asked him if he had any other kinks (I met him on a vanilla site) he said he would love to see his woman have sex with another man and would love to be dominated.
My jaw drops open at this stage and i'm wondering if I am doomed to swing for the rest of my life lol as it seems it doesn't matter where I meet men they want to swing hehe.
So... where I have done 3sums and gangbangs and do love them. What is the difference between a 3sum and being with a cuckold man? Am I supposed to behave differently? Do they join in or just watch? Is it as much fun as a 3sum?
I guess what I am looking for is reassurance as the more we talk the more I like him and the idea of having my cake and eat it is getting more appealing by the minute, but is it?
Also, how long would you leave it when embarking on a new relationship before you introduced swinging if it wasn't born from swinging? I really don't want to muck this up, I have a crap track record.
We are all creatures of routine, like it or not. I go on loads of courses and you can pretty much guarantee that where ever anyone sits the first day, they will go to the next day and if someone moves, then you will see the look of confusion in the face of the person who finds them there. When asked to move it completely changes the dynamics of the room.
Odd, but true!
Odd, but true!
I had a guy leave some porn with me once. One of the scenarios is set at this big house in the middle of no where (in America) and this old guy had like 10 young horny guys there. They have women come round and they have to fuck them until they crawl out the door. This young swedish (I think) girl walks round wearing a pair of hot pants and platform shoes with a glass in her hands asking for milk. You can guess what happens next lol.
It is quite funny and although it is very cheesy it is quite good when they all get going. I love watching gang bangs
Needless to say, I have kept it
It is quite funny and although it is very cheesy it is quite good when they all get going. I love watching gang bangs
Needless to say, I have kept it
I went on the depo for a few years and haven't had a period since. I've been off it for about 6 months, but my new method of contraception works in a similar way (i'm told) so I may not get them back while I am taking it.
Strangely I'm not too fussed if they do come back as I hated them.
I get very very mild symptoms still, such as tender boobs, more frisky and emotional highs and lows, but nothing like as moody as I was when I did have them. Just more likely to cry watching a weepy film or let things get on top of me that normally would just be a matter of sorting out the best I could.
Periods are evil!
Strangely I'm not too fussed if they do come back as I hated them.
I get very very mild symptoms still, such as tender boobs, more frisky and emotional highs and lows, but nothing like as moody as I was when I did have them. Just more likely to cry watching a weepy film or let things get on top of me that normally would just be a matter of sorting out the best I could.
Periods are evil!
Hi,
I have been going to Chams for 4 years now and as my first club it will always be my favourite. Having said that we all like change now and again and I did go to Utopia for the first time in years just last Thursday with a friend.
I have to say I was really impressed with all the changes they have made to the interior. It is clean and has quite a grand look about the place with its pool and jacuzzi.
The downside is that it was really quiet, although the people there were really nice and made an effort to talk to us. We went on a Thursday and where it was quiet, we went to Chams after which was equally quiet on that night.
I hope that more people do decide to go to Utopia as with a bit of atmosphere I feel it would make a great alternative to Chams and it does offer a slightly different choice of rooms.
With that in mind I would say go to Chams for your first time and maybe wait until you have a small group of friends to go to Utopia with, that way you don't have to rely on the place having someone to play with while they are still getting back on their feet.
Good luck and I may see you there some time
I have been going to Chams for 4 years now and as my first club it will always be my favourite. Having said that we all like change now and again and I did go to Utopia for the first time in years just last Thursday with a friend.
I have to say I was really impressed with all the changes they have made to the interior. It is clean and has quite a grand look about the place with its pool and jacuzzi.
The downside is that it was really quiet, although the people there were really nice and made an effort to talk to us. We went on a Thursday and where it was quiet, we went to Chams after which was equally quiet on that night.
I hope that more people do decide to go to Utopia as with a bit of atmosphere I feel it would make a great alternative to Chams and it does offer a slightly different choice of rooms.
With that in mind I would say go to Chams for your first time and maybe wait until you have a small group of friends to go to Utopia with, that way you don't have to rely on the place having someone to play with while they are still getting back on their feet.
Good luck and I may see you there some time
I think I have lived my life in a cloud. I spent 3 years in the army and married into the army. I've lived in London, , Guildford and Aldershot in the UK around Army barracks and never seen some of the things described in this thread. Yes I have seen high spirits and I used to love going down town in Aldershot for a night out (all those men!) but never saw vulgarity, although I might have witnessed a few fights on the streets or by the train station.
