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Is SH just about sex?

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For me.................no. Well I am a social swinger only so it can't be.
But this week has shown the true side of the site. One in a big way and one in a small (but still important) way.
I won't bore you with the details...........but my life went up in the air very recently. I needed help, not just chatting but physical help. I put out a plea to SH. In stepped its members. They helped me out in a very big way and I am endebted (indebted??? OK...fecking owe them) to them. Even offers came in from across the country......and one member wanted to travel hours to help me out......but I couldn't impose that much. For the big thing........you are all stars......especially those that came. Also to those that phoned and texted that they would have come if not for other plans.
The small thing..........no fecking TV when the match was on. So what does one mate do? Call me and give me a running commentary. You are a star.
So what is SH all about....................for me it is the feeling of a close community.
What does it mean to you?
Dave_Notts
well as we are new, and have yet to meet anyone from SH we would like and hope to think one day if we ever needed help in anyway or vice versa, we could call on some friends we have made from SH...its a great community, and every one is very friendly and welcoming to us newbies(well they have been to us).
So heres to the future and making some great friends biggrin
Lindaxxx
It means the same thing for me too Dave biggrin
Shireen
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It means the same thing for me too Dave biggrin
Shireen
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I've phoned people from here at times which are long past best manners and been answered with 'what's up, can I help' - that matters to me.
:inlove: :inlove:
SH for me means making friends with open, honest, like-minded people. And having a laugh. Can't wait till the Munches :bounce: :bounce:
And hey, if I get a shag from it, all the better. Although I keep forgetting Im attached again redface surprisedops: lol
One important thing this site has taught me, as you so rightly put, swinging is not just about sex but about friendship and community.
Kaz xxx
To be honest I came here looking for sex, but haveing not found any smile
I stay here because of the very very very nice people I've met.
I hope you're all sorted now Dave.
This community has some great people who are willing to spend a fair bit of their free time helping others out. I'm somewhat on the fringe of this community, and I'm someone who doesn't find it easy to ask for help - from anyone - but even I have a few phone numbers of folks here and who occasionally are in contact.
Mike.
A great place to hang out, and many wonderful people, is why I'm here.
Glad you are well on your way to being sorted Dave.
My Best wishes to everyone here. New and Old.
John
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Dave - I agree with you 100%!
Yes of course the sex aspect is what brought (probably) all of us here and if it happens then well and good. But you are right - this is a community where people of like minds are prepared to help each other out.
Long may it continue.
I think it's a terrible place. I've been trying to leave for ages but someone's handcuffed me to the forum and my punishment is to put up with a bunch of humourless sex-mad nobodies - in the nude.
Could be worse. I could be frigid. wink
Yes , its about more than sex , thats why so many of us get upset when we clearly see things going wrong with sh, particuarly when we see it dividing into fragments and other problems. We shout , we scream because we care and sometimes we find it difficult to make those that should understand our motivation see what is so obvious. End of rant
From sh ive found so much friendship and help when i needed it, though my need was emotional not physical, ive found people who have cheered me up when ive been down, ive found people with whole new perspectives on life/business and ive found people who have had the cheek to tell me what they honestly thought.I dare not even start to type in who for fear of offending others , but they know who they are and what a difference they have made!!
Oh and, ive had some great f****
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All this and ive never been to a munch!!
Its a great place for cliques and people who are familiar. A bit like a local shop for local people.
Occasionally help will be given to an outsider, and that is great.
However, i come on here to speak to people who want adult fun with a view to a meet. I find it really difficult to find like-minded people, and often i left wondering why i come on here.
i am not slagging this forum off, as it has some really good, humerous and genuinely nice people on here. I just appeal to you to give people like me a chance. Forget all those stereotypes of young spotty, fantacist, single males looking for fun and give me a chance. I am a nice, caring, loving and sensual person if you block out all your previous views of single males.
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Its a great place for cliques and people who are familiar. A bit like a local shop for local people.
Occasionally help will be given to an outsider, and that is great.
However, i come on here to speak to people who want adult fun with a view to a meet. I find it really difficult to find like-minded people, and often i left wondering why i come on here.
i am not slagging this forum off, as it has some really good, humerous and genuinely nice people on here. I just appeal to you to give people like me a chance. Forget all those stereotypes of young spotty, fantacist, single males looking for fun and give me a chance. I am a nice, caring, loving and sensual person if you block out all your previous views of single males.