With regards to the hotel and 'just one man'. He may have been getting a room for himself, but that does not mean that other squaddies might not have been joining him at the hotel and getting rooms of their own. It only takes a few to get drunk in the hotel bar and start causing havoc. As they can't distinguish who else might be booking in it is probably easier to just say 'no' to all.
Personally I think it would be better to take a 'high risk' deposit from anyone they deem to be a risk to their hotel financially and give them the money back the next day should everything be fine. This could include disturbing or upsetting other guests with unruly behaviour.
Reputation is very important in the hotel business, so you can understand that they would not want to get a reputation for having problems with guests. In the same vain the reputation of Army is equally important and high spirits should be kept for the naafi.
With regards to the hotel and 'just one man'. He may have been getting a room for himself, but that does not mean that other squaddies might not have been joining him at the hotel and getting rooms of their own. It only takes a few to get drunk in the hotel bar and start causing havoc. As they can't distinguish who else might be booking in it is probably easier to just say 'no' to all.
Personally I think it would be better to take a 'high risk' deposit from anyone they deem to be a risk to their hotel financially and give them the money back the next day should everything be fine. This could include disturbing or upsetting other guests with unruly behaviour.
Reputation is very important in the hotel business, so you can understand that they would not want to get a reputation for having problems with guests. In the same vain the reputation of Army is equally important and high spirits should be kept for the naafi.
Tough one!
My instinct was to move into chameleons and take residents lol, but... I would want to be with my son so I guess I could go to chams during the day and be at home with my son in the evening.
I might even have sex without a condom!!! Only if it was reported that the world was coming to an end and we had like 24 hours left of course lol.
My instinct was to move into chameleons and take residents lol, but... I would want to be with my son so I guess I could go to chams during the day and be at home with my son in the evening.
I might even have sex without a condom!!! Only if it was reported that the world was coming to an end and we had like 24 hours left of course lol.
I've had a look at your profile and your advert. The first thing I would say is that personally I don't think it is a good idea to include the same information twice. Meaning that your advert says exactly the same as your profile, so anyone going to your profile after reading your ad has nothing more to learn except...
If they are bi curious and not sure about themselves or the situation due to being very new you will get cross if they back out. If that was me I wouldn't go there for fear of being called a timewaster by you.
I would even go as far as to say the last statement contradicts what you are saying above. It reads very much like you will look after any bi curious lady and give them time to get to know you, but woe betide the lady who decides you are not for them as they will have wasted your time. Surely the point of emailing and getting to know someone is in order to make that decision?
Your photo's are ok, but not really giving a lot a way. You could add a few more, most couples usually have 2 or 3 pics of the lady at least.
I also think that after chatting on msn for a little while (which is better than email ping pong) you should arrange to meet for a day time coffee or evening drink in a public area. This will set them at ease and keep the expectations down to flirtatious and hopeful. The more sexual detail swapped the more doubts and concerns can develop. Leave it with the option that should you all click and get on then you can go home together or get a hotel from there etc.
Lastly as a single woman I am alway aware of my own vunerabilty and going to someone elses home having never met them before is just not going to happen. If this is what you are suggesting you may have your answer.
Good luck x
If they are bi curious and not sure about themselves or the situation due to being very new you will get cross if they back out. If that was me I wouldn't go there for fear of being called a timewaster by you.
I would even go as far as to say the last statement contradicts what you are saying above. It reads very much like you will look after any bi curious lady and give them time to get to know you, but woe betide the lady who decides you are not for them as they will have wasted your time. Surely the point of emailing and getting to know someone is in order to make that decision?
Your photo's are ok, but not really giving a lot a way. You could add a few more, most couples usually have 2 or 3 pics of the lady at least.
I also think that after chatting on msn for a little while (which is better than email ping pong) you should arrange to meet for a day time coffee or evening drink in a public area. This will set them at ease and keep the expectations down to flirtatious and hopeful. The more sexual detail swapped the more doubts and concerns can develop. Leave it with the option that should you all click and get on then you can go home together or get a hotel from there etc.
Lastly as a single woman I am alway aware of my own vunerabilty and going to someone elses home having never met them before is just not going to happen. If this is what you are suggesting you may have your answer.
Good luck x