I have to disagree with you mate, I don’t think its cliquey at all. After all most of us were new at one time or another. We didn’t all arrive with ready made friendships/ acquaintances, well least I didn’t. It may be true that you have to remove a lot of wrapping paper to get to your present, but im sure the effort is worth while in the end.
If we wanna go to the top we be prepared to start at the bottom 
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Its a great place for cliques and people who are familiar. A bit like a local shop for local people.
Occasionally help will be given to an outsider, and that is great.
However, i come on here to speak to people who want adult fun with a view to a meet. I find it really difficult to find like-minded people, and often i left wondering why i come on here.
i am not slagging this forum off, as it has some really good, humerous and genuinely nice people on here. I just appeal to you to give people like me a chance. Forget all those stereotypes of young spotty, fantacist, single males looking for fun and give me a chance. I am a nice, caring, loving and sensual person if you block out all your previous views of single males.

I have to disagree with you mate, I don’t think its cliquey at all. After all most of us were new at one time or another. We didn’t all arrive with ready made friendships/ acquaintances, well least I didn’t. It may be true that you have to remove a lot of wrapping paper to get to your present, but im sure the effort is worth while in the end.
If we wanna go to the top we be prepared to start at the bottom 
i appreciate that, but it is really pally pally with who you know on here. no different to any other forum, as they are all the same. I just think that this should be a place that tries to be different , and that welcomes all.
After all people who think swinging is wrong would be narrow minded on here. But to think single males are all dreamers who wouldnt last the pace is considered the norm.
A case of double standards methinks
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i appreciate that, but it is really pally pally with who you know on here. no different to any other forum, as they are all the same. I just think that this should be a place that tries to be different , and that welcomes all.
After all people who think swinging is wrong would be narrow minded on here. But to think single males are all dreamers who wouldnt last the pace is considered the norm.
A case of double standards methinks

In my experience people are welcoming and friendly here that’s why I keep coming back, but maybe I’m just a dreamer smile .
But not all 5 fingers are the same I suppose and if you’re under the impression that people think that we are dreamers who wouldn’t last the pace. Why don’t you stick around and prove the people wrong. If every ones not gonna fall over them self’s to come to you mate :) you’ll have to make em :) . If at first you don’t succeed try try again
You are probably right but i really dont want to force a situation, i just want someone to to like what i am about first and take it from there.
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You are probably right but i really dont want to force a situation, i just want someone to to like what i am about first and take it from there.

Thats what I was saying let people get to know you, be patient mate.
oooooooops sorry,just read this and realised having pretty much the same convo' on LMU...Time for me to shut up I think lol
I think its a great place too.............. and yes loads of people on here are lovely
Its not just a swinging site........... Its a people site !!!
Dave.... glad your are sorted...... will you look after my dogs next week-end ???
i enjoy the social side of swinging as much as anything else, i love the munches, just going in the chat room for a natter when i'm not really looking for anything, i have found some of the best friends i have had thro swinging, and not played with all of them some are just good friends who also happen to swing, there is deffo a good social side to swinging its not all sex like a lot of peopel think it is wink
I enyoy the social side.....
I work my arse of during the week and peers are "too tired" or have to look after the kids t come out at the wekend
Now i have grown up with these guys and i dont really have many friends at work as i dont get on with people that well.
i have made a new set of friends - both people i want to play with and people that i just want to be mates.
i have already done the "fone some1 up at ungodly how". just waiting for some1 to do that to me.
However i enjoy the physical side as well
MikeC
Well, I had some great laughs, made lots of friends, (I hope) been to great parties, munches and social type meets, met those special people in my life, I helped out certain people, with a beer run!, a friend that needed taking to a hospital appointment and waited for her. Etc etc etc
I’m sure there is more of the same to come
i suppose i come in here for the company as much as anything, so many people here with the same interests, the meeting side is just a bonus (maybe the wrong words to use confused ), but even just meeting and making new friends, as i have done with a few out there, has been great. although sex would be a bonus...lmao :twisted:
I've laughed, I've cried, I've got angry and yes, sad to admit, I've also fought so much since joining here.
But I've made some v special and true friends too. Friends I owe big time, friends who've been there in good times and pulled me through bad times. SH is most definately not only about swinging!
Da girl don't swing no more check da sig wink
for us sh is far more than just sex .we love the munches and meeting up with the folk off here and having a laugh and drinkies with them :beer: sex is a fairly importent part of both our lives but the friendship with the ppl we have on here is also just as importent .this is not a hello fancy a quickie siite (although some seem to think so) .so who's up for a meet at chams tomorrow bolt
I came for the company, but stayed for the sex lol
Its about expectation.
In fact I am orgainsing a munch for November 2034. Should give us all time to get to know each other.
I admit I came for the sex but soon realised that actually that wasn't what was important here....
This place is about friendship and people.....I have made some very special friends here and one special person in particular that often keeps me sane (thanks babe kiss).....
I can see myself still being here in twenty years time...LoL...now I can't decide whether that's really sad or really sweet..... rolleyes